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12-14-2007, 11:53 PM
OK All my dear it grandma, God bless her, passed away this evening. She had a stroke this morning. My uncle, her son, had taken her to the bathroom and then, after placing her back in bed, he heard her scream. When he ran into the room she was yelling "Paul! My head is exploding!" She had a blood vessel brake in her brain, she went into a coma and passed this evening.

Some of you may remember that my mom, her daughter, passed away in October. It has been a tough few months for our family.

I, being a christian, KNOW for a fact where my mom and grandma are right now. I am grateful to have had my mom for 71 years and my grandma for 92 years. They were wonderful women. I am blessed that my Lord gave them many years of life and that I was able to enjoy a lot of time with them.

I have to face the facts, though, this CHRISTmas will be the first one that I, at 53 years of age, will not have the presence of a mom, a dad, or a grandparent at our home. It could be a tough one.

I will have my wife, son and dil, daughter and sil, step-d, nephew, brother and family, sister and family, friends and neighbors....and an ex-wife and family, joining us for CHRISTmas...

I am, although in sorrow, so BLESSED! :tree:

Suzanne 3FC
12-15-2007, 12:02 AM
Gary, I'm so sorry for your loss :hug: This will be a very difficult Christmas without those dear to you. But you are so right that you are still very blessed to have a wonderful family around you, and you have a world of friends as well!

Your family will be in my prayers :hug:

12-15-2007, 03:52 AM
:hug: Gary, I'm saying a prayer for you and your family. Like you said, Grandma is in a better place and with her loving daughter and the rest of the family that went before her. You had some remarkble women in your life (and still do), that helped shape the man you are. My condolences on your loss.

Blessings in Christ,

12-15-2007, 09:00 AM
Hey Gary, :cry: :hug: It's all part of this life--and you are truly blessed. It will be a holiday with many emotions, and I hope you can welcome them all.


12-15-2007, 09:12 AM
I am so sorry to hear of your loss of a dear loved one. It is always hard to say goodbye to our nearest and dearest when they depart this world. But remember the good times, the times you laughed together and the way they moulded you into the man your are today.

Christmas is always a difficult time when you have lost someone. You are blessed with a loving family who will be with you.

My condolences are with you at this sad time and you are in my thoughts and prays. :hug:

12-15-2007, 09:52 AM
My prayers are with you.

12-15-2007, 10:09 AM
Gary, so sorry for your loss! It is extra hard that this came during Advent. Allow your family to experience the joy and the sadness of the season. Encourage everyone to share memories, pictures, stories of those loved ones that are now celebrating Christmas in the presence of Christ himself. We will keep your family in our prayers!

12-15-2007, 10:10 AM
I am so sorry for your loss(es). Yes, it will be difficult. But I think they would want you to enjoy your time together as a family. You can do that in honor of them. Sending prayers for you and your family. So glad you can have the comfort of knowing they are with Christ.

12-15-2007, 11:50 AM
I am so sorry for your loss. It is comforting to know that both your mother and your grandma are in a better place together. I wish your family well and hope you can all get past this terrible pain of losing a loved one!

12-15-2007, 12:30 PM
:hug: So sorry, Gary!!!

12-15-2007, 01:03 PM

12-15-2007, 03:06 PM
THANK-YOU all so much!

It has been an emotional...yet good year for me. From almost putting my eye out with that beer bottle ~ my daughter getting married to that :p kidnapper :p guy ~ my mom and now grandma passing.

Along the way I have strenghtend some of my friendships here on 3FC and found many new friends! :carrot: oh, and knowing :devil: me :devil: I probably made a few more enemies here too ;)

I have a large support group from family ~ friends ~ church .....people that are there whenever I need them....however, I will say knowing that I can come here any time of the day with anything I want to say about anything is such a great comfort. Somehow the "pain" I have felt this year, with my losses, have eased simply by posting here.

I am so blessed :)

YOU! Are awesome!!

12-15-2007, 05:19 PM
Hey Gary,
Just knowing where your loved ones are is truly a blessing isn't it? It still is hard for us who miss them terribly. Christmas is celebrating our Savior's birth for sure, and with the memories of our past, can be so bittersweet. I was thinking about this season the other day. And even though you and I are both blessed beyond measure, the Christmases of our past seem so much more magical, don't they? I was thinking that being adopted into a most loving family was probably God's greatest gift to me after, of course, the gift of his Son Jesus.

As a child, the sadness and evil of the world because of Satan, isn't as obvious as it is now as adults. Or it shouldn't be for the children anyway. My sweet AJ is an exception as other children are. But for those of us who DID have a near magical childhood, the memories are our gift now.

May God bless you and Angie and your whole family.:hug:
Love in Him,

12-15-2007, 08:02 PM
I'm sorry for your loss, Gary. But you're a very strong person and will get through this trial just as you have others. God Bless.

12-15-2007, 08:24 PM
I know at these times, people struggle to find words to express their sympathy. Profound words that comfort and ease suffering. I don't know if those words truly exist, but my prayers and sympathy are with you and your family.

12-15-2007, 08:33 PM
COLLEEN...I think the most profound words to mankind are...I'm sorry....Thank-you ALL

12-15-2007, 11:22 PM
:hug: :hug:

Stepping Out
12-16-2007, 03:00 AM
It must be very hard to lose two such special women in such a short time..but it's a comfort to know that it's only a temporary separation. :) I pray God's comforting presence for you, Angie, and your extended family. :hug:

12-16-2007, 07:53 AM
Gary, you and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.

If you do a Christmas tree, make ornaments with your grandmother's and your mother's pictures on them so they can be with you in that way. Or remember them in a special holiday tradition - a particular candle they used at the holidays or a song they liked to listen to, etc.

My best to you now, as always.


12-17-2007, 08:49 PM
Thank you again LADIES ~ I know where I can always come to get a :) on my face!

Love the ideas KARA ~ It may be silly to some, but since my mom passed I have made big batches of chili (her way) a few times, I take it and put in in Gladware containers, freeze them then take them out, defrost and warm up for my lunches at work...from time to time.

It's a hard knock life ;)