Oh My Gosh I'm freaking Out!!!
I don't know if this is the right place to put this...and it's probably going to be long...but UGHHHHH!!!! Please help me feel better! lol ...I don't know...I guess I just need someone to tell me like it is, you know? I don't have any friends down here really....they all live in Duluth or Minneapolis, MN... and so it really sucks.
anyway...
here's a little background info... been dieting/working out for about 8 weeks now... lost approx. 35lbs... then saturday I went in with a tummy ache and got out of the hospital on Tuesday night minus my appendix. I also have a giant kidney stone. ...gained 15lbs of fluid from the surgery (my bladder is very shy...so I couldn't get any of it out at the hospital. I even had to learn to cath myself. As soon as I got home...no problem. ...weird, I know). So now I feel like the fluid is going away and the swelling/bloating is starting to slowly go away too... but I like, can't stop eating!!! And I haven't made super great choices. In the hospital, I went all day Sat and Sun with NOTHING to eat. Monday was very light, and tuesday I finally started eating again. ...Do you think my body telling me it's so hungry is trying to make up for the days I ate 0-500 cals? I didn't even count my calories today...but I know that they were definitely about 2100. I still sort of mentally kept track, i guess. I just feel gross.
THEN...and I think this is what is really bothering me. Before I started seriously losing weight, I was dating this guy for a little over 2 months. Then one day he just disappeared. I'm not desperate (I hope!) or anything...so I called him once....and that was it. Didn't message him, call him or anything since. Then tonight... I'm sitting here feeling sorry for myself (I mean, they won't let me work out for 6 weeks doing weights!!!, 3 weeks on the elliptical!!!...it's hard when it's become such a habit)...and he messages me. WTF?!
Guys make me so angry. It's like I wasn't good enough for him to REALLY date...instead he goes on to tell me that he dated this girl for the past 2 months (the amount of time that has passed since I last talked to him) I'm just going to post some of the conversation...because it'll make me feel better... and I just really want to hear that I deserve better than this guy. Ugh, now i'm starting to like tear up over this douchebag.
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matt: hey.. long time.. how u been?
Shar b: fine. u?
matt: good..busy non stop.
Shar b: i bet
matt: well i was seeing this girl for about 1 month.. and a half... so that full up the time..
Shar b: nice ...sounds busy. Very time consuming.
matt : u?
Shar b: i've just been working, going to the gym almost daily (lost 35 lbs since i last saw you) ...and had surgery on sunday to get my appendix out. Pretty exciting, really.
Shar b: ...and why didn't you just tell me you were seeing someone, instead of being a jerk and just not talking to me? I feel totally disrespected.
matt: wow Great job!!
matt: idk.. my bad i guess..
Shar b: ya
matt: it was pretty crazy.. it went so fast..
Shar b: end fast too? haha...cheap shot, I'm sorry.
matt: i fell fast.. she did too.. but she was with a guy already.. it was weird......
matt: i was in the wrong..
Shar b: cheated or something equally unsurprising, i'd imagine?
matt: well she had a guy and ... two kids.. but she 23 him 30.. kids 1.5 year 3.5 years.. boy girl.. he worked in texas sent money but never came home.. it was weird... she wanted him with the kids ... thats when i came in .. i was there snow plowing .. cause he called me to go there .. the next thing i know i am gettin head.. it went from there..
Shar b: yea... well any girl that will cheat on her guy ...the father of her kids...just because he's working and trying to support them is probably a real winner. I'm sure she's everything anyone could ever want.
matt : yea.. it all comes down to he's my old neighbor.. when i grew up... ya i had to call it off..
Shar b : yeah. you must be a pretty ****ty neighbor, huh?
matt: yea crazy... but i think it was fun... living on the line.. lol
Shar b: i'm sure he thought it was real fun too.
Shar b: and i'm sure the kids loved that some other guy was coming around that wasn't their dad.
matt: but now i feel bad for the kids... cause i played with them every day... they asked where i was ... when i was coming back to be there..
Shar b: if their mom didn't think about that, why would you?
matt: O she thought about it alittle...
Shar b: yea. i'm sorry, i'm sure she was a great person with excellent morals and a real bright future ahead of her.
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the convo goes on a little longer about how she talked about money and stuff with him 2 days after meeting him (he owns his own successful business)... I don't get why he would tell me all this stuff... when he didn't even have the decency to tell me it was over or whatever, you know?
...AND ... this makes me feel like crap. I am a great person. I have pretty high confidence and abnormally large amounts of self esteem---except things like this really start to make me second guess all that. ...I feel like I'm defective in some sort of way that makes guys just not like me. I don't get it. I'm very smart...I'm funny...I have a pretty good job making pretty good money...my own vehicle...I have goals and aspirations...and I'm creative, kind, and caring. The only thing I really think I have holding me back is that I'm fat. And...he didn't seem to mind that at all. So what the heck!?! All I want to do is go to the gym and work these frustrations out...but I can't even do that!
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