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blueyes37323
02-26-2008, 08:32 PM
Does anyone has advice on how I can get passed my non-desire to exercise. I've lost 40 pounds and need to lose another 40 pounds and I'm stuck. I can't get motavated to do the right things. Please help.. anyone?


Smiling_Sara
02-26-2008, 08:35 PM
First, congrats on the weight loss thus far, amazing accomplishment. Now, I'm in the same boat. I've lost 30+ lbs and I just can't get motovaited at all. I'm thinking it's partly due to the weather and work being so busy. By the time I get home I am so wiped and just want to veg. Any and all advice will be so welcomed!!

blueyes37323
02-26-2008, 08:38 PM
Congrats to you Borntofly!! Hopefully we'll get some advice soon.


blueyes37323
02-26-2008, 08:47 PM
Need advice please send it our way. Thanks

mandalinn82
02-26-2008, 08:48 PM
To both of you - what do you think the problem is with exercise specifically?

In my experience, better eating habits are, at first, a little difficult. You want to do things the old way you did them. You want to be able to get your same old convenience foods...change is uncomfortable. But you get through it...you push through, you eventually change your habits, and you settle in, right? You may even start to really LIKE your new foods and exploring the new flavors.

Exercise is the same way. At first, it is difficult, and feels like a big change. But then, you adjust. You change your habits, and eventually you really get to LIKING it.

So how to get started....just start. And keep at it. Eventually, it'll get a lot easier.

fiberlover
02-26-2008, 08:51 PM
Are you watching tv? Stand up and march in place while you are watching tv. Anything to get you moving. Just try 10-15 minutes to start. You don't have to go whole hog and do a marathon right away.

blueyes37323
02-26-2008, 08:52 PM
Thank you for relpying. I will give it a try

Lovely
02-26-2008, 09:34 PM
I, too, echo the "just do it" but "start small" approach. I began my exercise with 10 minute walks. That's it! After the 10 minutes was done, I felt happy to have moved my legs. I did that for a month before building up. It was all about getting started & staying commited.

jordan
02-26-2008, 09:37 PM
Keep in mind that it doesn't have to be formal "exercise," especially at first. When you are starting out doing things like walking the dog or kicking a soccer ball with the kids or family hikes are great. Obviously, as you get in better shape you will eventually have to increase the intensity of the exercise, but at the beginning just do something, anything really, to move more than you ordinarily would. But at the same time remember that doing the bare minimum may result in a minimal loss, so the more the better but a little is better than nothing.

PhotoChick
02-26-2008, 09:53 PM
The problem here is that no one can really motivate you except YOU! :)

I think we've all gone through it, and really "just do it" is lame-sounding, but it's the best there is.

Tonight I didn't want to go to the gym. I'm going out of town for a week and a half, leaving on Thurs. I kept thinking of everything I needed to do between now and then. I kept thinking of how tired I was. I kept thinking that I could just "skip tonight". And I went anyway. Cause ... I'm an adult and going to the gym is part of what being a responsible adult is for me. Unfortunately! :)

So you just gotta ... do it.

.

Healthy Mama
02-26-2008, 11:54 PM
Hi and Blue Eyes - congrats on the 40lbs! That is fantastic!

The one thing that I found really helpful for me to start exercising was to join a gym and hire a trainer. I was so overwhelmed at first and so intimidated by the gym that I really needed someone to sit down with me and talk over my goals and to work out a routine for me to follow. I am very "routine oriented" in my life so that was something that I personally needed to have (just like I need to calorie count). I also have committed to a schedule of going every second day. I joined on Jan. 4 and have only missed one day when I was passing a kidney stone (pretty decent excuse). I'm not sure if this will help as far as motivating you - but what worked for me was to make it part of my routine and to make it official by paying someone to help me. I read somewhere that if you do something 21 times it becomes a habit (good or bad), so I guess it's now a habit!

Good Luck!

Schmoodle
02-27-2008, 06:54 AM
I am the same way. I hate to exercise. So I have to trick myself. I lost the first 45 lbs. without much in the way of exercise, but now it's getting to the point where I am going to have to do it. I think finding something you can live with is key. I have been trying different things, walking with a friend, using a bowflex, neither of those worked too well for me. I got a bunch of DVDs and have been having success with those lately. I can just stick one in on my lunch hour or whenever I've got a half hour. I like the Walk Away the Pounds ones best so far. I also made a new rule for myself. I live in a small town and I am not allowed to drive anywhere in town anymore. I walk the kids to and from school each day, and if I need to go to the bank or post office, I have to walk. I get in at least 2 miles/day this way. We love to swim in the summer, so last weekend we joined the YMCA so we can use the pool there. The kids were very interested in trying out the racquetball courts, so we'll do that next weekend. They have free classes for members and a big fitness center, so I look forward to trying some different stuff to see what works. You do have to make a commitment and just do it, but if it's not a little bit fun, I don't think it'll stick.

rockinrobin
02-27-2008, 07:41 AM
Blueyes, congrats - big time - on the 40 lbs lost. Now we gotta get you working on the next 40.

Make exercise a priority. SCHEDUELE it into your day. Actually write it in your planner, calender, whatever. Like an unbreakable appointment. Like a dentist or a doctor's appointment. This is your time to exercise and that is that. No if ands or buts.

You won't ever, ever regret adding exercise into your day. It just has SO many benefits. Good luck. :)

tamaralynn
02-27-2008, 08:24 AM
I do things I like to do - like walking with an mp3 player. I walk 4 km every day (or 3 miles). It may not seem like much but it ends up being 20 km or 15 miles every week :) I have to take two busses to work... one bus is about 20 km, the other is 2. I walk the 2nd bus route to and from work when weather allows it, and i feel so much better for it. In fact I get a walking buddy from my office once in a while as she is starting to pick up on the habit. My problem is she tends to walk slower lol.

Also, playing with kids - kick a soccer ball around, play some basketball, join a softball team, go golfing - lots of fun things to do and it won't even seem like youre exercising, just having fun.

Do you like to swim? How about water slides? Sledding? Skiing? It's all exercise and all very fun :)

barbygirl43
02-27-2008, 11:20 AM
Make exercise a priority. SCHEDUELE it into your day. Actually write it in your planner, calender, whatever. Like an unbreakable appointment. Like a dentist or a doctor's appointment. This is your time to exercise and that is that. No if ands or buts.

This is what I do. Although I don't exactly schedule an exact time for my exercise I do write in my planner what I would like to accomplish that day. I do between 30 minutes and 2 1/2 hours a day. Rarely do I take one day off (but that's me.) I feel I really need the exercise time to keep me grounded. So if I've had a super busy day and didn't do my exercise in the morning or over my lunch break, you can bet I'll be getting in at least an hour before bed.

Tavinni
02-27-2008, 12:21 PM
Keep in mind that it doesn't have to be formal "exercise," especially at first. When you are starting out doing things like walking the dog or kicking a soccer ball with the kids or family hikes are great. Obviously, as you get in better shape you will eventually have to increase the intensity of the exercise, but at the beginning just do something, anything really, to move more than you ordinarily would. But at the same time remember that doing the bare minimum may result in a minimal loss, so the more the better but a little is better than nothing.

I agree with Jordan, it doesn't have be forma exercises. I like dancing in my living room to my favorite music. Drives my cat crazy but I like it. Also playing a sport, I am a fan of playing basketball in my yard, or I might jump rope. Then switch it up every once in a while and add in the more formal stuff, like walking/running on a treadmill and doing light weights.

Smiling_Sara
02-27-2008, 02:06 PM
To both of you - what do you think the problem is with exercise specifically?
In my experience, better eating habits are, at first, a little difficult. You want to do things the old way you did them. You want to be able to get your same old convenience foods...change is uncomfortable. But you get through it...you push through, you eventually change your habits, and you settle in, right? You may even start to really LIKE your new foods and exploring the new flavors.

Exercise is the same way. At first, it is difficult, and feels like a big change. But then, you adjust. You change your habits, and eventually you really get to LIKING it.

So how to get started....just start. And keep at it. Eventually, it'll get a lot easier.

I think the problem is a couple of things, trying to find time, during the week I am really tired once i get home from work, it's our busy season. But what do I do intead? Get in my pj's and sit on the couch and watch tv. ugh. I have gotten into the habit of excersize before, and I ALWAYS felt better and lost more weight when I excersized along with eating right. So, I know it is something I should do. I just don't like it. Second, I am lazy about it. On a sat when I am not tired or working, I'm sitting around reading or something, I say to myslef I could take this book and walk on the treadmill with it at the gym, even though it's slow, I'd still be moving, but then something in my brain says, eh, I'd rather just sit on the couch and read. = LAZY!!!! Third, it's been sooooo cold and I have to go to the gym to work out, once I get home I don't feel like going back out in 0 degree temps. Yes, it's another excuse, but it is true. I really am going to try and get back into the habit of working out. I have done it before and felt so much better about myself and lost more weight, like 2-3 lbs a week, instead of 3-4 lbs a month like the past couple months have been.

I'm gonna start with going back to the gym tonight. Promise.

PhotoChick
02-27-2008, 03:07 PM
I have to go to the gym to work out, once I get home I don't feel like going back out
I have this problem, no matter what the temperature - hot or cold! :)

I go straight from work. I pack my gym bag every night, put it in the car in the morning, and go straight to the gym before I go home. Do not pass go, do not collect $200.

If I go home first, it's very very unlikely that I'll leave again! :)

.

Tonia
02-28-2008, 07:17 PM
I need the structure of the gym and if I don't go before work then I won't go. The problem I have is that I have to get up so very early to go...but the benefits far outweigh the horrid thought of getting up at 4 am! btw, getting up that early sounds way worse than it is...lol.

I think like so many others have said you need to find what is right for YOU! You have worked so very hard to lose that initial weight and when you do incorporate exercise into your life you will really enjoy the additional benefits that only exercise can give!

If nothing else listen to Photochick...you are an adult, you HAVE to exercise to have a healthly lifestyle. Just do it! :)

Apple Cheeks
02-28-2008, 07:38 PM
I hate going to the gym. It's just a huge hassle to me, and I hate the idea of having to wait my turn for equipment, etc. Plus, I really don't want to be seen while I'm huffing and puffing since I'm embarrassed at how I look! So, I have a variety of work-out tapes and DVD's that I do at home where I don't have to worry about how I look or how uncoordinated I am. :^:

I always work out first thing after I wake up. I find that if I watch TV or tell myself that I'll do it after work, then I will start coming up with excuses as to why I can't do it (tired, too much to do, don't like it, I'll do it tomorrow, etc).

So, I get up an hour earlier than I normally would, get-dressed, and just start working out before my brain can fully wake up and start trying to talk me out of it. By the time I am awake enough to realize "Hey! You're excersizing! When did that happen?!" I am already half-way through a tape or DVD.

And when I'm feeling very unmotivated, I will tell myself "just do 10 minutes and then you can quit." Almost 100% of the time I find that when I do that I will carry on and finish the work-out.

Gela
02-28-2008, 10:04 PM
First, congrats! That's awesome! I have my unmotivated spells too. I just think back on all that I've been through the last few months and refuse to give up. I just have to get started. Just like apple cheeks once I get started exercising I don't want to quit.