Weight Loss Support - 50 Pounds gone but I don't see much of a difference

Shy Moment
03-15-2008, 01:23 AM
I have now lost 50 pounds. I am very proud of myself. With the help of God, my husband and so many great people at this site. I have changed how I think about, look at and eat food. I eat a healthy diet now that includes all the required amounts of the four basic food groups. I do walking/aerobic videos Monday to Friday ( usually between 4 to 6 miles each day) and three times a week I do about 40 min of some kind of resistance training. I know what I am doing is good for me. I know I am losing weight in a healthy manner. What I don't know is why I just don't see much of a difference when I look in the mirror.

03-15-2008, 08:56 AM

It is tough to see you frustrated about something - you're such an inspiration to so many people! I promise you there IS a difference, and you know there is. It's just that it takes awhile for your brain to catch up to the rest of you.
50lbs ago you wouldn't have been buying size L shirts to have "baggy" clothes, and you wouldn't have bracelets falling off your wrists, would you?
I've lost 80lbs over the last 4 years, almost, and 30 of that has been within the last 6 months. sometimes i look in the mirror and see myself as my old size 22. other times i do see myself as i am.. it changes. i will get upset because i feel like i should look better than i do, i've worked SO HARD and lost SO MUCH.
And then I remember that me 6 months ago wouldn't have ever DARED even think about trying on a size 8 jean - they wouldn't have fit over my hips. 4 years and 80lbs ago they wouldn't have made it past my knees. and now not only do they fit over my hips, they button and zip and FIT.
It's ok to get frustrated sometimes, but remember how hard you've worked, how much healthier you are now, and what a positive inspritation you are to so many people here! Your eyes and brain WILL catch up, just give it time :)

03-15-2008, 09:50 AM
I'll bet there's a big difference to how you look. You may not see it, but dollars to doughnuts everyone else does.

Especially at your height, losing 50 lbs will be very noticeable. Heck, I'm 5'9" and I haven't lost as much as you, but every time I look in the mirror I can see those 35 lbs gone. It's made quite the difference.

You've done fantastically well! I wish I was 50 lbs down! Embrace the emerging thin lady!

03-15-2008, 11:13 AM
Hey! Congratulations on your loss! :bravo:

It's good to keep in mind that basic body shape isn't likely to change with weight loss. Put another way, if you are someone who gains in your midsection, you're likely to still have a larger midsection. If you gain on your hips, you'll likely still have larger hips.

You can change body shape somewhat with exercise to firm up different areas.

I've lost a similar amount of weight in a similar range, as you can see. I do notice a big difference in clothing sizes, from size 20 to size 14 petite (12 regular). But, that's still me in the mirror.

But it's OK! In daily life, no one knows what's under my clothes.


03-15-2008, 03:32 PM
Did you take some before and after pics so you can look at them and compare... I found that this has helped me a LOT...

Congrats BTW on you fataboulous weight loss so far :bravo:

03-15-2008, 04:35 PM
I know how you feel Shy Moment. When i dropped from 165 to 135 a few years ago i had NO concept of how much weight i lost (and that was only 30lbs). It wasn't until i saw pictures of myself at both weights that *I* could really see the difference. (even though everyone else saw it already of course).

03-16-2008, 12:03 AM
Shy- Congratulations!!!


Oh, be sure that there IS a difference. It's often that we can't see it, because we see ourselves every day.

You're such an inspiration, because every week you just keep doing what you're doing at your own pace. Sticking with it, because that's what needs to be done. :)

I bet your family notices a difference!

03-16-2008, 12:04 AM
Bless your heart...maybe it;s because you see yourself everyday and you see no change,kinda like watching your kids grow up or even yourself growing older for instance,that's all it is,don't be so hard on yourself,OK?

03-16-2008, 12:16 AM
Hi Shy,
I am sure there is a big difference, just try on some of those old clothes. I am the same height as you and I have some great news for you.......
YOU ARE NOW NO LONGER OBESE! That is it 148 ish = no longer OBESE, isn't that the most awesome thing ever! YOU GO GIRL!

03-16-2008, 01:46 AM
I couldn't see it after I'd lost the first 40 or so lbs and my friends kept telling me I had. It didn't click with me until I realized that my pants were falling off and I went to buy new ones. When I bought my first pair of size 16 pants, I suddenly *saw* it for myself. But until then, I couldn't see the weight loss that others could.


03-16-2008, 01:51 AM
It's because you see yourself everyday! Seriously, I know I'm losing when a complete stranger, or acquaintance, says hey you look good, you've lost weight since I saw you last month etc.... And it's true, but the lbs I lost were not as many as the inches I lost around my waist. I'm sure you look great! 50 lbs a serious accomplishment.... you will surely hit your goal :carrot:

Nancy CA
03-16-2008, 09:36 AM
Like others said. You may not really notice it yet but I'm sure others have. You're doing great, 50 lbs is a great achievement. Be proud of yourself!

03-16-2008, 09:55 AM
:woohoo: You are an inspiration! I am certain that others notice your accomplishments, even if you can't yet see it...Way to go!

03-16-2008, 09:56 AM
Do you have any of your old pants or shirts? I bet they are HUGE on you!

You see yourself everyday, and are probably very critical. When you look in the mirror, do you automatically look at your problem spots? I know that I still do. It's very counterproductive. Look at the overall picture- put on those big pants and I bet you'll see you can fit yourself and a pillow in there now!

Just keep on plugging on. As Jay said, our basic body shape doesn't change. If you are short waisted, you will always be short waisted no matter what your weight. Weight training can change your shape quite a lot, but not your skeletal system.

Go look at some old pictures, look in the mirror at the parts of you that have changed, and try on those old clothes! I'm convinced there is a positive difference!


03-16-2008, 10:50 AM
its hard to believe that a person who is 4'8" doesn't show a large amount of difference wit ha 50 lb wt loss. I think (like others stated) it is because you see yourself daily...therefore you don't see the suttle changes that happen daily/weekly. I bet if you took a pic today and compared it to a pic of when you started you would see the difference. And i'm pretty darn sure everyone around you notices. Good job on the wt loss...50 lbs is AWESOME. you are doing great. Hang in there...i think its just a thing you don't always accept/notice...but trust me..people are noticing. Great job!!!!

Shy Moment
03-16-2008, 08:15 PM
It is in the mirror I don't see the difference. If I look at my legs or my arms or such. I do see a difference. It is only when I look in the mirror. My husband said let his eyes be my mirror. He wouldn't lie to me. He tells it like it is and he thinks I look great. You have done great. You must be so proud of yourself. 80 pounds that is a lot of weight to lose and in such a short time too. I bet you have so much energy you don't know what to do with all of it.

Thank you. You will see, it won't be anytime at all and you will have 50 pounds and more lost.

I am pretty lucky. I gained the weight all over and was proportional even at my heaviest. Now I am losing it all over and am still pretty much proportional. 41-32-38. Lately is is coming off the bottom end lol. Next week it will be a bit more off somewhere else and everywhere else losing pretty much the same. Sorry I ranted. I just was fed up with not being able to see in the mirror what everyone else says they can see. I must be going to dump a bunch of inches in the last 30 I want to loose lol. I was never much over 34-22-34 lol, never had a small waist compared to my chest and hips. I have gone from a tight size 18 stretch jeans to a tight ( same brand same pants and all of them bought within 6 months of each other ) size 12 so far.

We didn't even think to take any until I had already dropped about 30lbs. The clothes I am wearing in that pic really don't show how I have dropped weight. Thank you.

The only pic we have of me at 198 I am sitting crossed legged in a chair with a baggy t shirt and sweats on. Doesn't help me much does it lol. I can see looking at that pic that I have definitely dropped a " bit " of weight lol. Now if that darn mirror would start cooperating lol. Thanks

Hi girl, my husband told me to come and talk to all of you. He can tell me what he sees but I needed you all to slap me into shape, kick me in the bum and tell me to open my eye balls lol. Hugs

You could be right there. I never looked in the mirror if I didn't have to. How the heck do I know what I looked like. Thank you

I did just that when I read your post. Oh my gosh. I kept one pair of those 18's. I can't believe I can't see that much of a difference when I look in the mirror. WOW I have to be blind lol. Thank you so much, that idea really helped

Thank you for caring. It is strange. I can see it when I look at myself. I can see my clothes sizes are going down. That is it. When I put on that pair of pants I wore when I started this journey I could really see the difference. I put my pants back on and looked in the mirror. Yes there is a difference but darn not as much as stepping into those size 18's showed me.

Thanks. I have no doubt I will get to where I need to be weight wise. I also know I will get toned and in shape also. I have finally come to the point that I can stand to see myself. I never want to feel how I felt about myself before. AND I am never again going to let docs pop every darn pill down my throat that comes their way before I know the side effects and if they are serious enough, get a second opinion.

I really am proud of myself. If anyone had told me 42 weeks ago at the beginning of my journey this would be so easy. I would have never believed them. If they had told me I needed to eat to lose. I would have never believed them AND if they had said I didn't need to do without a thing but just stay within some generally healthy ranges for myself. I would have never believed them. They would have been telling me the truth :) If I can do it, anyone can do it. :) thanks

Thank you. I am sure you inspire those that you chat with. You are going to reach your goal. You are going to look and feel great. You are also going to be healthy and strong because you know you are worth it.

Thanks. That is kind of what Photo said. I can fit my big old fat cat in those pants with me lol. He wasn't happy about my daughter stuffing him in there either.

Thank you. All of you here are such an inspiration to me. All of you have been or are where I am right now. You understand.

I want to thank everyone for such kind responses. I am sitting here in tears. You all have no idea how much your kind words of encouragement have meant to me.

03-16-2008, 08:32 PM
Shy - it IS hard to see the difference in ourselves. But, you are now just a few lbs. heavier than your daughter. Look at her, realize how close you are to her size. Your husband didn't recognize you from afar just a few weeks ago, and you have lost another 5 lbs. since then! You not only LOOK so much thinner - you are a lot STRONGER too! Look at all that you can do now! How far you are walking - the muscles you have developed! You are doing amazingly well for someone with the health challenges you have faced. Girl - you are an inspiration! Size 12 - THINK of it! WOW - that is absolutely AWESOME!


Shy Moment
03-16-2008, 11:15 PM
My friend. That is so great you are down to 148. You just keep going down. I think it is terrific that we have been with each other through this journey. Yes I am stronger. I can't believe I can walk the miles I walk and lift the things I lift ( remember when I was huffing and puffing through a 1 mile video lol ). We came back from the store and I grabbed 2 gallons of milk with one hand and took them into the house. Now, of course I got yelled at because he thought I was going to hurt my hand. You know how my hands can be. I never thought a thing of it when I did it lol. I would never, even if someone put needles under my fingernails lol admit to him my hand hurt after I did that. They didn't feel heavy and that was a good thing.

03-17-2008, 10:30 AM
I felt the same way, until my husband had me get into the exact same position as I was in a photo and he took a picture then put them side-by-side. I was seeing myself everyday, and over a period of time. So the results weren't as dramatic in my eyes when looking into the mirror. Seeing the results side-by-side though was a completely different matter.

Beach Patrol
03-17-2008, 10:33 AM
Dear Shy Moment,

You have lost *50* pounds!!!! FIFTY!!! The big 5-0!!! That's WONDERFUL!!!! Your hard work & dedication is definitely paying off!!! :cp: :high: :cheer2: :encore:

But if you can't SEE that 50 *is really gone* pounds... Maybe you should pay a visit to your eye doctor?!?!?!? :joker: :D :lol: :rofl:

The best way to see it is to take a NOW picture & put it side-by-side to a before picture. Oh believe me... you'll see it! :hug: :bravo:

Shy Moment
03-17-2008, 09:17 PM
Good idea. I am going to have him take a pic of me in that chair sitting the same way. Thanks, never thought of that really.

WELLLLLLLLLLLLLL, you know, he has always told me the way he got me was because my eye sight is so bad. Maybe that is the problem. I should run down to the eye ball shop and get a new pair lol.

Joanne M
06-08-2013, 07:12 PM
So far I am down 29 pounds and I don't see it in the mirror. But when I look at some old pictures of me then I see it.Also when I went shopping for new clothes I went down 2 sizes. Everyday someone is always saying how great I look.

06-08-2013, 07:38 PM
50 pounds at your height must be a HUGE difference. If you don't see it, I'll bet you're the only one! See if you can dig out some "before" pictures to get a welcome reality check.


06-08-2013, 08:33 PM
Congratulations and excellent work :)

I think you probably don't see the difference because you see yourself in the mirror every day. But for someone who doesn't see you on a regular basis, I'm sure the change does look dramatic.

There could also be some body image distortion going on there. Studies have been done that show how many people think they are bigger (or smaller) than they really are. You may still see yourself as bigger. I know I struggle with this issue. I have lost 150+ pounds and while I know there is a change in how I look, I don't see a major change. Others around me think I look like a totally different person.

06-08-2013, 09:23 PM
I have lost about 30 lb and can't see it in the mirror at all. I know I am losing weight, I went down a pants size and then some, but still don't see it. The first time I noticed it was when I had a fitted shirt on and I looked down in the car (don't do this while driving lol). Something about that angle clicked with me and I could see the change (I could also see the seat belt that used to hide under my flub). I think sometimes we look in the mirror and our mind plays tricks on us. :)

06-09-2013, 09:08 PM
Shy good job on the weight loss! Awesome! Try and take a new photo, and then compare that new photo to a photo of yourself before the 50lb loss. You will see the difference!