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savanahfloc
02-20-2008, 04:59 PM
So I lost some weight and was really pleased with myself. But I am confused now and think my confidence might be too high. I saw this show and it was a bunch of women trying to lose weight. I feel awful for saying this but there were several women on there that currently weighed 180(same as me) and I couldn't help but think I don't look nearly that big. Is this me having a wake up call or what is my problem? :?:


nelie
02-20-2008, 05:01 PM
You have done awesome, keep up the good work.

Different people have different body compositions but beyond that we can only compare ourselves to ourselves, not others.

Even on this forum, I often see others who talk about how fat they are and their highest weight is lower than my goal weight. I just figure that they are on a different journey than me and I can only use my former self as a comparison for my present and future self.

So keep up the good work !

PhotoChick
02-20-2008, 05:05 PM
I'm looking at your profile photos and I think you look great!

Right now I weigh the same thing you do, but I'm a good 5" shorter than you are. Even so, I think I look pretty good - especially compared to how I looked last year. :)

So it's all relative. Don't let yourself be swayed by other people's body types or their weight gains/losses/goals. We're all different and we all carry our weight differently.

Be proud of the progress you've made! :)

.


peachcake
02-20-2008, 05:10 PM
I weigh over 200 and wear a 13/14 in pants. It amazes me that I weigh so much but I'm not yet in aplus size. It all depends on the person. Don't get discouraged!

KforKitty
02-20-2008, 05:10 PM
You are very tall, so I would imagine that if you're toned then you could easily carry 180 without looking 'fat'. It is difficult to compare yourself to others the same weight. I for example wear the same size clothes as a friend (UK18) who is the same height as me but I weigh 40lb more than her.

Kitty

mandalinn82
02-20-2008, 05:11 PM
:nod: What Nelie said. All of our bodies are so different. My family has "thick" women - strong, but small for our weight because we have a ton of muscle. Other people can weigh more but be physically bigger, because they carry weight differently, or carry more fat than muscle.

You can only compare you to you...otherwise, you'll be mixing yourself up with folks who have an entirely different body composition.

dixied
02-20-2008, 05:19 PM
Have you seen this site?

http://www.cockeyed.com/photos/bodies/heightweight.shtml

It gave me a much clearer idea of how I must look in comparision to others.

Sun_Flower2
02-20-2008, 05:38 PM
Have you seen this site?

http://www.cockeyed.com/photos/bodies/heightweight.shtml

It gave me a much clearer idea of how I must look in comparision to others.

wow! dixie that is amazing! that is an awesome site!! I've had difficulty figuring out why i don't see to be the same size as other people my weight. I guess even an inch adds alot of surface area depending on where that inch...legs or torso...or neck! Hmmm... interesting.

walking2lose
02-20-2008, 05:58 PM
Cool. It certainly shows how everyone is proportioned differently!

Clue0983
02-20-2008, 06:07 PM
I wonder this same thing all the time! I also wonder if I am being overly confident because I think I am begining to look pretty good again and then I see a picture of me and I am blown away. To me I look the same aas I did 20lbs ago. I really wonder if that is how I look or if I am overly critical when it is in print.

Janis427
02-20-2008, 07:06 PM
You look great!! You are tall and you are probalby just right at the weight you are at. I am 5'9" and I am very happy at 170. 170 is my goal and at that weight I wear a size 14, which might sound like a big size, but I am very happy at that size. Hope someday I get there.

mxgirl737
02-20-2008, 08:38 PM
I know what you are saying... I was (am) the same way. I swear to god I do not look like I weigh as much as I do. I about died when I saw the scale. I couldn't believe it. There were other people with me weighing in at the group I'm in...and at the beginning I would have swore I was the "skinniest." Boy was I ever wrong!!! It's so weird how our own realities are much different than everyone else's. seeing the scale made me feel less self confident for a about a day...but then I thought about it... and really I'm a good person, I'm a very smart person, and I'm beautiful...I just happen to be overweight. That shouldn't make me feel like crap though...you know? Why feel bad about yourself. I think I do better when I inflate my head a little, you know? haha...if all this makes sense.

kaplods
02-20-2008, 09:12 PM
I remember in college we read a study that found in average sized women, that the most confident, well-adjusted, mentally healthy had the most realistic perceptions of their body weight. However, of "overweight" women, the best adjusted saw themselves as a little thinner than they actually where.

I think part of it is that society does still push us to think that fat people are so bad, stupid, ugly, lazy..... that if you aren't any of those things, well you can't be all that fat.

I've mentioned here before that I said in passing something about "being fat" to a friend (not in a bad way, something like how hard it is to find clothes when you're fat), and the friend blurted out "you're not fat." HELLO! On what planet is 350+ NOT fat. My response was to burst out laughing hysterically. Though I still think, why is fat thought of as so bad, horrible, ugly that my friend couldn't acknowledge that I (someone she liked) could be fat because I wasn't any of those other things.

I'm not trying to say that I think you probably look better or worse, or thinner or fatter, than any one person your same weight, even of your same weight and same height. I'm saying it probably doesn't matter. Self-image can be a crazy thing, and none of us (no matter what our shapes and size) will ever see exactly what someone else sees when they look at us (and even when others look at us, they aren't all seeing the same thing).

mxgirl737
02-20-2008, 09:24 PM
Kaplods...I agree completely. Everyone has different realities. I'm such a nerd I'd even try to relate it to physics...haha but I'll spare you that one.

I also hear the "you're not fat" thing a lot... I personally think that when you establish relationships with someone (not necessarily intimate even)...they tend to see you for all your beauty. It's not fat/skinny, boring/exciting... you know? It's like their perception of you also shifts. It's sort of fun to think about...

BlueToBlue
02-20-2008, 09:44 PM
You're pretty tall, especially for a woman. There really aren't that many women that are as tall as you--in fact 50% of all women are under 5'4". So chances are that the women you saw on that show were considerably shorter than you--there's a 50% chance they were more than 7 inches shorter than you.

At 175 lbs you are considered to be a normal weight; you're at the upper end of your acceptable BMI range but you aren't considered overweight. But a woman of 5'4" that weighs 175 lbs is considered obese. So you can see what a difference 7 inches makes. Chances are that you are considerably thinner than the women you saw on that show.

aphil
02-21-2008, 07:21 AM
I weigh over 200 and wear a 13/14 in pants. It amazes me that I weigh so much but I'm not yet in aplus size. It all depends on the person. Don't get discouraged!

This is a prime example! When I am around 200 pounds, I am about a size 16W (in plus size) or an 18 in misses size in pants. I don't get anywhere near a size 13/14 until I am around the 160 pound range. The way I am built, I get thinner quickly in my arms, face, neck, chest, etc. but the booty and thighs are the last thing to go. When I wear long flowy skirts, I always look thinner than people think I am, because it hides where I carry my weight.


My stepmother is a tall woman (5'11") and I am 5'7". With a 4" difference, when she and I have weighed the same in the past (around 155) she looks tall and slender-while I look curvy. Height and body shape make a big difference.

See Spot Shrink
02-21-2008, 11:59 AM
You're pretty tall, especially for a woman. There really aren't that many women that are as tall as you--in fact 50% of all women are under 5'4". So chances are that the women you saw on that show were considerably shorter than you--there's a 50% chance they were more than 7 inches shorter than you.

At 175 lbs you are considered to be a normal weight; you're at the upper end of your acceptable BMI range but you aren't considered overweight. But a woman of 5'4" that weighs 175 lbs is considered obese. So you can see what a difference 7 inches makes. Chances are that you are considerably thinner than the women you saw on that show.

Dead on! I'm 5'11" too and if I get much lower than 170, I start looking way too thin. But 170 on my mother, who has exactly the same body type but is 5'4", looks TOTALLY different! :)

kcmolisa
02-22-2008, 09:51 PM
I feel the same way. The other day I was watching TV with my brother and someone on TV said that she weighed 275 pounds and my brother said he couldn't believe someone could "let themself get that big." Insensitive, I know. He's skinny, of course. I told him that I weighed 277 and he couldn't believe it. He said I didn't look like that at all. I think some people can just carry more weight than others. That's why I think weight isn't all that important anymore. It's really all about feeling good and being healthy.

horsey
02-22-2008, 10:59 PM
Gabrielle Reece is 175, 6'11, can you picture anything that's MORE OF a GODDESS?

ashisback
02-22-2008, 11:12 PM
I weigh 7 more lbs than you. And I know the feeling... I don't look it either. Heck I was 150lbs and I wore a size 6 waist... in juniors. Different people carry their weight differently. Height definetely has an affect on that as well.

loveXhateXregret
02-22-2008, 11:43 PM
if you are 5'11" and weigh 180 comparing yourself to someone who is let's say 5'5" of course they will be larger and their bmi will be higher...why do you think bmi asks for your height!

for every inch taller you are than someone you can weigh 5lbs more and be the same size. so if this person on t.v. was lets say 5'6" and weighed the same as you (180lbs). and you're 5'11" thats a 4 inch heighth difference therefore would have to lose about 20lbs to be your size.

designerella
02-23-2008, 12:26 AM
I think a lot of people struggle with this- My sis and I are 6' and 6'1 even though I weight 350 lbs.... I look at her at 220 and she's thin!! It isn't that she's thinner than me, but she wears a 16 and makes it look like a 12.. You can't rely on JUST your weight- because my son who weighs 52 lbs is a SOLID 52lbs... so my neighbors daughter who was 52lbs felt a ton lighter just because of her body type. You look fabulous, just have to start believing in the you that doesn't change when you lose weight. I read your blog and your life experience has a lot to do with the way you see yourself :) Cheer up girl! You look great!

JayEll
02-23-2008, 06:02 AM
That is why the BMI calculators correlate weight with height. A taller person is just--bigger!

On the other hand, obese is obese. And it's not about how you look in clothes, it's about the risk of diabetes, etc. :(

Jay

SoulBliss
02-23-2008, 07:30 AM
Gabrielle Reece is 175, 6'11, can you picture anything that's MORE OF a GODDESS?
I don't think she is quite that tall. 6'3" is about right, I think. ;)

Here are some great quotes from her:

Be realistic about your body shape:
"I can't be 5-foot-5. I passed that a long time ago. If you have big hips, that's what you have. Certainly, you can find ways to enhance yourself. But work from your canvas."

Don't be afraid to eat:
"Not eating is counter-productive. You can't build muscle without food. Eat every four hours -- snacks, not meals -- until a couple of hours before bed. Keep putting things in your engine. Just try to stay away from fake foods."

Outgrow rebellion:
"I tell teens you get to the point where you're no longer rebelling against parents, teachers or coaches. You're just rebelling against yourself."

Age with an attitude:
"Lauren Bacall doesn't apologize for getting older. I've seen fantastic women with wrinkles. They have an attitude that's beautiful."