100 lb. Club - Body shapes & bitter chicks: My belly ate my belly button




Reddalice
12-07-2007, 09:35 AM
The grass is always greener on the other-side, yes? My beef is body shapes. I was watching biggest loser and this woman at 270+lbs was wide, but she had a BELLY BUTTON! I always say that I don't have one... or it ran away... or insert some other belly button comment. At 5'4, my weight is centered in my stomach. I have killer legs, nice upper back and shoulders and my arms are pretty decent as well. My stomach fold ate my belly button. I almost feel as though if I could SEE my belly button without altering my stomach with my hands, I wouldn't care how large I was. My girlfriend is 20lbs heavier than I, and she has a nicely sloped stomach and a visible. belly. button. How do you get over a hang-up like this? It looks sillier typed than how it sounds when I talk about it! :mad:


Trazey34
12-07-2007, 09:48 AM
LOL don't worry about being silly here! we all have "things" that bug us about our bodies, but hopefully overall we can love the entire package :D

For me, I'm fat all over, not super-concentrated in one area, but there's this kind of bulge right about both elbows that absolutely drives me crazy! hahaha I can't wait to wait a short-short sleeve shirt!

yup, that looks dumb typed too ;)

Janny O
12-07-2007, 10:13 AM
Hiya Red,
One day you will be re-introduced your belly button. You'll wake up-then- BAM!!! You'll be posting an NSV so fast our heads will spin. Keep up that great work!!

Trazey-you crack me up!!


WinterStarzz
12-07-2007, 10:26 AM
I am 5'4" and most of my weight is centered in my belly, as well. I look at other girls who are around my same weight, and it seems like they are built SO much better. Their stomach is big, but it's all on one plane. They have a belly button. They have a waist of some sorts. They have a gradual slope. I am just lumpy and rolly all over. I am jealous of the non-lumpy/rolly bodies. But instead of looking at it as a hangup, use it as a motivator! The best way to change it is to lose the weight that is hiding the belly button, and causing the lumps/rolls.

Schmoodle
12-07-2007, 10:36 AM
LOL that is an eye-catching thread title! I'm roly-poly all over too. My friend and I weighed the same, but she had flat-ish stomach, whereas mine is all droopy. That was because she hadn't had any kids and I'd had 3. Now she's had 3 and we are droopy together! As far as belly buttons go, I plan to have a tummy tuck at the end of this and I'll see if they can remove the belly button at the same time. I hate them, they are so gross, I've always wanted it gone. When I was pregnant, I was so afraid it was going to pop like an oven stuffer roaster, that I duct taped it down every day towards the end. Yes, I'm crazy, sorry about the off-topic belly button rant!

Robin41
12-07-2007, 11:17 AM
Everybody has a weird little thing about their body that they obsess over. Mine was a lump of fat on the back of my neck that kind of covered up the top of the spine area. If I put my head back, I could feel it kinda roll up.

My poor husband used to watch it to make sure it wasn't growing because he has told me since that he thought it might be a tumor and he was watching it for me.

The belly button thing might sound silly to a lot of people but not to anybody here. We all get it.

LisaMarie71
12-07-2007, 11:25 AM
Yep, I definitely understand where you're coming from. My weight has always been centered in my stomach and it still is. I had to get REALLY big for my legs to start getting big. At my highest weight, everything was big, but my stomach was definitely out of control. Now I have excess skin and still have a bigger stomach than I should. I plan to use weights and yoga and continue to run to try to shape my body, but sadly I did quite a bit of damage to it by being so obese. I know how you feel, though -- it used to really annoy me to see heavy women who had a good shape and could tuck in their shirts because their bellies were still somewhat flat relative to the rest of them. I always had the big pregnant-looking belly I had to try to cover. Now I just have a little pouch that isn't so bad, and I can wear shorter shirts. So it DOES get better, but to some degree we do always have to make the best of what our bodies are like naturally. I'm quite pleased that I have a waist now, though!

mom2mollie
12-07-2007, 12:18 PM
When I was in high school, I was a cute size 6 or 8 and weighed 140 lbs. (aah, to be there again...)
But I had an inherited stomach pooch (women of my family just have it), and a lady at church came up to my mom (I was 16 at the time, mind you) and said, "Oh, I'm so sorry about your daughter!" My mom didn't know what she was talking about, and the lady said, "She's pregnant!" HA! My self esteem took a little dive that day.
Since then, other people have come up to me and put their hand on my little pooch and patted it affectionately saying, "When are you due?" And my relpy has been, "not for a long time! I'm just fat, not pregnant." That is why I NEVER go up to someone who has put on a little weight in the belly area and ask if they're preggie. I always ask someone else on the sly or just don't ask at all. Even when I was carrying my 4-month-old baby and trying to lose baby weight, someone came up to me and said, "are we expecting again?" HOW IN THE WORLD COULD I BE PREGNANT ENOUGH TO SHOW AGAIN FOUR MONTH AFTER GIVING BIRTH?????? Whatever. That lady had enough grace to call me later and apologize.
Gosh, I feel better after getting that out.
I have actually come to be comfortable with my body and know that some people are just plain tactless. I don't want to look like a boy. I want to look like a woman, and my hubby likes me in the buff. I like me, and I'm glad I know that there are more important things in this world than my tummy pooch, and I may as well make friends with it, because it's probably not going to go away ever. :)
By the way, I LOVE the title of this thread!!

Lovely
12-07-2007, 12:33 PM
Oh the little things we loath about our own bodies... I've got droopy upper arms, so I feel self conscious even doing this: :wave: :o

My friend who is about 5'8" and weighs maybe 130 was asked if she was pregnant... someone actually patted her stomach and said "when are you due?" I nearly fainted as she told me this story. The girl does NOT look pregnant. She happens to carry the tiniest bit of "extra" weight in her stomach area. (Like there's any extra...) All of a sudden people are assuming she's pregnant... *SIGH* Please if that girl looks pregnant, I must look like I'm expecting an elephant.

JayEll
12-07-2007, 01:29 PM
This is just a thought... What if women didn't compare their bodies with those of others (or worse yet, images in the media).

Because when you think of it, who are we to be ungrateful for the shape of our bodies? Our precious human bodies? Especially when it was our lifestyles and choices that put them into this shape.

Now I know some folks are going glassy-eyed reading that and want to say, "Yeah, sure, but what about my thighs??"

If you are alive and have no physical defects, and if you can still make choices about where you live, what you do, how much you eat, and so on... then really, why spend even a minute disliking something about your body?

OK, thanks for listening. I'll get off my :soap: now.

Jay

mandalinn82
12-07-2007, 01:53 PM
I'm of two minds on the "I don't like X about my body" mindset.

On the one hand, it can be very destructive to our self esteem and self worth to feel like parts of us are inadequate, and comparing is only going to make that worse. And we ARE all beautiful and unique, as Jay said, and should honor and respect our bodies more for what they DO than what they look like. Your body carries you through every activity you do every day, whether it has a visible belly button or not.

On the other, it can be incredibly empowering ALSO to have something you didn't like about your body resolve itself with weight loss, which can be a major boost to feeling empowered...YOU took control and made something you didn't like go away. Which is all well and good, as long as you don't move the dislike to some other part (Yay! I can see my bellybutton! But, oh, look at all the loose skin underneath it...I HATE that).

So it goes either way. I have my issues with certain parts, but I always try to remember to respect my body for what it does and can do. I lost weight so my body could DO more things, as well as for physical reasons.

rakel
12-07-2007, 03:49 PM
I think some people wear weight better than others, and if it's not wearing well on you, I guess you're just meant to be thin, so don't fret, the real you might come out on the other end of this journey!

Glory87
12-07-2007, 05:02 PM
I confess to being semi-obsessed with the shape of other women's bellies. I have lower ab fat (below my belly button) and then a second roll of fat above the belly button (when I was heavier, my belly button was also lost in the crease between the two rolls).

As I lost weight, I kept the 2 roll look. At 130 lbs, the upper fat is finally, almost completely gone (but I still have a gently rounded lower ab belly, and I'm sure I always will). When I hit 140 lbs or so, the upper ab fat drove me absolutely crazy - I remember a trip to a water park where I stared at every woman there (in a 2 piece of snugly fitting one piece) to see what their bodies looked like!

It seems like MOST of the women at the park that day just had a solid belly line, starting below their breasts, it might have rounded out a bit and then ended above their pubis. Very few people seemed to have the "two roll" action that I did. I was very very jealous of the single belly folks!

My other obession is my left upper, outer thigh. As much as I lost, as thin as I now am (my collar bones stick out! my wrists and ankles are tiny, my ribs show!), that stupid thigh still has a fat pouch and is much bigger than my right thigh. It completely ruins most straight skirts - I will be in Spanx forever!

Wow, long rant. Sorry! ha :)

kasmin
12-08-2007, 09:13 AM
I too have the whole apple look going. Except that apples look cute:( Anyways, finally now it's become somewhat motivating to have it (as in, I will get RID of this thing) rather than my usual despair and loathing. One thing that IS driving me bonkers these days are the fat pads on the backs of my upper arms. I hate that flappy look. I'm hoping that with some weight training that'll tighten up a tad:^:

tamaralynn
12-08-2007, 01:11 PM
I confess to being semi-obsessed with the shape of other women's bellies. I have lower ab fat (below my belly button) and then a second roll of fat above the belly button (when I was heavier, my belly button was also lost in the crease between the two rolls).


Ahhh that's exactly what I have!!! The lower "roll" has flattened down quite a bit, but the top roll still sticks out there. Drive's me absoulutely BONKERS! LOL

Rosemund
12-08-2007, 01:47 PM
I have the double rolls too! I absolutely hate them. I had my navel pierced when I weighed about 160, and the rolls ate it when I got heavier. It's only gradually starting to re-emerge. Plus, when my weight is lower, the skin from both rolls sags. I cannot win.

LindseyLouWho
12-08-2007, 03:27 PM
I can't remember the last time I saw my belly button not being attacked by the "double roll"... haha. I envy girls who don't have that problem so they can have their belly buttons pierced and wear shirts tucked in, etc.

Cats tongue
12-08-2007, 03:36 PM
This is such an interesting thread.

I have to agree I am torn on this issue myself. I'm an advocate for learning to love one's body. Learning to love, because I have to admit I'm not there yet.

There are days when I absolutely hate the way my body is shaped. I can't figure out if I'm an apple/pear/hourglass or what. I mostly hate that some people at my weight/height look fabulous, whereas I just sort of look fat, no matter what I do. I gain weight in my face, the chin isn't very defined, so I never look thin in pictures (or rarely do...). And I hate that I gain all my weight in my stomach, so I've never had a smooth (not necessarily flat) slopping stomach.

Sigh.

But I'm working on getting over it and learning to love the skin I'm in.

Marseille
12-09-2007, 12:57 AM
I too, am sporting the roll-on-roll belly. I always had a little roll under the belly button, even when I was thin. The roll on top didn't emerge until I hit 230 or so and it's gone down dramatically this last 5-7 pounds. I have the horrible upper arm fat that comes dangerously close to forming a fold above my elbows, and I have matching leg fat above my knees. My rear view is a mess... Back fat squishing out under my bra and I know this sounds totally gross but the size of my derrierre has actually caused my, ummm, crack to go up much farther than necessary. Wow, I hope I am not the only one with that issue or I am going to sound very silly.

jillybean720
12-10-2007, 09:05 AM
Count me in with the belly buttonless crowd. I remember being a bit lighter and being excited that when I laid on my back, everything squished away enough so I could see my belly button, but now that doesn't even happen anymore :dizzy:

And I totally agree about the chick on TBL. I watch her and envy her clearly visible belly button. But then, maybe she would look at me and envy my muscular calf muscles (well, not now that she's all buff from training, but back at her starting point ;) ).

I don't think it's that bad to compare. Some bodies simply weren't meant to do certain things (for example, I will never be a size 2, nor will I ever have big boobs--it's just not in the cards for me), but without seeing features on others we like, how do we know what we want to work toward? I have NEVER been not obese since I was about 12 years old, so I can't say, "I want to look like I did when I was [fill in age here]."

Comparing is human nature. It doesn't mean that if we never achieve the exact things we see we will hate ourselves forever. I look at Angelina Jolie's lips and wish mine were as nice as hers, but mine are thin. Oh well...life goes on :^:

KiraNichole
12-12-2007, 11:26 PM
Haha, I like this one! I too have yet to see my belly button!! I had it pierced when I was about 160ish, and it was fine, then gained even more weight, and well, the roll ate my belly button and belly ring!!! I too and 5'4, with all my 'fat' centered in the midsection! I have it other places, but mainly there. I am determined to get my figure and belly button back!!! I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way!!!

rakel
12-13-2007, 01:17 AM
When I was at my highest weight, my belly button was hidden, like a lot of you are saying. After about 30lbs gone, it's now visible when I stand up, but it disappears still when I sit. My belly used to hang out past my boobs, now it doesn't! But I still have a long ways to go... I also have the two rolls on my belly, one over the belly button and one under. le sigh!

math puppy
12-18-2007, 04:46 AM
all woman shapes are beautiful! ;D
however, i cant wait till i can sit down AND have a belly button AT THE SAME TIME!

oh, ya, that is an eye catching title lol

math puppy
12-18-2007, 04:49 AM
"I also have the two rolls on my belly, one over the belly button and one under."

omg mee too!!!

Reddalice
12-18-2007, 05:57 PM
It is an interesting thought. I really thought I was the ONLY person who was hung up on my belly button. I think things sometimes like: "If I could just see my belly button, I wouldn't care HOW much I weigh." Of course that's not true, but I've convinced myself that I'd be more confident if I could pull on a shirt and should I raise my arms... TAH DAH~BAM... belly button.

On another note, it is a good thing that my belly button no longer serves a vital role in my life, because I'd be S.O.L..

Pita09
12-18-2007, 06:26 PM
I'm one of those that has one huge belly and a very visible belly button. I hate how big it is and pray it shrinks as my tummy does.

The most hated part of my body was this shelf that lived on the top of my butt. Wow did I hate that. But exercise has taken care of the shelf and is shrinking the tummy very slowly.

Last week I actually saw a hint of collarbone. Ohhhhhhhh the joy of that! :carrot:

ShyCammie
12-19-2007, 02:13 PM
Since then, other people have come up to me and put their hand on my little pooch and patted it affectionately saying, "When are you due?" And my relpy has been, "not for a long time! I'm just fat, not pregnant."

Ohhh, girl, you had me grinning from ear to ear. I'm (sadly) one of those "fat all over" gals, but I have a perverse sense of humor and I enjoyed being pregnant....
I'd probably answer those comments with "Oh, I wasn't planning to give birth, I just enjoy the pregnancy." "Oh the little dear may be gone in 12-24 months, it just depends on my alcohol (smoking, etc) intake."

Being a tall gal, I've learned that people say things without thinking (often). The comment "Gee you're tall" has been responded with things like "No little man you're just short." (Oh yeah, that pissed him off!) I also say things like, "I ate my veggies, what was your problem?" When people ask "How's the weather up there?" I've responded by looking up and saying, "Looks great to me, evidently there's a lack of oxygen at your level." Of course, I try not to say anything mean spritited unless the person saying it really comes off that way. One guy was shocked at my response when he commented on my height. I looked at him and asked, "How many people walk up to you and annouce that you're bald? I bet you knew you were bald before they said anything didn't you? Well, bald looks good on you. Perhaps you should have said, Tall looks good on me." It kicked off a great conversation.

Anyways, you're one smart cookie. You could have a lot of fun with these comments.
(I'm just glad people can't see my cholesterol. I don't know how I'd respond to that!)

Jessie_777
12-19-2007, 07:26 PM
I dislike my tummy too. I have the opposite problem as you do. I think my belly button is huge...it looks like it could swallow my fist(I'm exaggerating of course) ;) And I've always had large arms. There are so many cute tops, but I feel like my arms just look so out of proportion. I cannot wait to have fully visible collar bones :D

Jessie_777
12-19-2007, 07:28 PM
Being a tall gal, I've learned that people say things without thinking (often). The comment "Gee you're tall" has been responded with things like "No little man you're just short." (Oh yeah, that pissed him off!) I also say things like, "I ate my veggies, what was your problem?" When people ask "How's the weather up there?" I've responded by looking up and saying, "Looks great to me, evidently there's a lack of oxygen at your level." Of course, I try not to say anything mean spritited unless the person saying it really comes off that way. One guy was shocked at my response when he commented on my height. I looked at him and asked, "How many people walk up to you and annouce that you're bald? I bet you knew you were bald before they said anything didn't you? Well, bald looks good on you. Perhaps you should have said, Tall looks good on me." It kicked off a great conversation.

Anyways, you're one smart cookie. You could have a lot of fun with these comments.
(I'm just glad people can't see my cholesterol. I don't know how I'd respond to that!)

I was giggling out loud to your responses! You have a great sense of humor :lol:

jasmine987
12-21-2007, 09:42 PM
I thought I was the only one out there with the two roll stomach, mine is odd the roll above the belly button is larger than the bottom roll, so it sticks out in everything i wear its so annoying. It always looks like I am wearing tight pants and the roll is overflow of it.
I also cannot see my belly button when i am standing up, I cannot wait for it to go away.
When I was 235 I didnt have this roll, it was hardly noticible. i would like to just be there sometime in 2008 i really need to put my mind to it.

I like to call my roll my "frown" that is what it almost looks like a big face frowning haha

jasmine987
12-21-2007, 09:44 PM
I know this sounds crazy but I often say I want to cut off the roll or just get lipsuction on it. The rest of my body is proportionate but this upper roll is getting annoying

jillybean720
12-27-2007, 02:38 PM
I thought I was the only one out there with the two roll stomach, mine is odd the roll above the belly button is larger than the bottom roll, so it sticks out in everything i wear its so annoying. It always looks like I am wearing tight pants and the roll is overflow of it.
That's not odd--mine is the same way! Or maybe it IS odd, and we can just be odd together :D
When I'm wearing pants that fit perfectly fine (not too tight in the waist), I still have an overflow above my waistband. To call it a muffin top would be a major understatement--it forces me to have to wear bigger shirts to cover it. I can wear a size 22 pants but need to wear a 28 or 32 shirt :mad: Sure makes it tought to buy dresses and pantsuits!

math puppy
12-29-2007, 04:49 AM
Ohhh, girl, you had me grinning from ear to ear. I'm (sadly) one of those "fat all over" gals, but I have a perverse sense of humor and I enjoyed being pregnant....
I'd probably answer those comments with "Oh, I wasn't planning to give birth, I just enjoy the pregnancy." "Oh the little dear may be gone in 12-24 months, it just depends on my alcohol (smoking, etc) intake."

Being a tall gal, I've learned that people say things without thinking (often). The comment "Gee you're tall" has been responded with things like "No little man you're just short." (Oh yeah, that pissed him off!) I also say things like, "I ate my veggies, what was your problem?" When people ask "How's the weather up there?" I've responded by looking up and saying, "Looks great to me, evidently there's a lack of oxygen at your level." Of course, I try not to say anything mean spritited unless the person saying it really comes off that way. One guy was shocked at my response when he commented on my height. I looked at him and asked, "How many people walk up to you and annouce that you're bald? I bet you knew you were bald before they said anything didn't you? Well, bald looks good on you. Perhaps you should have said, Tall looks good on me." It kicked off a great conversation.

Anyways, you're one smart cookie. You could have a lot of fun with these comments.
(I'm just glad people can't see my cholesterol. I don't know how I'd respond to that!)


you are my hero!

CyberGypsy
12-29-2007, 07:46 AM
I have seen many large women 200+ have flat tummys.......but not me :(