30-Somethings - Daily Chat Thursday July 19!

WORK SUCKS!!! I have DH mad at me for falling asleep by 8pm--and I am super tired with a headache/now a fever blister and really hate the thought of leaving again in 2 minutes...Oh well

Hello to all~~~
Lauren--I am checking out that therapy--we have an appointment next thursday--I will let U know...
RR

RR: Mornin' sweetie! ;) Tell hubby to go blow a tree monkey! If he doesn't like that comment, tell him to hop a plane to the tropical island of "Bite Me!" You're burnin' the candle at both ends, what the heck does he expect? MEN! Don't you for a second feel guilty about crashing out! You need to do what is healthy for you-and staying up to entertain him when you're exhausted is not healthy. End of story. Sorry to be so mean, but you're my friend and that just gets under my skin! :mad:

Ken: Over 400 views? OMGosh....I'm only at a little over 500 you studrocket! Yes ladies, I know Ken is married..... I'm just being me! ;) So Ken, are there a lot of people contacting you for weight loss support or are you getting hit on like our resident RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRoo the V6 muscle car?

Joan: Hi there cheese danish! Yes, Sean and I are still planning on doing lunch (friends only I believe). But, there is this guy Steve that I have been emailing for a couple weeks that I really like a lot. Unfortunately, he lives like 1 hour 45 minutes away..and I have this weird phobia about driving by myself on the highway..I'm always afraid that my car will break down and I'll get kidnapped and murdered and then dumped on the side of a barren strip of road not to be found for years later. I know, morbid....but that's the crazy side of my brain.

I have a really booked calendar on my vacation the end of this month which is just nuts! I'm doing lunch w/my mom and then my friend Rich (no, totally platonic with him) too. Then, I'm going out one night with 3 of my girlfriends (one is of an "alternate lifestyle," if you will...so I think we get to meet her honey then too)! :) Lastly, my friend Maria (on my myspace page) who is looking to turn pro as a Figure competitor & I are getting together for dinner with some of her friends. Yikes! I don't know how the heck I'm going to afford all that.....my c/cards are so maxed out my wallet feels like 10 pounds in my purse! :dizzy: Oh well, hopefully Sean and Rich pay when we go out so that'll save me $30+ bucks.

Am I the ONLY 30 something loser that still lives paycheck to paycheck? I definitely have some major issues. I mean, I can pay my bills and all...but don't have a lot of disposable income. Pathetic, I'd say! Anyway, on a positive note, I'm down another 2 ounces this morning! :carrot:

Lisa/Lauren/Hanna/Everyone: Yes, I do know I'm a nut! :o Almond Joy called me the other day asking me to be their new t.v. personality! :p Get it? Sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't. Almond Joy's got nuts, Mounds don't.... Well, I tried! Credit for that? 1/2 Credit?

Ok all, sorry I'm not addressing some of the more important issues in people's lives (which far outshadow my own itty biddy setbacks), I really will. Have to run now, though...new panel coming in today and a returning panel from yesterday and possibly a third panel coming in later yet this morning. BUSY! :(

Love ya, MO

MO: I don't think you are the only one that lives pay check to pay check. I think anymore that is the american way "American way" Seriously somethings are just not right in this country, but don't get me started. About the being dumped. I "pack heat". I will not go out of this world with out a fight. I just won't................I might be short but I bought that "heat" to do some damage and it will if need be. You should do the same take a weapon class. Glad your down some more. I have freakin Jury duty today that really thrills me............ Good thing the investigator and I are good friends and i watch his kids I should get dismissed quickly.

Michelle: Your issue with your granddaughter. This is what happened to my Uncle and Aunt is exactly what is happening to you. I would ask for her to give up her rights. It is still going to be hard but my family only did the guardianship and the courts well they usually give the kids back if the parent can prove they got their head on right. My family had to give her back at age 8. The grandparents and daughter still had a great relationship and all but that does not mean it happens in every family. You also need to look at this too. Kids these days are having children so they can get assistance with different things, not saying yours is but I see it ALOT!! I honestly think from reading your posts you have answered your own question. It is hard but this granddaughter needs you! You are her stability your daughter is taking the role of aunt or grandma just an occasional visit. Sorry if I was too blunt.

Lisa and Joan: Thanks for thinking of me I just got busy yesterday just getting through each day is freakin fun!

As for me I am doing ok. DH I really don't know I seen his cell phone he and his sister are talking alot which doesnt really bother me but after all the crap she has done doesn't make me overly happy either. My feelings just feel cut off now. I am not usually this way kind of wierd.

Got the kids in counseling and I go on Tuesday. I honestly just feel really talked out by him. I don't know what it is that i want for sure kind of wierd. Well I know but he can't give it to me right now I haven't asked but he also hasn't told me he loves me for about 2 weeks i really love to just rip him a new one for that, but I haven't said it either.

My goodness I leave Michelle alone for 5 minutes and things to go awry. We still need to do lunch girlie.....not this weekend but sometime after ok?

RR I won't be mad at you for goin to bed early cuz of work :)

Hello hello to everyone else :)

Happy Thursday!!! I hope everyone has a great day today and I wanted to send out some encouragement that NO MATTER WHAT the scale says today - GOOD FOR YOU that you are still in the game!!!!! You're HERE & You're TRYING!!!!! Keep up the great work!!!!!!

MO: Are you always a breath of fresh air?? ;-) I'm getting a bit of both!!! =)

Ken: You are so sweet. Thanks for that comment, I actually needed it right then. No, I'm actually an evil, cruel, rude, sarcastic, slightly vindictive person. I only play "nice" on t.v.! :o:dizzy::p:) I do try to be a motivator with my over-bearing energetic self, but that doesn't always work!
Again, you made my day and I thank you! MO

Greetings! I am a newby around here. I am checking things out and trying to find where I best fit. Ya'll look like the right place..
I've been on WW 10 weeks today. Weight loss is going great, I am pretty much into the routine now. Trying to keep things in perspective while getting the weight down. I have a long way to go but am well on my way. Anyway I guess that's a basic overview.


Tiffanie

Tiffanie: :bravo: on the weight loss so far and WELCOME! We love newbies around here and we're a very supportive thread. Glad to meet ya! MO

Men have no idea! I would go to bed early tonight, too. :) Sonie

My mom is keeping DD tonight so I'm going to settle in, have a drink and maybe watch Dirty Dancing. hahaha! I bought the 20th Anniversary DVD last night.

Hi All,

Busy day today! My mom's in the hospital again...dehydrated, can't keep anything down. :( Please keep her in your prayers.

Leigh, have fun!

Sonie, :welcome:

Tiffanie, :welcome:

Ken, :wave: Thanks!

Holy, :wave: Nice to see you!

Sheila, :hug:

MO, yeah, we totally live pay to pay...it's the American way! :lol: Hope everything works out with all your dates! :D

RR, Darn him...

Hi everyone,
I was wondering if you have room for one more! I would love to join.
My name is Kerry. I am 34 years old. I am currently married and have three stepkids. I am a special needs teacher for kids in grades 6th through 8th. Plus I sell Avon on the side. I am the weight recorder for my TOPS group. I have been dieting for the last 5 years. The lowest I got down to was 195 pounds and then had to go back to school two summers ago for the whole summer. The catered lunches didn't help me at all. LOL Then had to move out of our house we had bought and into a rental house last year. Then have been battling with my hubby's ex over the kids and money issues for what seems like forever. So I put myself on the backburner and gained the weight back. So now I am really trying hard to take it off. Have a problem with my hubby throwing my weight problem in my face everytime we have a fight. So looking for a few more friends who understand what it is like to be overweight and have to carry on with life's daily struggles. Well enough babbling from me. I think I will go and finish my workout now. Had to stop in the middle of it and get the stepkids clothes ready for their mom to pick up. Somedays I wonder why I married someone who was previously married and had kids. Don't get me wrong I dearly love my two stepsons and stepdaughter. But I feel either stuck in the middle or on the outside looking in. If that makes any sense.
Well I look forward to meeting you all.
Take care,
Kerry

Have a problem with my hubby throwing my weight problem in my face everytime we have a fight. Kerry
OK first off welcome and second off DITTO on the hubby thing dont get me wrong i know my hubby loves me but the weight thing gets old like yeah just cause you say that im gonna wake up 50 lbs lighter gezz men

any hoo im much better today and shelia i was born and raised in los angeles and trust me when i say i have VERY think skin so to harsh no i appreciate the input cause im so torn
LBH saying a prayer for your mom
Mo you my girl crack me up i wish i had as much energy as you
Holy just let me know when and where and we'll do lunch

take care everyone i missed
Michelle

Welcome Kerry ~ so glad to have you join us! This is a great group of people! Best of luck ~ Joan

Luncheon today was a great success. By the way, I've discovered a way to lose weight fast... host parties:-). I was up bright and early this a.m. working on food, cleaning up after kids, working on food, cleaning up after kids (again ... and again...). By the time that my family arrived, I had everything ready and felt like I'd had quite a workout. Plus, I was so busy serving people that I barely ate anything myself. My aunt is the most beautiful, gracious lady and she thanked me over and over again. It meant so much for her to see my dad. Made it all worthwhile.

MO ~ you are nuts Girl! I love your posts as they always make me LOL. Murdered and dumped on the side of the road? Holy Cow! You've really put some thought into this;-). I'd say that this guy need to make the trip to see you. If has a brain in his head he will!!!

Lauren ~ Is this the first time that you're mom has been back to the hospital since her surgery?

This is gonna be a short note as I have a little one that just walked into the room looking extremely guilty... hugs ~ Joan

Michelle: I just don't want to see you experience what my aunt and uncle did. It was actually worse than death. Very much so for their granddaughter.

YES shelia i agree if i ever lost her it would feel like death but im hoping jess will com to her senses and 1st give me gaurdianship(sp?) then i'll work towards adoption then its final

You are a very nice mom. At least you are giving her a chance. Your awesome

Good evening everyone....

Michelle and Kerry - I am so glad you "came foward" with the hubby throwing the weight in your face. I thought I was the only one and afraid to say anything. It's not like I don't know I'm fat...I'm not stupid. He says he just doesn't want to lose me to being obese, but being mean doesn't help. Sigh.

Michelle - I'm sorry I don't have any real advice on guardianship vs adoption, but it looks like you already are her guardian. What a big heart you have. And glad to hear about Angelica....what a little go-getter!!!

Joan - Sorry I didn't respond to the Accutane post. I just get too tired after work to write. Anyway, if you start feeling depressed or a bit crazy...let the doctor know ASAP. Also, keep some good moisturizing lip balms. Don't use carmex.....it just leads to more chapped lips and more carmex, a vicious cycle. I personally like Chapstick Moisturizing lip balm (dark blue tube). Just an opinion. You made me laugh on the diarrhea walls....what a picture!!!

Sheila - Any hope on getting that hubby to join you in therapy?? I know probably not, but....... All I can say from someone who has had marriage troubles for a while is hang in there. I know it's hurtful, but hopefully it can get better in time.:hug:

Lauren - Happy belated birthday. Hope you had a great day!!

MO - I agree with Sheila on the paycheck-paycheck thing. It's how I live. Kinda sucks....but at least have a cute house and can support yourself, right? My MIL has to work 2 jobs to support herself and she could only afford a manufactured home in a (for lack of a better term) trailer park. Not that there is anything wrong with that!!!!!! But it is just rough when you have to work 2 jobs and barely make ends meet.

Hanna - I really hope the new meds work for Sean....as I'm sure you know, these meds can make things worse. The Geodon really worked well for my DH's nephew. It seems to work really well for children. If you have any questions, just ask....you can PM me if you want.

Well, ladies and gents, I need some help.....As you might know, I am living with another family while I wait for my house to be sold. Therefore, I do not have a kitchen of my own or really any refrigerator space (Their kids eat all of my food). I am welcome to use anything in the kitchen, but she doesn't have a lot of pots, pans, etc. And it's just a foreign kitchen if you know what I mean. So, I eat out (ie fast food) ALOT. I am sick of it. My stomach turns at the thought of any more damn take out. I feel like crap and am sooooo sluggish. Any advice? Also, another problem is I am so tired when I work until 9PM, that buying food and cooking just seems impossible. I know I am just whining, but I need a solution before I turn into a big greasy hamburger.

Kerri

Lauren--REfresh my memory--did your mom have the bypass or the banding??? I had a patient about 6 weeks post op bypass that was hospitalized for the dehydration/vomiting and after he did the scope thingee and dilation she was better..I will say a prayer for her....

Mo--U have some great sayings...I have to use them and totally take credit:devil::devil:

Hi Ken and everyone else...
Really past my bedtime--Got word today that another nurse bit the dust and started FMLA so it just gets worse..I agreed to do 4-12's and then my 4 hour Thursday until it gets better--glutton for punishment but DD's speach is $150 a week out of pocket so it will help...
Hugs to everyone!! Welcome to the newbies!!
RR

Ugh, I wish I had more time to post.

RR, she had the bypass 4/24. This is the second time back in the hospital. First time was I think right before Memorial day, then the first or second week of June she had the stricture fixed. Now they're thinking more and more it's her gall bladder. She's got sludge in there that pumping into her liver, which is why the liver funtion was all out of whack. They said her gb is not working properly, so it'll probably come out. Apparently a common side affect of the surgery. She's had problems with her gb before though, so it shouldn't be a surprise. I think they're doing a Hep A work-up too. She's getting some broth down while in there and getting a constant IV, so that's good. She called me tonight before i got home and left a message that they came in and told her they're taking her for an MRI tonight. She, who is claustrophobic, said No You're Not! :lol: To be continued...

Thanks for the prayers and good thoughts all. Looks like she's gonna be there a few more days.

Kerri, where do you work? Can you buy some healthy foods and keep them in a fridge at work and eat before you go home? Even if it's Lean Cuisines or something like that.

Kerry, :welcome2:

Off to make a phone call and go to bed. :wave:

Thanks everyone for the warm welcome!
I did try to talk to my dh this evening about my issue of him throwing my weight problem in my face all the time when we fight. I told him that I have never thrown his disablity in his face whenever we have a fight. He was very sick when he was six months old and had a stroke from being dehydrated. So his right side is much shorter than his left side. His right hand and foot are curled in some. He listened to me and all he said was that no I haven't thrown his disablity in his face. But he has grown to ignore people who have made fun of him or made nasty comments towards him. Then he just walked right out of the room. Then fifteen minutes later he is asking me if I want to go over to our one friend's house with him to play cards this evening. I politely told him no that I have had a long day and wanted to stay home and relax. He was like okay that's fine. Then was all lovey dovey and acted like nothing ever happened this morning. Since I was the one who had to get up at 7:30 to make sure that his 11 year old daughter got ready to go with her friend for the day. Crawled back in bed after she was picked up, only for him to wake up and tell me that it was time to get up and face the day. Tried to fall asleep but him the 9 year old twin boys just couldn't think to let me have an hour of extra sleep. Then it was fighting by midmorning, do dishes, laundry and pick up after the kids, workout and do more laundry this evening. So now I am playing on the computer and enjoying the peace and quiet of the house. Sorry for my babbling there.
Lauren I will keep your mom in my thoughts and prayers while she is in the hospital. Hope she has a speedy recovery!
Roadrunner, hope your busy schedule will allow you a few moments of "me" time.
Michelle and Kerri, glad to know that I am not the only one with a spouse who throws the weight issue in my face all the time.
Hi to everyone else!
I need to go and read a few pages in my book before falling into bed here shortly. Have a great evening.
Chat with you all tomorrow.
Take care,
Kerry

Hanna ~ Big Brother In About 40 Minutes!...yippee...and By The Way (i Hope I Dont Offend Anyone).....i Cant Stand Jen!...and I Really Want Dick And Danielle To Stay To Work Out Their Relationship

Good Evening all, just a quick note because I just got home from both jobs and finished reading everyones post.

Mo, Before I got my 2 jobs, I was unemployed for 7 months. Luckily I had alimony coming in and I live w/ my parents. However that was only $600 (which paid my bills) a month. Long story short ~ I understand.

My ex-husband used to think he was "helping me" by telling me how "fat" I was. He thought it would be motivation for me to lose the weight. All it did was make me eat more of the wrong type of food.

Lauren, saying a prayer for your mom.

Okay all, night!

Lisa

HI everyone!
I have been just very busy, today we went back to the beach it was great, it is a great outlet for Sean, he does really well there.
I am exhausted, I definitely feel like I have done more than what I should have, but I really have no option, I have to take care of Sean, I am HURTING, BAAAD

Lauren I am so sorry about your mom, I am going to pray for her! :hug:

Sheila sorry things are this way, I hope the change soon :hug: I think about you all the time.

Michelle you are a great mom! the baby is very lucky

Newbies :welcome: :welcome2:

Christina I agree with you I can't stand Jen and I do hope Danielle and her father stay in the house!!!!

Kerri I will PM you later tonight, check your PM's tomorrow!

Hi Lisa!

I have not been by the computer at all, I have to read all the post tonight before I go to bed

:wave:

Hanna

Kerri ~ I read all of the info about the drug. I've been hesitant to go on it for quite some time but I'm to a point now where living with adult acne is *depressing* and I find myself withdrawing more and more. So, with that in mind, I feel like this is something that I really need to do. It is just soooooo embarrassing to have worse skin than my teenage nieces and nephews! Thanks for your help and I plan on PMing you if I have any questions. You are a dear! Joan

Hi all I'm new around here I have less then 4 months till I turn 30 so I hope you all don't mind if I'm here :)

I've had like the best day in I don't know how long. I found parking spot at work that didn't requier me moving my work truck. I finished my to do list for work and turned in nine tickets where I normally only have 4. No cheating on the diet second day in a row I feeling my body is coming around to the plan. I got back to my workout tonight after stopping for 3 weeks. An my team made team of the quarter yesterday so I got a small bonus. Today been a very good day.

An Kerri I find places like baja fresh to be a good choice when I'm not going to be home and such. I love Veggi tacos and everything is fresh nothing frozen or from a can. Boston Market is good to they normally have a fish dinner thats not fired.

If its got to be a buger joint I go with BK and get either a kids meal or a grilled tendercrip sandwich no mayo and side salad. I used to work for BK and out of everything there those are the healthest items.

Welcome John And Kerry And Anyone Else That I Missed....

Well Just A Quick Hello Cause Its Late And I Dont Know If Anyone Will Read This...

I Have Not Exercised In 3 Days!....so Unlike Me But To Be Honest I Feel Like I Needed A Little Break...so Tomorrow Morning I Am Back To It...getting On The Treadmill Before Work And See My Personal Trainer In The Afternoon...i Should Be Back On Track

Congrats To All That Have Lost Weight...and Keep Up The Great Work Everyone!....

Talk To You All Tomorrow

hello again!
Big John :welcome:

KEN I have to say I am very embarrassed when I asked how far were your from where I am at, for some weired reaso I thought that it was your initials, not your name and it may have looked really bad since I am a lady (very happily married!) and you are a gentleman. I hope I didn't make a full of myself trying to get together for lunch :blush::blush: and :blush:
I do have to say some of my dearest friends back home (Mexico city) are man!

Christina I am so happy they evicted Joe, and I am even happier that Evel is HOH!!! yeah!!!!

Leigh I hope you have wonderful relaxing night, enjoy your movie!

RR how are things with DH? any better?

Lauren I will keep your mom in my prayers!

I am going to bed, I am tired! I have not been able to sleep well, I called the Dr.'s office and the nurse talked to the Dr. and she said he said it is very common to have insomnia after hysterectomy the suggested Tylenol pm, I remember reading a couple of suggestions on a sleeping aid, I can't find the post and I can't remember what it was, if you don't mind can you tell me again the name of the aid???? thanks!

GG I hope your move is going smooth! :hug:

Hanna