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02-14-2008, 03:52 PM
Hi Everyone, and Happy Valentine's Day:val1:!

My dear husband has invited me to go to our favorite italian restaurant -- and I can smell the fresh bread, feel my mouth water at the thought of fried zucchini and dipping them in their wonderful fresh made marinara sauce -- sipping on wine.... having the salad with creamy italian dressing followed by the entree, a plate of delicate angel hair pasta with shrimp marinara.

Oh my goodness, I am dizzy just thinking about it.

As wonderful as that sounds, I'm not sure I want to go. I've been dieting for weeks and am nearing the 10 lb mark -- it's just safe to stay home and eat the foods I've grown used to...

Sigh.... how to tell him I'd rather not go.....

How are you handling any Valentine's Day Dilemmas?

We'll get through this...


02-14-2008, 03:59 PM
DH asked me to go out also but i know that if i do i will have the bread and the desert..so i decided i just couldn't do it. He was great about it and we agreed that we would get some yummy sushi and stay home together.

02-14-2008, 04:03 PM
hi b
happy valentine's day to you too!

it's really up to you, but i would say that you should go .
you can skip the dressing for the salad ,and the bread and you can limit to a glass of wine...
i had the same dilemma as you do, and i decide it to go, because my husband and i we work till late today we celebrate valentine's day (and his birthday too) 2 days before. I did exercise double the next day, and i will today too...but it was really worth it.
think about it....


02-14-2008, 04:08 PM
Ask the waitress to remove the bread from the table and go!! Enjoy the evening with your husband, pretends it's a first date -- no one ever would overeat on a first date!! It will be two minutes of stress -- the minute you place your order and the minute they ask if you want dessert -- once your order is placed, your are out of the woods!!

02-14-2008, 04:09 PM
Go to dinner and make better choices. It's a good skill to learn.

02-14-2008, 04:22 PM

Ladies, I have an angel on one shoulder :angel:and a devil on the other:devil:!

mommy2two: Thanks for your post -- I spoke to my DH and he has left it up to me.... so I'm still thinking about it. I must say, we have wonderful DH's!

michellenew: I was thinking along those lines - - wishing I didn't have to forgo the salad dressing and bread.:( but I love your idea of increasing exercise in case I do indulge!:hug:

shelby897: yes, I almost just want to go for his sake... he loves that place. I'm not a dessert person, so I'm clear there. But fresh bread... ay yai yai!:dizzy:

robin41: you're right of course -- making better food choices is a great skill that will serve us well on this quest.... sigh... :(

02-14-2008, 04:26 PM
If you think he will do a good job, tell him what you should eat and let him be all manly and place your order for you -- don't even peek at that darn menu!! I agree its a good learning experience and you are going for the company -- good luck whatever you decide!!! :hug:

02-14-2008, 04:26 PM
:)My DH was sensitive enough to buy me a heart of sugar free chocolates... do I even go there!:dizzy:

02-14-2008, 04:43 PM
We splurged last weekend---- and the scale paid DEARLY for it this wednesday when I weighed in (3 pounds heavier!!! Ay yi yi!)

So... you decide... if the meal would have been tastier, I would have almost felt as if the 3 lbs were worth it. But since it wasn't, I'm really regretting it.

However, I am going out and buying a dessert that's around 300-400 calories a serving tonight--- ONLY 2 servings though (for hubby and I). I've made room and I hope it's worth it this time around!

GOTTA have chocolate on V-day!

02-14-2008, 06:15 PM
:)Ladies, thank you so much for all of your posts -- they've been really helpful ...

I've come to a decision...

DH & I will be toasting each other with a glass of wine, at home - and I may have a piece of sugar free chocolate from my v-day heart --

Wanna know what clinched it for me besides your wonderful posts?

I got on my stationary bicycle in shorts and a tee, all the while looking at my crunched up thighs! :yes: That did it all right! :D

Ya never know where your resolve will come from -- heeheeeeee! I think I'll do that every time I face holiday temptaitons!:)


02-14-2008, 06:18 PM
I think its great that you made the decision that is right for you!! I know that me personally i could not go out to eat at this stage in my weight loss because i just don't have the control yet.

Good for you and have a wonderful Valentines day...im sure there is a way that you and hubby can work off the calories from the wine..hehe:o :o :o

02-14-2008, 06:23 PM
hi brandnewjen,

i love your spirit! I guess we do have to make an exception every now and then --

but 3lbs -- although I know that every bite of that v-dinner would be heaven, it's taken me 2 weeks to lose 1 pound recently and I know that would drive me crazy!

Thanks for your post -- it gave me perspective :-)

Hey, we have the same amount of weight to lose -- please stay in touch!

best on your quest!

02-14-2008, 06:23 PM
Here is my fail-proof plan - Say to the waitress, I don't want bread or an appetizer. Box half the meal and ENJOY IT. EAT IT SLOWLY. I can't emphasize that enough, when I've been successful... I've enjoyed my food more.

02-14-2008, 06:24 PM
I gotta say Reddalice, success does taste good!



02-14-2008, 06:28 PM
heeeheeeee mommy2two -- heeeheeee!

I feel the same way -- my diet is too young and vulnerable -- have to protect it like a baby!

Thanks - burn calories, burn! heeheee!


02-14-2008, 06:50 PM
My dad sabotaged me and sent me and my husband a BROWNIE SAMPLER PACK for Valentine's Day!!!!! ARRRRRRRRRGH!

Though I will say i had a V-Day lunch with my husband... and ate Mexican food, which wasn't the best but it could have been worse. I still went to the gym and did 50 minutes of cardio, though!!

02-14-2008, 07:23 PM
hey Daisy Nicole (what a great name!),

thanks for your post -- i'm learning a little from everyone -- we can make options for ourselves, and this is one that i'm certain will come in handy in the future!

To Success in the Quest!


02-14-2008, 07:28 PM
My three year old boy said he'd take me out to dinner, he's counted out about four dollars that he's earned from chores... then he changed his mind and decided he wanted to go to the movie store and rent movies!

I'm just trying to STAY AWAY from restaurants... but as for Italian, how about a salad, soup and some chicken with red sauce (and eat half) and you have to have at least a half glass of wine on Valentine's Day.

Then come home and work it off with lots of sex tonight?

02-15-2008, 02:43 PM
personally, i would go. if this is really something that you are doing to change your life you have to allow yourself these things. i mean, are you never going to eat there again for the rest of your life? if you do plan to eat there again sometime then you are basically just dieting. i would say go, and make healthier choices. for example... i went to steak and shake last night and had a salad, a small fry, and a jr. frozen yogurt shake. it had more calories still than a usual meal, but i didn't go crazy and was still able to enjoy myself.

02-15-2008, 02:52 PM
dh and i planned to go out for dessert last night...so i ate good all night and then we shared a creme brulee...but i made sure my calories were ok to allow for dessert. Don't fret...just relax and either give it to someone else or make the brownies and have DH take them to work