Hi ladies!
You are all doing so well. WTG!! Keep it up!
SO I clocked the last 7 day period at an average of 1625 calories and I did my walking so I lost 2.5 or so last week. BUT the 3 days since then have been terrible! 2 days at 2100 and 1 at 2400!!!! ugghhhhh I need to get back in my groove! I am still doing great on my walking though and am already at 2060 for the month.
We'll see how today goes.
lodyangel:
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Well BF apoligized last night. So that is good. Hopefully, he will return to being his normal pain-in-the-butt self instead of the crazy lunatic he was this weekend.
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I need to go back and read what he did. I am sorry he is being a jerk!
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Good Morning all. Well I have a confession to make. After nearly 2 months of being on plan and doing really well, I binged last night. All the stress, TOM, everything, I just caved and pigged out on pizza. I was justly rewarded this morning. I had a gain of 5 pounds!!! WTH? I would have had to have eaten 17,500 calories to have gained 5 pounds! There is just no way! Grrr...It must be water weight. Hopefully it will come off in the next couple days.
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It is just water hun!!
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Jasmine: How are you and the kids holding up? I'm praying for you.
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Thanx, update below!
Rhighlan86:
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I think it's time to splurge on a digital scale and throw this dial out the window
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No kidding. I HATE scales!
iriswhispers:
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jasmine - sympathies and well-wishes to you and your family
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Thanx so much!!!
Ladiibbug:
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((((( Hugs for Jasmine )))))
I've been thinking about you today (and your kiddos) so I'm glad you posted. You must be so conflicted about your ex's passing. Geez, what a trial he's put you and the children through. You deserve extra special pats on the back for being able to concentrate on losing weight (or anything!) with alllll that stress!!
Take care.
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Thanx so much hun!!! (update below) (((((BIG HUGZ BACK))))))
lodyangel:
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Hey Jasmine! My BF has put me through some of the same stuff. That is why we don't live together and will never get married. I am sure it is hard, and I am sure there is a part of you who will miss him and is sorry, that he is gone. But don't feel bad, that you may feel relief too. He did alot of bad, awful things to you. Now you and the kids can get on with your lives, no shadow hanging over you. (((HUGS))) I am here for you if you need anything! I know it's a little early for this, and you may have already thought of it, but don't forget to call the social security office to sign the kids up to draw off his social security. With no child support, you will need the extra money. Again, you and your kids are in my thoughts and prayers! (((hugs)))
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Thanx so much hun! I am here for you too if you ever need to talk. I have free cell minutes on the weekend too!
Soc sec he actually got approved on disability thru them dec 2005 so the kids have each been getting $101.00 a month.
I did call them on friday to report his death and they said they will change it to survivors benefits which should be more money. I HOPE SO! Calif is so expensive. His sis asked if she could have the 4255.00 death benefit to help pay for the funeral so i said yes. I told her next year when we get our taxes back we would help her with $1,000 to help put him in the wall at the cemetary cause she doesn't have alot of money and no one is really helping her out, ya know?
He is my ex but he is my kids dad and if that is something I can help do for them so they have a place if they want to go visit then so be it. The rest of the taxes we will get a van. The prices for a knee level will be about $2700.00. It will be the cemetary up here that my mom was buried in. (He is being cremated)
The cemetary his mom is in is about 70 miles away and 3500-4500!!
$1,000 is alot of money, we are not well off but we get by and God takes care of us and like I said, it is for them. And not to be morbid or crass but I cant help being at times, its cheaper than getting a lawyer.
My bestfriends sis spends 3000-5000 in attorneys every 6 months!!!
And this last time it was really bad and he was lying in court saying I wont let him see the kids or call when he is the one who we didnt know for a year where he was and we have been in the same house for 7 years! Same number!!! He is the one who disappeared and when his sis called up i said, come get them, call, have fun etc.
uggghhhhhhhhh
And hes lying to the judge and the judge is saying get proof and the kids may be in your custody next time.
(basically put up or shut up and the judge knows what a smuck he is but still) that scared the **** out of me! So he did finally start calling so I am writing down and having the kids sign and when his sis comes having her sign she got them etc! ugghhh
I hate that someone can go and lie like that.
And then with the spanking thing. My ex used to spank the kids when they needed it, so did I. But since we got divorced he had a cow over anything and everything.
2 swats on the butt is NOT abuse!!! NO BLOOD, NO BROKEN BONES, NO BRUISES. You know what I mean? But because he wants to be a jerk about it the judge orders that joe nor I can spank the kids at all! He said he would put us in jail which to me is bull**** cause it is legal in ca to spank 1-2 on the butt! We even talked to the cps guy and he said the same thing. My kids have NEVER been abused, except by each other!
my 9 y/o was talking to us last nite and she was saying maybe it was a good thing this happened cause daddy kept dragging us back to court and kept trying to get me and joe thrown in jail!
This is disgusting! How can someone be like that? And here he is dying and he wants to spend his last year tearing the kids up, saying terrible lies about me and joe and trying to get us thrown in jail.
I try to feel sorry for him being dead and all and then I think about everything and I just keep thinking the same thing, this couldn't of happened to a nicer person. You know? I kept praying and asking God to help us and protect us and I guess this was his way. I know he is their dad but with him being so hateful what good was he doing them?
uuugghhhhhhhhhhh........
Friday his sis is coming to get us for the funeral and saturday my 2 aunts and grandma are coming out to see us. They generally come once a year during the summer. They all live 60-80 miles away. We see them a few other times thru the year like x~mas and easter. We kit on the phone. We are all going out to dinner, probably Coco's.
*sigh*
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Today for me was horrible. I spent it hiding from BF, and fighting with him on the phone. It was really bad. Worse then it has been in years! I left my house twice to keep him from coming to my house. The first time me and the kids were out for 3 hours. I hate when he acts crazy. I am just really stressed right now. Since I was half afraid he would call CPS I got Mom over here and we cleaned the house. I still have a mountain of clothes to wash and the kitchen floor must be mopped, but it looks better. It's so hard to keep it all together when you are working full time, college full time, Mom full time. It's nearly impossible! However because of all the drama I didn't eat Dinner til 10 o'clock. So calories were low! I haven't added them up yet, but they were well under 1500 calories.
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Aww hun i know! When I was working I had a hard time keeping it together too! Thank God I am home now and can keep up with it. No offense to any garage neat freaks out there but my housekeepers helper was and still is at times, the garage.
Dirty clothes? Get some baskets and throw them all in there! You NEED to eliminate some of the kids stuff. Tell them the front room and kitchen are a toy free zone! If you find it, it gets tossed in the garage. Give them 10 minutes to clean their rooms. If they have any remnants, they get tossed in buckets and go in the garage. they can swap stuff out later. But really, kids are able to take care of very few things. I got tired of all the messes and less is best!
Dishes, I use my dishwasher and am able to keep up but, you can use paperplates!!!! Once you get caught up, right after dinner pick two kids and train them how to use it. My middle two are actually pretty good at loading the dishwasher!
Basically the less stuff, the less mess, the less mess, the easier to clean.
What was he mad about?
Thank God when cps came out the different times he sent them I wasn't working and was at home and it was clean.
Rhighlan86:
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Oh I'm so sorry lody. Why on earth would he call CPS on you. That's a bit extreme if the only reason is he is angry at you and wants revenge. If that's the case you may seriously want to rethink having him in your life. Someone thats willing to try to get your children taken away for the sake of being evil is not worth it. You deserve better!
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That was exactly how my ex was. When we had court the first time the fridge was a disaster between 5 kids and trying to move away, that was one thing I left behind for him. SO what does he do? he takes pics of it to come show the judge the fridge was dirty! *rolls eyes*
So we did wind up coming back to this house anyhow the first thing Joe did was help me paint, steam clean and we cleaned the fridge out and put locks on it! That way 1 kid doesn't eat an entire loaf of bread, or dump a gallon of milk etc. Things got alot more neater and organized.
They had plenty of food and whatever they wanted to eat, JUST ASK! Ya know? Less mess, less wasted food.
When Chris' grades started slipping, we put a lock on the game cabinet and told him no games til the weekend!
Well of course when their dad came back in their life in dec/jan and wanted to know every little annoyance/complaint etc.
He has a fit when he heard we locked the fridge and freezer and acted like we were starving the kids! My eldest dd is 300 lbs!!!!!
Can you imagine the cps and cop guy having to ask a 300 lb 14 y/o if they are getting enough to eat?????
The wic lady when I bring my 3 y/o is telling me Katy needs to lose weight and is in the 90 prcentile. So I started having her get out the stroller and walk a bit on my walks. My middle dd is a little chubby. Chris and c.j. are right on target.
We locked the game cabinet and guess what? Chris came home with A's and B's!!!
But we are such awful parents. *rolls eyes*
I am just so glad it is all over. Like I said Melody, if you ever need to talk, I have been there and I am here for you!! And anyone else who needs me
Rhighlan86
Make sure you eat hun!!!
stopeating
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She called the police on us so much this summer because my dh didn't call at a certain time!
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That sounds like my ex! The cops got to know us very well and knew he was a harrasser and was full of it! Thank God they and the cps have more sense! The cps guy closed the case immediately and told me to give the cop his buis. card and say we were clear but the cop needed to go thru the motions.
In the last mediation report it list 5 cps calls and it also said ALL OF THEM WERE UNFOUNDED!!!!
I always kept asking myself why couldn't we just get along, I was never the one trying to start stuff or get him in trouble or even taking him to court, EVER! It was always him. Then I reminded myself if he could of just been nice and got along, we would NOT of been divorced!
Melody:
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He was REALLY crazy then. He assaulted me and I had him arrested.
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Like he beat you up? Broken bones? What? uggghhhhhhhhhh
That is why I left with the kids to Montana years ago cause he threatened me. Keep it documented!!!! Get cop reports, hosp reports.
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When we went to court, the judge was like..."He gets to see the kids. So what day?" He had just assaulted me, was on drugs and they were still gonna let him see them! WTH??? So I put up with alot, just to keep my kids with me.
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Sweetie I know, it is disgusting!!! Like when my ex abandoned them and did no call, no show for an entire year! And before that it was one 20 minute visit, then nothing for 6 months!
He goes into court (years ago)saying he is homeless and not working and cant afford child support and he was even dumb enough to admit to the mediator last time that he had a mental breakdown! He said if he got custody of the kids he would get more food stamps. He even threatened Joe to the mediator in jan of 2005 and he still got weekend visits! He said he wanted to tear his arms and legs off so he is obviously violent but they dont care!
His sister was taking care of his soc sec check and got an apt in her name for him and his dad cause they couldnt and couldnt even manage their money!
He was so sick at 35 he can never work another day in his life, yet he wants to ask for custody of our 5 kids and act like I am not taking care of them!
I have been here taking care of them for 15 years!!!! And all the years when he was on the road driving truck, I WAS THE ONLY ONE HERE!!!
I could go on and on and on.
When we were splitting, my ex had spent the last few years complaining about the burden of me and the kids and even went so far as to say many times that i shouldnt of had all those kids! Which is why it surprised me even more when he wanted to fight tooth and nail for custody. (Probably just to hurt me)
And that is the 1 big reason I tried working it out one more time cause I was scared out of my mind of the kids being with him 50% of the time and I told myself no matter how miserable I am now it was killing me thinking I could lose the kids 50% of the time. These kids are my life I have always taken care of them.
So i know exacly what you mean but hun I have to tell you, you are worth finding someone that will treat you better! I thank God for Joe he has truly been a blessing to me. Get your i's dotted and your t's crossed. Collect whatever info you have.
How long are you going to wait? Its not fair to you. These last few years for me have been terrible. (cept when he disappeared) but you know what? God and Joe got me thru. When the new court stuff hit and i was so upset I reminded myself thank God I just have to see him in court and I don't have to actually go home with him.
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Jasmine: I am still praying for you!
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Thanx so much!!!
Yeah everyone who is praying just please be praying that God can restore unity, peace, love, harmony and happiness back to this home. That we get our sense of family back. We took a heavy hit with all the ex's crap and lies and sowing seeds of hate and......ugghhhh
I know we will get there and part of it already has but it is hard.
Ice Princess:
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Im a 32yr old divorced mother of three BOYS 15, 13 and 7 all of which are my life so to speak. My oldest has just moved in with his father and the last couple of years have been HELLLLLLLLLL. I think most can relate.
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If I missed anyone I am sorry!!!
SD Gal:
Its good to see ya hun!!
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How is everyone today?
I hate Tom. I will be glad when it is over!! To make my labor day goal I have to lose 3 pounds this week and weigh 209 by Labor day...Don't know if that is gonna happen or not, but it won't if i keep eating like a pig! 
I was suppose to run this morning, but gosh I was tired, and couldn't get my butt outta bed. That "darned spot" on my leg is still hurting so it's probably a good thing that I took the day off, and let it rest some more. Tomorrow morning I am running! I don't care! Nothing is stopping me! 
I plan on doing some yoga and Denise Austin core when I get home. Sis1's b-day dinner is tonight. Sorta a pot luck thing we all do for everyone's b-day so I gotta be good and save my other 1000 calories for Dinner!
Hugs to everyone else!!! I am off to drink my lemon water and do some actual work! 
But I hurried my butt up and got to class in time thankfully. 