Erin, finding the "right" way, like CyberGypsy mentioned, means different things to different people. We all have different tastes, needs and wants, so naturally the plan that we pick will differ.
I think most people here at 3FC look at weightloss as something that they will have to keep at forever and ever. They also look at it as to how they can get the optimal health benefits from their chosen "diet". Therefore we try and choose a plan that we can indeed live with forever and ever. Because what usually happens with these fad type diets is once you lose the weight that you want to and get to your goal, you stop the diet. That's where the trouble usually begins. You wind up going back to your old ways before too long and the weight comes roaring back on.
Many of us here have tried to look at this as a whole new lifestyle. A whole new way of LIFE. Which usually means cutting back on portions and mostly eliminating junk food. Of course leaving room for the occasional treats. It also means ADDING in lots of good nutritious foods, like low fat proteins such as chicken breast, fish, low fat cheeses and yogurts and vegetables, fruits, whole grains and the such. So instead of ending our "diets" when we get to our goal weight, we plan to continue them - forever and ever, thus keeping the weight off. Exercise IMO is also vital to a healthy lifestyle and permanent weightloss. And somewhere amongst the journey control and discipline is learned. Along with a host of other good and healthy habits that will stay with us - for life.
You might want to check out some of the various "diet" forums here at 3FC for ideas. There's also a section on "Diet" book reviews you may find helpful. Lots of people like to come up with their own plan, taking a little bit from here and a little bit from there. Whatever you decide, we're all here to support you. Good luck.