100 lb. Club - Can I have permission to beat myself up?




rakel
12-04-2007, 11:26 AM
I seem to enjoy inflicting self torture. Why else would I stuff myself full of fatty, salty, greasy foods, waking up with a complete bellyache the next morning and up almost 4 pounds? Can I please beat myself up now for being such a coward? I could have insisted... "No appetizer please." Even more, I could have insisted, "Let's just stay here and I'll cook something." Or at the very least, I could have insisted for a take home box when the food arrived and I was no longer hungry.

:?::?::?:


Schmoodle
12-04-2007, 11:34 AM
No, no permission granted. Make yourself a nice cup of tea and forgiveness.

HeatherAngel
12-04-2007, 11:39 AM
Denied. Orders are to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, drink lots of water today and make good food choices TODAY. ;)

These days happen. It's how you approach the NEXT day that counts :)


midwife
12-04-2007, 11:42 AM
Agree. Be kind to yourself. Who is perfect? No one I know! You can use it as a learning experience and try to think about what you can do that NEXT time to make a different choice.

Hugs to you.

rakel
12-04-2007, 11:44 AM
You guys are already putting smiles on my face.

*stands up straight*

YES MA'AM(s)!

Going to get some water and my multivitamin now, MA'AM!

Nori71
12-04-2007, 11:50 AM
Yeah, I have to agree with the others on this one!! At least you're here the next day and ready to do it right. It really doesn't help to be emotionally hard on yourself. It's about owning up to what you've done. Being accountable for it. Learning from it. It's done, you did it, you feel horrible, you move on.

P.S. I've ofter wanted to bottle up that awful "bellyache" feeling. Just so I can remember it...how bad it feels. Just to help me remember.

House_of_Mirth
12-04-2007, 12:31 PM
No, you may not have permission to beat yourself up...would you ever give someone else permission to beat you up? Would you really expect us to?

And the gain probably isn't as bad as four pounds...if you are on track for the rest of the week, you may not get a net gain at all...look on the sunny side!

bargoo
12-04-2007, 12:38 PM
No beating up allowed! Nice thing about dieting is you can start over again anytime!

kaplods
12-04-2007, 12:41 PM
Sure you may bet yourself up, in fact you should beat yourself up IF you would attack not only a stranger, but your family and best friends if you saw them in the same position. Push'm to the ground, kick'm in the guts, call'm nasty names. Then, when you get out of prison for aggravated assault, if you haven't lost weight on the crappy institutional food, you can get on with your life and weight loss plan.

Or you can skip all the first part. and do it the less painful way.

All kidding aside, don't ever forget that weight loss is extremely difficult, and are bodies and minds (and sometimes it seems our families, friends, and the whole world) fight us every step of the way. If you beat yourself up, you've wasted energy that could have been used to make changes. Give yourself the advice that you would give a friend who asked. Come here, talk to us, we all understand; and if you need more concrete, in-person, weigh-in, walking-buddy support, consider a group in your community. There are probably several, and you can try most if not all of them free before deciding. TOPS is inexpensive, Weight-Watcher's is well-known, OA follows a 12 step addiction model, and First Place is a Christian group.

Best Wishes

nicolen
12-04-2007, 01:01 PM
No. No violence allowed here. ;)

Rakel, yesterday is over. You can't do anything about it now - just concentrate on making today the best day you can.

You can do it - I know you can!

hellokitty81668
12-04-2007, 01:09 PM
Don't beat yourself up. just start again and don't give up!!!
cheryl

Lovely
12-04-2007, 01:13 PM
Coulduvs Shoulduvs Woulduvs. Can't change yesterday. Can prevent today from becoming all about yesterday.

Salt = Water retention! It's very unlikely you're up 4 lbs worth of fat in one day.

Drink your water, move around, make those good choices right this moment! You are not the sum total of one poorly chosen meal. You'll feel better in a few hours. :hug: (But not too tight in case you're still feeling queasy.)

rakel
12-04-2007, 02:08 PM
A weight loss support group in my area sounds like a good idea. I'll have to look some up in the area and see what I can find. I could use something to occupy my time (other than you know, working) where maybe I could make some new friends to boot!

I'm feeling better already. My dad called earlier and I told him I lost 30lbs instead of ... whatever it was... 27? I'm not claiming it because it was just a day and we'll see what happens tomorrow. When I got up this morning I did not have much of an appetite, but after an hour or so I ate some yogurt just because I knew I should have something, not really because I was hungry, but by around 12:40 I was really hungry, so I'm working on a pretty large salad ... so far at around 280 calories for the day. I'll probably have a serving of pistachios once I'm done with the salad too, that is, if I'm not stuffed!

YUM! Good food :)

I hope you all know that I was joking about beating myself up...but not joking about being frustrated.

purpleorc
12-04-2007, 02:14 PM
I think all of us would be beating ourselves up at one time or another when we did not make the best choices regarding food we all do it. The key is to get right back on the wagon, don't beat yourself up and continue on making healthy choices. Use it as a learning experience, not one to beat yourself up about. Now that you have made an error in judgement try not to make that same error again.

If i don't make the right choice for a meal I still try and stay healthy for the rest of the day. There is not one of us here I think who may have fallen off the wagon or made a bad food choice the key is to hop right back on and not make it an excuse to eat junk foods.

Look how far you have come on your journey you are doing so well and giving yourself a present the best one in the world to be healthier and fuel your body with good wholesome foods.

Keep up the good work that you have done, I know you can do it as you have done so well. Good luck with the rest of your weight loss journey and reaching your goals.

rakel
12-04-2007, 02:42 PM
I don't usually make a mistake and say, "what the heck!" and pig out, I don't really binge that often, and to be honset I haven't really done that since I started. Not to say I haven't eaten well over the calories I intended for the day or even if I didn't go over my calories, the quality of some of the food. It can be difficult to see the positives so I'm trying to work on those more, instead of getting easily discouraged.

It's amazing that I've made it this far. The old me would have given up by now.

kimmieone
12-04-2007, 03:00 PM
No feeling sorry for yourself, just get back on your horse and continue down the trail. :)

Trazey34
12-04-2007, 03:06 PM
eeeeeeeek I should give you 5 minutes with my friend Ingrid!!! She's managed to lose & maintain 80 lbs. gone for years, and she said to me (with all the candour of a best friend) that "eating like crazy, feeling bad about it and wallowing in self-pity and swearing to do better tomorrow is self-indulgent BS!" and that was about the NICEST part of it hahahahahah but it worked - she kicked my *** into gear alright LOL

ps she's about 5 feet tall hahaha hilarious!

justaloozer
12-04-2007, 05:05 PM
I think youve gotten great advice so I just wanted to give you a *big hug* and I hope you are doing better today!

logicalloss
12-04-2007, 05:20 PM
Its ok to fall down. The problem is not getting back up. I ate a chocolate chip cookie the other day. What did I do? I looked it up in my software, saw it was 70 calories, and stayed on the treadmill and extra 10 minutes to burn it off. Remember Edison had 9000 attempts before making a successfull light bulb. He said every time he failed he knew he was one more try closer to getting it right. So analyze why you did what you did, and come up with a plan to avoid doing it in the future.

Heather
12-04-2007, 07:31 PM
I really have nothing new to add...!

But that won't stop me from posting! :)

I also try to see days like that as a learning experience. What can you glean from it so you won't do it again? We all fall down from time to time. It's the getting up again that counts.

rakel
12-04-2007, 07:37 PM
I've learned that it's okay to stand up for yourself, and that you shouldn't be afraid of "ruining" everybody's good time because something might be too much of a temptation. Sometimes the act of verbalizing your concerns will actually make it easier to avoid the temptation, because it will make everyone around you aware of it...especially around my fiance because he would probably say something, "Well, I thought you weren't going to eat that." So I need to stop this love affair with food and not be afraid to not have any. Life will still continue!

To prevent this from happening again, no matter how far along in the meal I am, if I am full, I'm going to ask the wait staff the next time they come to the table or flag them down to get a box, that way I can put it away, and out of mind. There are too many times when I idly eat food while we're out at a restaurant just because I want something to do with my hands.

kaplods
12-04-2007, 07:42 PM
I sometimes get the to go box with my drink, before the food even comes. The waitresses must hear it alot, because I've almost never gotten so much as a surprised look. Then when the food comes, I put in what I'm planning on saving to take home (usually about half). One restaurant we go to has such huge portions, I usually end up taking 2/3 home.

kasmin
12-04-2007, 07:45 PM
Rakel, you've done amazingly already. I look forward to the day thatI can say I lost 30 pounds! And I agree with faerie--it's unlikely you gained 4 pounds in one day. A lot of it is probably a lot of water retention. Anyways you just need to get back on the healthy train. One day does not make a disaster;)

mandalinn82
12-04-2007, 07:48 PM
I just want to send a :cheer: and a little :hug: your way. You've already gotten great advice, you know what you've learned, you're moving on, so yay for you!

rakel
12-04-2007, 10:15 PM
I sometimes get the to go box with my drink, before the food even comes. The waitresses must hear it alot, because I've almost never gotten so much as a surprised look. Then when the food comes, I put in what I'm planning on saving to take home (usually about half). One restaurant we go to has such huge portions, I usually end up taking 2/3 home.

I've done this before but I always feel weird doing it. I'll have to try it more often, it will probably help me a lot. :o