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ThisTimeIsDifferent
01-27-2008, 06:35 PM
I haven't been on here in a while. I signed on a few times and read some posts but I haven't posted anything until now. I just don't understand what is wrong with me! I mean seriously! No matter what I do I can't get off my big but and try. I'm lazy! I don't understand what it's going to take for me to really get up and do this. Everytime I even think about eating right and exercising I think back to ALL the times I failed and gave up, and then I think to myself "I'm going to fail again so whats the use?" I need to not fail again! I need to be strong and STOP being lazy! In the past few months I have let my laziness, and my fear of what other people think take over and literally destroy my life. My food intake has gotten so bad. I'm eating so much more in one sitting and its disgusting! I know what to do to lose weight, and I truly want to do it! What the heck is my problem???? PLEASE HELP...SUGGESTIONS...ANYTHING!:?::?::?::?::?::?::? :


sugarcoatit07
01-27-2008, 06:46 PM
i know exactly how you feel..i've been big all my life.. when i was in 5th grade i was 200 and something and i've been dieting on and off since then..thanks to parents who were embarrased more then worried but anyways, then one day i went to doctor and say that i was 362 and said i will not get any bigger..i know that sometimes u do mess up and it's ok it just means that after you mess up the next day you gotta get back on schedule. plz dont let past failures mess up your goals. go for a walk..in the park i about an ipod so i could listen to music. i also love taking picture of nature so i walk around with my digital camera alot.. i hope you find the motivation that you need to...good luck

ThisTimeIsDifferent
01-27-2008, 06:50 PM
Thank you! I'll definitely keep in mind what you said. :smug:


dgramie
01-27-2008, 06:59 PM
I can completly relate to what your saying. I started today and so far so good. Not eating homemade mac and cheese was not easy for me, I was so tempted by the leftovers while i was cleaning up the kitchen. I am still under 1000 calories today and i should add a few more to be close to the 1600 im suppost to get.

Tonia
01-27-2008, 07:10 PM
I, too, can relate.

The best advice I can give you is to be patient with yourself. You did not get to be your size overnight and you will not change your habits overnight. Have you ever heard that it takes 21 days to make or break a habit? Maybe start with something small, like increaing your water intake by 20 oz a day? Or something that is doable for YOU. Then, keep track of your progress during those 21 days and when those days are over reevaluate and figure out something else to change.

You can do this...baby steps. Be patient with yourself. Check out the success stories on this board as well, they are incredibly motivating for me!

Good luck to you!

amouse
01-27-2008, 07:12 PM
OK first things first:hug::hug::hug:

Stop being so hard on your self.. You are here because you want to change.. and that will take time.. You could start like i did .. with a 5 minute walk.. :)that is all it takes to get started :running:. try to walk 5 minutes each day for a week then gradually build it up till you are walking 20-30 minutes.. a day . soon you will be feeling better and you can then start looking at changing parts of your diet. satrt making healthier choices and once you are comfortable with the foods you are eating start calories counting .. you will need around 2000 calories a day to start with so thats not hard to do . I think Calorie couting is the easiest way to keep a check on your diet . i eat well but still have treats as long as they are in my calories for the day :) . soon you will feel upto a better workout maybe an exercise bike or ellipitical?? you want to wrkout about 30-40 minutes day and eat round 2000 calories and you will see a big improvement :) in how you feel look and the energy you then have . VEggies veggies veggies fruit protien and carbs all impostartant to loose wight healthily and keep it off then after . :)

RoyalAthena
01-27-2008, 07:22 PM
Losing weight is no easy task. It is like anything else we want. When we want it bad enough we dont give up. Never give up! If you fall off...pick yourself back up and get back on for the ride. I have lost over 100 and to be honest I thought I would never get to this point. But now, I look back at the time it took and I think "Wow, the time went by fast!" See, regardless if you lose the weight or you don't, time will not stand still. Might as well use your time productively and make a positive change for yourself. A year from now, you can either be where you are now or you can be (fill in the blank) pounds lighter!!

Change does not always happen over night. It may be a process and really you should enjoy the process. Don't make it a drudgery....otherwise you might not stick to it. Find some activities (or positive people) that you enjoy. Make them your focus. Anyway, I wish you the best. You CAN do this!

rockinrobin
01-27-2008, 07:22 PM
I urge you to absolutely forget about past failures. THEY MEAN NOTHING - NOTHING. Luckily you get as many chances as you need at weight loss and the only time you need to be successful is the final time, the last time.

Okay, now having said that, you DO need to make the decision to lose the weight, once and for all. And you can do it. I used to think I was the laziest person in the world, but I really wasn't when it came down to it. I just hadn't wanted to lose the weight badly enough. That's basically what it boils down to - just how badly you want to lose the weight. Because when I *finally* wanted to lose the weight, badly enough, I somehow found the strength, determination and power to do so.

Losing weight is a doable thing. For everyone. And it something you will never, ever regret doing. Good luck to you and take heart that you too CAN do it. :hug:

sockmonkey70
01-27-2008, 07:34 PM
Psssst..I'm lazy too!!! :)

But you can overcome this. It's going to be hard...I will not lie. I am still struggling. I will admit I haven't gotten the regular exercise thing down the entire time I have been on this journey.

Try with baby steps! You don't have to exercise at first, ord knows I didn't..Just work on gradually changing your diet. Not going back for seconds, skipping the sweets, less cola...Little things :) Then maybe once you get some of the weight off you can try incorporating exercise!

chick_in_the_hat
01-27-2008, 09:25 PM
Know that you are NOT alone. Some people like the baby steps plan, I went for the cold turkey plan...but stop being so hard on yourself to begin with. If losing weight was easy - no one would be fat. Forget about past failures. They are irrelevant. They are in the past.

You can do this!! :cheer:

chick_in_the_hat
01-27-2008, 09:27 PM
Um..yeah...totally plagarized rockinrobin's post. :o

I've been online too long. :p

missy3gal
01-27-2008, 09:36 PM
I know that feeling so well. What finally got me to care and consistently try were books (not blogs and not the computer.) I kept borrowing all of the weight loss and get healthy books from the library. Not books about particular diets, but just about losing weight or getting healthy in general. I held them in my hands (instead of food) and skimmed and read until finally I cared enough to try again. If your library has The Beck Diet Solution I'd start there.

This time will be different for you. For the past 20 years I kept thinking that tomorrow it would be easier to control my eating. That's 7300 times that I told myself that they next day would be easier. It only gets easy after you eat right and cut back for a short while.

Lovely
01-27-2008, 11:36 PM
:hug:

Whether you say you can, or you say you can't, you are right.

You CAN do this. Nay... you WILL do this.

Take it easy on yourself. Start fresh. Is there one particular small thing you can do to feel better? Drinking water? Taking a quick walk around a building before entering it? Adding a big serving of vegetables to those meals?

Again, I echo everyone else. The past is rightly in the past. You cannot change it, but you can learn from it. Do you remember why you stopped trying those other times? If you see a pattern, you can plan for it, and catch yourself before it happens :) You're worth this.

:hug:

Ookpik
01-28-2008, 12:07 AM
Sometimes, it takes alot of tries before you succeed. I quit smoking 3 or 4 times before I actually quit for good, over two years ago. I tried to lose weight several times over the years, with varying degrees of success, before giving it up and gaining back all I had lost. Last January I decided to improve my eating habits, get more exercise, and to date I have lost 84 pounds, and I have my good days and my bad days, but I am not giving up. If you don't like exercise, such as elleptical machines, can you think of some kind of physical activity you do like? Swimming is good exercise. Some days I follow exercise DVDs and some days I get on the stationary bike, but I like to mix it up to avoid boredom and I am taking up swimming next week (just got my new swimsuit, my first in over 20 years), softball in the Summer and indoor walking now that it's cold.

Another thing..don't worry about what others think. I know that's easier said than done, but my coworkers made fun of me for taking walks around the airport I work in, and for doing kickboxing-step exercises. I got the last laugh, because I'm losing weight, and they're not, or they don't have the guts to change something about themselves they don't like. You have the guts...you're here at 3FC, it's a start. Good luck.

timkerbelle
01-28-2008, 12:49 AM
I can really relate to having this fear of failing. I think it sets us back so much more than the actual cravings do. I think sometimes we actually set ourselves up to fail, because it fits with the image we have of how we are. The "I'm fat and a failure" mindset.
I know the precious few times I have felt like a normal, or thin person, I dont go to food for comfort.
In a lot of ways being fat is comfortable. Not because we want to be, but because thats "who we are". Changing the way you see yourself and how you think others see you is not easy. It takes guts!
And to top that off we have to deal with the actual struggle of breaking food addictions and bad behaviours.
Having said all that, I firmly believe that it can be done. I myself have not yet succeeded, but I think that being aware of the fears and the problems will help, so that when you get the negative thoughts you can see them for what they are.
I think one thing to keep in mind is that you dont always have to WANT to do it, you just have to DO it. Ignore the little devil on your shoulder saying that it wont hurt with just one day off plan, or that "you cant really do this you know" and just focus on your plan.

tingirl
01-28-2008, 08:03 AM
I can't count the number of times I tried and failed, but forget about it. You can't change the past, but you can change your future if you really want to. Every morning I get up and asked myself - How bad do you want it? I tell myself I'm worth the effort. If you are afraid of what other people will think don't tell them at first. Just start making small changes everyday and before you know it you will be feeling better about yourself and start seeing a difference.

This is doable and you have to make up your mind that you will do this no matter what. Be aware of that negative voice in your head. Replace every negative thought with at least 2 positive things. It's not an easy process, but it is so worth it. YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!! BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!!!

GirlyGirlSebas
01-28-2008, 08:06 AM
I battle with this negative thinking almost daily. I have also failed at this losing weight business many many times. But, we can't let our fear of failure prevent us from participating in anything in life....to include weight loss.

Here is what helps me. I have made myself accountable to the people here at 3FC. It doesn't matter if I'm doing well or floundering yet again, I come here each and every day and let my 3FC friends know how I'm doing. I read the posts....NSV, One Reason Why Iím Staying On-Plan Today, Accountability/Planning/Menus every day. I donít allow myself to put this journey out of my mind. For too many years, Iíve kept my weight as a big secret. I was accountable to no one and I could pretend that I was still 175 pounds and a size 16. I was that proverbial ostrich who kept her head buried in the sand. But, I refuse to enable myself anymore! Today is my weigh-in and Iíve gained two pounds for the week. Iím ashamed and embarrassed, but here I am at 3FC. And, itís an awesome thingÖ..reading the posts is contagious! I have hope again for this next week and the following weeks.. In the past, gaining two pounds would mean that I donít attempt weight loss for another 6 months, a year, or longer. But, coming here each day keeps me motivated and gives me hope. Hearing about othersí struggles, then seeing them succeed makes me want to succeed, too!

Donít give up on yourself! Take a look around here at 3FC and see all of the amazing successes. You can have the same successes for yourself! If they can do it, so can you!

kasmin
01-28-2008, 09:50 AM
Hang in there, Thistime! :hug: Don't give up on yourself! You just haven't found the right way for yourself yet. My weight loss plan didn't really click until this year (and god knows, I've been trying to lose weight for YEARS), when I finally discovered what my trigger foods were. What a surprise, actually. I knew that I had issues with salty, greasy, crunchy things but what turned out is that actually I didn't really start craving those until I had sugar and caffeine:dizzy: Before I found that out, I had almost lost hope. I began to think that I was just a useless eating machine. But after I got rid of my triggers, it was amazing the difference. It took a while, but I began to feel like I could eat like a normal person. I found out that really it wasn't due to my lack of "willpower" but more to a physical addiction. And that felt great! Anyways my point is, it's probably not "you." For me, reading "Why Can't I Stop Eating?" was really helpful. It was because of this book that I was finally able to identify my possible trigger foods.

Schmoodle
01-28-2008, 10:36 AM
Those of us that have this fear of failure and all-or-nothing attitude are perfectionists. I have been working hard at letting go of that. Any small change you can make will make a difference. You don't have to go hard core and start working out and eating a thousand calories/day and drop 60 lbs. in 2 months (like The Biggest Loser). Why not start with adding 8 classes of water to your day. Substituting No Sugar Added Ice cream for your nightly bowl? Or think of another healthy substitute you can make in your diet. Is there something you are eating that you are not even enjoying that much that you can give up or swap out?
You will know when you are ready to do this, but even if you don't feel ready right now, you can be "practicing." It will make a difference in your life and in your attitude.

ThisTimeIsDifferent
01-28-2008, 10:43 AM
I thank you all so much for taking the time to read my post, and for your encouraging thoughts. Every single one of you are right! See my problem is, is that I have to learn if I fall off the wagon, I have to get right back on and put that slip up behind me. Thats what I'm going to try and do different this time. I'm not going to focus on my mistakes. I'm just going to keep moving. I had my healthy breakfast this morning, and when I put the baby up for a nap I'm going to do my walk away the pounds video. I'll start off with the one mile and gradually work my way up. Thank you again!! I love this place. It feels great to be able to come here and get such awesome support!!!