You. Are. Not. Just. Your. Weight!
So some folks are going to see you at a different weight than what they might have known you at before...people gain and lose lbs quite frequently. And, most likely, other folks there will be different sizes too.
My experience at an event like this is that EVERYONE there...every last person, down to the skinny, gorgeous ones, is worrying about some flaw that they think everyone is fixating on. Wrinkles, gray hair...at high school prom, girls were afraid to get pimples. As adults, we're afraid of wrinkles, age spots, bad hair...whatever it is, we all worry.
The nice thing about an event like this? Since everyone is worrying about whatever flaw they imagine they have, they don't really focus on anyone else. It always blew me away to hear after an event from people that they spent the whole time wondering whether people were judging their shoes or wrinkles or pimples...things that I didn't even notice, because I was too busy focusing on my weight or my hair or whatever the flaw of the hour was for me. Made me realize that, most of the time, people are too worried about themselves to pay much attention to how other people look in comparison, especially at a big event.
One final note...don't assume that reaching your goal weight is the magic step to getting rid of those fears! I thought it'd fix my social anxieties to be a normal weight, and it has improved them a little, but I still worry about how I look, still compare my body to those around me, and still have some serious insecurities. Losing weight won't fix self-esteem issues...and just as those other people are important to you because of who they are, not their weight, you have so many defining characteristics that have nothing to do with weight.
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Big Event Anxiety!!
have to live with this anxiety...(for those of you that are wondering...guys worry about this too!)
