Weight Loss Support - How old do you LOOK???
04-24-2007, 03:55 AM
I get a little depressed because I know I look older than my age. I am 31. I was 330lbs but I have gotten down to 279. I am trying different things with my hair and etc... I know in the past, people probably easily mistook me for about 40. They would ask me if my younger sister, who is 8 years younger was my daughter...she looks younger so they still were asking if I had a TEENAGE daughter. Anywho, I am thinking I might have taken some age of with the 50 pounds and new hair do. I used to look real matronly and frumpy. I didnt really care how I looked. So, I have another 100lbs to go. I am hoping to get some more youth back!
Question: At your heavest (please state the pounds) how old do you think (or were told) you looked and now after weight loss do you see any change in that??
Any info would help. I need some encouragement! Thanks for all replies!:^:
04-24-2007, 06:33 AM
I always have tended to look younger, but with the weight I did "look my age." Now that I have lost 30+ pounds, I do look younger again, I think--especially in my face. However, because I'm older than you are by many years, I do have some sagging. That's OK with me, because the great thing is that all this exercise along with the weight loss has made me I FEEL younger! I can do things I wasn't able to do for years.
Congratulations on your weight loss! :cb: :cb: :cb:
04-24-2007, 06:34 AM
At my heaviest I was about 266lbs. I'm now 208. I think I used to look well into my 50s (I'm now 46) but now everyone always comments on how young I look. Recently someone thought I was 38! Losing the weight that I have (although I obviously have a long way to go) has given me the confidence to go back to the blonde hair I used to have. I've also been able to buy more trendy clothes,( I was a uk 30 but now am 20...even an 18 in some shops) so that's helped.
I also believe fat is like a wee botox treatment! People comment on how young my face looks and what good skin I have. I think its all the fat that is filling it out where the wrinkles should be! I honestly worry that when I lose the rest of the weight I want to my face will really age when the fat disappears! Who wants to be thin but look like an old hag? lol.
04-24-2007, 08:27 AM
At over 250 pounds, I was in my 20's to 30's and looked like I was in my 40's. I'll be 42 next month, and since losing weight, people constantly think I'm my 22 yo daughter's sister. Had one lady comment that I couldn't be more than 25. :D :D :D
04-24-2007, 08:36 AM
I'm not sure how I look--I guess it depends on the day :p I find that peopl eI work with in the office tend to think I'm older than I am (I'm only 24), but that may just have to do with my professionalism and maturity. When I was 21 and working at a movie theater part time, I had a customer complaining to me about the violence in a R-rated movie, but she added offhandedly at the end that I "wouldn't know anything about that" since I wasn't old enough to watch them anyway! :dizzy:
04-24-2007, 08:52 AM
I have always looked younger than I am. When I lost my weight the first time, I always got "Wow you don't look that old!" when people looked at my license. Gained the weight back over a period of time and never heard that again. Now that I've lost some weight again, I am starting to get that again from waiters when I go out to eat and order a drink. Its funny because they don't bother carding my husband when he orders but then I do and they're all "Can I see your id...?" He is 28 and I'm pretty close to turning 27. :)
04-24-2007, 09:02 AM
At my heaviest several years ago I was 23 and 245lbs, and was told I looked25 ish. When I started my weight loss journey this time I was 231 at the start and was 26 yrs old. I guess I looked older because I wasn't getting asked for ID whenever we'd go out. Now, I've had a birthday and lost 30 lbs and I got asked for my ID when I was with my friend who was buying cigarettes. I was just standing there behind him and the clerk wouldn't sell to him unless I could prove I was old enough too, even though they were for him and we were both way old enough. :) So, I'm guessing I don't look old enough to smoke.
04-24-2007, 09:20 AM
At my heaviest, I was always told I looked younger than I am. I remember when I was 25 (360 lbs), I got carded for a lottery ticket. I would always get carded when I bought alcohol and such. Generally, people always guessed me a few years younger. Now that I've lost weight, I think I'm starting to look my age or older than my age. I don't know. I'm 31 and I think I look it.
04-24-2007, 09:36 AM
I don't think my "age" has changed any with weight gain or weight loss. Kinda sad to have to say that. But usually when people have to guess my age, they usually are right there in the age range. I am 34 and I guess i look it. But, i think i look younger as my face gets skinnier. so, i guess that's all that really matters anyways. :-)
04-24-2007, 09:42 AM
I am 40. Last year, at 259 lbs. everyone would guess my age at about 32 to 35. Now that I have lost 115 lbs. I look more my age and people guess my age at about 38 to 40.
04-24-2007, 09:44 AM
There's a women who goes to our church that I always assumed was about my age. She's lost loads of weight and when I see her now ... I'm pretty sure she's only in her mid 30's. Big difference for her and it's in her face.
04-24-2007, 09:48 AM
I've always been told I look younger then I am. I'm 43. When I was at my heaviest, 287lbs. almost 9 months ago, I don't even think then I looked my age. I definitely have a "baby face". But since I've lost the weight I think I look a few years younger. In the past 2 weeks, I've had 3 different acquaintances actually tell me that they thought I was one of my daughters upon first seeing me. Haha. They're 19, 17, &15. (Wonder which one they met). Actually it's my 17 year old. She resembles me a lot and people have always told me this, now they tell me she really, REALLY resembles me. That we're dead ringers for one another. The other day I also ran into someone and we got to discussing age and weightloss, she could not believe I was 43. But nowadays, what is 43 SUPPOSED to look like?
RoyalAthena congratulations on your weightloss. You must be so proud of yourself. Keep up the great work!!!
04-24-2007, 10:45 AM
Think I'm going the other way . . . always looked younger than I am . . . now as I lose weight, the wrinkles are showing up more and the double chin is turning into turkey wattles . . . :(
04-24-2007, 11:02 AM
At my heaviest weight of 234 lbs. I looked to be in my late 50's. I get comments all the time now, that I look Way younger. I had a man recently tell me that I don't look old enough to have a 14 yr. old DD. He was shocked when I said I also have a 21 yr. old son. He said "you must have started having babies very young, I think you are only in your 30's". HaHa, I'm 47 and a grandmother now. When I posted my pic's on here, many, many told me that I now look 10-20 yrs. younger. Oh boy, do I FEEL younger!
I honestly can't say... People often mistake me for being 8-10 years younger than I am (a couple of deliverymen have even asked me "where is your mother? She ordered this" when I opened the door XD) but I'm not sure if at this stage, the weight really mattered. I got such remarks at 75-76 kgs as well as now (65ish) so it may just be that I look younger. Not that it's so exceptional at my age. Now, if this goes on when I'm 40, I think this will be something to talk about. ;)
Maybe it depends on the type of faces, too. I've seen people who looked older than their age at their heaviest weights, and others who looked younger (because of a rounder face?).
You know what, does this *ever* have an end? Once we're all at goal, we will *still* be bothered by that age stuff. Being a woman is definitely hard! :lol:
I'll be 39 in June and I've always had people thinking I'm younger than I am, usually by around 10 years (DH's age). Since gaining weight I got less compliments all the way around, including in the age department. I think being overweight made me look more frumpy, my clothes definitely had to be more frumpy and consequently it made me look older. Often youth have more fat in certain areas and less in others (e.g. less in the waist and more in the butt) so I think by slimming down my waist, which gives me far better proportions, I look a lot better and consequently younger.
04-24-2007, 12:16 PM
I have always looked younger than my age. When I was 18, people thought I was 14. When I was 26, people thought I was 19. When I was in my 30's, they thought I was in my 20's. And now, I'll be 44 this summer... most people guess I'm about 36 or so.
I jokingly refer to it as A CURSE, because 'younger men have always been attracted to me' - which wasn't so bad when I was in my late 20's/early 30's... but when I was 18.... and the 13 year olds were after me.... it was kinda bad! ;) :rofl:
Of course, I'm afraid that one day, all the years will "catch up to me" & I'll look my age (or worse!) overnight... I'll go to bed looking 38 or 40 & wake up looking 50. E-gads... the thought of it is enough to make me wanna run out & buy some facial cream!
I don't really look older when I'm chubby. I still look younger. I think it's because my face is so round & it fills out more, and I get that "cherub" look. Or, as my 1st husband used to say "MoonPie Face". :rolleyes: :dizzy:
04-24-2007, 04:32 PM
people are just about right when they try and guess my age, but most of the time they think im older and i have notice from past pictures when i was thinner i looked much younger. i guess weight makes you look older in most cases.
04-24-2007, 04:36 PM
People always think I look younger than I am (47). I don't really know what a 47 year old should look or feel like but I definitely don't feel it. When they find out the ages of my kids they are shocked, they can't believe that I have a 26 year old. Definitely makes me feel good! :D
04-24-2007, 04:50 PM
I've always looked younger, too. Several years ago, we were camping and a group from another campsite came over for a visit. The were commenting about the fact that I go up there by myself and set up camp. Then I remarked that I'm 62. They thought I was around 40! Oh, I'm still 62. I've been 62 for a few years now because I love having people tell me how good I look.
I was carded when I was 35 and again at 38.
Even with 200 lbs, I looked younger. Thank you God for that set of genes from my dad's side of the family. I'll let you know how it goes this year when we go camping.
04-24-2007, 07:09 PM
I'm 16 and I've been told that I look 23 by a hairdresser once.
Usually I get told around 18 or so? That's by people outside of school.
04-24-2007, 07:12 PM
Thanks for all your responses! You know, after some thought, I realize it is a matter of perception. One lady, a couple of years ago thought I was 19...someone else thought I had a teenege daughter lol. I guess some people automatically access an age to fat people. Anyway, like I said I am 279 now. If I were "only" 200, I probably wouldnt ask the question. At that point my face would thin out but now...being fat with a double chin...I am self conscious.:^:
Thanks everyone for putting everything into perspective! :hug:
04-24-2007, 07:45 PM
Before I started losing weight (41) I think I looked around 50 or more. After a couple of years of losing weight people were telling me I looked 10 years younger, then I got a new hairdo and people told me I looked 10 years younger after that! So, if I start at my 50+ years and take off those 20, I suppose that would put me in my early 30s. I'm currently 45 and kinda figure that I could look that age, but I honestly have no idea really. I am definitely not good at guessing people's ages. I think that behaviour plays a huge part in things as well. When I was at my largest (353lbs) I was very lethargic and sedentary, whereas now (165 - 175, depending on the time of month!) I am far more energetic and active and outgoing, so that could contribute to the 'age' that people attribute to others as well.
Hey, do you think that if I keep changing things I could lose ANOTHER 10 years. I could handle looking about 25!
Great answer Zelma! I think a lot of it has to do with attitude also. But at my heaviest (around 185 on a 5'3" frame) I think I looked around 50 when I was in my early forties. Now at 122 pounds, I dress a lot better, take better care of myself in general, and most people guess my age in the early to mid forties. I'm 52. You can see the difference here (http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=84757).
04-24-2007, 09:37 PM
I have always looked younger than I am.. heavy or not.. right now I get 21-23 and I am knocking heavily on 26's door :) Women in my family age verrrry gracefully though.. thank goodness.. wonder if it was all the facials with my mother when I was a teenager? My mom is 50 and you wouldnt dare tell her she looked more than 40 and mean it. My mom lived in the gym for years though.. and she really didnt start to age until she quit. ::shrugs:: Im betting it has alot to do with blood flow the reason the youthful glow throws everyone off?
04-24-2007, 10:26 PM
The more I lose the younger I look. I'm guessing I still look around 35 (I'll be 30 next month). When I was younger though (19-20) I was mistaken for my now ex-husbands mother.... pretty depressing, although I did dress pretty frumpy. I unfortunately am not growing old as gracefully as my mother who could still pass as my sister. Some girls have all the luck!!!
04-24-2007, 10:31 PM
I have always been one to be mistaken for younger than I am..Occasionally I will ask people why they think I am a teenager, and they smile and say something along the lines of "Well it's your baby pudge!!" I never get offended by that LOL.
I always thought that a little more meat on a lady made her look younger, as the fat in the face reduces the visibility of wrinkles.
04-25-2007, 05:16 AM
The bigger I am the older people think I am and the younger the treat me, like a silly child. The smaller I become the younger "they" think I am and the more I am treated like capable adult.
I think style has a lot to do with how old we look too. If we have a nice hairstyle, color our hair if it grays, and wear stylish clothes and make-up (I wear very little but generally always when going anywhere except outside to walk the dog on the block), that regimen in itself takes years off right there. Nowadays 45 is the new 35 and 35 is the new 25. People just seem to look younger these days.
But with weight, it seems like either it fills out the wrinkles in someone's face yet on the other hand its harder to keep weight off as we age so its also more of a sign of youthfulness to be slimmer.
04-25-2007, 08:06 AM
I have to remember to smile. It tightens up some of that saggin'.
In the US people always thought I was younger. It definitely is in the way I dress. I´m usually in some variation of my work outfit (not the Lara one) of jeans, tee shirt, and work boots. And for someone a year away from their Ph.D. I am especially immature. I´m 27.
Here, everyone assumes I`m older and a mother since I`m fat. But also in the way that I dress. Since I`m not out with a tight tee shirt exposing my glistening rolls, a tiny bra which gives me quadra boob but exposes my fat cleavage, and a mini skirt to show off my jiggly thighs, people just assume that I`m older.
By the way, that is the description of a girl that just passed in front of the internet cafe. I mean, good for her to have that confidence, but wow.
04-25-2007, 12:33 PM
Hmmmm. Definitely time for the Lara outfit... ;)
04-25-2007, 04:54 PM
For most of my life people have assumed I am younger than I am. I think it's mainly because I'm so small plus I have really, really good genes from my mom. She's almost 70 but looks 50. I'm 46 and have 3 gray hairs.
When I was heavy, I didn't get the young comments. Now that I'm small again, I'm getting them. Even though I have wrinkles now from having my skin stretched over my puffy big checks.
04-25-2007, 05:15 PM
I've always looked younger than I am. At this point, I think most people think that I am 5 to 10 years younger than I actually am (I'm 38). It doesn't really have anything to do with my weight, however; I get it from my mom. On one of her first dates with my dad, she couldn't get into a bar they were trying to go to because she had forgotten her ID. She was 31; the drinking age was 18. She looked like she was in her late teens well into her 30's, even after having two kids.
As I've lost weight, I think I look older. I notice some fine lines around my mouth that I didn't notice before. But everyone else tells me it is in my imagination.
Interestingly, when people that haven't seen us for a while see the two of us together, they often think that I am my sister and she is me. She is 2 years younger than me, but she's taller by several inches. I think they assume the taller sister must be the older one.