100 lb. Club - Falling Apart

For the past few weeks I have been falling apart emoitionally inside..... I dont know what happened. I have felt so ALONE and lost. I want this so bad but I do things to sabotage it like but Ben and Jerry's because it is on sale.... Why..... If I want this so bad then how can I do that. I am tired. I am tired of feeling like I am not worthy. I am tired of using my weight as an excuse. I am tired of not having energy. I am going to get Diabetes if I dont do something about this now. I dont want to be 50 like my mom and have to lose weight. It is so hard for her because of the Diabetes and her age. I just want to be healthy and happy and not have to worry about getting High Blood Pressue or Diabetes or Heart Disease. Right now I dont have any of it. But I do have PCOS which is like pre-diabetes.....

I am going to school to be a nurse. I cant even take care of myself. How am I going to take care of other people.....

Take it from someone a few years older than you--DON'T WAIT to lose the weight! Don't put your life on hold! Do it NOW while you are still young.

Now, that being said....YOU CAN DO IT! We all have faith in you that you can do it! But more importantly, have faith in YOURSELF. You ARE worthy--you ARE deserving of all good things--you ARE special!! :):)

BELIEVE!! BELIEVE!!! BELIEVE!!!

I've had those days, too. I often get to the point in the evening that I just eat because I've exceeded my calorie limit and why not mess up for REAL as long as I failed for the day.
But really, prayer is about the only thing that can get me through it.

I think part of the problem is looking at how FAR we have to go until reaching our goal. If we just concentrate on losing 5 lbs, and then once we reach that goal, losing 5 more lbs, not thinking about the long-term goal, it will help us not be so overwhelmed. I know that has helped me a little. Sometimes sabotaging my own efforts gives me a reason to justify why I'm not at my goal already.

I hope you have a better day-- just remember, baby steps to weight loss. A little self control is better than none at all. Awareness is the first step to changing your behavior. 1 lb here and 1 lb there, it will add up and you will feel better and better.

:hug: to you

But sweetie, you ARE doing it! You have already lost some weight and your health will benefit from the choices you have made.

I think you will find that many nurses have problems with their weight. That may be because of weird hours, junk food in the hospital, or the ability to take care of others but never ourselves. Kind of like moms, too, now that I think of it! In either case, we cannot take care of others until we take care of ourselves.

You know how they always tell you on a plane to put on your own oxygen mask first? That applies to a healthy lifestyle, too.

Next time you reach for the Ben and Jerry ice cream, get frozen yogurt instead. Or one of those fruit bars. I found a root beer float ice cream bar that's 50 calories. Remind yourself that this doesn't mean you will NEVER have Ben and Jerry ice cream ever again. It means that you are making a different choice in that moment. You have the strength. You are in charge of your body and your future. I know you can do it!!!

not just some weight, 20 Pounds! that a lot! thats like losing a small child. way to go! You lost a person! ;)

Hey, you are doing so great! I understand having those tough days... I think that everyone has them. But hang in there! Shoot, you're ahead of me in the # of pounds lost! Better keep plugging along or I might catch up with you!

I agree with mom2mollie, though. Forget the overall goal. I can't focus on that because it is so huge, I can't even grasp the number. Try making a 5 pound goal, or try making it through just one day at a time. That's what I've gone to, and it has helped!

You are definitely worth it. Don't forget that. Remember, too, that there really isn't an alternative, is there? Make that commitment now!

You can do this. I have total sympathy. I have had the same feelings. I came to the conclusion that sometimes, the actions have to come first and then the feelings will follow. So even if you do not FEEL motivated, or FEEL like eating right, do it. Do it for a week, whether you WANT to or not, and just see if your feelings don't change after a week of eating right and taking care of YOU. Big hugs!

Lyn
TWENTY SIX pounds gone!
My Blog:
www.escapefromobesity.blogspot.com

You've lost 20lbs already, that's awesome. Just keep plugging away, don't let a bad day get you down. Tomorrow start fresh, get rid of the junk food in your house and plan your day so you don't have a chance to have a weak moment.

You can do it.

I want to offer some motivational words of wisdom but feel completely UNqualified to do so -- I've been in exactly the same place, many many times. Things can be going along just fine and *boom* off plan, for no apparent reason. It's one of those personality traits or something, and it has to be worked on like anything else. I've felt myself to be a bit "judgemental" when it comes to people and I never liked that about myself - so I really put effort into it and I feel like I've changed. It motivated me enough to think that "hey if I can change one thing, maybe i can change something else??!" I'm not saying it's easy, because I think it's one of the hardest (and weirdly, easiest, things in the world, once the "DING" goes off in your head). Until then, or even if it never dings, "fake it til you make it" and just keep plugging along.

Remember that 20 lbs., that's GONE baby GONE!!

Boy have I been there - too many times to count.

I think it was Robin who said it best. When it comes to weight loss you really are in it alone. Yes, we have great support here and many of us are lucky enough to have very supportive families, but the bottom line is that nobody can make this happen but us. Don't disregard how far you have already come! Positive self talk is so very important. Love yourself enough to be good to yourself. You are worth it. If you slip up - forget about it and move on. I really regret all of the years that I spent overweight. I wish I had made the changes when I was your age. You my sweet girl are worth the effort and don't let anyone tell you differently (including yourself).

:hug:Daphne, we all understand. This is tough and can seem completely overwhelming at times. Please quit beating yourself up. You can do this! Just look at the people here who have succeeded in getting a handle on this weight loss journey. They are people just like you! We all crash and burn sometimes...but, we get back up and keep going....over and over again. When you buy something you shouldn't have....just throw it away! When you start doubting yourself, push those thoughts away and keep going. Eventually, when you have won many of these small battles, your confidence in yourself gets better and you start to believe that you can do this...and you can! For now....you just 'Do It!'

You have to want losing weight more than you want the Ben and Jerry's. Easier said than done. May the force be with you. Bunches of willpower blown your way.....

Oh sweetie, I'm sorry you're having such a rough go of it. You are not alone. We have all been there soooo many times. Weight loss is without a doubt one of thee most difficult things to cope with. So often it's one step foward, 2 steps backwards or so it seems. But just that you're here IS progress. You just have to keep fighting the good fight. Get a real good stretch going. Make a commitment, a firm commitment for one single day. Make the right choices for that one entire day, one skinny little day - no matter what. You can do this for a day, right? Then build on it. Stretch it into 2 days and then 4 and so on. You CAN do this. Remember, please remember just how worth it is. You don't have to go on living with out energy and with constant fears of health issues. It takes such a toll on oneself. One day at a time, one meal at a time if need be. Step by step....... You CAN do this. I know it for sure. :hug:

Daphne,
I know this is hard, I am struggling myself right now, but I think you did the best thing, by admitting it and asking for help. I believe in you . I know you can do it!!
cheryl

Daphne, you CAN do this. Take some time out of your day to re-focus. Give yourself a pep talk, remind yourself why you want to do this..why you WILL do this. We're here for ya!:hug:

Daphne, one of the things I do when I am feeling down is to go and check out the "goal" section, READ some of those! Just today I re read Robin's post there, and it just gives you that extra that you need some days.

You're not alone in the support here, but Robin is right - only YOU can make the choices you need to make.

"Being fat is hard. Losing weight is hard. Maintaining weight is hard. Choose your hard."

Daphne, that's the quote in your signature -- when you chose to put it there, you knew it was true. I've received inspiration many times from seeing that quote in your posts. Now's the time for you to reread it and really focus on it. It's true. It's hard to lose weight. And I can certainly vouch for the fact that it's hard to maintain it. But any sacrifices I've made or struggles I've had are nowhere NEAR as hard as it was to be overweight. So yes, it's definitely worth it, even if it's difficult and even if you think you just can't do it. You CAN. You've already proven that.

I know it can be hard when you have a lot of weight to lose. When I set my goal of 165 I knew I had to lose 110 pounds, and that seemed impossible. Now what if I'd just given up? I wouldn't have known what it feels like to hit that goal, to wear "normal" sizes, to run a half marathon, to fit everywhere, to not have to worry so much about getting diabetes (my mom has it too), and the list goes on and on. The time is going to pass anyway, just like this last year did for me. I could've stayed unhealthy, stayed inactive, and stayed unhappy. But I didn't. And you're not going to either, because we both know you deserve a better future than that!! :hug:

I like that.. 'Fake it 'til you make it'... I too have been struggling a lot lately with the emotions and eating. I am really trying to focus in on one day at a time. :dust:

I'm sure you can do it. Losing 20 lbs is not easy to begin with and look at what you've accomplished! I'm sure you feel much better now than before you lost it.
Down days happen to everyone. Hang in there, and just get through it day by day, hour by hour even.
I was looking at your Christmas goal ticker. Maybe you are setting unreasonable goals for yourself? Christmas is about 8 weeks away. The most you could reasonably expect at a healthy rate would be 16 lbs or so. Maybe instead of focusing on the number you could set a different goal - something like "I'll still be on-plan" 2 months from now. by then you will probably be going full steam!
I hope the support here can help you get through your hard time.

Lisa, thanks for pointing it out that Daphne is the one with thee very best signature around.

Daphne, I've even quoted that signature several times, never knowing who to give credit to. I LOVE that signature. Lisa's right. Reread it, THINK about it and what it really, REALLY means. Although losing weight, and then maintaining that loss IS hard, it doesn't compare even a little bit with the hard of being morbidly obese. NOT EVEN CLOSE. At least with the hard of losing and then maintaining - there are SOOOOOO many benefits and SOOOOO much joy and waaaay less worries. As good as you may imagine it is to be thin and healthy - it's a million, trillion times better then that.

You will never, ever regret losing the weight - not for a single second. Can you say the same thing about keeping the weight on? :hug:

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I read the other replies and they have all said so many good things there is not much else for me to add.

I suspect you are just having one of those "I'm not perfect" moments. Guess what? Neither are the rest of us!

"FEELINGS ARE NOT FACTS"!!!

Maybe, the next time you get a dose of the "dieting blues", you can take a nice relaxing bubble bath or go for a walk with a friend.

I once heard someone else say which I feel bears repeating: "We don't have anything to give others until we have given it to ourselves first."

Here's to giving to yourself first then the overflow can run like a river.... of love that is.:hug:

You are doing it! :cheer: We all have bummer moments/days. But we all continue. So will you! Just re-read all these great things other wonderful people have said. We all have faith in you ^^ :cheer2:

Wow. I was sitting here readng all of your words of encouragement. I knew that this was a great place but WOW!!!!!!!! I forget how much everyone is so supportive. I have posted before about being in a slump.... And each time everyone just keeps cheering me on.... So I thank each and every one of you for your love..... It is hard to feel alone when I have so many people cheering for me...... Trazey34.... you have no idea how much that hit me...
FAKE IT UNTIL I MAKE IT!!!!!!!!!

I may not believe it now, but I am going to tell myself that I am worth it and I am beautiful (no matter how big) and one day I will believe it. So I thank you especially for that......

I think something that made me feel hopeless was not making my birthday goal.... Which made my other goals impossible. I wanted to be 200 by Christmas and that was impossible to lose 40 pounds in 2 months. SO, I have changed my goals.... I keep making these goals of a cetain date and when I dont make it, I get frusterated and discouraged. No more dates but just weight goals.... My first is 226 my wedding weight.. It may take me awhile to get there but that is ok.... I can do it..... (fake it until I make it)...

:grouphug: :thanks: