Weight Loss Support - I Gained So Much Weight I Feel So Embarrassed




motivation86
12-16-2007, 10:48 AM
Last June, which was exactly 6 months ago, I weighed about 230 Ė 233, and I was looking so good, but now Iím just huge. I donít know how much weight I gained, because Iím scared to look at the scale, but I know it somewhere between 30 and 40 pounds. My stomach, legs, love handles and my face got so fat; I just let myself go. I use to wear clothing somewhere between XL/L and size 16/18, now Iím back to a size 22 and XXL. I feel embarrassed because I was loosing so much weight and I was looking fantastic, and I use to get so many compliments about the weight loss, but now Iím back at square one. I feel disgusted, and my 22nd birthday is less than 2 months, I want to loose 15 pounds before then, but it seems so much harder, Iíve been eating pretty much healthy this week, but I havenít done much exercising. Ladies please help me, I need motivation. Iím so stressed, some nights I canít even sleep, and I feel like crying, Iím so embarrassed around my friends, co-workers, and family.


ih8diets
12-16-2007, 10:57 AM
:( thats too bad... i think a lot of people have a complete relaspe before they actually get to their target weight... I lost a lot of weight, but not as much as you, and then gained it all back plus some more.... this is just the kick you need.... just remember this feeling and anytime you feel like ur going down the same path.. compare the feelings you get when youve lost weight to now.... and that will help... you can do it again... and this time u wont regress!! your still very young... dont worry

JayEll
12-16-2007, 11:03 AM
motivation86, sorry to hear that you are feeling so down! :hug:

What happened? That is, you were going good, and then it reversed--can you remember whether any event occurred that got you off track? Or can you remember the thoughts you were having before you started overeating again? :chin:

Jay


gailr42
12-16-2007, 11:03 AM
Congratulations on eating healthy this week! From all of the comments on here and in books I read, I think planning is the number one step to take to get back on the right path. You know, get rid of the junk food, bring in the apples and chicken breast.

The other thing that I read, is that most of the people that manage to loose and keep off their weight, have been on many diets before they finally suceed, so you can think of your recent gain as experience for when you finally make it! I had to quit smoking four or five times before I made it, but I did it. Now I am on my fourth or fifth diet and hoping to "get it" this time.

Be brave - you will be fine!

countrygirl7902
12-16-2007, 11:08 AM
did something happen 6 months ago that triggered your relapse? it's happened to me before too, but there's usually some kind of trigger for me like stress or anxiety. sometimes if you can pinpoint what it was that stalled your progress and deal with that issue, it helps.

when i'm discourged, i try to focus on past success. think about when you lost weight, how you felt about yourself at that time. focusing on how well you did then can motivate you to try again to reach that point. make that your goal - not a number on scale. strive for that feeling of confidance and knowing that you have the strength to do this!

and reach out to people! find a support system of people who will encourage you and give you advice. i also find that helping other people on 3FC on their weight loss journey keeps me motivated because they are relying on me as i am relying on them. you can do it!

Lola

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motivation86
12-16-2007, 11:14 AM
motivation86, sorry to hear that you are feeling so down! :hug:

What happened? That is, you were going good, and then it reversed--can you remember whether any event occurred that got you off track? Or can you remember the thoughts you were having before you started overeating again? :chin:

Jay

I work at a daycare so whatever the kids eat, the staff and teachers would eat. The daycare would serve foods such as(chicken nuggets, fries, pizza, rice and beans, hot dogs, sandwiches, juice, steak, potato’s, etc) Literally everything I knew it was bad for me, but I wasn’t gaining any weight in the beginning, but than it crept back on me so quick.

Also, school, work, and my last boyfriend stressed me out, so I went back to my old eating habits. The semester is over, and I dumped my last boyfriend. So I'm hopping to loose the weight. I still work at the daycare, and that is my biggest challenge I will have, but I will bring my own lunch.

rockinrobin
12-16-2007, 11:15 AM
All right. So you've got a bit side tracked. Gained a few back. NOW is the time to put it to a screeching halt and get right back to it. You know how to lose weight, you've done it before, you know the incredible benefits of it and you know that you CAN do it. Time to go back to the beginning, dieting one oh one, so to speak, and incorporate those better habits that allowed you to lose the weight in the first place. Yes, the planning ahead (eating healthy does NOT happen by chance), the better choices, the tracking of your food, the journaling, the exercise - the whole bit.

You've got one fairly good week under your belt, time to build upon that and make it 2 now and then 3 and so on and so on. Before you know it, you'll be right back in those smaller clothes - and loving every minute of it.

Good luck to you.

bargoo
12-16-2007, 11:19 AM
You are here, now. That is the important thing,
Please don't beat yourself up, many of us, including me have done the same thing. You can start over, right now,good luck

baffled111
12-16-2007, 12:00 PM
Yep, time to forget the embarrassment and disappointment and recommit to eating healthily and exercising. You can lose the weight again AND you can keep it off. Do you have a new plan?

This is OT, but why do they feed kids crap like that in daycare? I think I'd be really upset if my kids were being filled with saturated fat and sugars every day! Way to teach kids horrible eating from the get-go!

But, if the daycare food is your biggest challenge then you need to bring your own lunches, and you should bring delicious, healthy, filling lunches so that you're untempted by junk food. In my house, each week we make a giant batch of delicious soup with tons of veggies, whole grains and usually chicken to freeze in individual containers. Each morning we'll make a salad, grab a container out of the freezer and go. My soups are so delicious, filling and different every week that it is really, really easy to stay on plan during the day. Perhaps doing something like that would be helpful?

Good luck! You can do it!

Heather
12-16-2007, 12:10 PM
Like baffled, I bring food I really love to work. It helps me stay away from stuff that isn't very nutritious.

Like everyone has said: you're bouncing back. I don't know many people who made this happen the first go around (myself included). Try to learn from what sent your off track so it doesn't happen again. It's a learning opportunity. For example, I am finally learning that I cave and EAT when under stress. My work stress is pretty common, so I am learning to bring LOTS of raw veggies to work so I have something to snack on that's healthy!

motivation86
12-16-2007, 12:11 PM
Yep, time to forget the embarrassment and disappointment and recommit to eating healthily and exercising. You can lose the weight again AND you can keep it off. Do you have a new plan?

This is OT, but why do they feed kids crap like that in daycare? I think I'd be really upset if my kids were being filled with saturated fat and sugars every day! Way to teach kids horrible eating from the get-go!

But, if the daycare food is your biggest challenge then you need to bring your own lunches, and you should bring delicious, healthy, filling lunches so that you're untempted by junk food. In my house, each week we make a giant batch of delicious soup with tons of veggies, whole grains and usually chicken to freeze in individual containers. Each morning we'll make a salad, grab a container out of the freezer and go. My soups are so delicious, filling and different every week that it is really, really easy to stay on plan during the day. Perhaps doing something like that would be helpful?

Good luck! You can do it!

I agree about the Daycare, the kids eat crap. I will bring my own lunch and my own snacks. I want to loose about 50 pounds by June that is my goal, and I will do it. I'm also going back to my old routine, hopefully it will pay off.

motivation86
12-16-2007, 12:15 PM
Like baffled, I bring food I really love to work. It helps me stay away from stuff that isn't very nutritious.

Like everyone has said: you're bouncing back. I don't know many people who made this happen the first go around (myself included). Try to learn from what sent your off track so it doesn't happen again. It's a learning opportunity. For example, I am finally learning that I cave and EAT when under stress. My work stress is pretty common, so I am learning to bring LOTS of raw veggies to work so I have something to snack on that's healthy!

OMG Heather!!! I remember you when I first began this weight loss journey. You look wonderful, you are truly an inspiration :D

Heather
12-16-2007, 12:23 PM
Thanks! You can be an inspiration, too!!

valpal23
12-16-2007, 12:28 PM
motivation86 - the thing is you can change. Get back up, on the wagon, recommit whatever you wanna call it. Where you are in life isnt permanent - remember how good you felt? You can feel that way again!! Please dont give up It's work but you can do it again :cheer: come back often - let us know how you're doing.

j3nn dot net
12-16-2007, 03:11 PM
The good news is that weight doesn't have to be permanent in either direction! If you gain, you can lose again -- losing weight and keeping it off is a balancing act; not an exact science -- so do it in a way that you can keep up with today and 20 years from now. Make it a "lifestyle"; that's what I finally did; the only way it actually worked for me.

Nori71
12-16-2007, 06:20 PM
Last June, which was exactly 6 months ago, I weighed about 230 Ė 233, and I was looking so good, but now Iím just huge. I donít know how much weight I gained, because Iím scared to look at the scale, but I know it somewhere between 30 and 40 pounds. My stomach, legs, love handles and my face got so fat; I just let myself go. I use to wear clothing somewhere between XL/L and size 16/18, now Iím back to a size 22 and XXL. First off, you're not alone or unique in gaining back some weight you had lost!! I could have written your exact words- in fact I did write something very similar 2 weeks ago. 2 weeks ago I got on the scale after months of denial and I was up to my all time high weight of 284. To the pound. I gained 50 pounds (+/-) in a year. It sucks. Sometimes we mess up, we admit it, we learn from it and start all over once again. We know how to do it: the planning, the accountability, the commitment...let's stick with it!

lottie63
12-16-2007, 07:17 PM
This happened to me too hon. I lost 70 lbs in 4 months, then went on this medication and gained every lb back, including 10 extra ones that didn't look familiar! That was all in 2004, and I"m JUST NOW getting back on track. count yourself lucky it's only been 6 months.

You can do this, don't be discouraged! :D

karen530
12-19-2007, 10:27 AM
Hey chica, looks like you to a lot of good advice about getting going again--I just wanted to let ya know, I've been exactly where you are (I'm still there actually) and I know it SUCKS. It's hard to be around familiy, friends and co-workers after losing and then putting weight back on.What can ya do, but start again? I had to really sit and think about the way I lost weight in the past (rather quickly via diet restrictions that would cause weight loss, but that I could never maintain as a lifestyle) and come up with a new plan. It's hard. Good luck getting going again. I can be done!!!

motivation86
12-20-2007, 06:00 PM
Thanks ladies for your kind words, this week I've been eating pretty good and have been walking. I hope I can really do it this time!

Zorak
12-23-2007, 10:42 PM
Thanks ladies for your kind words, this week I've been eating pretty good and have been walking. I hope I can really do it this time!

You're only a failure if you quit trying. :hug:

It's taken me a long time to find a plan that worked and even then I regained some of the weight. No biggie because you not only learn what works, but also what doesn't work.

Just don't be so hard on yourself. You aren't a bad person for experiencing a setback. I think we've all experienced a setback, or two, or three, or more (me :p) here. :)

teawithsunshine
12-26-2007, 02:52 AM
My suggestion hon, is this:

If you don't want to look at the scale, then don't! :)

Start planning your meals in advance, do exercise 5-6 times a week, and talk to trusted friends/family members and come on this forum.

I'd also recommend you start watching "The Biggest Loser" when the new season starts Jan 1st on NBC. That always help me with motivation! :)

Hang in there! The important thing is you are putting the brakes on this weight gain NOW. Just take it one day at a time and before you know it, you'll be back to your original weight at the beginning of your weight gain. :) :)

motivation86
12-27-2007, 08:58 PM
My suggestion hon, is this:

If you don't want to look at the scale, then don't! :)

Start planning your meals in advance, do exercise 5-6 times a week, and talk to trusted friends/family members and come on this forum.

I'd also recommend you start watching "The Biggest Loser" when the new season starts Jan 1st on NBC. That always help me with motivation! :)

Hang in there! The important thing is you are putting the brakes on this weight gain NOW. Just take it one day at a time and before you know it, you'll be back to your original weight at the beginning of your weight gain. :) :)

Thanks hun, I'm trying my hardest. I love the biggest loser, so I will check it out.