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08-24-2007, 11:03 PM
Anyone else have a hard time exercising in front of other people? I hate exercising outside because it gets too hot, and I have a bug phobia (ick). Plus, if I come across another person, or even a car for that matter, I feel like I have to justify being fat and exercising at the same time. I don't even want to exercise in front of my boyfriend, I get nervous that if I start doing a fitness tape he's going to wake up or something (he sleeps during the day, works at night, and we live in one room atm untill the house we're buying goes through) and catch me in the act, so to speak. Anyone else go through this or am I just silly? :-P

08-24-2007, 11:06 PM
Yes, when I was heavier and I was out walking I picked the most deserted streets possible because I didn't want any other people (on the street or in cars) to see me, I felt embarrassed. Now I don't have a problem with it and enjoy greeting others who are running the same trail as me, I'm just a lot more confident I guess....having said that I still don't like exercising in our apartment when my boyfriend is around to see, strange, and I don't know why :shrug:

08-24-2007, 11:22 PM
Ok, this is a tragedy!!! Fat people are allowed to exercise! We need to at least liberate ourselves from the idea that there is something ridiculous about overweight people exercising. It is much, MUCH better to be out there, in public, sweating and huffing and puffing and doing your body good than to be sitting home, sad and in the dark staying unfit and overweight.

If I saw you at my gym, or walking around my streets, I'd send you a mental 'kudos.'

It might, however, be slightly ridiculous if you were wearing one of those mouth masks to keep the bugs out while you were exercising. That might cause me to titter :)

08-24-2007, 11:53 PM
Guilty! I workout in my room with the door shut, even though it's the hottest room in the house. :^:

When I lost weight before, I would be in the living room, but not until I was a bit smaller.

08-24-2007, 11:53 PM
Now there's an idea... I think I should just get a big plastic bubble to use while exercising. BEGON BUGS!

08-24-2007, 11:58 PM
May I recommend an exercise ball -- relatively quiet for when your house is sleeping!! I'm in the same boat -- I was going to the YMCA and always thought people were watching the "fat chcik on the equipment" wondering which McDonald's I'd hit on the way home. You know what, most people are too self absorbed to even notice you. People who do make comments --- put it in perspective, most likely it is noone whose opinion should matter to you anyway.

Be proud of yourself for the effort and keep moving. I've always had "sweat phobia" about exercising -- it grossed me out, and I felt like everyone could smell me. Know I just think of it in pounds running off my body!!

ThinGirl in FatBody
08-25-2007, 12:01 AM
I won't do my cardio if my hubby is home. In fact I missed 2 days of it last week because he was home and I felt rotten about it, very frustrating. I just can't do it when he's here.

08-25-2007, 01:23 AM
When I first started doing excercise tapes I was very self conscious. My nosy husband, who seems to have a need to know what I am doing every moment, would come in to the bedroom to see what I was doing. He would smile and say something that he thought was cute or supportive. I would tell him to get the **** out. It didn't take long before he got bored with it. Now he sees I am working out, he grabs a beer out of the fridge and heads in to watch tv until I'm done, or whatever it is he does till I'm done. He is actually proud of me for working out. I'll bet most men are proud of their woman for trying to improve themselves.

I would never join a co-ed gym, cause I don't want to exercise in front of young physically fit guys and women. I joined curves for a couple of years and that was cool, women from every walk of life and every shape, size and weight. Lots of support. Then I discovered exercise tapes (Leslie Sansone) and decided I liked working out at home, on my own schedule and I quit going to curves. At curves you exercise in front of others, but it is different cause everyone is in a similar boat.

08-25-2007, 03:16 AM
when i run i take dirt roads threw the forest, and i walk to get to them. i could never run IN FRONT of people. and i workout from home, locked in my bedroom with my videos. the husband is FORBIDDEN from entering until i'm done! i cant stand to have people look at me when i work out!

08-25-2007, 04:54 AM
I won't do my cardio if my hubby is home. In fact I missed 2 days of it last week because he was home and I felt rotten about it, very frustrating. I just can't do it when he's here.

Hello soulmate! DH took some leave and I haven't exercised while he's been home. I know that if I ask nice, he'll have no problem staying in the computer room for 45 minutes while I do my video in the living room, but I never say anything...I have an irrational fear that he'll peek! Lol.

I also feel odd walking alone. I'm ok if DH comes with me and we have a destination. But alone (with or without a destination), I feel like every car is staring at me as they pass. Also, on the base here, a lot of people don't drive and pulling over to offer a ride a very common. I'm waiting for the day someone pulls over over to offer me a ride and then looks at me funny when I say no thank you and explain I'm exercising. :(

08-25-2007, 09:23 AM
I personally do not care who sees me exercising, especially when I really get into it. I forget everything around me and just focus on my goals. I hoopdance in my backyard, and people from the street come up to my gate and ask to have a go at it. I personally do not mind sharing the joy of exercise with anyone. My fiance however is fat on the inside, and about as unfit as they come. He is all muscle, but cant do a 15 minute session of DDR without giving up lol.

He's not into the whole exercise thing, he'd rather sit and watch tv or more likely sit at his PC all day.

08-25-2007, 09:43 AM
It seems that most don't like their significant other to watch (which is how it is for me). I couldn't care less if a million strangers see me in public sweating, red faced and puffing like a steam engine, but I don't like the boyfriend there, which is odd, it's not a new relationship, he's seen me like that plenty of times before, I have no delusions of having to be "pretty" for him all the time (in fact I've heard many men say it's a turn on to see their lady all hot and sweaty from a workout). So I honestly can't say why I don't like him watching. Psychology is weird in many many ways.

08-25-2007, 09:59 AM
The only exercise I am willing to do in front of others is walk. :) I get up at 5:30am so I can be done with my cardio before the kids wake up and I do weights in a weight room with the door shut. You are not alone, I assure you. :)

08-25-2007, 10:18 AM
I used to be that way about workout DVD's and Y!F. I hated for anyone to see me doing those. I was a little self conscious about running in front of people at first, but now I could care less.

08-25-2007, 11:26 AM
I used to feel this way too - and when I started my running program outside, I was just like MangoKitty - I'd walk to the trails and then run when no one could see me. I once ran into a group of neighbouring ladies who walk in the mornings, and I was hideously embarrassed... stupid, though.

Now, I run on my treadmill and I don't care who sees me :joker: - actually, if I've popped a movie in, I kind of like when others watch it with me (though, of course, this means they are NOT watching ME!). This worked really well when my mother stayed with me, though she always got irritated if I stopped the film and said "We'll watch the rest next time I run" :lol3:

Heather :D

08-25-2007, 07:22 PM
(in fact I've heard many men say it's a turn on to see their lady all hot and sweaty from a workout). So I honestly can't say why I don't like him watching. Psychology is weird in many many ways.

Speaking for myself only here- if I was thinner, I wouldn't have a problem working out in front of him, because it would prove that what ever I was doing was working to help maintain my figure.

Also, some of this might be from my upbringing- I was brought up in a very strict and modest house (bathrobes galore, ladies!) where I was constantly given lines of "Ladies don't...." add the last part of the sentence "sweat in front of men", "workout in front of men", "show off their bodies in front of men" and so on.

Here's something that may get a chuckle out of some of you. Last week, I was walking the track. I saw that I was alone, except for my daughter's friend who is up with us. So, I break out into a run, and ran a full 1/4 of a mile around the track, when all of the sudden, here comes two people who barely talk to me onto the track. My back was to them when they arrived (of course, that was at the very beginning of my run!), so whenever I saw them, I wanted to die.

One started praising me for making it around the track, especially at the speed I was running. The other, who caught up to me when I was walking again (I had my head phones on, tuned the world out on purpose from this woman as I thought she didn't like me because I wasn't good enough), she walks up to me and gently taps me on the arm, smiling. We walked for three miles together, and I believe she was in awe at how fit I am, because she saw me run just before she came onto the track. She asked me how much I did before she came, and I told her I was up to two miles of walking/jogging/running. We somehow got onto to the discussion of tennis, and two nights later, after I walked/ran the track, I went to pick up my daughter after soccer practice. My son and other daughter played on the tennis courts near the field (same place as the track, but a 1/2 mile away), so my son asked me to play with him. I got my racket out and headed toward the court, when she saw me and said "are you playing with your son?" I said "yes, I am!" and she asked if she could join us, and she had a racket in her hand, ready to play.

Never know what folks think, but I must say, it was a pleasant surprise that this woman saw me in a different light. I think she thought that because I was heavy, I sat around the house eating bon bons everyday. She clearly didn't expect to see me walk/run for five miles then play tennis afterwards.

It was a small victory of some sorts for me. A real confidence booster- I can keep up with the thin folks that are in shape, and some have recently show me some respect back after seeing me doing it. :carrot: