100 lb. Club - Things kids say!!
stranger n my mirror
08-21-2007, 12:00 PM
My 6 yr old son and I were out and about yesterday. I stopped at the gas station and he of course wanted candy. So we went in but as soon as he saw the egg rolls he had to have them. I got him two. After we got home we were walking up to the front door, I noticed that he had only eaten one of the egg rolls. I asked him if he was going to eat the other one. He said, "No, I am saving it for tomorrow. I want to be healthy, not fat like you."
A month ago that comment might have upset me, but I know that I am on my way to being a healthy person. I am diabetic, but after losing 17 lbs and watching everything I eat, my blood sugars are already close to being completely normal. And that is without any medication.
That conversation actually renewed my determination. Thank God for kids and their honest way at looking at things. And thank God that at the young age of 6 he is already understanding how important it is to make the correct choices when it comes to his health.
that is really good but, shouldnt you be showing him good eating behaviors. it is awesome that you have lost 17 pounds, but does a 6 year old really need 2 egg rolls?
08-21-2007, 12:21 PM
I am glad you took this well. I have a ton of these stories..
one is 2 yrs ago while waiting for the school bus with my dd, a little boy in kindergarten turns to me( I was maybe 270 lbs?) and says :" Why are you fat?, My mama is fat too".
Last year my daughter would come home really upset because her classmates said I was fat..
But none of this woke me up, I am really ashamed that I didn't care more about me or my kids to want to be healthy.
stranger n my mirror
08-21-2007, 12:49 PM
They weren't those big fat monster egg rolls. They were small. He couldn't decide if he wanted the chicken or the pork so I bought him one of each. Also, my son is really thin and is on medication that affects his appetite. His doctor actually wants me to try to fatten him up a bit. It's not fun watching a naturally thin child lose weight because of medication he has to have.
And, anyway, it's better than the candy he originally went in there wanting. At least there are some(I know, very little!), veggies and meat in there.
Also interesting is that my 23 yr old daughter who is pregnant is also very thin. She weighs just 112 lbs. Her doctor warned her just yesterday that she had better put 5 lbs on by her next appointment, or else. I am not sure exactly how they can force her to gain weight though. She eats like a horse, she just has a high metabolism.
Obviously, and luckily, my children take after their father and not me.
Im sorry. I wasnt trying to mean anything by it. I guess that is what I get for making assumptions.
08-21-2007, 01:09 PM
That's great that you were not upset by his words. My boys (5 and 7) have said things like that once or twice. I remember being really upset the first time and dh actually had a little talk with them. I'm not sure how I feel about that, what they said was true, I am fat. Is it their fault I'm sensitive about it?
My dh is also very thin and high energy. The boys so far take after him. They are so active and very thin. I have also heard from my doctor to try and get some more weight on them, though not for medication reasons like your son.
I hate to say it, but my oldest is so thin and eats so little, I would be in heaven if he ate 2 egg rolls!
08-21-2007, 01:17 PM
lol...kids do say the darndest thing...i use to LOVVEE that show...my fiance's niece and nephew tell me im fat all the time......and at first it was early in our relationship and it bothered me....but not anymore....and as far as the 2 eggrolls....id be right there with ya.....even if my child didnt have a weight problem.....i know it has to be extremly hard to tell a child no....especially when they have there heart set on it!!! But congrats on what you have lost!!! And congrats on you not getting any candy at that store....or eggrolls!!! That in itself is awesome!!! Good job mom!!!:bravo:
stranger n my mirror
08-21-2007, 02:04 PM
Daphne-I didn't take offense. Just thought I had better clarify.
I wonder what my son would have thought if he had seen me before I got pregnant with him. I weighed 297 at my heaviest but having to take 3 insulin shots a day and living on the diabetic diet throughout my pregnancy brought my weight down to 236 the day I gave birth. I have been hovering between 225 and 240 for the last 6 yrs. I am finally ready to lose the rest of it so I can be at a normal weight for the first time in my adult life.
My son has made comments about me being fat as well. It actually really hurt, but he is honest.
08-21-2007, 02:31 PM
My guy is 6 (almost 7) and he has yet to make a comment about my weight. I know when it comes, It will be devastating. It's a HUGE fear of mine.
08-21-2007, 02:43 PM
My godson, when he was almost 6, asked me why I was fat when we were at the pool. It was embarassing because we were standing in line for the waterslide so there was lots of teenagers that could hear & I was standing in my bathingsuit. Ugh!
08-21-2007, 02:47 PM
Oh my gosh, my son is just under a year, and I guessI should be thankful he can't talk yet! Further motivation to get this weight off before he can give me comments like that. I'm glad you found it helpful though.
08-21-2007, 02:50 PM
My daughter came up with a funny one a couple of days ago...it doesn't hurt my feeling....it makes me laugh.
I was showing her my new swimsuit.
Her: Is that for when you're skinny?
Me: No, it's for now.
Her: (face scrunched...long pause...enlightened look) Oh yeah, they stretch!
08-21-2007, 03:34 PM
LOL gosh, kids are brutal!
stranger n my mirror
08-21-2007, 03:53 PM
Last week my son told me that I have a cute face but an ugly nose!
08-21-2007, 04:29 PM
My neice is 4. One day, oh, about 4-5 months ago, she made a comment of "big fat Aunt Sissy." My brother got onto her, and told her it wasn't nice to say things like that, made her apologize, etc. In a lot of ways, even though I was upset, I didn't fault her....she's 4....didnt know any better really. It was the first time something like that had come up from her. After my brother's talk with her, she understood it wasn't nice. Fast forward a couple of months later. She's crawled up in my lap and we're reading a book. She says to me "Aunt Sissy you aren't really fat....just a little bit....but its nice for me to have a place to sit." (She had just been on my brother's lap and made a comment about "daddy's bony knees hurting her butt." lol) Again...even though it hurt (truth does, doesn't it?) I didnt get mad at her. Just her 4 year old mind processing things.
08-21-2007, 08:55 PM
DS is 4 and he says some stuff I can't believe. I feel kind of bad for him because he's just shouting out his observations... He screams it out every single time we drive near a tractor, bus, construction site, ice cream truck, etc. So for him to recognize something and not be allowed to say it is probably hard for him to understand.
I'm trying to help him in that department but I've found that people that "stand out" don't seem to mind his outbursts. I managed to stop him in time (I hope) with people that are severely overweight but DS once shouted to a guy in a wheelchair, "WOW COOL STROLLER!" I almost died but the wheelchair dude thought it was a riot!
Another time we were walking in the mall and DS yelled out, "WHAT"S WRONG WITH THAT KID???" and it started off a great conversation with that kid's mother about muscular dystrophy.
Recently, we were on our way to a specific office on the college campus and it was a bit of a walk from the parking lot. THere was a woman that we passed on the way who must have weighed 400+ and she was having a hard time but still trucking along. She ended up in the same office as us and DS (always yelling) shouts, "There she is again! She's SO BI-(clapped my hand over his mouth). Aye aye aye, I hope she didn't hear it.
08-21-2007, 11:43 PM
heh. kids are cute. especially cause they aren't mine.:)
My husbands cousin has a kid and last year at christmas he was eager for the eating to stop and the present opening to begin...he came up to me with a raised eyebrow, patted my belly and said "You're done eating now, RIGHT?"
Oh yes, believe me, after that I was done! *LOL*
my daughter told me that she wants to eat spaghetti because it is healthy and she wants to stay a skinny minnie. and be healthy, not like mommy. mommy has a big belly. i thought. OMG. what am I teaching my kid.....
08-22-2007, 09:01 AM
I went to go visit a friend a few months ago. She was 6 months pregnant. She has 2 others, one is almost 2 and the other almost 4. The older of the boys came up to me (I was slouched on the couch) and said "You have a baby in your belly too!" and squished my tummy.
Apparently, though, he thought EVERYONE had a baby in their belly, so I couldn't take it too horribly :)
08-22-2007, 01:43 PM
ModK: DS (age 4) is also obsessed with pregnancy right now. He thinks everyone is pregnant, including our (male) dog, lol! My SIL just had her baby and DS and she talked about her pg a lot...
I wouldn't take it personally from a little one that age. :)
08-22-2007, 11:34 PM
A couple of years ago my DD who was 10 or so came home from school all out of sorts. When I asked her what was wrong she got a little teary eyed and said "a boy on the bus called you fat." I paused for a moment looked at her and said "well... I am fat" she gave me a little smile and all was good again. What the kids said didnt hurt my feelings but the fact that it hurt my daughters feelings planted the seed for me to do something about it.