100 lb. Club - What couldn't (or wouldn't) you...
01-20-2008, 10:29 PM
do before you lost weight and now love doing?
I've been thinking about this a lot lately and I've started to do so many things that I couldn't (or mostly wouldn't) do before because of my weight.
Since I lost weight I've been loving:
Swimming (with no shorts and t-shirt on!)
Step Aerobics (yep, love it)
Volleyball (3 times per week, baby!)
I also got a part time job waiting tables. That sounds strange, but I've been a SAHW for several years now. I desperately needed to get out of the house a couple days per week and I love to wait tables. I never would apply before though because of the amount of work involved waiting tables. It's a lot of walking and lifting, etc. I really couldn't have done it before.
Last week I went snowboarding for the first time and loved it! DH has been pushing me for years to go snowboarding and I never would try it because of my size. I also went on a snowmobiling tour I would never have been able to do with 60+ extra lbs on. I'm going to buy rollerblades for DH and me soon, too. That'll be a hoot. :)
I love being so active, I love being able to do all the things I'd enviously watch others do.
What do you do now that you couldn't/wouldn't do before?
01-20-2008, 10:42 PM
Gale - I love your topic! It's very refreshing....
I love to:
* Go to the gym (I actually miss it when I take Saturdays/Sundays off)
* Run - I can do this now! Who would have thought?? Amazing to get the pace going and just keep going.
* Shop - it's so nice that I can shop at any store and find clothes and almost all of them fit me! I don't have to be grumpy when trying things on and trying to squeeze my fat into it!
* Just getting out and going to things - festivals, farmer's markets, the beach, etc.
01-20-2008, 11:04 PM
I love this idea, Gale! I haven't lost enough yet to say I'm trying anything new yet, but this is so inspirational! I'm really feeling hungry tonight even though I've had plenty of food. It was fun to read about all the things you are doing now! Gives me the will to ignore the hunger! :dizzy:
01-20-2008, 11:30 PM
being fat never kept me from any social activity - in fact, i think it forced me to be even MORE outgoing if you know what i mean, but one thing i absolutel LOVE and have avoided for years and years and years is SWIMMING! i love to swim and I can't wait to do it again
01-20-2008, 11:30 PM
There are so many things!!
The biggest one right now is running! I love to run. I run 25 miles or more a week now! I will try a lot of physical activities! I get excited to do new things. I do DDR with my oldest daughter. I go roller skating with my yougest daughter. We ride bikes (when it is not freezing outside!) This summer I will do even more activities while we go camping. I will swim more. Really I feel like the sky is the limit!! I always let my weight hold me back. Now I feel more free!! Jelly
01-20-2008, 11:48 PM
Seriously. Not that I wouldn't or couldn't before I lost weight, but I certainly had less and was less open with it. Now I love being confident enough to undress in front of my guy and not want to jump under the covers immediately or want to leave a tshirt on to cover up my "rolls". I love the flexibility that it's brought to our sex life because I"m more willing to do different things (and I'm able to, now that I don't have this tummy in the way and I'm not constantly worrying about "that position makes my fat bunch up").
Buying clothes that fit is also good. I love putting something on that clings in all the right places and not thinking "will this show my rolls of fat". I'm a lot more confident about buying things, even though I still have some weight to lose.
Just being more active in general. It was hard to be physically active before because I would get winded quickly or becuase I felt awkward. I don't any more - or not as much. And I'm willing to try things and fear less about looking stupid if I fail the first time - I feel less that people will say (or think) "look at the fat chick who can't even rollerblade". That kind of thing
01-21-2008, 12:20 AM
A lot of what has been mentioned...
* Walking up 4 flights of stairs
* Shoveling snow or raking leaves. I hated both
* Grooving to music on the elliptical
* Clothes shopping. I did it before, but it was significantly less fun.
* Meeting new people is much easier. I don't think how much they might be judging me because of my weight.
01-21-2008, 12:41 AM
I think several of you hit the nail on the head, put into words what I'm feeling: I'm not afraid to try new things anymore. In fact, I'm excited to try new sports, and meet new people! I don't worry anymore about people thinking "Look at the fat girl failing at (insert activity here)." When I went snowboarding I suuuuuuucked at it, big time. But, no one looked at me like I shouldn't be there or laughed at me for trying. I was just another newbie at a difficult sport.
I also have to agree about the sex. :) DH and I never stopped, but it has certainly been much more frequent and fun since I've lost weight. I'm not self conscious anymore with him, diving under the covers or turning off the lights.
01-21-2008, 01:11 AM
Yes, I so know what you mean about not thinking people are staring at me because I'm fat. Maybe they never did, but I thought so!
01-21-2008, 02:49 AM
In the Roll Call thread Jay41 had written such a powerful sentence in their intro. It read...
I want the rest of my years to be what I want, not what my weight lets me do.
Doesnt that sum it up beautifully in a nutshell... For the rest of our lives to be what We want, not what our weight allows... WoW!
Ya moved me Jay41 and I truely hope you dont mind me sharing your words. :)
01-21-2008, 03:39 AM
I wish I could do everything!
I feel like my weight affects every part of my life and I'm constantly thinking about it which is a bummer.
I hate using public transport because if there is an empty seat beside me then I think no one wants to sit next to the fat woman!
I hate dining at a restaurant because I think other people are thinking "Look at that fat woman stuffing her face!"
I hate doing public sports or activities because I think everyone likes to laugh at the fat woman struggling!
I hate grocery shopping because I think everyone is checking out my cart contents to see how I got this fat!
I hate swimming because no bathing suit has the ability to mask or hide my fat rolls, big thighs, and behind!
I hate going to parent's meetings at my children's school because I have such beautiful children and I always think people are wondering "THAT kid came from THAT woman?"
I hate meeting any of my husband's friends or co-workers because I don't want to embarrass him!
I hate being intimate with my husband because he is such an attractive fit man and I can't understand how he can not be disgusted with me!
The list is pretty much endless. Even though I already lost a bit of weight, I haven't noticed that much of a difference. I even had a situation a few weeks ago that flat-out reminded me that I need to lose so much more weight. I went with my daughter's school on a field trip and the teacher asked me if I would go on a little amusement ride with the kids. I said "sure!" When I got in my seat and brought the bar down, I couldn't latch it! I had a brief moment of panic before I sucked in my gut and the bar clicked. If I had weighed what I did before then there would have been NO WAY I could have fit on that ride. I seriously would have died of embarrassment if I had to get off.
I know I must sound like a downer but, in a way these are all the things that motivate me to keep going. I long for the day when I don't think about my weight and I can just go out and do whatever without being self-conscious. Someday I will get to be the real me, not the FAT me.
01-21-2008, 08:24 AM
I've only lost 15 pounds, but already I can
-roll over easily in bed without moving like a beached whale
-fit in the tube without the sides pressing in
-get out of my chair in the living room without having to struggle
-kneel at church without my belly pressing painfully into the pew ahead
01-21-2008, 08:55 AM
Put on my socks, standing up, without holding on to anything.
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01-21-2008, 09:32 AM
There are a lot of little things but the big ones are ...
*Running, and absolutely falling in love with it.
*Getting pregnant! My body just didn't WORK when I was obese, and now I finally have the joy of expecting my first child after years of trying. And I can have a healthy pregnancy instead of a lot of extra risks from excess weight, which is what I always worried about before.
01-21-2008, 04:48 PM
Congrats on the baby LisaMarie - that's wonderful news.
01-21-2008, 07:41 PM
I had been thinking about this. Finally I have lost enough weight where I have indeed noticed some changes.
1) I can bend so much easier now that half of my stomach is gone. I can paint my toenails without having some of my toe painted too.
2) sex is better for me but I still would like to be about 30 lbs less before I feel like doing things like a strip tease and stuff. I have been going from all dark and under the covers to lighting candles and soft music. It is very romantic, girls;)
3) Looking better in clothes although I have been dismayed that some new shoes that i bought early in the fall are slipping off my feet. I didn't think my chubby feet would be the first to go! Who knew??
4) Feeling better about how I look and move around.
On the other side of these I am a little taken a back by what feels like more attention. I hate to admit this but I did come to the point where I was almost a recluse and, yes, I do work at home and I like it. I had never thought about waiting on tables but that is one way to get out among people. I guess, one way my fat served me is that it provided a ready made insulation away from people. I was emotionally damaged (according to someone who counseled me) from a lot in my past. I gave up reaching out to people and quite honestly I am still afraid of getting hurt again.
I figure that will be something that I will need to work on as I am losing weight. I hate to admit that but I realize that my fat was there for several reasons and once it is gone, I will be left with those issues to deal with on their own. I think I am ready to do that.
01-21-2008, 07:43 PM
There really isn't anything yet. I am looking forward to running again. I've tried, but my knees hurt badly. Maybe, once I've lost a little more weight, I can try again.
01-21-2008, 10:35 PM
I don't have any significant changes yet -- but I love pulling out clothes from the back of my closet that I haven't worn in awhile because I outgrew them and now they fit (and some of them even LOOSE!). I went dress shopping for my wedding gown today and was unequivocally a 22, and *ALMOST* squeezed into a 20. A few months ago I was more or less a 26/very tight 24.
I've noticed, too, that my shoes are fitting a lot looser. That is really great because I had some nice shoes I couldn't wear anymore because they were just way too tight.
I don't feel as uncomfortable walking around stores or going on walks. I'm still not up for running, but I don't get out of breath walking to the mailbox. I have more energy, and feel better as long as I'm eating good-for-you foods and exercising! Which I'll be honest, I haven't been doing so great with since Christmas, but I have NOT gained any weight and have even lost a pound, so that is still progress in my book! This week is the week for getting back to work!
I'm not sure if I will ever enjoy a lot of sports and outdoor activities (I'm more of the artsy creative type, not nature outdoorsy athletic type), but I am getting married in 2 months and so I am looking forward to having sex for the first time! I feel confident enough that my fiance finds me attractive that I don't feel like I will need to hide under the covers, either!
01-21-2008, 10:40 PM
CONGRATS LisaMarie! :hug:
01-21-2008, 11:28 PM
I'm not where I want to be with this weight thing yet, but one of the things on my list is to go to the jungle and try the tree slide. They have these ropes that go from tree to tree and you slide from one tree house to the next. They have them in Mexico, Belize, and other places.
If you don't know what that is, you can google "zip line jungle canopy tours" -- I'm too new to post links yet.
I bet you have to be normal weight to do that and I want to!!
01-22-2008, 02:11 AM
Everytime I find something I can do now that I couldn't before, it feels like a little victory...which helps a lot in keeping me going...such as:
* driving and not having my stomach touch the steering wheel..steering has actually become a little easier!
* playing sports. I enjoyed playing in high school gym class, but wouldn't try out for competitive teams because I didn't want everybody laughing at "that fat girl" on the field. The 16-year-old girl I was was insecure, but the 36-year-old woman I am isn't; I joined a slo-pitch women's softball league last year and it was great to be able to run the bases, and I'm signing up again this year. Also, I just ordered my first bathing suit since I was a teenager, and plan on swimming at the community pool as soon as it arrives.
* I haven't flown since Summer 2006, and this year a friend and I plan on going to a wedding out-of-province. I am actually looking forward to getting on a plane and not needing a seatbelt extender!
* Flirt more. This follows the "wouldn't" category. I always figured a man couldn't possibly be attracted to me, so I wouldn't even try. I just felt this way about myself; even though I saw overweight friends with men who loved them, I didn't think I could find that for myself. Now I find myself being more flirty and friendly with men, and I am getting more attention than I used to--not sure if it's because of the smaller me or if it's my improved attitude. I also joined a few dating websites, and put my picture up, something I would never have done before. I have gotten quite a few positive responses.
* Work on my feet so much. I used to have a part-time job a few years ago where doing a four-hour shift was painful, and an eight hour shift was agony. I work part-time in a deli now, and doing an eight-hour shift doesn't bother me at all. Also, in the first job I wore a smock, and in order to tie it in the back, I had to twist the smock around, tie it, and twist it back again. In the job I have now I wear an apron and in order to tie it in the back, I just reach back and tie it!
I love noticing all the new things I can do, no matter how small or "insignificant" (not insignificant if it helps keep you focused). If any of my friends ask me tips for losing weight, I always mention they should find pleasure in the little changes they notice.
01-22-2008, 04:21 PM
I've never had a problem being active. I love sports (not that I get to play often) and never let my weight stop me. I'd say the biggest change since I've lost almost 50 pounds is in my clothes. I carry all my weight in front and my jeans used to have to be really big to accommodate my waist which meant they hung off my but. Now they mostly cling to my body. Also my gut went out farther than my chest. You couldn't even tell I had a chest. Now my shirts cling nicely to my breasts which makes me feel feminine. Also I can cross my legs.
01-22-2008, 04:51 PM
I'm just more like let's go here and lets go there. I did those things before but now I'm excited about them. I have a entire list of stuff to tick off. I've already started on that list because I don't want to waste value time "while" I lose the weight because time is something I have to make the best out of rather I'm fat or not. Hiking is something on that list that I've already tried, and have really enjoyed.
01-22-2008, 04:55 PM
...go out without thinking about how my shirt looks on my midsection. It's nice, though I have a ways to go, just to go out and have fun and feel free to use my body as expression rather than just my face.
01-22-2008, 05:23 PM
I haven't lost enough yet to feel comfortable trying it, however, soon I will take a dance class. I want to know what it feels like to be truly led around a dance floor and not feel awkward.
01-23-2008, 03:34 PM
Silly as this sounds-I always wanted to wear sweat pants. Now, you have to tear them off of me! They're so puffy and soft-mmmmmm. I even wore them to work one day (when I was alone-felt so guilty-NOT).
-Love viewing every activity as a "free workout".
-Shopping without trying stuff on, can be risky, but I love DANGER....