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Originally Posted by tkglenn
He did once say that he's scared for me to lose weight because he's afraid I'll get really confident and leave him and I told him that he's being silly. If I was going to leave him, I would've done it along time ago.
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Men are so goofy sometimes.
This may be the crux of your problem & it's a big one. It is also one that many women go through. Men's egos are often fragile & what makes it worse is that they don't/won't talk about such things. Not that our egos are any less fragile but women usually DO talk about what is really bothering them. You can be supportive & loving & maybe stress the being healthy aspects of losing weight & becoming more physically fit rather than how hot you are going to look. That logic may get through to him.
You also may just have to do this alone & find support with online communities or with other family members/friends. As time goes on, he may come around. Or maybe not. Press on & continue with your program. Sometimes you have to be selfish & do things for yourself. And you are also doing it for your children so they will have a happy & healthy mom who will be with them for a long time.
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Originally Posted by tkglenn
Yeah, I did sit down with him and went over everything with him and he is totally supportive but just doesn't want me to go to the gym.
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Could it be that the gym is his time to do "me" things? I know it doesn't seem quite fair & certainly doesn't make sense economically for you not to go, but perhaps you need to go someplace on your own. You could try a short-term membership at someplace like Curves or the local Y, etc. & see how you like it. There are also some great DVDs like WATP or Zumba for cardio as well as resistance band ones for strength training. Just a thought.
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Originally Posted by tkglenn
Everytime I tell him, "well, I can't have that....." his reply is "you can allow yourself alittle sometimes.".
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OMG...I went thru this all the time with DH as well as my family/friends. I did Medifast which was really strict & was always being offered "a little bit 'cause it wouldn't hurt." Ugh! Way back in the beginning I learned to just say "No thanks." It was so much easier than trying to explain & defend my diet at what seemed to be every mealtime. After a while they just let me eat in peace. Especially when the weight loss started to show.
Good luck with your weight loss journey. It is so frustrating at times when we don't get the support we want but it is important to just push on with your goals. Please let us know how you are doing.