Weight Loss Support - 300+ and Ready To Try Again... #127

01-31-2002, 04:25 AM

We are a group of people who are working together to lose our excess weight.
We are on different plans and are of different sizes.
We want to invite everyone to join us in our journey.
We share laughter and tears.
We share what works for us and what doesn't.
We recently started a Topic of the Day.

Monday........Motivation Monday
Tuesday.......Tuesday Tips
Wednesday.....Wednesday Weigh ins
Thursday......Thankful Thursday
Friday........Friday Facials, Fingernails and Fun
Saturday.......Sit-up Saturdays - any physical activity
Sunday.........Soup and Salad Sunday - recipes

These are not required topics ...just ideas to share. We have found them very helpful. We also share heartaches and fears...joys and celebrations.

Please feel free to jump right in with us.
And be sure to check if there is a second page. We don't want anyone to miss any posts

01-31-2002, 04:43 AM
Did you miss me?? LOL . I certainly missed you.
I don't think you guys have any idea how much you ALL mean to me.
This is going to be longggg.... so here is part 1 of ...
"The Mysterious Disappearance of 2cute2Bfat???". :lol: LOL

My daughter came home from London yesterday !!! I spent my evening feeding her a home cooked meal and then listening to all her adventures. Then late in the evening (when I usually post) her boyfriend was in the guest room so I could not get in here. The computer is in the guest room. :rolleyes:
I woke up all excited to write (boyfriend gone to work) ... and got on the computer ... but my daughter woke up and came in the room with me so I had to visit with her again. We had a nice bonding morning. :)
BUT... then she said she wanted to take a nap (in the computer/guest room). Grrrr.
Couldn't tell her to get out. LOL ... could I ????? :lol: LOL

The afternoon was spent shopping... (we are getting an ice storm here tonight) so that took me till dinner time. Then hubby home and he needs his attention. :^:
FINALLY... I have my computer back.... and lo and behold... the site was down. LOL

We have over 200,000 without electricity near here. It is headed our way so if I am AWOL for a few days you will know it hit us here too. I have my fingers crossed. I would take that 9 below instead of the ice any day. But I bet you get ice plus those cold temps in Minn. And I know Michigan is getting that snow.

Thin.... I copied all of your recipes and I am making them ALL. LOL
I even mailed them to several friends that are on WW.
I had to laugh at your story of wanting what you paid for. LOL. My friend and I went to an all you can eat Mexican restaurant years ago and ate till we were sick. We had just asked for dessert and laughing at how STUFFED we were but we are getting dessert. :rolleyes: Her son asked us why we were eating more if we are sick from eating. Both of us at the same time said... "Because we paid for it"!!! Now that IS sick.

Lynne... I started the quest about Wally World. It just popped in my head one night while typing. I only knew it from the movie "Vacation" but heard others refer to it as if they meant Walmart. Now I am obsessed for an answer. :lol:
Your wedding sounded beautiful. I can't wait to see the photos. Does your web site have other photos of you??? Please tell us where we can find it. Good luck with your job search.

I am pausing here for a short commercial.... to be continued.

01-31-2002, 04:56 AM
Part Two......

Ladybug...I would love for you to ask your sister if WW=Walmart. LOL
My lips are really sore. In fact my top lip started bleeding today. Ouch !!!
Most of the other burns are healing quite well. My upper arm and chin still scabbed.
It amazes me how many layers of skin keep peeling.
I think it is done .... then there goes another layer. :rolleyes:
And one more thing......
You talked about a HOT CUTIE !!!
He wasn't "cuter" than me was he??? :lol:

Katrina...Never heard of Target having a nickname. That is new to me.
I know completely what you are saying about parents.
I was lucky with most of my troop parents.
But I had one mother that stole the cookie money !!!!!!! :mad:
The girl was sweet.

Grannie... PANTIES :eek: I warned you about new panties .... are those a welcome home gift for "hubby". :o LOL.
Congratulations on a size 20. I am sooo jealous!!!! LOL

Malia.... you come in about 2am my time each night. What time is it in Hawaii?
Stay focused on what you are doing RIGHT. Build your recovery from there.

I have soooo much more I want to write.. but I know I going on too long.
Just have to share one more thing. :^:

I went out for dinner tonight. (first time since burnt a week ago)
It was a new restaurant in town. New menu options. You know what that means.... It's okay to go off plan...just this once. :nono:
Well,... I sat there and convinced myself anything was acceptable...after all, I have never tasted any of their foods. Just today is okay to go off program. :rolleyes:
I stopped my "stinkin thinkin" !!! I told myself this is a NEW WAY OF LIFE for me... not a diet to go on and then off at a whim. I ordered a grilled chicken breast and ate only a small bit of my wild rice and all my salad. It felt good. I did not feel deprived. I felt empowered!!!!! I had more power over the food than the food had over me. :smug:

Only here can someone understand how food has POWER over you.
It sounds odd but true. I never could resist temptation.
I was strong as long as I wasn't tempted.
Tonight I was tempted... and I CHOSE a new way of life. :D

This picture is little... but it is for Thinthinker. She didn't have a smiley licking his lips. LOL Mmmm good

01-31-2002, 10:27 AM
I know you warned me. I guess I did buy them for DH but he hasn't seen them yet.:lol: They were on sale buy 2 get 1 free at Lane Bryant. Glad your doing better. They had lots of valentines nighties but I passed them up it would be a waste of money :lol: :lol:

Hello to all the rest of you.

Not much planned for today. I need to stay op. I ate a Pizza roll yesterday at the mall from Sabaros(sp) pizza. I did drink lots of water though.

I slept in this morning so I haven't eaten yet so I better go.

I am thankful for all my friends here. You don't know how much you help me.

01-31-2002, 02:27 PM
I just found these recipes thought all of you might like them

Lite and Tasty "Apple Pita"
1 apple, peeled and thinly sliced
1/4 tsp cinnamon
1 or 2 pkts. Sweet 'n Low
1 (1 oz) pita
1 tsp reduced-calorie margarine
Mix apple, cinnamon and sweet 'n low. Slice open one side of the pita bread. Stuff with apple mixture. Dot with margarine. Wrap in foil and bake in 350 degree oven for 20 minutes. May be served with Fat-Free Cool Whip.

1 can (20 ounces) pineapple tidbits
1 package (3.4 ounces) instant sugar free coconut cream or vanilla pudding mix
1 carton (8 ounces) frozen fate or sugar free whipped topping, thawed
4 tablespoons crumbled graham crackers or animal crackers
Drain pineapple, reserving juice; set pineapple aside. In a mixing bowl, combine pineapple juice and pudding mix; beat on low speed for 2 minutes or until thickened. Fold in whipped topping. Stir in pineapple and top 3 tablespoons crackers. Chill until serving. Yield: 6 servings.

01-31-2002, 02:53 PM
Mornin' ladies!!

Sorry I didn't post yesterday. I woke up very tired and had a very blah day. No exercise and eating was terrible. Woke up feeling okidoki today though. There were so many posts yesterday that I'll do my best to reply, but if I miss someone, I'm sorry.

Lynne: What is boot camp you ask?? I'll tell ya. You were gone when I told everyone about what's going on. My husband has joined the US Army and has to go to boot camp which is their basic training. Lots of physical work. I'm going to have a rough few months without him. He will be gone until August and then maybe we can move to where he is. Just depends on how long it takes to get housing. Needless to say, I'm going to be depending on all of you for motivation and friendship.

Lucky: I have the Billy Blanks Tae Bo advanced. I had started with the basic last year and after a couple of months could finish it easily. Then I got this advanced tape, and got to the point where I could just about finish it too. But, over the last 4 or 5 months I have been a major slacker and haven't done ANYTHING!! And where did you get the belly dancing tape?? That sounds like a blast!! I need to get a couple of different videos. My problem is that I get bored doing the same things over and over every day. I would love to try belly dancing!

Malia: You are right about measuring being more rewarding than weighing. I have always been an obsessive weigher. I was measuring for a while, but haven't bothered lately. I do believe I will measure today so I have a starting point. Got on the scale yesterday and kicked it across the bathroom!! I think I'll stay away from it for a while now.

TT: I fell in love with the pumkin mousse, and I've been meaning to make the pistacio fluff but keep forgeting to pick up pineapple at the store, but I have the fixins for the ice cream sandwiches and they sound nummy!! I'm making those today. Thanks for more great recipes!!

2Cute: You are AWESOME girl!! Congrats on staying OP!! You are so motivating!! I'm sending you [[[healing vibes]]] for your ouchie ouchie burns.

Anyhoo, so far so good for me today. Had some malt-o-meal for breakfast, I'm munching a salad for lunch, and I will have a small serving of venison stew that I'm cooking for dinner. And of course the yummy ice cream sandwiches for dessert. I managed to get through 25 minutes of the TaeBo today, and did a few more repititions. I'm am struggling to drink all my water, but will do it. Gotta go for now. Talk at ya later,

PS: Here are my stats as of today (actually yesterday when I kicked the scale :lol: )

01-31-2002, 06:10 PM
Hi everyone,

2cute, Hawaii time is about +2hours for west coast & +5hours for east coast. I usually surf about 9pm at night. Thus, the postings are recorded in the wee hours. It's about 12:07pm right now.

I exercised this morning to rs sweat & shout. It was an excellent workout. The sweat was dripping. I love that kind of workout. I felt good all morning. If it could feel like this every time, I would exercise more often.

I logged on to the computer to get my vacation numbers. I'm planning the trip and will need about 3 weeks.

Time to go. Drink lots of water.


01-31-2002, 07:09 PM
Hi everyone! :wave: Another small victory last night. I chose grilled Mahi Mahi for dinner with green beans and with a baked potato instead of rice. I by passed the bread. I had a lovely Mandarin Salad for lunch both yesterday and today. I had them hold the fried wontons. And ya know, I paid for the bread and those darn wontons, but I didn't eat them anyway!!! :lol: Like I said, a small victory.

I called my representative at the WW office and ordered another 16 weeks of program coupons. Got a deal, 18 weeks for the price of 16 and she's sending me a free cookbook. Soooooo, looks like I'll have lots of recipes to pass on. :p That's supposed to be that smilie licking it's lips. Hey, 2cute, is there a code to put that little bugger you sent me into the paragraph? Or can I only use it at the end of the post as an attachment????

We got about 6 inches of snow by me overnight and by this morning it was sleeting and then freezing rain. My oldest decided he was going to venture out to school for his 8:00 class, even though DH and I told him with all of the school districts being closed, his University would surely be closed as well. He left a little before 7:00, and the TV added his school at 7:40! :mad: I phoned him on the cell and he was just about there. It took him 2 hours to get back home! :( Maybe next time he'll listen to his ma!!!! :smug:

Lynne: You keep 'pushing' those boys!!! They'll shape up soon enough!!!

LuckyLadyBug: Sounds like you had a great night out!!!

Katrina: Glad you liked the looks of the recipes. They really help me when I have my fridge stocked. No question as to what to grab and still stay sane and OP.

2cute: I bet you're so glad to have your daughter back on her home turf!!! And I also bet you and she had a wonderful time catching up. She must have had lots of adventures to talk about!!! * Glad the burns are doing better. Watch out for that lip. It sounds more than painful!! * What is it about the "because I paid for it" mentality??? OMG, it will be the undoing of me!!! NO , I take that back. It will NOT be my undoing!!! I WILL conquer this way of thinking!!!! * Good for you on your smart choices at dinner!!! We WILL do this!!!

Mary: Thanks for the recipes, they sound great! The apple tortilla looks like it's about 4 WW points and the tropical crumble should count about 2????

Malia: Honey, how much water are you trying to drink???? If you don't think 8 is much!!! I like to use water as a tool. I know everyone doesn't follow WW, but WW says 6. When I did Quick Weightloss a few years ago, they touted 6 also. But what they did was when you reached a plateau, you went to 7 glasses the next day, then 8, then 9 and then the last day you were back to 6 again. It generally broke the plateau. So what I'm doing these days is drinking the recommended 6 and then if I've had Chineese or a really salty day, I have a couple of more to 'flush' all the sodium out of my system.

Jen: I'm glad you like the pumpkin mousse. I usually buy cans of crushed pineapple by the case when it's on sale so I always have some on hand. * 53 pounds!!! Woohoo for you!!!! :D

Well girls, gotta run. Hubby will be home in about a half hour. I think I'm going to do that sweet and sour chicken dish where you brown the chicken breasts and then add salsa and crushed pineapple. I have a package of fresh chicken breasts in the fridge that need to be used up. Talk with you all later.

"I live a day at a time. Each day I look for a kernal of excitement. In the morning, I say: "What is my exciting thing for today?" Then, I do the day. don't ask me about tomorrow." - Barbara Jordan

01-31-2002, 08:39 PM
Hi gang...

I'm on the run as usual, but I had to stop and report the teeny tiny baby steps that have made me feel so good today! I have been in a real funk...just floudering and wondering WHY I can't get my **** together and get back on and STAY on track. I feel like a dork posting sometimes because I'll tell of positive great days and then I'm back in the pits again...feel like you guys must think, hmmm...nutcase...

Anyway, I have been meaning to sign up for a "Swing and Hustle" class for dh and myself...have had the booklet here, just waiting for me to call (P*R*O*C*R*A*S*T*I*N*A*T*I*O*N--my specialty!) I even made him take the day off from work (told him weeks ago!) So I came across the booklet again,and began skimming through...so many classes I want to take! I believe I had mentioned a drawing class also...well, I found a class that I have been dying to take for years and I actually signed up for it...(along with the dance class!) Adult Children of Alcoholic/Dysfunctional Families...it focuses on the coping mechanisms that children use to deal with
and how they carry these over into adulthood, resulting in self destructive behaviors. It's a 4 session course, starting in March. I can't wait! I KNOW this is going to be a positive step for me! :)

On a lighter note...Thin, that chicken/pineapple/salsa thing sounds GRAND! I do chicken and salsa in the crockpot (YUM) but this sounds QUICK and tasty! You're full of good ideas there, kiddo!

Homework is calling me...Gee, I thought I finished school a long time ago!

Hi to everyone...at the risk of repeating myself, I'm SO thankful for all of you here. Thank you everyone!

Gotta run...:dizzy:

01-31-2002, 10:35 PM
Kat: I have the 8 Min Tae Bo but forgot, so thanks for reminding me. Here we can go from 80 degrees below zero wind chill in the Winter to 100 degrees above zero in the Summer.. You make me jealous. I miss dancing so much. I have to work on that I suppose.

Thin: thanks for the recipes. I will be making them this weekend. Does anyone know how many calories there are in a WW point? You did great on your food choices too. We are all taking such control. Sorry to hear about your Winter weather but happy it’s not here. We have had a good one for a change.

2Cute: I hate ice too, it causes so much damage and is so dangerous. Well, first of all it was a “he” so I don’t know if I can compare him to you. OH, he was so cute and hot!!!! I wonder where he is tonight? Okay, 2Cute, sorry the Richie impersonator would win...remember, he was male!!!! and HOT!

Good job at dinner – isn’t it great to know YOU have the power.

Jehari: We will be here to help you through the time your hubby is at camp. "Some people dream of success. Others wake up and work hard at it." I love this. Thanks for posting it.

I found my bellydancing tapes on the internet but don’t get the ones I did. I don’t think they do very good with the instructions and I stay confused. The ones I have are Bellydancing Slow and Fast, by Atea. I have seen on TV and in a magazine ones called Bellydance Fitness for Beginners, by Veena & Neena Bidasha. I am checking into them so I will let you know what I find out.

Malia: I have rs sweat & shout too so thanks for reminding me…I have all the tools to exercise I just have to decide to do it.

My day was good but I had better get to work on my grocery list so I can stop there after work tomorrow night.

01-31-2002, 10:57 PM
I found some bellydancing tapes here. They are cheaper than other places:


02-01-2002, 09:03 AM
Yippee we hit 0 degrees today...heat wave.

How is everyone? I have big organizing plans for this weekend since I didn't do it two weeks ago when I said I would. I blame my cold, which is finally on its way out of my system.

Happy Friday......

Time to dance my way to gorgeous!

02-01-2002, 09:07 AM
Hey, it's me again...

I just came in from one HORRENDOUS night at work...one of the worst I have had in a LONG time. It's funny though, at work, I can deal with many crises at once and just cruise through, don't need to turn to food for comfort...not that I had the time to anyway! At home, well, that's a whole 'nother story! Of course I don't have a pantry at my disposal at work! I know I jinxed myself last night, whenever I bring a book to work, on the off chance I will have a minute to read, all **** breaks loose! :devil:

Actually, the book I brought with me is Oprah's book with Bob Greene, "Making the Connection." I bought it at the Dollar Store! $$$ Yeah that's right, I'm a BIG spender!! I don't know if anyone's read it, but just reading her story, about being so PUBLICLY out of control, while seemingly having it all, makes me realize that this ILLNESS crosses all boundaries. It's not just me being a bad person or a failure because I can't (SO FAR) lose this weight! I've only just started the book, so I will keep you posted on anything worthwhile.

In the meantime, I'm feeling back in control and plan on having a great day; food/exercise/attitude-wise! :D

I hope everyone is doing well. I'll check back later, after a wee nappie! :yawn:

02-01-2002, 12:05 PM
One more thing...

I saw this on another thread and it made me think of you guys...

Friends are like stars. You can't always see them, but you know they're always there.

Thanks for being there!

02-01-2002, 01:00 PM
Good morning

I do not have much time. Having company in my guest room has sure put a damper on my computer posting time. :rolleyes:
The ice storm did not hit here. YEAH !!!! I have friends that got hit and all the "power poles" broke from the weight of the ice. :eek: Not just the lines....the POLES!!! They will be without electricity for a least a week to ten days. They said on the news they aren't counting the poles... they are counting the MILES.

My burns are healing nicely. :D
My face only has about the size of a silver dollar left scabbing. Layers are still peeling...like when you have a sunburn. Sort of like really really dry skin flaking sometimes.
My chest is doing well too. Only my upper arm looks bad still ... but it too is healing. They all still burn like "raw" skin ... but not really pain. Oh yeah, my lip still has a spot about the size of a penny. I feel very confident that in another week I will be back pretty close to normal. :)

I wish I had time to reply to everyone but I need to get going.
I hope I get back in tonight to catch up.
My food is doing good.
I even have gotten a lot of my paper clutter cleaned since I couldn't get to my computer.
That is a sure sign that I have been on the computer too much in the past. :^:

Have a Fun Friday everyone !!!!!!! Do something you have been putting off until you get skinny. Do it TODAY !!!!! It sounds liek Katrina is.... here is a picture for her and her dancing.

02-01-2002, 02:02 PM
Hello all!

Well, the day didn't end on a good note yesterday. I am still dealing with my stomach having stretched to an enormous size from the huge portions I was eating. I was STARVING all afternoon. I munched quite a bit, but nothing bad, until...... An evil banana split got me!! :devil: I tried desperately to shield it off with a spoon, but it got control of the spoon and shoveled itself into me!! I feel so violated!! :lol: :lol: My bad. I was soooo hungry and my DH brought it home with him so I ate it. What can I say? Tae Bo makes me hungry. :^:

I woke up feeling crummy again today. I didn't sleep worth beans last night. The anxiety of my DH leaving and all the things that are left to be done are really getting to me. Food is good so far today. Haven't done any exercise yet. I have to take my son to the doctor in a little while, so maybe I can do it when I get home. This is SUCH a struggle right now. Oh well, onward!!

Gotta get my rugrats ready to go. Talk at ya later,

02-01-2002, 05:05 PM
Hi everyone! :wave: I have sooooo much paperwork to do it's not funny. But I have that P R O C R A S T I N A T I O N thing going on too and I'm much rather be here with you all than doing it, soooooo HERE I AM!!!! :D

Food has been pretty decent this week, but I'm falling behind in my promise to journal! What is it about that darn piece of paper that makes me so nutts??????? I just HATE it!!!! :(

Water is good. Exercise is non-existent, as usual. You all are having such a good time with Richie Poo, I guess I don't want to remind him who he really cares about!! :o

For Fun Friday I went out to lunch with friends for my birthday, a little belated but it was the first chance we had to get together.

LuckyLadyBug: Don't you look colorful!!! Your post really brightens the place up!!! * As you can see P*R*O*C*R*A*S*T*I*N*A*T*I*O*N is my specialty too! * Dh and I took ballroom dancing classes some years ago. It was really fun and also counted as a night out. We would always make sure that that was our night to go out to dinner and then to the lesson. Lots of fun!!!

Katrina: Sorry you had such a rough night. Was it a full moon? I didn't pay any attention. * I have that book, but haven't read it. That's my problem, I buy all these darn books and then never sit down to read them. I guess I prefer to be here, then sitting in a chair reading. :^: I just picked up Energy Breakthrough, the new one by Sarah Ferguson, the Duchess of York. I have all her other ones too, unread of course!!! Must find the time!!!

2cute: WOW, some storm out your way!!! Glad it didn't get to you directly. Sounds like a whole bunch of folks will be trying to live pretty primitively for a couple of weeks! * I'm so glad to hear the burns are healing for you! That lip will be 'kissable' in no time!

Jen: Don't worry about that banana split, it's over and done now! Let's look at the bright side: You need 3 servings of dairy each day, so there's the ice cream; the banana is a fruit; if there was some strawberry topping, that's a fruit; if there were marachino cherries, that's a fruit; nuts are protein; and the chocolate syrup is a veggie, after all it comes from the cocoa BEAN, doesn't it???? Now, don't feel so bad. You got all your dairy, your 5 fruits/veggies and even some protein in in just one snack!!! Move on, it will be ok!!! :D

Well girls, I guess I better go start on that paperwork!!! *trudging towards the paper and pen* YUCK!!! You all have a great day!!!

"Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment." - Oprah Winfrey

02-01-2002, 05:46 PM
Hello all

Today has been stressfull. I had to read the riot act to my son. He was suppose to work today(Usually works 4 10 hr. days) He just didn't go in . He told me he didn't have to work today but when DH got to work they ask where's Robert he was suppose to work. OH well. I told him next time he would be looking for a new place to live :(
Enough of my problems I am floating from all the water I have had. I've already had 57 oz and am on another 33 oz bottle now.

No Fun Friday for me.

02-01-2002, 09:47 PM
Thank Kat that was very nice of you to post that.

2Cute Happy you are almost normal..well, lets say back to being you!!!:D

I just got home from seeing my Dad. I have tons of organizing ideas for tomorrow so I sure hope I wake up in the mood. :^:

We are suppose to get an inch of snow tonight and then it will be 30 degrees tomorrow. Yippee....melt that stuff...:devil: Of course, then I end up with mud....but better than snow!!!

Are any of you gardeners?

Thin I used to go out dancing 5 or 6 nights a week a few years ago and really had fun. Now, since I moved, there is no where to dance and I have no one to dance with....anyone playing the violin?????:cry:

Grannie Hang in there...sounds like you are doing great with your water. As far as your son goes, I don't really have any good advise just keep taking deep breathes...I find that helps in any situation.

Hope to see you all this weekend. I will need some breaks while organizing.

02-02-2002, 01:53 AM
How is everyone doing tonight.??
Hubby and I went out for a nice dinner then an unproductive night at the slots. :( I had doubled my money... but ended up losing by the time we came home.

It is soooo nice when the food is not a problem. I was not tempted once to cheat. Substituted an extra veggie for my potato and left the homemade roll sitting untouched. While driving home hubby wanted to stop for an ice cream... and told him to go ahead but I did not want one. :smug: What is so great... I really did not want one. :D :D

Kat... you have got to share some of those organizing ideas. I need help!!!
As far as gardening... been there, done that. LOL
I have grown some HUGE tomato plants.. but my carrots were the size of my pinky. LOL. I am no good at maintance. Plant well... pick product well .... but the in between I suck at. :lol:
And far as dancing goes.... I plan on dancing regularly when I get this weight off. I barely can walk now. :^:

Mary... my heart goes out to you with your son. I have great kids... but they can drive me insane sometimes.
good job with the water intake. Thumbs up!!!!

Thin... again we are two peas in a pod. I have every book imagineable and I haven't read a single one. :rolleyes: When I was in OA I not only read the AA book I almost had it memorized my heart. It has taught me soooo much. Many people have a problem substituting Food for alcohol... but I didn't. I could TOTALLY relate. If any of you are having relationship problems I recommend the Alanon books. It is not just for family members of alcoholics.
Thin... I will experiment with that lip licking again... but I could only get it to post at the bottom.

Lucky lady... Hope you get your organizing done this weekend.
If you have any good ideas please share them with us.
You have such a variety of exercise routines. That makes it much more fun.. and we need all the fun we can get.

I am out of time... I hope I didn't miss anyone since the last time I responded to everyone.
Fun Friday... losing at the casino wasn't much fun. LOL
I did get a lot of bills paid today and that was fun to get it out of the way and NOT PROCRASTINATE.
This little lady looks like she is having fun.

02-02-2002, 04:28 AM
Hi everyone,

Did okay today up until my afternoon break. I had an ice cream sandwich and it went downhill from there. I don't know how I'm going to meet my goal of 4 lbs by 2/8/02 at the rate I'm going. I'm bummed at this moment. Families are too weird sometimes. My brother has a major problem. He doesn't work and just rants all the time. Funny with my dad around he felt totally secure. With my mom, he's on shaky ground. He actually told my mom, her money was dad's estate. I told him, are you claiming you have a right to mom's money? Death affects people in different ways. Tonight he told me, whenever he talks he's talking specifically to my mom because I don't matter in his life. I guess it's back to not talking to him again. We made up at my dad's deathbed after 7 years of not talking. I'm sorry to dump like this, but I feel pretty unhappy right now. Like I'm a nothing coming from a loser that's rich. I told him straight--I deal with customer's everyday. I'm not stuck behind a counter this time and I'm leaving the room. I refuse to let him ruin my weekend a second time. Time to get a job buddy.

Change of subject.

Katrina, I have Oprah's book also. I never read beyond the second chapter, but I'll give it a try once again.

Lucky, I garden. I'm keeping a garden journal. Describing the weather, my plantings, fertilizing, spraying schedules. I stopped at Ross' tonight and got a planter from the clearance shelf. I'm going to plant a maidenhair fern for the office. The office is cool and bright. It'll love it there. Other than ferns I'm growing gerbera daisies and roses. Everything is growing and blooming with the major rain we had this past week. We really have no seasons here in Hawaii. Just some rain and cool weather.

I stopped at Wally World tonight. Bought the mango peach water. No black cherry in stock. I also bought craft pens to dress up my weight journal. I hope to get lots done this weekend.

Here's to dreams,

02-02-2002, 04:47 AM
Malia... you could use a hug... {{{HUG}}}
Death does weird things to people and money does weird things to people. Combine the two together and it can be a HUGE problem. It sounds like you did not let him push you around and that is good. Be sure to take good care of yourself and that will help you deal with others. Please know we are here for you.

02-02-2002, 06:58 AM
I guess you guys will probably not remember me.....it has been several months since I've posted. I have changed shifts at work and it has been difficult for me to get on the computer very much. I have also been looking into having the gastric bypass surgery, but have just about decided against it looking at all the horror stories. I have been fat all my life. For as long as I can remember and I am just about at my wits end. I'm 32 and weigh aprox. 330 pounds. I have tried all the diets out there. Weight Watchers. Formu3, Phen Phen, Thermoslim, Chitosol, weighed the food, counted the fat grams and drunk water till I feel like I'm floating away. And I am miserable. I get winded walking to the mailbox. None of my clothes fit. I can't fit comfortably in a movie theater seat or booth in a restaurant. There are tons of places I can't even go because of my weight. My children are embarassed of me. (They would never admit to this and have never said anything.) Maybe I'm just embarassed for them. I don't see how my husband has climbed this mountain for the last 14 years. I recently went to a t-shirt shop & bought my two sons a t-shirt and my husband one, and the salesman said, "Maam...I have one just for you too. This one will really make a statement. It had a picture of a dinosaur on it with the caption reading, "If you think I'm big, wait until you see God." I wanted to just die right there in the store. Of course, that doesn't even compare to the time I was sitting in my son's doctor's office waiting room (full of people of course) and a little girl walked up to me (probably 6 or 7) and said, "Your big." What was I supossed to say? Thank you! I said, "Yes, and smiled my big ol dopey grin and wanted to smack her mother for not keeping a tighter leash on this adorable whippersnapper and then she asked the question that still makes my heart stop beating. "Do you fit inside your house?" I can still feel the hot tears coming to my eyes remembering this. :( Anyways, I guess I have bummed you guys out long enough. I am looking for any new ideas, other than crawling in a hole for the next 50 years. I promise, I will be a faithful poster this time and might even learn how to get one of those pretty pictures under my name or how to insert one of those neat pictures at the end of my ramblings. Hope I havent brought you down. I'm just trying to lift myself up. Thanks

02-02-2002, 10:10 AM
Welcome back Tina. Just keep plugging away thae weight will come off.

Malia I know how you feel I also have a brother that I hardly ever talk to. His wife died in Feb of last year I was there for him but he is so depressed and he resents everyone. He hasn't seen mother since 1995. He won't even talk to her. {{{HUGS}}}}

DH and I are going in to see a movie today and out to dinner. I'll be back later.

02-02-2002, 11:35 AM
Hello All,

I have been scolded by another member for not posting...So I gave her my word I would post today! :)

One of the reasons I don't post is because it takes me so long to write what I want to say in response to individual posts. I am afraid I will miss someone. Please know I care about each and everyone of you & am cheering you on in your weight loss journey.

Another reason for "lurking" is I have been having quite the time of it the past year or so. I didn't want to have my negative attitude show.:o

For truly there was a time I just couldn't see much of anything in a positive light. I am thankful to say that things are much better now. I am not a negative person by nature, and it was tough to ask my MD for help. I am taking Zoloft now and it has helped my outlook considerably. That and the fact that I was feeling quite desperate about situations that were no fault of mine..but I felt I had to try and "fix". We probably have all been there at one time or another...seems it is the womans lot to nuture and to "fix" and to fuss at things if she can't make them right..or at least to come up with options...well, I was feeling out of options for awhile.

It is funny how quickly things can change....I now have options and things don't feel hopeless anymore. May I say if any of you are suffering from depression please don't suffer by yourself, talk to a friend, seek medical advice...do something...life is so much more enjoyable when you do.

TT and 2Cute have been there for me...We are so darned lucky they are part of this forum...But NEVER FORGET we are ALL REMARKABLE women with VALUE...Value to ourselves and others.
Everyone of us has something to offer and we wouldn't be sharing our thoughts and our struggles if we didn't want to help each other and ourselves!

I was thinking long and hard about what I wanted to say to you all today....I guess that I have said it! Love to All....

02-02-2002, 03:15 PM
Syn... My eyes are all whelled up with tears. They are not happy tears nor sad tears... they are... compassionate tears. I am SOOOO very proud of you for posting. I know how hard that can be... especially when you are suffering. But we were not meant to travel this road of life alone. I am sooo happy you are seeking help from others. Just yesterday I had to call my friend and cry my eyes out because of some family problems I was having. In the past I would try and carry the load alone. NOT ANY MORE. I need help and support and I am no longer too proud to ask for a shoulder to cry on. She knows that I don't expect her to have all the answers... just a shoulder to cry on, some support to lean on, and often a few words of wisdom that I needed to be remined of.
It is soo good to have you back.

QueenB... of course I remember you!!! Welcome HOME.
I am sooo glad you decided against the surgery. I have a site that has photos and diary of a woman who had that surgery and then the skin removal from both front and back. It would definitely change your mind.
We all know the pain you are feeling... we all have been there. But there IS a better life for you... and posting here hopefully will help you find it. It has sure helped me.
Kids sure can be cruel... it sucks.. but unfortunately it is here to stay. When kids tell me I am fat I do just as you did... say "yes, I am" and then refrain myself from tripping them as they walk away. :lol: But I must say... it does not cause me the pain like it used to. Maybe because my own self worth has gone up while my weight is slowlyyyyy going down.
No... that is only half true. My self worth went UP when I started taking better care of me and eating healthier. Even when my weight stayed the same.
Anyway.... we are glad you are back... and we are going to make you keep that promise of being a faithful poster. ;)
You have made a GREAT first step in lifting yourself UP. Now fill up a water bottle and start drinking. :lol: Water REALLY does do a body good. LOL

Grannie.... I am surprised your hubby is leaving the house since you got those new panties. :lol:
Which movie are you going to go see.??

I have got to get going. I would live on this stupid computer if I could. :rolleyes: I have to FORCE myself to clean. :^: Heck.. I have to FORCE myself to even have FUN. LOL
Don't forget... today is Sit up Saturday. That means get off your butt and do something physical... anything.
Love and kisses

02-02-2002, 04:43 PM
Hi everyone! :wave: I cannot believe it is 3:30 in the afternoon! I haven't done a darn thing all day except make breakfast. Yeeesh!!!

The journalling this week has been out the window and that does not make me a happy camper. Journalling and success go hand in hand and I just can't seem to get past it. I need help!!!

Mary: Sorry your son is giving you a hard time. Sometimes I think we make it too easy on our adult children that they take us for granted. My oldest doesn't even talk about moving out. He likes his laundry done and his meals provided. The youngest says he'll be out within a year of graduating from college. We'll see. We don't require him to do anything around the house, how good could he possibly have it???

LuckyLadyBug: Sure, I'll play the violin for you. We just need to get out and DO it. Just like with anything else.

2cute: Glad you and hubby had a nice night out. It is nice when the urge to indulge doesn't exist. My DH got out the chips and dip after breakfast/lunch this morning and all I could think of was 'didn't you have enough? How could you eat chips on top of breakfast?' Guess I was being judgemental, but I didn't have those 'needs'.

Malia: Gosh it's too bad about your brother. But like 2cute said, death and money are not good partners for a happy life. Seems like those two items really bring out the nasties when it comes to families. [[[[[hugs]]]]] Good for you walking away!

Tina: Of course I remember you. I'm glad you've decided not to have the surgery. I've only heard horror stories about it. A little discipline and we can all be thinner without the added risks of surgery. * Isn't it awful when kids say hurtful things. I'm always very interested in how the parents react to what their kids say. I have to tell you, I have never been impressed with their response. Most just try to act like they didn't hear their obnoxious little monsters! * My best advice: 5 servings of fruits/veggies a day and at least 6 glasses of water every day. Start with that. You'll be surprised at what a difference just those 2 things will make in your life.

Syn: I'm glad you ventured in to post. It's good for the soul. Everyone here has gone through or is going through some difficult times and we are all here for each other. Don't worry if you don't have the time to answer everyone. We've all been in that spot before too. It's just very therapeutic to write here and have friends that will send HUGS. I'm glad you're back!!! [[[hugs]]]

Well girls, I'm off to the store. Out of salad and toilet paper, ya know. :lol: You all have a fun day. Don't forget to get out your recipes for tomorrow. (now, don't everyone hide!!! :^: )

When you know when to laugh and when to look upon things as too absurd to take seriously, the other person is ashamed to carry through even if he was serious about it." - Eleanor Roosevelt

02-02-2002, 06:13 PM
2Cute Don’t you love that feeling of power when you say “no” to food – And Mean It.!!
I find I can do it more and more often.

Just because you “harped” at us I did do the physical thing today. I also am in the process of cleaning and organizing a shelf area. I needed a break so I came to say howdy…..:wave:

Malia I feel sad that your brother talks to you like that. I have a brother and 2 sisters. We all respect and love each other and are very close. I think we are this way because our Mother died when we were young so we clung to each other. I am thankful everyday for each of them. My brother and his family live across the road from me.

I am impressed with your garden journal. I think I will have to take that idea and to it also. At my age I can’t remember anything if I don’t write it down. :lol:

Tina I post on another thread called “What are we really hungry for”. You may want to check it out. The exercises we follow from a book by Geneen Roth that helps us look inside of ourselves and at the reasons we eat.

Keep coming here we will lift your spirits or whine with you!!! :lol:

Syn Are you out from under the snow? I heard you got some on Thursday. Luckily we were spared the latest storm.

Glad you feel better and are back to posting regularily!!! I missed you. Us northern girls have to stick together.

ThinBesides NOT exercising, journaling is also this nagging thing in my head I don’t do. I have to figure out a way to do it that I like or else I know I won’t.

RUSH to the store – you never want to be with out toilet paper.

02-02-2002, 07:45 PM
Thanks for the hugs and words of support. You all truly mean alot to me. I thank God that these family squabbles are lessening after the initial grieving. I had a good talk with my mom. She pegged him, but it still brings up the negative. I'm tired of being large but invisible too. It hurts just the same from a schizoid.

Tina, I hurt for you. Kids get away with the most cruel remarks. The making of an adult. Don't worry. Most of us aren't on any plan. Done that. We're starting with baby steps. One at a time. Water, fruit, veggies, and exercise to start. Most importantly, we're here for each other for the spirit & mind food. You're in no way alone. We're here for and with you.

Syn, I don't know what happened these last few months. But I'm here for you too. We can do this together. Life's tough, but it won't get the best of us. Take care of yourself.

Lucky, good comment on journal writing. It made me laugh. I bought fancy gadgetry (pens, stamps) for my journal yesterday. One thing on my to do list.

With that, like 2cute, I have to organize my bedroom. I need to get off the computer and start right now. :dizzy:


02-02-2002, 10:10 PM
Good evening to all of you

DH and I went to see I am Sam It was a real tear jerker. Even DH was crying.
We went to Red Hot and Blue for dinner. Its a Memphis BBQ place here in Mississippi. I am wearing my new oriental pajamas that Dh got me for christmas. I really look snazzy.:lol:

Glad we have so many ladies posting we all need each others support.

Talk to all of you tomorrow.

Oh yea 2 Cute hubby likes the panties:lol: :lol:

02-03-2002, 02:57 AM
Hello everyone. :wave: Not sure if I should say good morning or good evening. Where I am it is 1:50 in the morning. I just re-read over the post I put in last night and geez what I whiner I must have sounded like. :nono: I can't promise that I won't ever get that down on myself again, but that is not usually like me. I really try to be an upbeat person, but it seems like I've just had a little more than my share lately & I needed to go somewhere & pout for awhile. I am much better today though. :p My husband, kids and I went out to eat dinner with a friend that I dearly love and haven't seen for awhile and that just made my day. And then, if I hadn't had enough giddiness, my husband decided to rewallpaper the bathroom. I'll have to tell you how I feel about that once it's done. I havent seen the finished product yet. I would like to say that it feels so good to be posting again and talking about things. It was also very nice to see TT and 2cute...these guys have been here for awhile and seem to be a never ending source of inspiration. Thank you so much for being something very constant. I know I'm not the only one who appreciates you. I will try to get the water thing going this week along with the fresh fruits and vegetables. Lord knows I need more of that in my life. You can only live on gravy and biscuits for so long, you know. :lol: Well, I guess I will go for now. Thank everyone for responding back to me. I really appreciate it and once I get better at this & get to know everyone a little better, I will try to respond to you individually. Hope everyone has a wonderful day. :p

02-03-2002, 04:10 AM
Hello everyone. Hi Tina... glad to see you back again.
This thread has gotten so long that I am going to start a new thread. This thread will be continued at 300+ and ready to try again... #128. I am going to copy and post Tina's reply there again. Being new... I don't know if she even knows it went to another page... and I don't want anyone to miss it.

Before I do this... I just want to say how HUMBLED I am....so many of you have made me feel so loved. :o
I am sooooo appreciative of all of YOU!!!!
This IS the GREATEST GROUP in 3FC's by far. :love:

See you all on the next thread.... #128