[kmarie08]

I've just turned 18 years old in the past week, and this past summer my uncle & I had made a bet with each other that by Christmas we would lose 20-30 lbs.

Of course, being a man, all he had to do was cut out softdrinks & stop eating potato chips, and he loses 25 lbs in 3 months.

Me, on the other hand, has GAINED 10 lbs since the bet was made, and it's also been brought to my attention that I weighed 135 3 years ago, and have since put on 40 lbs.

It's been a pretty big wake up call.
I need to lose this weight. Not to win a bet, but to start my life healthy.
Of course all my friends at school are the typical 17-year-old twigs who eat what they want and never gain a single pound, so none of them are eager to help me lose weight - none of them need or want to.


I want to lose this to feel better. I want to feel more energetic & fit better into my clothing. I dont' want to be afraid to go out on the lake with friends over Spring Break & senior summer vacation. I want my memories as a senior to be good ones, not embarassing ones.
This summer, I didn't go to the lake ONCE with my friends.
And I don't want that to be the beginning of my bikini-less summers.
I'm in a serious relationship with my BEST friend of 3 years and he's an amazing guy. He treats me so well, and I honestly want to be in the best shape I can for him. He's willing to go on a weight-loss plan with me, but often times when I confide in him with my insecurities, he gets frustrated. He keeps telling me I don't need to lose weight, that I look perfect to him and I'm beautiful. I need someone who's not attached to me to tell me the truth, to keep me motivated. That's why I'm here.

Please help!

[xJox]

Hi and Welcome. You can do this.

1. Eat less junk, pop, fried foods.
2. Eat more fruit, veggies.
3. Drink water.
4. Count Calories.
5. Blogging helps.
6. Exercise.

Good luck! Jump right in and join the fun.

[Gale02]

to 3FC!

Alana Jo gave you good advice.

I'd like to comment on something that jumped out at me in your post. You say it's been brought to your attention that you weighed 135 lbs 3 years ago. Honey, you were barely 15 years old 3 years ago. That's not a good example of what a woman's body looks like. Don't aim for an unrealistic goal. I'm not saying you can't reach 135, maybe that's your healthy weight. But, I can say with a lot of confidence that you won't look like you did at 14. You are going to change so very much over the next 3 years. You need to focus on being healthy and in doing that your body will settle into a weight that's comfortable for it. Eat right - lots of veggies and fruit, lean meats, whole grains, very little processed sugars, healthier fats (nuts, avacados, olive oil, etc.) - exercise regularly - don't go nuts, but 30-60 minutes of cardio/strength training 5 days per week will get you fit - you'll end up at a healthy weight.

I can't impress on you enough how much you're going to change over the next few years, emotionally, physically, mentally. It's said that women change the most between 18 and 21 and men change the most between 21 and 24. It's good change, and you will develop into the woman you're meant to be. Don't become obessed about your body. It doesn't sound like you are, which is a good thing. But, always remember that you are much more than what you weigh.

Eat right, exercise, focus on developing into a healthy, vibrant woman. You won't go wrong.

[Lovely]

Gale's given you some great bodily advice, and Baileysmomma has given you some great nutritional advice.

You can & will feel better if you adopt healthy eating & exercise habits.

We can't make the choices for you, but if you're looking for a little support/motivation/advice everyone here has "been there/done that" and is more than willing to help out in that way!

Best of luck to you!