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wendymeows
03-20-2008, 10:00 PM
I'm curious, do you tell your family members, especially you SO how much you weigh? I never tell any of them!! When I set up my account here I was reluctant to put my weight in just in case they came across this site and now that I added tickers, I'm REAL nervous about it!! Is it just me?


SoulBliss
03-20-2008, 10:09 PM
I tell anyone who asks. It's just a number. I am me, regardless of that number, and I don't think that people are fooled into believing I don't have an over fat body just because they don't know the actual number on my scale.

LaurieDawn
03-20-2008, 10:09 PM
I actually tell EVERYONE my weight, and have for a long time. I also tell everyone my size. (Actually, only if it comes up in conversation and I think there's a reason to share it.) I know exactly why you're hesitant to do so, and I completely respect your decision to keep it private. It's just one of my "I am not ashamed of my body, my weight, or my size" things. I am still larger than I would like to be, but it is not a sin to be overweight, and accepting that was a huge step on my road to fixing it. I used to refuse to eat in front of anyone - ever - and I'm working on that one as well. I will not say that I don't have any secrets, but I find my life is simpler if I am very open about my shortcomings. (Besides, it takes some of the glee out of it for gossips!)


SoulBliss
03-20-2008, 10:09 PM
I don't think it's "just you" though at all. Lots of people have mixed feelings about actual weight/age etc. ;)

lois lane
03-20-2008, 10:10 PM
Wendy, I was scared anyone I know would find me and see my weight. Horrifying! Now IDC I guess cause I even posted my pic. I do know what you mean though.

By the way, I live in your area, we just moved South of Charlotte.

wendymeows
03-20-2008, 10:14 PM
I remember I stepped on a platform at a Ripley's Believe It or Not back when I was just getting into the 200's and my husband was like "Holy Crap"! When I looked up I saw it was a scale that showed your weight really big on the wall for everyone to see...I thought I was going to die! Then once I got weighed at a Doctors office and the nurse who weighed me said "Wow, I didn't think you weighed that much, you hide it well" So I guess my complex over this started years ago :dizzy:

wendymeows
03-20-2008, 10:16 PM
By the way, I live in your area, we just moved South of Charlotte.

It's nice to see someone else here from around here. I am actually in Mint Hill which is a little town squished between Charlotte and Indian Trail....are you familiar with there?

hotmomma
03-20-2008, 10:20 PM
I don't tell anyone what I weigh, not even my bf.
I will not step on a scale in front of anyone.
I know I'm obviously overweight, but I think a lot of people would be surprised to know my actual weight.

SoulBliss
03-20-2008, 10:21 PM
Wendy, I was scared anyone I know would find me and see my weight. Horrifying! Now IDC I guess cause I even posted my pic. I do know what you mean though.


You are a beautiful woman. :)

Then once I got weighed at a Doctors office and the nurse who weighed me said "Wow, I didn't think you weighed that much, you hide it well" So I guess my complex over this started years ago :dizzy:I ALWAYS have to tell the medical assistant who weighs me (there are 6 or so of them on rotation) to "Keep going..." because they start out with it at LEAST 50 pounds lighter than I am!!! They are always shocked too. Once, one even said "Na-ahhhh, really?". :o

Yes, really. I am heavy! Gasp! Sigh! Scandalous, isn't it!!! :lol:

zenor77
03-20-2008, 10:27 PM
I don't mind telling people how much I weigh. I never have. BTW, my highest weight ever was higher then my starting weight here (over 230~not sure how much over~didn't weigh myself back then.)

As far as the doctor's office, I always set the initial weight myself before they get a chance. I guess I'm just pushy?

SoulBliss
03-20-2008, 10:30 PM
No, not "pushy", PROACTIVE. ;)

After that silly reaction, I adjusted it where it needed to be most of the time too. :lol:

Gardenwife
03-20-2008, 10:39 PM
I tell. I figure it's no big secret that I'm carrying a whole lot of extra weight. I think part of making a change is facing the issue, and for me that's the thing.

I like what SoulBliss said, it's just a number. It doesn't define WHO we are.

fiberlover
03-20-2008, 10:40 PM
DH knows my weight. I'm very okay with that. Anyone else, I don't tell them how much I weigh. I do tell them how much I have lost. They can probably figure out approximately how much I weigh from that.

No one has ever asked me what I weigh, either - so not sure what I would say if that situation ever arose.

JayEll
03-20-2008, 10:45 PM
I don't tell my weight in general because it's nobody's business. I've chosen to tell my SO, and my closest sister, and two friends who are also losing weight.

No one knows what my screen name is--so it's unlikely anyone I know would be able to identify me.

Jay

lois lane
03-20-2008, 10:58 PM
Wendy, haven't heard of it. I think I'm actually sw of charlotte though. Heard of Blacksburg? Very small town. DH works in Charlotte for telephone.

Lovely
03-20-2008, 11:29 PM
Depends... I tell my fiancée exactly what I weigh. I was talking with a close friend and a neighbor of hers and I told them exactly. (They were surprised... though I don't know if it's because I told them, or if it's because I don't look like I weigh 250.) I feel about it pretty much how Soul does. It's just a number. Like age... and I don't know why people hate their ages so much... I have a friend who is terrified of turning 40 and I just don't get it. I hope I never do... ;)

Jadeybaby
03-20-2008, 11:33 PM
I never tell anyone my weight.
I tell them how much I've lost and what my clothes size is but never the weight number. I'm not sure why though!
Not even my mom knows my weight.

jewelrymaker81
03-21-2008, 12:01 AM
I don't share my weight unless I'm fairly sure the person I'm talking to weights close to what I do! I don't know why, it's not like people don't already know I'm heavy. Actually, subconciously I don't think they do. I remember being in a WW meeting several years ago and we had the door open because it was hot. A young couple from my church walked past the door on their way to another building. They waved and I immediately thought, "Oh no, now they know I'm fat!" I seriously did. It's like I think if I don't talk about it, people won't know. My roommate weighs a bit more than I do (I weigh 325), and she talks about it like it's nothing. She doesn't share her weight, but she'll mention to someone that she can't fit in the booth at a certain restaurant or soemthing like that and it just mortifies me. I think part of me feels like she does it to make people feel sorry for her. She hurt her foot a while back and was on crutches and was talking about how hard it was to walk on the crutches because she was fat. I'm just not comfortable talking about it I guess. Not to skinny people at least. But, you all are right - weight is jsut a number. It isn't me. And it's not like people expect me to say I weigh 150 lbs. They can see that I'm fat, as much as I try to fool myself into thinking otherwise.

HarpoChicoGroucho
03-21-2008, 12:12 AM
I tell people, who usually only ask after I say, "I used to weigh over 300 pounds." Or I just tell them I lost 135 pounds, and then they can figure out the rough math. My family members were always asking what I weighed while I was in the process of losing, and I never minded telling them. I usually don't mind all around, because people usually say, "really? you don't look it at all."

wendymeows
03-21-2008, 12:12 AM
My whole thought process on the fat issue is weird, see...I know I'm fat and other people know it but I don't feel fat...does that make sense? The only time it's right in my face is when I sit in a restaurant that has smaller seats or when I have to be in a bathing suit somewhere. I will walk past a mirror or see a picture of myself and be like "Dang, I'm fat" *lol* Then I will get depressed about it and then go on. I think I'm more conscious of it now that I am dieting than I was before...hmmm

wendymeows
03-21-2008, 12:15 AM
Wendy, haven't heard of it. I think I'm actually sw of charlotte though. Heard of Blacksburg? Very small town. DH works in Charlotte for telephone.


Is Blacksburg in NC? I've never heard of it and have lived in Charlotte my whole life :dizzy:

famograham
03-21-2008, 12:40 AM
Nope, I don't tell my actual number to anybody but you guys!
BUT, I don't shut my screen down every time hubby walks by either, so he may know....or he may not pay that much attention ;)

I have no problem telling people my age (I'm 30) or how much I've lost (25 pounds now :D:D) ....but it's still hard...and I'm still ashamed of that number for whatever reason..

:hug:
Linda

xGurlyGrlx
03-21-2008, 02:53 AM
I have a problem telling people my weight also. I think the first person I was honest with was my sister because she told me how much she weighed first and was in shock...so I told her not to feel too bad and told her my weight. I also told my best friend. It is kind of nice to have people be shocked because " I carry it well" but almost makes me think they don't know how much that actually looks like.

My bf of 7 years has no clue what I weigh. Well, he might but not because I have clued him in. I just feel its personal. I don't have an issue with age or how much I have lost though. At first I thought I don't tell people because they will think I'm fat...hahaha...because they cant see, I guess?? I really think if I talk about my weight with someone...it means its open for discussion and I don't want to hear what people have to say about my weight. Does that make sense to anyone? My bf's mom found out we are both eating differently - he doesn't need to - and she immediately asked how much I weighed. Not to my face...she asked my bf. I felt it was very rude of her to ask that. Maybe because I know she is not genuinely interested in my healthy new way...but is intrigued about how fat I am and wanting to know my weight. She has commented about it before to my bf....something along the lines of "you should find someone who isn't overweight and hot because you are young." Same woman who tells me I have a beautiful face...translate you would be pretty if you weren't so fat. :p I don't think I will tell anyone else my weight. I am actually kind of dreading Easter with the relatives because my dad has taken it upon himself to announce to the grandparents I am eating differently. I hate when people ask about my new way of eating and how I'm "coming along." Oh well...now I am rambling. :D

TheWalrus
03-21-2008, 03:18 AM
I don't tell. My husband knows because he was there when they weighed me at the dr's office, but he's the only one I'd trust. It's not so much that I mind being fat -- although trust me, I do -- that that I mind people knowing that I care about being fat. So in jewelrymaker's situation, I would have felt the same exact way.

WebRover
03-21-2008, 04:22 AM
My husband knows because we're tracking our weight on the same calendar. Oddly, until I lost enough weight to get into 'One'derland I wasn't willing to share the number with him, just how much I had lost. Now he has both numbers and he can do basic math. But somehow since I don't still weigh it, it seems ok to share the info. :dizzy:

I don't share it with anyone else. There's a couple ladies at work who coincidentally all started changing our eating at the same time-I mean the very same day. I think two of us started at about the same weight and have lost about the same amount. We've talked about that, have shared pounds lost, but haven't shared the starting number. We're such completely different shapes so we could be right or very wrong.

Lovely
03-21-2008, 08:46 AM
My bf's mom found out we are both eating differently - he doesn't need to - and she immediately asked how much I weighed. Not to my face...she asked my bf. I felt it was very rude of her to ask that. Maybe because I know she is not genuinely interested in my healthy new way...but is intrigued about how fat I am and wanting to know my weight.


Yeah... that's different. That's her being sneaky & gossipy. She realizes it's not any of her business, and that you might not want to tell her, so she was trying to get around that just to get the info she wanted. That's rude.

I don't think my soon-to-be MIL would ever ask, but if she did ask me I'd tell her matter-of-fact wise.

GirlyGirlSebas
03-21-2008, 09:04 AM
Wendy, telling people your weight is a personal decision. I don't think it really matters one way or the other. I'm not a very private person, so I'll tell anyone who asks. If you're not comfortable sharing this information, that's perfectly fine. You don't have to.

scoobie74
03-21-2008, 09:33 AM
I dont tell anyone my weight. It is mainly because I am so embarassed that I let myself get this heavy. I dont mind telling all of you my weight because I know that you guys will support me no matter what my weight is.

sxulcmnky
03-21-2008, 09:45 AM
back when i started losing, i wouldn't tell anyone my weight... now i shout it from the rooftops because i'm almost 30lbs down and smaller than i've been in a couple of years....

i actually run into the bedroom and wake my bf up to tell him my weigh in weight if it's good :D he of course is like "good job baby" and rolls over and goes back to sleep (i get up at 530 for work... the earliest he ever has to be at work is 11... he's a server)

Smiling_Sara
03-21-2008, 10:55 AM
I'm curious, do you tell your family members, especially you SO how much you weigh? I never tell any of them!! When I set up my account here I was reluctant to put my weight in just in case they came across this site and now that I added tickers, I'm REAL nervous about it!! Is it just me?

as of now, I tell them how much I have lost. not the beg number. I once asked my sister how much she thought I weighed and she said 240 or something, I laughed and said it was a bit higher then that. ( I was around 268 or so at that time )

Tonia
03-21-2008, 11:14 AM
Wendy...I am totally with you when you said you don't share because you are embarrased you are that big in the first place!

My dh knows but not because I shared with him...he is a smart guy and he can figure it out. I have even started to be vague about how much I have lost with him...sad, huh? Maybe I should get over it and accept my body - bumps and all!

As for the doctor's office - I don't weigh there, either. I just polietly say, "no, thank you - you can write what you want under weight." I know I weigh more than I look like I do (I am tall and big boned - really! :) ) and I don't appreciate the WOW! comments after weighing.

Rhonda is right, though, it is a personal decision - you do what you are most comfortable with!

sarahdafiregal
03-21-2008, 02:52 PM
The last time I was on WW I told my Dh how much I weighed. He didn't say anything, which made me very paranoid!! :crazy:So now the only people that know how much I weigh are my dog and myself! ;)

michellenew
03-21-2008, 04:22 PM
I dont tell anyone my weight,besides my husband and you guys! I dont mind telling how much i have lost if they would ask...
michellenew

barbygirl43
03-21-2008, 04:24 PM
Yes I tell. People's really been asking how much I've lost and where I'm at now and I'm proud to say I'm 268 cuz i know I'm not going to weigh that much ever again.

MamaToTomAndAlex
03-21-2008, 05:09 PM
I don't tell EVERYONE... but my husband does know. He stands over me every time I get on the scale and he's my biggest fan. :)

I was outside today fixing the bulb on the car and the neighbour came over at the same time as my husband came out and said to my husband : "So, how are you enjoying the new wife?" .... haha. It's soooo cool when even the neighbours have noticed you've lost weight. My husband replied with : "It's great! It's like having an affair with a new woman!" ... :)

He's a good boy :)

Darkblue
03-21-2008, 06:16 PM
No, I don't tell anyone. I must not look as if I weigh what I do, because the nurses at the doctors' offices always start well below what they think I weigh, when I step on the scales.

I weigh 25 pounds more than my DH, at this point. To give him credit, he used to be heavier and has been making an effort to lose weight. (In his case, that means to go for a walk every now and then, and to have a regular cheeseburger instead of a double bacon cheeseburger. :rolleyes: ) He's down about thirty pounds in one year--if he can do it, I can too! :hug:

dandk0204
03-21-2008, 06:34 PM
I don't really know, I only talk about it to my mom and my hubby. I'm sure if someone asks I would tell because its only a number and they already know I'm big so they can't be that suprised.

PaulaM
03-21-2008, 09:35 PM
Nope, I don't tell anybody. As for the doctor's, I've had both extremes. Last visit a month ago the nurse set it at 150 marker, I said no way, not even close. One other doctor visit, the nurse was so nasty, she kept adding weight and she said to me "how much do you weigh anyway"? I can't even look at her now, that was so lousy of her to say. I'll take that from the doctor but the nurse has no business putting in her two cents.

cephalopod gal
03-21-2008, 10:02 PM
Oh jeez. I don't really tell anyone my weight. Haha. I don't even like telling people my size, even though I'm fully aware that they can probably guess by looking at me. I will, however, tell people how much I've lost, since that's a number I'm definitely proud of. My tickers for my MySpace and LiveJournal (both are private) are based on how much I've lost, not how much I weigh (like the one for here is).

I guess I feel more comfortable sharing here because I know you guys are going through the same thing as me, and I suppose I feel a sort of kinship in that. :) Also the somewhat anonymity of the internet helps... :P :D

Heidelitos
03-21-2008, 10:44 PM
The only person who has ever asked my weight is my hubby...and he'll never get an answer from me!! I told him "I weigh less than you". But he doesn't really know that we're pretty close. Now that I'm down 9 pounds, we're about 20 pounds apart.

(Charlotte's nice, but you girls need to go about an hour S on 85 to my town in SC!!)

Gela
03-21-2008, 10:59 PM
My husband knows. It's not something I tell or am asked by anyone really. I'm not afraid to say how much I've lost though because sometimes when someone notices they ask.

Cassie501107
03-22-2008, 12:01 AM
My husband, sister, and mom know. I didn't tell them my start weight until I had lost a significant amount though.

navywife022506
03-22-2008, 12:02 AM
I actually make people guess my weight first. My sister asked how much I weighed 2 days ago. I asked her what she thought I weighed and she said 170 maybe 180.....I laughed and told her 224. She was in utter shock. I am disappointed in myself that I have to say 224, but I don't hold anything back from anyone. I tell them the truth and I tell them that I am working on the problem as much as I can and that I have a goal and I KNOW that I will reach that goal soon.

cinderpa
03-22-2008, 12:54 AM
I never tell my hubby what I weigh but I tell him what size I take. Makes sense huh? Anyway, I think he knows because our scale records the last weight and flashes it up when you go to weigh yourself again LOL. Oh well. What I love about him tho is he always says to me he doesn't care how much I weigh it doesn't matter to him.

BrandNewJen
03-24-2008, 12:56 PM
I don't tell anyone my weight either... and it drives my hubby CRAZY!!!!

We're both trying to lose weight adn get healthier--- I'm the one who inputs our numbers into our weight loss spreadsheets--- so I know his but he doesn't know mine (but he's a GUY!)

I think for me it started b/c I'm so tall that even as a fit kid, my weight was SO much more than the other shorter kids that they didn't CARE why the number was bigger, just that it was bigger.

Even as an adult... I'm 6'1"--- I'll NEVER be 100 pounds. My goal is 200. To most short people they would GASP at the thought of 200 POUNDS being a "goal" weight.

But that would put me at around a size 12. Pretty nice, if you ask me.

So I don't tell people b/c a lot of them don't realize that a big NUMBER also correlates differently when you have a big HEIGHT. Me, too, the doctors always starts the stupid scale WAY lower than it should be b/c I'm tall and "carry it well". I always just reach forward and move that big sucker up a notch. :lol:

But yeah--- unless people are just as tall, they have this idea that "thin" equals less than 150 pounds or something. So I just don't tell anyone.

I do report my LOSSES--- and I'll tell my clothing size (b/c I've never been bigger than a 22) but it's the LBS that freaks people out. So I just don't say anything.

sarahdafiregal
03-24-2008, 03:14 PM
I never tell my hubby what I weigh but I tell him what size I take. Makes sense huh?

You know though, they don't understand the sizes vs. weight, so it's OK. ;)

traci in training
03-24-2008, 03:14 PM
I'll tell anyone who asks. Just a number. What gets me is when I hear people telling each other what THEY weigh. "Oh, I weigh about 140." Jeez, yeah, you do. On your driver's license! I can't guess someone's weight like they do at the fair, but I can tell within 50 pounds or so and there are lots of people in this world who think they're thin because they haven't stepped foot on a scale in 10 or 20 years!

People have strange ideas of fat, too. I have friends who don't believe I'm still obese on the BMI chart. That's because they don't want to believe they're overweight. Everything is relative, isn't it?

Beverlyjoy
03-25-2008, 09:21 AM
No, I don't tell folks how much I weigh. Really, no one ever asks - now that I think of it. No one except people in the medical field.

SoulBliss
03-25-2008, 09:29 AM
One other doctor visit, the nurse was so nasty, she kept adding weight and she said to me "how much do you weigh anyway"? I can't even look at her now, that was so lousy of her to say. I'll take that from the doctor but the nurse has no business putting in her two cents.

That's unacceptable for a doctor OR a nurse in my opinion.

Just curious though, why is it you feel the nurse has "no business" giving any feedback? Clearly, what she said and the context in which it was said was inappropriate for ANYONE to say, but are you saying that a nurse shouldn't provide any feedback because she isn't a doctor?

sxulcmnky
03-25-2008, 11:04 AM
i went to the docs yesterday and my doc was like... i hardly recognized you :D that made me giddy... i'm only 3lbs away from my starting weight at their office which was april 2006 :D