General Diet Plans and Questions - Some questions that I'd love to know the answers to...

01-31-2008, 07:07 PM
I'm writing a paper right now, and am so curious to hear everyone's input.

1. What are your biggest fears and frustrations with being overweight?

For me... I'm afraid of not being attractive, for example. I think that's the biggest think I'm scared of. I'm frustrated about the thought of trying clothes on and not having them look good, or about people thinking less of me.

2. What are you the most embarassed to admit - even to yourself?

For me, again, I'm embarassed that I do mess up sometimes. I say that I'm not eating that much, but when I track the calories... they say something else. I'm embarassed that I straight up eat too much sometimes.

I would absolutely love to hear what you guys have to say. Thanks so much! :)

01-31-2008, 07:21 PM
Hi Jenny -

Great questions! Good luck with your paper!

1. Biggest fears..... that I will always be "this way"; that I'll miss out on exciting physical things, like hiking in the rainforest, or skydiving; that I will cut my life short due to poor health choices

2. Embarrassed to admit.....that I could be doing more, that I WANT to do more, but that sometimes, I just don't care! I'd rather have that bag of popcorn and pay for it later..! So I guess, a lack of willpower, and embarrassed that someone will catch me at it!

01-31-2008, 07:54 PM
Thank you so much...fantastic insight. :)

01-31-2008, 08:55 PM
1. Biggest fear about being overweight? That I will embarrass my family by my weight and that I will end up just letting life pass me by while I cannot participate because of my weight.

2. This is the question that I wanted to answer...I am embarrased to admit, even to myself, that I am this size to begin with. How sad is that?

01-31-2008, 09:25 PM
1. What are your biggest fears and frustrations with being overweight?

Well, my biggest fear is that I will never lose this weight, of course; that through all of my efforts, in the end, I'm not gonna be able to lose it. My largest frustration is that it took me this long to finally get serious about it. I didn't get overweight from food, so I guess that makes me the minority here hahaha. But food is what kept me overweight, and I fully admit that.

2. What are you the most embarassed to admit - even to yourself?
You want just one answer hahaha? Hmmm. Most embarrassed, I'd say, that I'm afraid to be intimate with my fiance because I'm self conscious. Granted, this makes no fiance is overweight too, but I just can't accept that he finds me so desirable because to me, I am so UNdesirable. :man did I just say that out loud? shhhh he doesn't even know:

Hey this is kinda fun, got any more questions? LOL!

02-01-2008, 09:39 AM
1. What are your biggest fears and frustrations with being overweight?

Well, being so young my biggest thing is attraction. I have never been on a date ever and I'm 22. I don't want to be alone my whole life.

2. What are you the most embarassed to admit - even to yourself?

How I let my parents take control of my weight! It's also embarassing thing to admit what I put in my mouth and my actions are my own doing.

02-01-2008, 12:38 PM
1. What are your biggest fears and frustrations with being overweight?

Fear: I am ready to start a family, but Type 2 diabetes and Gestational Diabetes runs rampant on BOTH sides of my family. I fear having a hard time conceiving, having difficulties during pregnancy, and then teaching my children bad habits... All over something that I DO have control over. (I am also, selfishly, affraid my breasts will sag after I lose the weight)
Frustrations: That I wasn't able to find the motivation to do it sooner.

2. What are you the most embarassed to admit - even to yourself?

I am embarassed to admit how much and how bad I was eating.

02-01-2008, 06:07 PM
Thank you guys SO much! If anyone else has any feedback, I'd LOVE to hear it. This is so helpful!

02-04-2008, 07:11 AM
my biggest fear is that i will lose this weight and it will all come back...

my biggest embarrasment when i first meet people is that i'm wondering what they are thinking about my weight. or even making any type of comment weight related

02-04-2008, 03:24 PM
1. What are your biggest fears and frustrations with being overweight?

For me, fear and frustration are two completely separate entities:

Being overweight frustrates me for a lot of reasons. I can't buy cute clothes. I can't wear things that make me feel sexy and attractive. I don't want to buy pretty undies or flirty bras (not that I fit into flirty bras right now). I don't want to be completely naked in front of my guy. There are things that I cannot do because of my weight and being out-of-shape. There are things that I can do but that are uncomfortable due to the same and so I don't do them.

I'm afraid of being overweight for health reasons. Strokes and high blood pressure and diabetes run in my family. I'm a poster child for all of it if I don't get my weight under control. I'm afraid that I won't be able to do it (despite my success so far) or maintain it and that it will be something that I've failed at.

2. What are you the most embarassed to admit - even to yourself?

What I'm the most embarassed to admit is that I LET myself get to this point. I'm embarased to admit that I had so little self control and so little self-esteem that I just pretended that I didn't weigh as much as I did and thought it would be ok.

02-15-2008, 08:24 PM
Thank you thank you thank you!

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02-15-2008, 08:35 PM
My biggest fear.
That I will have health problems and leave my children sooner than God intended because I don't take care of myself. What a very selfish thing to do. That is the main reason to get this weight off and keep it off.

Embarrassed to admit
I could exercise more than I do. I am just lazy and that is all there is to it. I could do way way more than 1 hour a day.

I just can't get myself, most days, to do more of what is good for me, like exercise, than I do.

02-15-2008, 08:36 PM
My biggest fear is that when I go to sit down on a chair in a public place it will break... I already feel like a freak/alien. I guess my biggest frustration is that I literally don't feel like a woman; more like a blob. And I'm honestly not trying to be mean to myself, but, alas, this is the harsh reality. I am most embarrassed to admit to myself, my size. I have clothes that are my "fat" clothes that no longer fit me but I am in denial over what size I really do wear. People do stereotype the large and it's sometimes very noticeable when talking to others. I am most embarassed to go out in public at this point and I guess this is the painful truth.

02-16-2008, 12:40 AM
1. What are your biggest fears and frustrations with being overweight?

My biggest fear is simple. Dying. I don't want to suffer some horrible fate that I know could have been prevented had I not been so overweight. Of course, with as long as I have been overweight, I've probably already done some irreparable damage but I'm going to try my hardest to slow down whatever damage that might have been.

My biggest frustration, like some of the others have mentioned, lies in not being able to do so many things that I want to do. Shop in a "regular" clothing store. By something (other than perfume or lotion) at Victoria's Secret for myself. Sit without worrying about the sturdiness of the chair. Frustration at not being able to do things that "normal" people don't even think twice about.

2. What are you the most embarassed to admit - even to yourself?

I'm the most embarrassed to admit that in some ways, I feel security in my weight. I'm the happy go lucky fat friend that everyone always wants to have around. I can be self-depreciating and make people laugh as I talk about my fat ***. I've been overweight for so long that it's become my life. And I'm scared of what will happen when I finally reach my goal and I don't have to cloak of fat to hide behind anymore...

02-16-2008, 10:51 PM
My biggest fear is that I taught my children the very same bad eating habits that my Mom taught me and that they will one day have the same problems I'm having.

My biggest frustration is not being able to wear cute, non tent looking clothing. (and I'm talking undies here too!).

I am the most embarrassed to admit that I'm fat because of ME! I can't blame anyone or anything else, it was all my fault and I now have to own up to that fact and take control back from the food that I've allowed to control me for so long.:cry: Jackie

02-17-2008, 02:07 PM
Is it too late to put in my 2 cents??
My biggest fear is ending up like both my parents, who are cardiovascular nightmares... high blood pressure, Type II diabetes, obese, high cholesterol, and they are both taking a list of meds out the wazoo! I want to be healthy, happy and fit and not have to worry about having a heart attack at a young age, or be limited by my obesity.
My biggest frustration is how surrounded we are by all these high fat, high calorie, high cholesterol foods. Everywhere you go, there's a fast food place, every other commercial on TV is pushing bad-for-you food. It is hard to make the right choices for yourself when we are bombarded by all these temptations!
What I am embarrassed to admit is kinda two-fold. I often hear my husband referring to his buddy's wife as a girl who was beautiful, but who let herself "go" after several years of marriage. I never want to be the wife who let herself "go" after we got married. I want my husband to always find me sexy and attractive. I also want to get back into my favorite activity, road biking. I want to sign up for a Century (100 mile) ride, and I don't want to show up for a training ride, decked out in spandex biking shorts, and have the other athletic, in shape people look at me and say "what is that fat girl doing here with us? she doesn't belong, she's not in shape enough...etc etc"
Sorry this is so long, but it's an interesting topic, and I love it that you brought it up!

02-18-2008, 12:31 AM
It's never too late, feel free to keep throwing in opinions, everyone. And thank you SO much, your opinions are invaluable. :)

02-18-2008, 12:41 AM
my biggest fear is that I will never be able to lose this weight, that i will just give up bc it wont come off :(
what i am embarassed to admit:thinking i will never have a long term fulfilling relationship bc of my weight. aww. i feel sad typing that. nvr said that to anyone else. thats one of the reasons i want 2 lose weight.

02-18-2008, 01:02 AM
Biggest fear: That I'll never get into the shape I want to be in, and never get over running to the chips when I'm bored/unhappy.

Embarrassed: (Not directly weight related, though it probably plays a part in emotional eating.) I'm embarrassed to admit I have a fear/obsession of never really being happy with my life, never finding that career that I really want or the person I want to spend my life with.

02-22-2008, 12:47 AM
Biggest Fear: Dying to young, sudden cardiac death from too many potato chips over the years. Second biggest fear: Not being able to keep up the momentum to lose all the weight I need to lose.
Frustration: Lack of healthy and tasty eating out options. I find substitute recipes at home and cook tasty, creative and interesting meals. I would think a chef could do this.
Embarassed: The actual number on the scale. The even Higher number that used to be on the scale. The food that I would sneak and eat while DH was off to work or out of town. How badly I think I look naked. Embarassed to go to the doctor for checkups and care due to being so fat. (I do have a deal with DH that when I am down 40 lb. then I will go to the doctor again. I have 25 more to go.)

02-26-2008, 01:18 PM
Biggest Fear- That I will pass on unhealthy eating habits to my children, that they will have the same struggles I do, because I have not taught them well.

Biggest Frustration- My husband. He is one of those freaks of nature who can eat whatever he wants when ever he wants in whatever quantity and not gain a pound. He had heart surgery in 1994 to correct a defect he has had since birth. Upon leaving the hospital the doctor told him to GAIN 12 took him 3 years to gain 12 pounds. I can do that in a weekend!! Because he has never had to lose weight he doesn't understnad why it is so hard for me and has little compassion for me. (like wanting me to stop what I am doing and scoop him a bowl of ice cream when I am dieting.)

Most embarrassed - How much I actually weight!! When I started this diet and join 3FC I told myself I had to be honest about everything. How much I weighed, what I ate, how much I ate. I actually cried the day I typed my starting weight on my 3FC profile. But I knew it was a step I needed to take.