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Daimere
01-12-2008, 12:28 AM
I started last January at 298. I then got hired with the YMCA and would walk alot at work. Through that 7 months(especially those last few months in the summer) I lost 25 pounds. In August, I officially got on plan and started regularly exercising. What I have been struggling with is that I don't really see the results in my body.

I know I have 128 pounds to loose in all but I always thought that at 50 pounds gone that I'd look half my size. But I am 75 pounds down and I'm only in a size 22 pant, barely an XL shirt. I'm just really loosing hope because when I look down I still see 298 pound Shannon. I know I'm loosing the weight. I see the numbers go down, I see the measurements go down and the clothes getting looser and looking better. I just don't see amazing results in my body.

I've mostly done WATP as my exercise. I've been switching different strength training videos(I started with PUSH but can't do a push up at all so I tried to do turbo sculpt after that) because I can't find one I enjoy. That's the only thing I can think of unless it's because my height(5'8") was hiding so much fat that it will take more to have amazing results.

Honestly, I look at the 22 pants and can't imagine that my thigh fits there. I enjoy being able to actually fit into shirts without stretching them. It's so hard to convince myself to keep working because I'm afraid that it's not going to happen. That even at goal I will still be fat.

If anyone has anything/any words that may help me, I'd gladly appreciate it. I really need this because I don't want to stop here. I want to believe that what my mom says is true. That I will look amazing(like a normal weight in normal sizes) just like I dreamed since I was 9.

Thanks.

Shannon

(last progress pics on here:http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=15563&page=13)


Heather
01-12-2008, 12:41 AM
You WILL! Congrats on your great loss so far!!!! :bravo:

This is a physical journey, but it is also so very mental. So many of us have weird self-perception issues.

I am wearing mostly size 12 clothes these days and I still can't believe it. I go into a store and look at the women trying on the clothes that fit ME, and they look so... NORMAL... that I can't believe I look like that too.

Do you have any "before" clothes? Trying those on can be a real eye opener!

Trust in the process. Do the things that are bringing you success, and it will happen. Keep trying new physical things for exercise, too! You may just not like working out to videos... what else have you tried???

Daimere
01-12-2008, 12:55 AM
Do you have any "before" clothes? Trying those on can be a real eye opener!

Trust in the process. Do the things that are bringing you success, and it will happen. Keep trying new physical things for exercise, too! You may just not like working out to videos... what else have you tried???
Yeah, the before/current pics were all the same clothes almost:
http://pics1.vampirefreaks.com/d/da/dai/daimere/22849356.jpg
http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c207/daimere/pinup25.jpg
I've had that shirt for years since my graduation. It used to be OMG CLEAVAGE but now it's OMG BRA PEEKING OUT. Lol. I know it's loose. I try on clothes every month to remind me of this.

I like working out to videos because I am so shy about being in public. I just haven't found the one I like and want to do. I look forward to my cardio but not strength training. I've tried the Lotte Berk DVD but I don't even know if it will give results. :P I actually enjoyed that except I really couldn't feel the abs part. I'm going to try to rent other DVDs in a little bit.


foucault
01-12-2008, 01:04 AM
I think you look fantastic! Just from the pictures alone, I can tell a big difference. At 240-ish I wore a size 22, too. So, that's no unusual for that weight. I'm at a 20 right now, but I can almost shimmy into an 18. If I want to feel like I'm pinching myself off at the waist, then I can zip it up. ;-)

As for being self-conscious exercising in public, throw yourself out there and see what happens. I walk a great deal. When I first started, I was super nervous about it. I thought that everyone was looking at me and wondering why *I* was using *their* jogging or biking trail. Now, I'm very comfortable walking and even jogging on the bike trails around town. That's *my* trail now. :-) You'd be surprised as how quickly you lose your self-consciousness. I'm even on the verge of joining a gym, and that was something I thought I'd never even consider.

Heather
01-12-2008, 01:17 AM
Love the pics! I see a BIG difference!

When I joined a gym weighing 250+ I thought everyone would stare. Honestly, I don't think anyone noticed me. If they did, they hid it well!

lilybelle
01-12-2008, 01:20 AM
Daimere, you look great and you can really tell that you are making progress. Our mind does play tricks on us and it's easy for us to see how far we have left to go and not see how far we've already came. I am 5'7 and I also had thought that with 50 lbs. gone that I would look great, but I didn't think so when I got there. This isn't uncommon.

You are doing a great job even if you can't see it, I'm sure everyone else is noticing it. Keep up the great job and you'll find your slender self that you are looking for. It's easy to get discouraged along the way, but that's what is so great about this site. Many of us are feeling or have felt the exact same way that you feel right now. Hugs!

I just joined a gym myself after thinking I would never do it. It is wonderful and there are people there of all shapes and sizes and in different levels of fitness. One lady that I noticed during this past week of 6 days of my working out, she was there every time. She was busting her butt and she wasn't letting anyone bother her or get in the way of her fitness goal although she has a long way to go. I felt so PROUD of her and wished I had had the courage to do what she is doing right now.

LisaF
01-12-2008, 01:52 AM
Shannon, have you thought about doing something to pamper yourself and celebrate how far you've come? You've lost 75 pounds - that's amazing! Celebrate it! Treat yourself to a fancy haircut or spa visit or a special outfit.

When I cut my hair (I took about 15 inches off), it really forced me to look at myself differently in the mirror. It wasn't the same old reflection. There was something new there, and I could actually see it. It may be that if you make some kind of appearance change, it will help you to see what you really look like now.

I can definitely see the difference in your before and after pics. Congratulations on how far you've come.

Lisa

jordan
01-12-2008, 02:03 AM
There is definitely a difference in your pictures, a big difference. But I can totally understand what you are saying about not seeing the difference. I started in a 22 and am now in a 12 and sometimes I feel like I look exactly the same. I try on my old pants, and they are WAY too big, but when I look in the mirror I really don't see that much of a difference, and like you, it is physically impossible that there isn't a difference. It is simply our minds not yet caught up with our bodies. My method of dealing with this is to just trust fully in what others are saying. People around me wouldn't notice my weight loss if it weren't real, so it must be visible to the rest of the world even if it isn't to me. And I only hope our eyes eventually see what others are seeing now. So believe me when I tell you, your loss is visible and you look much smaller than you did in the first picture, don't give up now because you are well on your way to the body you have been envisioning.

txangelgirl
01-12-2008, 02:45 AM
Shannon! You are looking so amazing! There is a majorly huge difference there, so huge! Please don't lose heart. I'm looking up to you right now LOL; I so can't wait to have lost 70 lbs like you have. Girl, just look at how far you've come. Rome wasn't built in a day; you didn't gain the weight overnite, and (unfortunately!) it's not gonna come off in a day either. In fact I was looking at your pics early tonight thinking "man, I wish I was like her!!" No joke! Keep going girl, you will get there, I promise. and I also promise I'm gonna need you, probably sooner than later LOL...I have been gaining this week after a loss, and I'm so frustrated. I hope its AF; we'll see. I hope you know we all would be honest with ya if there wasn't a difference, and just cause you don't see a big difference doesn't mean there isn't one; you see you every day, so it's gradual. But for me, who just saw you tonight, I was like "WOW" major difference. :D Keep your chin up; you're doing fantastically!!!

Idealmuse
01-12-2008, 02:46 AM
Lots of similarity with my situation and yours (starting weight, current weight, and working out to DVDs) and the funky red hair. Hehe.

I think you look a lot better then you imagine you do. The difference in the clothing fit is very apparent. You look great!

Don't get discouraged by the sizes.. there may be a point where you'll drop several within a short amount of time. I started in very tight 26s and seemed like I was in 22/24 forever and then boom 20 and 18 came.

Part of that progression though is the exercise. It helps get you smaller at a higher weight so I would encourage you to keep trying to find things you like. I also like the DVDs for the variety but if you really can't find a strength one you like there are cardio ones that will really help strength. For example step videos really help with leg strength. So much so that I went from doing those and Turbo Jam mostly to starting to learn to run this week.

You mentioned Turbo sculpt... If you like the turbo jam (and I hated it at first but LOVE it now) and not the sculpt then try the cardio workouts with weighted gloves. Also make sure your giving enough attempts at something before deciding you don't like it. Give something a few weeks sometimes when the body starts to "get it" is when it becomes kinda fun.

kimmieone
01-12-2008, 08:44 AM
The difference is amazing and you look great. Keep doing what you doing because it's clearly working for you. That's the physical part. You might want to see a professional about the way you see yourself because that's the mental part. Congratulation on your weight loss so far, your doing fantastic.

KforKitty
01-12-2008, 09:54 AM
I just about wrote your post 2 months ago when I reached 50lb lost. I thought I'd see some dramatic transformation. Although I could see the changes I still saw a 'fat woman' in the mirror.

Fast forward two months and 14 more pounds, and it seems to me to have made such a difference. I think buying smaller clothes instead of wearing old ones loose has helped. In US sizes I'm buying 18 in trousers and 16s/L in skirts and shirts. So many people are noticing now, I think particularly with the new clothes people can actually see it more.

So don't get discouraged. I think changes in clothes sizes will come quicker with fewer pounds lost now.

Kitty

kasmin
01-12-2008, 10:06 AM
I can totally see a HUGE difference in the 2 photos. You look MUCH smaller in the second one. I would never have though you were a 22. And actually looking at the pic I still don't think you are, that shirt looks way big. I think you should go shopping or at least try some things on. I bet you'd be surprised at what size you are now;)

fiberlover
01-12-2008, 10:18 AM
It's okay, the differences will show over time. We have to face the fact that it takes a lot of weight loss for it to be noticeable when we have a lot to lose. I didn't see any change at all for 25 pounds, when my clothes were becoming looser. It took that much weight to drop just one size. It was frustrating.

However, once those changes start - they come faster.
Make sure you take your measurements, incremental changes are not always noticeable to the naked eye.

You are changing, not just scale wise - but health wise. Keep it up, and don't get discouraged.

mj5
01-12-2008, 11:19 AM
Congratulations!!! You have lost 73lbs! That is fantastic! I know you may not be able to see it, but in the 2nd picture, that shirt is way too big. I agree with those who said to try on some other sizes...you may be surprised.

As far as working out goes. Do what you like.

I joined a gym a couple years ago and I have to say at first I was SO self concious about going. But, I go for me. It's my time to work on my health. I put my favorite music on my mp3 player and do my thing. Now I am considered a 'regular' and people ask me where I have been if they don't see me for a few days. That being said....I still get self conscious when I walk into the free weight room sometimes...usually the only female in there and all of the guys are usually super in shape. I take a couple of deep breaths and turn up my music.

I recently 'found' the watp dvd's and LOVE them--so I mix them in for some extra cardio. If that's what works for you--do them. Maybe add some hand weights?

I also read an article about how we think people are looking at us at the gym, when really they are usually focused on what they are doing.

You can do this!!!!!

CountingDown
01-12-2008, 12:06 PM
Wow - I really see a difference! And, I was in a size 18/20 and even some 22s at 215 lbs. so you are on track size wise.

I can tell you that the next 40 lbs. will make such an incredible difference. You will be absolutely amazed. Just hang in there and you won't believe how fast the sizes will change, your body shape will change, and lastly - even you will start to notice the difference.

That being said, we see ourselves every day, so we don't see the changes in us. Everyone around me is commenting about how different I look 50 lbs. lighter. I came back from a 2 week vacation and people are amazed (I lost a whole lb. during that 2 weeks. It was because they hadn't seen me for a while that they noticed).

I took a progress picture and compared it to my starting weight picture and I honestly don't see that much of a difference. Same old me when I look at both pictures. It was so depressing, that I refused to post them in the mini-goal section.

How do I deal with it? I use other cues to validate my progress - the scale, how my clothes fit, how I feel physically when I do things, how much more I am able to do without getting tired, how much healthier I feel, compliments from others, etc.

We are so hard on ourselves! In this case, listen to all of the rest of us that see what amazing progress you have made!!!!

bluex
01-12-2008, 12:31 PM
I find that when you start out with more than 100 to lose, you can lose 50 and while it shows, you are still morbidly obese. I certainly felt that, people could tell I'd lost weight but I couldn't tell. I think I was around your weight when I was at the doctor and they told me that one of my liver tests didn't come out great, so they wanted to do an ultra sound. By the time I got to do the ultrasound I'd lost like 20-30 pounds and that and my new blood tests were awesome. She told me that it had probably been a fatty liver. I hadn't seen any changes in my body so I started telling people that I had lost all that weight from my organs! It was probably a little bit true, before that I hadn't realized your organs could get fat too.

Anyway, when I started losing weight beyond that is when it really started making a difference and people really began to notice. The joy you'll feel when you get down to sizes that you can buy anywhere will be so worth it.

Keep going stay motivated.

There is a danger in never feeling thin enough. I am there now. I am size 10, and I seem to be stuck at my current weight. It may be the weight that I am comfortable at and I am trying to accept that even though I know I could lose more. I know we all are doing this for many reasons but try to focus on health rather than looks, you are so much healthier now already! When you get to a healthy weight, you'll be set. Love you at any weight because you are a very pretty girl and that's not changing no matter what weight you are at.

Daimere
01-12-2008, 03:31 PM
Thankyou guys so much!

I hope you know we all would be honest with ya if there wasn't a difference, and just cause you don't see a big difference doesn't mean there isn't one
I've been hearing that for months. When I walk away at work, the site director and assistant was talking about me and how different I look. They tell me that it looks like I shrink over the weekends. My mother says when I turn around she can't recognize me. I think if it wasn't for that, I wouldn't be here now.

Wow - I really see a difference! And, I was in a size 18/20 and even some 22s at 215 lbs. so you are on track size wise.
That makes me feel better.
I can tell you that the next 40 lbs. will make such an incredible difference. You will be absolutely amazed. Just hang in there and you won't believe how fast the sizes will change, your body shape will change, and lastly - even you will start to notice the difference.
That's what I keep telling myself because I read on this board how someone said they were at size 20 forever and then all of the sudden switched sizes like crazy.

I find that when you start out with more than 100 to lose, you can lose 50 and while it shows, you are still morbidly obese.
You're right 50 pounds down and according to BMI, I'll be moridbly obese till 196, I think. Also, I realized that my preceptions of loosing weight was when I was 250. They didn't change from 298 to 248ish. If I had lost the weight then, there would have been an huge difference to see. But because I had so much more weight than I had when I started those preceptions, I was setting myself for mental break down.

You mentioned Turbo sculpt... If you like the turbo jam (and I hated it at first but LOVE it now) and not the sculpt then try the cardio workouts with weighted gloves. Also make sure your giving enough attempts at something before deciding you don't like it. Give something a few weeks sometimes when the body starts to "get it" is when it becomes kinda fun.
I haven't really done much of Turbo jam just turbo sculpt. I think what made me not like it so much cause it was so hard. My mom mentioned that I shouldn't use weights at first/or go lower. I only have the one learn and burn DVD. I'm hoping my mom will buy the whole set soon. Right now I can't use it because my mother stole my Turbo Jam.

Again thank you guys so far.

Idealmuse
01-12-2008, 06:58 PM
If it's too hard to the point you're not wanting to do it definately drop the weights or do some very very light ones. Our arms still have extra weight in them so no weights is still a workout!

When you're quite out of shape you make fitness gains a lot quicker then someone who is already in shape. You'll be able to increase the weights soon enough all that matters is your challenging yourself for your current fitness level. I mean Geeze when I started walk away the pounds was too fast for me! When you start to feel the muscle base building inside you you'll start feeling a lot better.

And I agree with Kitty 15lbs makes a world of difference where you are right now. I noticed almost NO change in myself the first 50lbs (although others did) and the more you exercise the more obvious it will be.

Daimere
01-13-2008, 03:25 AM
I was using 5 pounds. Whenever I get it back, I will switch to 3 pounds. I think that was half the reason that it's hard. My arms are like jelly after that

CyberGypsy
01-13-2008, 09:09 AM
You look great :)

Daimere
01-13-2008, 07:06 PM
Thanks CyberGypsy

suzie76
01-13-2008, 09:43 PM
Shannon,

You look great! Please be very proud of yourself.

I also despise exercising in public, and do all my exercise at home with dvds. Do you have Netflix? You can try tons of exercise dvds through there. What other instructors do you like? If you need help with picking strength videos, please let me know. I've used many over the past few years!

Take care,
Sherry

Goddess Jessica
01-14-2008, 01:22 AM
Holy crap! The difference is amazing girl!

I totally understand what you mean. We're roughly the same starting weight and nearly the same height. (My ticker says my starting weight was 280 but 298 was my really old starting weight). I was in a tight busting out size 28 when I was 298 and now I'm in a loose 24 and not really comfortable in anything but a 2X. Sooooo I totally GET IT. But, as they say, the proof is in the pudding and those pics really show how long you've come. Good job!

Daimere
01-14-2008, 09:48 AM
My ticker says my starting weight was 280 but 298 was my really old starting weight
I know how that is. When I first started on 3FC, I had 272 as my starting weight because I really couldn't remember being 298 and had lost so much working. Then, I found proof on fit day that I was 298, so I changed it. I guess I was still in denial. :p

I remember one of the first posts I read on 3fC was your first tri post. When I was doing my first 5k walk, I was thinking of you. I was like, "I want to be her some day." *blush*

Daimere
01-14-2008, 10:33 AM
Do you have Netflix?If you need help with picking strength videos, please let me know. I've used many over the past few years!
I forgot to answer you. Yes, I have Netflix. I don't know of any instructors I like. I kinda like Leslie Sansone. I can't stand Denise austin. I haven't found any i LOVE. The next strength training workout I have in queue is Double pump cause I read some good reveiws about that. I'd love an suggestions you'd have. I'm thinking of also trying to Firm since it combines cardio and strength training.

pamatga
01-14-2008, 03:08 PM
I knew that I would have to endure some "private suffering" while I was losing weight and no one noticed including me. I had to turn my attention instead to how my clothes fit. I spent a lot of time in late November trying on different outfits. If something fit better than another than I would wear that one. When I changed food plans my weight lose began to show up in other places that hadn't before. I really believe that all I needed was to follow a low carb food plan. It seemed like my body fat did do a "meltdown".

Within a month one favorite skirt of mine went from "just fitting" to yesterday I pulled it 3-4" away from my waist! It did take almost 50 lbs for others to really notice. I even saw a "regular" at church do a "double take" yesterday. I am concerned about how loose a person should wear their clothes. I prefer that but I can see others' points here who say to try on the next size smaller. Again, it is something new that we will have to deal with. Readjusting our body size/image as we reduce it body mass-wise.

In spite of my girth, I have always been a clothes horse. I remember a size 6 friend of mine saying "Well, you do dress really nice!" I guess, I felt responsible to at least keep up the parts of my appearance that I could if I couldn't control my eating.

Now, I look forward to the day when I can be thin and go out in a ponytail and comfortable sweats. I have never allowed myself to do that when I was fat. I just felt that it was such a horrible stereotype of fat people not caring. Does anyone ever fault the skinny chick who decides to make a quick dash to the store looking that way? I don't know but maybe some day I can tell you if they do. Again, it could be argued that I care too much what other people think and I would "guilty as charged" but I blister inside when I hear about some of the fat stereotypes that are out there and I feel like I want to squelch at least one of them while I am here at this size. Fat people do care about how they look and how they look to others! We are not brain dead nor socially unaware. I wanted others to think I did care and looking as nice as I could was the only way I could --at the time. Now, my worry is that people will think I am too vain.

Crazy huh?

I have bought a lot of really attractive dressier clothes that I wear to church. I work from home so I don't have to dress up for my job so I really look forward in getting dressed up when I go out.

The skirt I wore yesterday is a plum microsuede long a-line. I wore a white satin blouse with it and a plum cashmere cardigan with plum beading on the upper chest. I got compliments on that outfit but the sweater (3x) was loose on me and I felt that it was too long also. Now, that my bigger bust and bigger hips are shrinking my hemlines are getting longer. I have almost tripped on some of the hems of my pants. I never even thought about this as a possiblity when I was thinking about losing all of this weight.

Does anyone else plan on altering any of their existing clothes? I am sure that some things may be too difficult to do but I have also considered taking some of my favorites to a professional tailor.

As for exercise, I can't add anything more to what has been said. I think the Netflix idea is great. Nothing sucks worse than getting a dvd and then putting it in only to find out it isn't what you wanted or thought it would be. I have done that a couple of times. Then you are stuck with it.

Daimere
01-14-2008, 10:40 PM
I have never allowed myself to do that when I was fat. I just felt that it was such a horrible stereotype of fat people not caring. Does anyone else plan on altering any of their existing clothes?
I totally agree! O.O I think I dress 10545498 times better than most heavy set people even if that means clothes that fit and jeans. Not tight shirts and sweats. I have to compare myself to other heavy set people and go, "I totally look better" to make myself feel validated. I'm so harsh sometimes. Although now, I will wearing slightly tighter clothes anyways so I can say, "HEY, I'M WEARING A NON STRECHED TO CHINA XL!" I noticed today that my tummy isn't peeking out as much in the XLs.

I have so many old clothes from 4-H and FCCLA that have sentimental value. I don't know what I will do. I think I will either alternate them like the T shirt books or make a quilt from them. It's soooooooo hard. :(

amouse
01-15-2008, 02:33 AM
you need to throw that shirt out and get one in your actual size all you can see is a baggy sack shirt not the person underneath no wonder you feel frumpy its just wayyy too big on you ..