40-Somethings - Whose body is this? Dieting in Pre Menopause mode

06-21-2007, 10:22 AM
I donít know my own body anymore. Peri Menopause is certainly doing a number on me. My periods are irregular, plus I have fibroids and cysts that are being surgically addressed in August.

I used to know exactly when I was PMS and so understood my cravings and upped my protein accordingly. I could expect to lose 3-4 pounds afterward providing I ate healthfully during. Now, itís late or early, lasts 2 days or 10. And shall I mention hot flashes and cramps? Itís been so long since I was food conscious for more than 2 cycles. I hope to be up to the task.

Itís a challenge! Anyone else struggling with this?

06-21-2007, 10:42 AM
i hate this 47 year old body. I feel so betrayed. I have no idea when i'm going to get a period i get it when it feels like it.

i hold on to water
i hold on to fat
i ache
I HATE it.

:hug: i hear your pain.

06-21-2007, 10:50 AM
Oh yeah. I hate it too. My boobs are HUGE! :o Water weight? Are you kidding me? And mood swings, Good Lord! I'm going to have to find a better way of dealing with it than chips and ice cream!

Hopefully, we (my body and I) will come to an understanding!

06-21-2007, 09:58 PM
Ah yes. I haven't had an actual period since April but I've certainly had times of weird fluid retention, cramps, sore legs, 2 lbs up, two lbs down ... None of which make any sense.

06-25-2007, 05:52 PM
I'll be 42 next month and went thru menapause over night on my 40th bday. Well I had hot flashes & night sweats for a month. Plus a 6 month old baby!
No warning signs that it was coming. My body does hold on to fat (thus the reason I'm on this board)...went from 135 to about 190 after the birth of the kids, and in the last few years it's creeped up to 222, an all time high.
My belly fat makes me sick, the mood swings, all the signs.
It's a relief to meet others in the same situation!

06-26-2007, 01:43 PM
Ha! I had to laugh when I read your post, hopingtobehopeful - I can certainly relate! Especially to the whole thing about not knowing when your period will arrive or how long it will last - what a collosal pain. And no one really talks about it, so I was unprepared when it happened (mother and grandmother each had a hysterectomy). I had been blaming my weight gain on perimenopausal changes, but then after doing research I could not find anything that linked the two. So I finally realized I just wasn't trying hard enough - now, 3 months later, I've lost 20 lbs and gained a fair amount of muscle. I must say - being in better shape sure makes you feel better about getting older!

So hang in there - if I can do it, I think just about anyone can!

06-26-2007, 04:12 PM
Thanks 47yo! Good to hear. And yes, I believe it's not an impossible task, maybe just a little harder. But I am done using it as an excuse and will get this gracefully aging and hopefully shrinking body in gear!

But please, zits and hot flashes? :devil:

06-26-2007, 04:36 PM
Not going through menopause yet, but I agree with your comment. I really should be done with zits! Not as bad as those teenage years, but it shouldn't be here at all. Sigh!!

06-27-2007, 12:52 PM
Yeah...zits, cramps and hot flashes - Blech!!!

06-27-2007, 01:37 PM
zits and gray hair and hot flashes and age spots...

middle age stinks...

06-27-2007, 02:59 PM
BUT........remember the line from "Fried Green Tomatoes" when the car full of skinny-twenty somethings cut Kathy Bates off in a parking lot? "Girls, I'm older than you and have better insurance."

My biggest peri-problem is mood swings. And, for me, mood swings were only resolvable through chips and ice cream. Now I am trying to find new ways...a walk, yelling at my boss - things like that :dizzy:

Meanwhile - off to buy some Clearasil for my face and Vit B for my moods!

06-27-2007, 03:03 PM
you know I found when i went to healthier eating (whole grains, no sugar, no white potatoes, no wheat) and drinking a lot of water my mood swings improved. life got easier... more stable. of course it could all be in my head.

06-27-2007, 03:10 PM
I found a yogurt on a stick thing that's pretty good. Only 40 cals and I haven't been for ice cream since early last week.

06-27-2007, 03:51 PM
Yes, I agree with you gals. Staying off the white stuff - processed wheat, sugar - does help the moods. It also helps the water-weight. And I've had frozen-yogurt-things on-a-stick (not the brand name!) They are good.

It's that Catch-22 thing. When I feel better, I'll eat healthier. But wait! I need to eat healthier to fell better. :dizzy:

We are strong women! Even if we are cranky!

06-27-2007, 09:06 PM
Do any of you take any vitamins or prescriptions for any of the cravings, mood swings, all the other symptoms? I have an appt with a doctor in about a month. It will be my first time to really ask some questions. the other doctors I'd seen dismissed my being in menapause, said I was too young, and of course had a 6 mo old baby ...but I joke that I haven't had a period since before the baby was born. He is THREE. So now that we've moved and are in a new state / new doctor I want to make sure I ask all the right questions. I feel like when I see Sally Field or those others on TV that I should be taking something. You know that commercial for .knowmenaupse?
But I'm not taking anything at all, and my mood swings are awful! YES the icecream helps. Anything cold. Rootbeer over crushed ice is my weakness.

06-28-2007, 12:58 AM
I take a multivitamin and calcium which has been OK'd by my doc. I just like to cover my bases. I'm not sure I'm doing anything special just because I'm perimenopausal. Remember thinking you'd have years and years of periods forever? This too shall pass.

06-28-2007, 11:02 AM
Good morning ladies! I also take a multivitamin and calcium. In addition to that I take B-50, which is additional B vitamins. My GYN thinks it's fine and I think it helps with mood-swings and menopausal migraines.

2B - Definitely talk to your GYN about the missed periods. And don't let anyone scoot you out of the office until you get all your answers. I wrote down a list of questions for my doctor. I also kept a small diary of my symptoms - mood swings, periods, headaches. Nothing fancy, just little symbols on a calendar to help me see if there was a cycle involved. If nothing else, it showed my doctor I am serious about taking care of myself.

Oh and lately, the chart helps me track my mood swings so I can examine how I'm feeling before I eat the ice cream. I find it easier to think, "Oh, this is hormonal." And then eat fruit and nuts instead.

We have to advocate for ourselves at this age! :carrot:

07-02-2007, 08:28 PM
Hi all. I'm going through the dread PM (peri-menopause) too. My cycle has been crazy for the last few years. One day I'm bloated and cranky and can't pee worth a darn, the next day Aunt Flo comes calling, the day after I need some special attention, then the cycle starts again. Then nothing for weeks. Then Aunt Flo visits every other day for several months.

Like I said, it's crazy.

07-03-2007, 11:14 AM
Marlu - No kidding, huh? I had my period twice in June and it lasted for 10 days each! Ridiculous!

Gotta run but I'll check back in! Hope

07-03-2007, 04:17 PM
This thread is so great! My whole life seems to be ruled by menopause these days. I have hot flashes and night sweats and cravings. I went three months without a period and even bought a pregnancy test (husband is "fixed" but sometimes they repair themselves when no one is looking ;) )

Now, it seems I can't go three weeks or sometimes one week between periods. How fun!

My doctor did a blood test and said the levels were post-menopausal.

I don't want to take estrogen therapy but I would like to find something to tame the hot flashes. I can't sleep most of the night and so I sleep late and feel very unproductive!

07-03-2007, 05:02 PM
Hi Wiffle,

No sleep is very bad! I don't want to do estrogen either but the night sweats are killing me too. I started taking Melatonin (vitamin section) and that seems to help with the sleep. Next week, I'm going to a naturalist for herbal solutions. I'lll let you know how it goes.

Meanwhile, anyone have something that works for hot flashes?

I've been told weight loss helps!

07-03-2007, 05:44 PM
This group is great! Thanks for some really good advice and some laughs. I don't know if this will help with the hot flashes, but I have been sleeping without anything on (I mean nothing on) and that has helped with the night sweats. Our boys are away at college so I can throw the covers off if I need to. I had to stop going into the hot tub at night or even bathing at night because that would bring one on. I have kept ice packs by the bed and lay one on my chest before I go to sleep. Right now Aunt Flo has been visiting for 11 days and she has overstayed her welcome. For birthdays and holidays I ask for gift certificates to a local day spa for massages. Knowing I am getting a massage has helped with my mood swings too.

07-03-2007, 09:37 PM

I am going to a new doctor on Thrusday morning. I am going to take all my medications along with notes so I don't forget what I went to talk about. I want someone who will look at the big picture, healthwise, rather than adding something new for every complaint.

I have heard that blood pressure meds may work for hot flashes. I have also had awful migraines that are hormonal, and those can be improved by blood pressure meds, so I have some. But I have almost every migraine medicine on the face of the earth. I take thyroid meds too. I feel loaded up with prescription drugs.

I do not want to take estrogen, nor do I want to take anti-depressants (something that a doctor seemed to want to give me recently). I'm 42 and I really don't want a daily pill case to keep track of it all quite yet.

Now herbs and supplements - I can be all over that! I didn't think of melatonin. I have read that evening primrose may help. I know that these can also have dangers and side effects but I prefer this route to so many prescriptions.

Regarding sleeping naked, I worry about intruders, if you can believe that. :lol:

07-04-2007, 11:12 PM
I'm lucky my hot flashes & Night sweats just lasted such a short period time. It was on my 40th birthday, and I seriously forget how old I am. This month I will be 42. So I've been "post" menapause for 2 yrs. I did see one doctor who did blood work over a year ago to confirm "post", but nobody wants to give me anything, and i feel like I should be taking SOMETHING other than my vitamins.
I love the idea of tracking the mood swings. But since I don't have a period, or hot flashes, I don't know what other signs to track other than the mood swings , okay so I can track that craving for CHOCOLATE.
It's good to meet others in their 40s and going thru this, although some of you have teenagers, I'm still running around with a 3 and 5 yr old.
It is exhausting!!! Not that being a mom to kids of any age isn't exhausting!
I can't wait for my appt to see what they say. May I ask about the estrogen and why nobody wants to take it? Is it a bad thing?

07-05-2007, 10:30 AM
Hi everyone!

Wiffle - I too suffer from hormonal migraines and take Atenolol (blood pressure med) to help. I don't take prescription pain killers and when I get a migraine that won't quit, I just call it a day. I also take B-50 (B vitamins) and have not, I repeat, not had a migraine since I started that! Like a little miracle!

I'm not big on collecting daily prescriptions either, but I take Synthroid for thyroid, Atenolol and a low dose Prozac so I won't kill anyone! I resisted this for a long time, but finally gave in and it does seem to help. 20 mgs a day which is pretty low. I am my mother's caretaker (Parkinsons) and work full time at a new job. I also just moved to this area to help Mom, so things have been a little nutty for me. I decided that this was the best course of action.

I'm glad you're off to the doctor with notes. We must be proactive with our medicare care. The days of Dr. Welby are gone and it's now up to us to supply all the info Dr's need to help us. Good luck! and keep us updated.

Tobethin - There is a link between estrogen use and breast cancer and endometrial cancer. Still controversial, but I prefer to put it off as long as I can! Google it for more info. ;)


07-05-2007, 02:48 PM
Hope - it's good to meet someone else on synthroid!
Thanks for the info about estrogen.
I guess I worry about osteoporosis (sp?) and wonder if I'm getting enough of whatever.

07-05-2007, 03:46 PM
Hey 2B - Calcium, Calcium, Calcium. I have 2 yogurts a day and milk in my coffee. If you are doing the no dairy thing, a calcium supplement is definitely called for. Also, TUms have calcium, but you have to remember to take them. Just be careful not to take calcium supplements with Synthroid, as they don't work together. I take Synthroid in the morning an hour before I eat (I drink coffee for an hour before ANYTHING else can happen, including breakfast!) and my B-50 and multi vitamin w/calcium at dinner.

Let's build us some strong bones!

07-05-2007, 03:48 PM
Hey SACS - How's the Alli working out?

07-05-2007, 09:48 PM
Hi Hopingtobehopeful-The alli is going great. 7 pounds in two weeks and some of those days I didn't take it because I went out of town for a wedding and yesterday was the Fourth of July. Now my life has settled back down and I will be able to take it on a regular basis. It is really making me rethink about just tearing into those chips or slathering my salad in dressing. I have had no treatment effects. I am going to continue with it. The thread for those using alli is really helpful too.

07-10-2007, 05:29 PM
I'm happy to see that I'm not the only one who went into menopause at 40. All my friends were close to or over 50. Of course I also seem to be the happiest about it. When I was younger I wondered how I would deal with the loss of fertility. Would I feel like less of a woman or what? Now that it's here, I find myself relaxed and happy about it. I have 4 kids. I do not want any more. I do not want to be pregnant, I do miss nursing the the babies, but not enough to have one.

It would be nice if my body responded to exercise and diet like it did in my 20's though. I miss that part.

Hermit Girl
07-24-2007, 11:05 AM
Ooops, sorry, I meant to start a new thread, but accidentally replied to this one.