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ShyCammie
01-03-2008, 02:48 PM
Hi Ladies,
Today I had a very interesting revelation: My mindset was contributing to my health neglegence.
I was at an appointment with a wonderful nurse who knew me in 2006 as I was losing weight prior to my knee surgery and subsequent 30lb gain. This wonderful nurse said things like, "We just need to get you refocused" and "You were losing weight before, you can do it again."

I cried.

What?
I was treated with compassion, respect, and support and I cried? I couldn't figure it out at first. Then I realized, I had felt helpless as the weight creeped on and I was still on crutches. Then, of course I was depressed and felt trapped that once again I weighed "this much." Since then, my pitiful attempts to lose the weight again were truly without believing that I could.

My mind needs to believe that I can (oh, yeah, AND I need to eat less and exercise more:D). But seriously, if I don't BELIEVE I can, it won't happen.

Although in the depths of my mind, I knew this (at least about other things that I try)...it was so striking to realize it applies to my journey to a healthy weight. I don't want to "think I can" - I want to KNOW I can. I'm slowly convincing my mind that "I know I can lose the weight.

The mind is powerful...I must apply it's power to good not evil!


Jen415
01-03-2008, 04:02 PM
Well said, Miss Cammie!! :):):)

ShyCammie
01-03-2008, 04:33 PM
Just thinking about this makes me shake my head. There are so many other things that I've done in my life that others have commented on (learning to ride a motorcycle at 17, jumping out of airplanes, becoming a single mom at 38, etc).

It just never occured to me that I couldn't do any of those things. I just did it.

THAT's the mindset I need to have about returning to my healthy weight. I need to think, "Well of course I can do it."


Heather
01-03-2008, 04:37 PM
I do believe that this journey is mental AND physical. Anything you can do to give yourself a leg up, so to speak, is important!

It's interesting that when I started this current weight loss attempt, I had failed many times before. This time, I didn't necessarily believe that I COULD, but I tried to block out of my head the fact that I COULDN'T. In other words, I didn't believe (yet) but was willing to give it a go.

Not sure this is making sense, I'm hyped up on cough syrup! :dizzy:

jtammy
01-03-2008, 04:56 PM
So very much of this is mental. Like Heather, I didn't necessarily believe that I could do it, but I believed that I HAD to do it, one way or another. I had a true awakening when I discovered that I actually weighed 346 lbs. I knew then and there that something had to change. I had determined that if the first way I tried to lose weight didn't work, I would just have to keep trying until I found something that did work. What I was doing DID indeed work, so that in itself was a huge motivator.

A big part of the mental game with me was visualizing things like seeing the scale change, fitting into smaller clothes, looking in the mirror and being happy with what I saw, etc. I think the early days of my weight loss effort were held together entirely by my efforts at visualizing successful weight loss. That is what kept me going from day to day. That is the one thing I did that was truly different between this time and other attempts to lose weight. It made all the difference in the world really.... And it can for you too! :hug:

Beverlyjoy
01-03-2008, 05:22 PM
I totally believe in the power of visualization too. When I first started I had a goal at get my triglycerides down to a healthy number instead of 508 (a very unhealthy number). I visualized that number everyday getting smaller - it really kept me going and in three monthes the number was 176. Yes, Tammy, visualization is a wonderful tool.

Yes, Cammie - you have to believe. We believe in you - you should too.

Purplefirefly
01-03-2008, 05:33 PM
You are SO right, Cammie! I am working to believe I can still, but I'm getting better at not letting myself think i can't. I lay in the bathtub at night now, close my eyes, and imagine myself thin. I imagine how all my body parts might look like, and sometimes I imagine situations in the future, like walking into my sister's house in Ohio this summer and everyone's jaw dropping! I imagine it as if it is GOING to happen...and I am starting to believe it will. These little tub sessions are something I look forward to now!

Goddess Jessica
01-03-2008, 05:43 PM
Visualization is awesome! You use that mind, girl! Believe you can do it.

ZedAus
01-03-2008, 05:44 PM
I believe that the magic formula to healthy, successful weight loss is 80% mental, 15% healthy eating and 5% exercise. I'm not sure that the last 20% will do you much good in the long run, maintaining weight loss, unless you have the first 80% sorted out.

Zelma

rockinrobin
01-03-2008, 10:23 PM
Ya know something? Now that you say it, all the previous attempts for me at weight loss, the ones which were unsuccessful for me, I never truly believed that I could do it. But this last time, there was no doubt in my mind that I wouldn't do it. It really was odd.

But for kind of the same reasons as Tammy. Something just HAD to be done. I could not go on like I was. If for some reason what I did (eating incredibly healthy, counting my calories and execise) wouldn't have "worked", though I was determined that it would, I would have tried something else.

I really believe it's all mental. I wouldn't have been able to eat healthy, count calories and exercise if I hadn't gotten it together in my head first.

ShyCammie
01-04-2008, 08:47 AM
Oh, Thank you ladies for your thoughts! :hug:

I was reading the responses this morning and it struck me that one of my favorite "Disney Princesses" - Tinkerbell - had a similar experience in Peter Pan. (The whole series of Tink taking the poison and Peter saying "Clap your hands 3 times if you believe.")

I think that having been thin until my early 30s has been working against me. Things like medical professionals saying "Well you're not 20 anymore, you're going to gain weight" have created an entire mindset of "you can live with this." The bottom line is: sure, I could live at 239-245 lbs.

I don't want to.
I want to be thin again. I want to be excited about the way I look. (I want my daughter to see me at a healthy weight...before she realizes I'm fat.)

Now, please tell me all the reasons that you all "thought/think you can" or "knew you could"...I'm going to have to get my mindset healthy in order to get my body healthy.

Thanks - Ladies. Wether you know it or not, you inspire me.

NewSkinnyMe
01-04-2008, 09:00 AM
This is sooo true...

I wonder if any of you have read the book Psycho-Cybernetics. It's an older book, you can get it cheap on Amazon, but it talks about this. It also gives you great exercises to help change your beliefs, and to start visualizing if you've not done that before.

It also tells you why this works -- lots of science. It's a great book if you've never read it.

Lori

ShyCammie
01-04-2008, 09:16 AM
This is sooo true...

I wonder if any of you have read the book Psycho-Cybernetics. It's an older book, you can get it cheap on Amazon, but it talks about this. It also gives you great exercises to help change your beliefs, and to start visualizing if you've not done that before.

It also tells you why this works -- lots of science. It's a great book if you've never read it.

Lori

Wow Lori!
No, I've never heard of the book.
I have used visualization before. I've used it for improving time on races, on doing well on tests, on public speaking, etc. (It hasn't worked for winning the lottery, yet. :D ) To be honest, I never thought about the "exercises" that might help me debunk my untrue beliefs and get my mind on track.

It certainly makes sense. I can visualize myself skinny...I was slender until 32. I have photos of the "slender me" in my house. I just wasn't thinking that I could get back to that. I suppose I need some exercises to figure out what I'm supposed to be visualizing. :)

GirlyGirlSebas
01-04-2008, 09:30 AM
Since then, my pitiful attempts to lose the weight again were truly without believing that I could.


I can totally understand where you are coming from. I fight this negative thinking constantly. I believe this is from starting so many weight loss plans and failing. I've built up a foundation of failure and disbelief that creeps into my head when I least expect it. The great thing is that I've slowly starting building up a foundation of small victories that make me extremely hopeful. And, during those times that I'm not feeling hopeful, I fake it and just keep doing what I need to do. And, miraculously :D the weight loss comes!

Hang in there Cammie. You've been through some rough times, but the victories will come your way and you will find your hope.

Slashnl
01-04-2008, 10:54 AM
Wow! Awesome post, Cammie. I agree with so much of what you said. But what really got me was how you cried when you were treated with compassion and kindness. Wouldn't it be great if we could possibly treat OURSELVES with compassion and kindness... rather than criticism and condemnation?

The power of the mind and positive thinking is something I really believe. Thank you for reminding us all about that!

jtammy
01-04-2008, 05:07 PM
Now, please tell me all the reasons that you all "thought/think you can" or "knew you could"...I'm going to have to get my mindset healthy in order to get my body healthy.



I'm not sure if you were looking for this kind of thing or not, but something I kept telling myself was that "Weight loss is not rocket science. There are people less intelligent than me that have managed to lose weight and keep it off. If they can do it, I can do it." Okay, maybe that's not exactly nice, but I didn't say it out loud either, only to myself. ;)

rockinrobin
01-04-2008, 05:24 PM
Now, please tell me all the reasons that you all "thought/think you can" or "knew you could"...I'm going to have to get my mindset healthy in order to get my body healthy.



Hmmm. Well I knew that without a doubt I absolutely HAD to. I simply could not go on living like I was. I didn't think that I would live much longer number one and number two, I was so miserable that I couldn't bear it any longer. I figured that doing without the high calorie/high quantity food HAD to be easier (at this point) then being morbidly obese. It just HAD to. And I was right. ;)

And kinda like jtammy said, I knew, DEEP down, that weight loss was a DOABLE thing. And exactly like she said, others have done it, so why the heck NOT me?

All I needed to do (haha) was eat less and move more and that would definitely result in weight loss. Definitely. So, I needed to figure out how to get myself to - eat less and move more.

Eileen2bLean
01-04-2008, 05:44 PM
I totally agree with your thoughts about thought! I know knOW KNOW that this time, at this point in my life, I CAN BE SUCCESSFUL at weight loss. I know that my attitude and a truly positive outlook will have everything to do with my success.

I feel like I'm posting this everywhere but it's where I am right now, so please excuse the redundance... After 30 years of being a smoker, I quit. It wasn't my first attempt at quitting, but it was the one that stuck. (Just passed the one-year mark.) The difference in this quit? My attitude -- my THOUGHTS.

I wasn't miserable. I wasn't feeling like I was "missing out" on something. I recognized my addiction for what it was and I was happy EVERY DAY for the wonderful freedom that I was experiencing! Craves would come and I would laugh them away! My husband, children, co-workers, friends, and relatives ALL commented on how cheery I was, how upbeat, how positive I was about my quit. Always before when I tried to quit I'd turn into a grumpy nasty grouch!

I am in the exact same place now, with this addiction (and really, that's what it is). I'm not going to be miserable. I'm not going to be a grumpy grouch. I am going to find joy in the FREEDOM that comes with taking control. And this outlook, this positivity, this framework of thought -- it's going to pave the way to success! I just know it!

:)

rockinrobin
01-04-2008, 10:10 PM
I just want to add to my reasons why I knew for sure why "this time" would be different and why I knew that I definitely would lose the weight.

Something I said from the begining. I finally made the decision to lose the weight. I simply got tired enough of being fat. And finally realized that if I didn't want to be fat, well then I didn't have to be fat. That it was indeed within my power to lose the weight. It was something in which I did control. In fact I finally realized that it was one of the few things in life that I really and truly did dictate. It was a huge realization for me.

ShyCammie
01-05-2008, 10:30 AM
Ladies,
Thanks for your thoughts and sharing with me "how you knew" you could lose weight.

As I've sat here and examined my thoughts a bit, I realize that there's a part of me that doesn't look in the mirror and thinks that it's ok for me to be this weight. Honestly, Robin, I could probably go on like this if I wanted to. I'm not sure I'm "sick and tired" of being fat. (That just sounds wrong when I write it.)

The thing is: I don't want to continue to weigh this much.
Perhaps it's vanity, I don't know. It's like a tiny voice inside me. It's that same tiny voice that actually wants to exercise. :D I want to take care of myself. (Wow! Writing that statement was a slap of reality...it says that I haven't been taking care of myself. It's like I have all of a sudden looked at not consistently exercising as not brushing my teeth for years or something. Ewww! Eating excessive portions and calories I could probably equate to something equally gross.)

I think you make a very good point, Eileen. I need to take joy in taking care of myself. I did take joy in my walks when I was losing weight. I couldn't wait to get out there and walk and I really missed it when I couldn't. I can see taking joy in eating fewer calories each day might pose a challenge now and again...hmmm. Maybe that's when I employ jtammy's thoughts of this "is not rocket science. There are people less intelligent than me that have managed to lose weight and keep it off. If they can do it, I can do it."
Once I get some victories like GirlyGirl I know that I'll be able to hear the quiet voice louder.

Well, here it is:
I vow to nurture and grow the small voice inside me that wants to exercise. I vow to care for my body the way I care for my daughter. I will care for the nutrition and portion size of what we BOTH eat.

(Yeah, I'm faking it...I haven't internalized those feelings yet, but GirlyGirl mentioned faking it until we make it...)
Mmmm. I gotta go. I have a cross trainer calling my name. ;)

Kriss
01-05-2008, 05:10 PM
Heeyy ;),

Thought I would jump in. Love Eileen! I'm not gonna be a grumpy grouch about this! :D This will be my mantra for a while I think!

I heard or read something and it really fit me. A woman was complaining about not feeling motivated to exercise. Another person told her sometimes in order to become motivated you must simply start. Your results will motivate you. .....okay that was pretty lame the way I just put it. BUT! you get my meaning right? :^:

This decision was along time coming for me. I had lost the weight several times before. So I knew it could be done. I had trouble with the why in Gods name would I let myself get fat again! Well I still dont know all the reasons as to why. I do really but why bother? I had trouble with getting motivated. Aside from the obvious signs of me getting heavier and heavier.

So as I try to communicate to you all.... I still dont know what. I guess this is a decision and a commitment. The commitment is the big part. It raises your decision up to a very important level in your life. Like committments to your partner, kids, job, faith. You would not shirk those commitments.

You self talk your way through those ALL the time. You focus in on them and make them right if they are stumbling. Same way with weight loss. I really want this, I need to feel the self pride in having accomplished this, I am not just a fat person.

Kind of an odd ramble.... I am excted for myself and all of you too. I wan you all to make it! :hug:
Kriss

ShyCammie
01-07-2008, 09:51 AM
Hey Kriss,
I follow your thoughts. You know, it'd be easy to say "Well my cross trainer broke so, I guess I don't need to exercise in the am anymore."

But like you said...just going and doing it helps. Unfortunately, I've done this a lot of times and gotten NO results. That stinks!

So what would make this (or anyother time) different?
I figure KNOWING (not just believing) but knowing deep inside me, that I can and will lose weight - that is a critical key.

We'll see how this oddessy of the mind turns out. ;) I'm sure it can only be positive.

Jen415
01-07-2008, 10:15 AM
A great book for learning to visualize is "Creative Visualization" by Shakti Gawain....EXCELLENT!

kimmieone
01-07-2008, 10:30 AM
This is a wonderful post, Cammie. I do believe in reprogramming the mind. I use positive self talks, positive quotes, pictures, and any other mental tools I can think of to keep myself focused. I use these techniques for all kinds of stuff now, not just for dropping pounds.

Newskinnyme, I might have to check Psycho-Cybernetics.

The one thing I have trouble doing is the visualization thing. I can't seem to focus on what I want to look like when I've completed my goal. I try but I can't really see myself clearly. I wonder what kind of crazy person can't visualize properly! :)