100 lb. Club - What was your "OH SH**!" moment?

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04-04-2007, 02:12 PM
Hi All!

I know that SOMEWHERE awhile back we talked about our defining moment when we said, "OH SH**! I'm so FAT! Gotta DO something about that!" I was thinking that since we have SO MANY new members that it might be worthwhile talking about that defining moment once again.

Here's mine:

I took in my Christmas photos (Christmas 1999) to be developed and anxiously waited the hour for them to be ready. When I opened the package and looked at this one photo of myself in particular, I was TOTALLY disgusted by what I saw! I had a HUGE double chin and a very round face. Even my hands looked particularly pudgy to me for the first time. My fingers looked like breakfast sausages! My snowman fleece was a 3X and, until that moment I really did think that it hid any fat that I had! (How did I NOT know that a fleece top doesn't cover your FACE or your CHIN or your HANDS?!!!:( )

Anyway, at that moment I realized that pictures don't lie! No matter how I FELT, the picture told me I was FAT, FAT, FAT and was NOT doing a very good job of hiding that fact from anyone! It was time to LOSE THE WEIGHT!!

Anyone else remember YOUR defining moment?


04-04-2007, 02:27 PM
I've posted mine a few times, but I don't mind posting it again! I had gone to see a movie and went to the ladies room. I sat down and cut the outside of my thigh on a sharp-edged, metal trash receptacle that was next to the toilet. I realized a normal person's thigh wouldn't touch the trashcan, mine touched because it was so big. I sat on the toilet and tried to stop the bleeding and cried, because I realized that I was too fat for a normal bathroom stall. I changed my life within the week.

04-04-2007, 02:45 PM
Mine was in December of 2006. Although I had tried off and on to lose weight, I was on my couch, halfway laying down, but on my side. I realized I didn't have room for my cat to lay beside me. When I went to "suck it in", it didn't go very far. The next day I weighed myself and realized that, at 281, I was only 14 pounds from my highest weight ever, when I was 9 months pregnant with my son. The big difference was that when I delivered him (almost a 10 pound baby!), I lost 30 pounds in a couple of weeks. This time I wasn't pregnant, so nothing was going to go away unless I made some changes.
Don't even talk to me about photos of myself!!!

04-04-2007, 02:55 PM
There never really was a moment like that for me. I've always known I was fat and I tried to lose weight but I always just gave up. Then, I'd be dissapointed in my lack of will-power and vow to start again next Monday. One day I just got sick of it and I just did it, and forced myself to keep going.

04-04-2007, 03:21 PM
ok mine is that i can barely fit into the seatbelts on the jumpseats on the airplanes...
now they arent NEARLY as big as they are in the passengers seats but are much smaller on the jumpseat and i relized wow...
im fat...
so here i am

04-04-2007, 03:49 PM
After my third medicated TTC (Trying to conceive) cycle and I wasn't pregnant, I realized finally (although I had been told all along) that my weight was at least partially responsible for my not being able to get pregnant. I thought "It's TIME!!!" and here I am 7 months later!

Goddess Jessica
04-04-2007, 04:17 PM
The Drop Zone, King's Island in Cincinnati Ohio

Waiting in line with my sister's boyfriend for like an hour, getting on the ride and watching the attendant pushing his entire weight against the cage to try to get it closed. Finally, he stopped and shook his head and said, "Sorry. You can't ride." Wow. Totally humiliating. My sister's boyfriend rode it without me looking at me pitifully.

It wasn't that I suddenly realized I was fat - I suddenly realized that it was holding me back.

04-04-2007, 04:17 PM
I've always known I was fat. I got up to 200 pounds when I was 14 and thus began a LOT of yo-yoing.

My most recent, though, was seeing my graduation pictures from last May... I have a double chin in all of them.... and the hideous picture of the hideous dress I was wearing under my robe where I was putting my FAT JIGGLY arm on my dad's shoulder... yeah, foul. That's definitely going to be one of my "before" pics.

But the one that REALLY resonates with me is not one that has anything to do with appearances. It was a few months ago.. I took my girlfriend out to a nice dinner. On the way back to the car we had to walk up a REALLY steep hill. She was walking so fast and I was... panting, sweaty, gross.. despite the fact that I"d always prided myself on being a fat chick in decent shape. I was so embarrassed and ashamed of myself... and I knew I had to change something, and so I did. :)

04-04-2007, 04:43 PM
Mine moment of realization came after seeing pictures of myself this last Christmas. Although I was trying to hide my blubber behind my daughter, it was very obvious that I was fat, fat, fat!

04-04-2007, 05:24 PM
Aside from the fear of future health problems, I just got to a point where I was no longer comfortable in my own skin. I've always been big, but I'd always been alright with it. But not at this weight. And I don't want to just lose enough to where I feel comfortable again. I want to be the healthiest I can possibly be.

04-04-2007, 05:53 PM
Mine was a family trip to Disneyworld. I just couldnt keep up...I was exhausted by midday, my feet were aching and my ankles were very very swollen...and, I was too afraid to get on a lot of the rides because I didnt feel like the restraints were truly safe for larger people like me....I just didnt feel secured on the tiny molded seats. I'm happy to say that my next Disney trip was much much better...after only a few weeks of working out and losing approximately 15 or so pounds..I had a ton of stamina and really enjoyed the trip.

04-04-2007, 06:53 PM
Mine was a series of photos taken at my farewell happy hour ... and the realization that I could use one bra cup as a hat.

*edit: these were two separate instances.

04-04-2007, 07:30 PM
Phantastica: Sorry, I know you are sharing your pain as we all are in this thread, but OMG that's funny. I've been reading this from work and just had to laugh. :rofl: :lol: :lol3:

04-04-2007, 08:09 PM
I don't remember if I posted the last time, or if I did, what I wrote, but I've had time to think more about this over the last few weeks.

I don't think there was one given thing that has snapped me into shape this time. I've always been fat, and then obese, lost most of the weight once to put it back on a few years later and then some. I married the love of my life, who was also overweight. The thing is that my husband has really packed on the pounds since we've been married. In our nine years of marriage, I have gone up one size to a 26/28. The husband had to rent a scooter the last time we were in Florida at Seaworld because he couldn't handle the walking without his back killing him.

I think the more I have watched him and watched how little he is able to do with our kids has made a huge impact on me. I can't do a lot with them either, as far as bicycling with them, etc, but I knew I never wanted to get to the point of not being able to walk through a theme park; not being able to fit in some rides was bad enough. I also turned 40 last year and really thought about getting to the end of my life one day, and then thinking about all the things I never did because of my weight. It was just more than I could bear.

04-04-2007, 08:18 PM
Mine was actually stepping on the scales and seeing 346 on them. I had avoided weighing for about 12 years. I knew I was "a little overweight", but I was in complete denial as to how fat I was. I was still seeing myself as I had looked 150 lbs before.

04-04-2007, 10:07 PM
Mine was just a couple weeks ago, right before I started this diet/new healthier eating plan... I had to get weighed at the doctors', and the scale hit 297. I'd always vowed to never be 300 pounds and here I was just 3 pounds away from it. It was a huge wake-up call, and I vowed then & there to start eating healthier.

Inspire Me
04-04-2007, 10:39 PM
So there have been many flashes that I got over the years.

1. Photo's "What I can't believe that's me" moments.
2. Sitting at a hockey game and my hubby and I couldn't sit side by side we took up to much room and it was very uncomfortable.
3. Airline seats. Boy..I was going to say they are so small but really I am too big.
4. My bed. I grew up into my early 20's in a twin and it was fine. I got married and a double or queen isn't big enough we needed a king.
5. Snoring enough said
6. I agree with the bathroom stall that one was brutal for me too.
7. Walking up and down the stairs huff and puff.
I have always been big and have learned how to deal with it but when I started huffing and puffing this started to worry me.
8. I tried The Biggest Loser workout 1 and they did jumping jacks. My stomach was flopping actually flopping and I was mortified.
9. My bath. I love baths and I fill up the tub and put my feet flat toward the drain and let the warmth sooth me. What's this there are 2 babby hippo's popping out of the water there must be something wrong. I check the water level and yep it's as high as it can go. What a sad moment that was for me.

So do you think I get the clue. You bet and that's why I am taking this journey with you. Thank's for this post I have enjoyed it and I am sure there are many other Oh....moments.

04-04-2007, 11:05 PM
I've written this before on several threads with similar themes. But here goes.

For me it was several moments.

- I was walking in the mall, barely walking at that, and I passed a dark store front and saw such a W I D E person in the reflection. Incredibly wide, and yup it was me. I still can't believe how wide I was.
- I was 42, turned 43 this November and always had in the back of my mind that I must, must, must get this under control before 50. You just didn't see too many 50 year olds my size.
- This truly terrified me - I was in the largest size at the plus sized stores. And even some of the largest sizes didn't fit me depending on the cut. Shopping was just a nightmare, a beyond belief nightmare.
- I was terrified I wouldn't be there for my children's wedding and even if I were lucky enough to still be living, I was sooo worried how I would participate in the event. I mean I could barely walk, yet alone be a good hostess and dance and all the activity that it involves.
- I suppose I was just sick and tired of being left out of well, life. There was just sooo little I could do physically. I was so limited. It just got to be enough. I was just so miserable, I really couldn't take it any more and then luckily it just hit me - If don't want to be fat, well then I don't HAVE to be. After all these years, it really all boiled down to that in the end. So very simple. Strange.

04-04-2007, 11:05 PM
Being very naughty and reading the dictation from my annual visit. She called me OBESE in her dictation! After irritation and denial, I calculated my BMI. Ahem....denial ain't just that river you know!

She didn't tell me to my face...just charted it.

04-04-2007, 11:26 PM
Well my moment was when I was watching the biggest loser last year and realized. OMG! I am one of these women on that show, I could be on that show. I was just as fat as the people on the show anyways, I decided then that I had to do something. Anyways....slowly but surely I am trying to change that...

04-04-2007, 11:37 PM
Well, I'd been moaning about my weight since high school, and it got even worse when I moved out of home and started uni.

I was out with friends at a shopping centre, and we were mucking around with one of those fortune telling/weight machines. We did it for a joke, but my horoscope for "health" was "It would be a good idea if you went to the gym". WHAT??? A stupid machine was telling me I had to go to the gym???

Well, that -finally- was the motivation for me to lose weight.


04-05-2007, 04:19 AM
I didn't really have an exact "moment" either. It was more a slow slide down hill, to much pain in the morning, to much pain at work, as a matter of fact I was thinking that soon I wouldn't be able to do it at all. Then the first step came when I noticed how my ankles were swelling and thought I needed to cut the salt and drink more water. My eating plan just kind of snowballed after that!

04-05-2007, 03:17 PM
I've had many of these moments - usually motivated me (or depressed me) for a couple days/weeks but I seem to struggle keeping the motivation up.

-Broke the ladder I was standing on at work in front of people --- twice!
-Stode on a chair at home to hang curtains & crashed right through the solid wood seat.
-More special occasions than I can count ruined because nothing fit & I was miserable.
-Wouldn't fit into any of the white water kayaks in front of all my girl guides when we went kayaking.
-Not being able to buckle the back seatbelt in my Mom's car.
-Failing or struggling at anything physical. I never dare complain because I figure others are just thinking: "Well if you weren't so fat you would be able to do it". So I quietly push myself & suffer!

04-05-2007, 03:32 PM
Mine was having to choose pictures for a photo montage with my partner and realizing that I looked like my aunt - who is forty years older than me. I just looked run-down and dumpy and far older than my years, and I realized I didn't want that.

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04-05-2007, 06:03 PM
Well my moment was when I was watching the biggest loser last year and realized. OMG! I am one of these women on that show, I could be on that show. I was just as fat as the people on the show anyways, I decided then that I had to do something. Anyways....slowly but surely I am trying to change that...

Oh yes! I was looking at them and thinking how large they were....then I asked my Hubby, "am I as big as they are?" (Now..why did I have to ask that?!) He told me yes and I was crushed....I really truly thought the answer would be no...I couldnt possibly look like them, could I?

04-05-2007, 07:13 PM
Ummm, well let's see. The Biggest Loser. I think the heaviest one there (of the women) was about 230 something pounds and way taller then 5 foot nothing. So yeah, I was waaaaay heavier then them. Come to think of it, there weren't more then one or two MEN heavier then I was.

04-05-2007, 10:26 PM
I'm probably a horrible person to answer this question as I have had too many "Oh S**t" moments. I had my first when I reached 190 lbs in 10th grade. That didn't do anything because I was 260 by the time I graduated. Started college, another moment, b/c everyone was so tiny and "perfect". I lost down to 200, loosened up and gained back 20. Met my hubby at 220 and reaaaallllyy let go. Had another moment in '05 at about 275. Did great for a while, then let go again. A few small moments between here and now and here I am 4 lbs post my last "Oh S**t" at 318. It's the worst possible time for anything right now, but I figure if anyone needs to try again...it's me. By the way, all the yo-yoing mentioned above happened in a very short period of time. I graduated high school only 5 years ago.

04-06-2007, 10:21 AM
For me it was late Jan 2007. I am 43 and ended up in the ER thinking I was having a heart attack (thank God it was not). I had to be admitted, exercise stress test, the whole ball of wax. The cardiologist said, "you're okay now, but unless you change I'll be seeing you later". Yikes! Between that and seeing 285 on the scale I felt like I'd had a near death experience. The cardiologist told me to go on So. Beach and start exercising and in 6 weeks I'd feel like a new woman. He was right. I do. Remembering that and seeing my children make much better choices has kept me going.

04-06-2007, 12:19 PM
Mine was when I was at a restaurant. There were mirrors all over the place, and there happened to be a mirror right across from where my boyfriend and I were sitting. Everytime that I looked over, all that I saw was me...and I could not believe that it was me!!! :dizzy: I could hardly eat!

04-06-2007, 12:47 PM
My first real OS moment was in 1980. I was a sophomore in college and took a PE class for extra credit. They weighed all of us and I was 181 lbs. I had always been about 135 until the sedentary college life , beer drinking and pizza binges hit me. I went to WW and lost back down to 151.

My next big OS moment came in 1989. Me, my DH and my 3 yr. old son were canoeing and came upon a family with 2 small kids that there canoe had overturned and they were pinned beneath a tree and quickly about to drown. Me and DH were both over-weight and struggled like crazy to save them. We did get them all saved but almost drowned ourselves in the process. Then a rescue team had to come pick up that family and our family. I realized right then that I was in such horrible shape that I almost cost myself my life and the life of the other family. (I am an RN and it shocked me that even with all my training that I did need to be in decent physical health myself to ever be able to help someone else especially in a field type situation). So, after this I again to tried to lose weight and took off about 40 lbs.

In 1993 after having my 2nd child, I lost a lot of weight during breastfeeding. But, once I weaned her, I just kept gaining wt. I got up to 237 lbs. I remember walking down the hospital hall with one of my co-workers who was even more obese than I was and having some young girls give both of us a totally disgusted look. I realized then that it wasn't just my co-worker that was FAT, I WAS FAT too. So, I went to a diet Dr. and got on Phen/Fen and lost down to 147 lbs.

In June , 2005, I went to a new liver specialist. He flat out told me that I needed a liver transplant and was not a candidate due to my obesity and all the health-related diseases that I was experiencing due to obesity. Basically get your wt. off or you will die without receiving a transplant. This was the straw that pushed me over the edge. I changed my life that very next meal. I haven't looked back.

04-06-2007, 12:58 PM
I was 300 lbs at a pretty young age so I never had an Oh **** moment when I was young although I tried many many many times to lose weight. Finally, nearly 3 years ago, I fell down my stairs in my townhome. I dragged myself to urgent care even though I could barely walk and was in tons of pain. They said I only strained a knee ligament so I was lucky. With exercise, it'd improve.

I got really mad at myself for being so overweight and also knowing I was lucky that I didn't tear or break anything. So I decided from that moment, I was going to lose weight and lose it for good. That is when I lost 75 lbs in 3 months. A major victory was my stopping point at 330. I had been to 330 so many times but could never get passed it. I then stalled after losing the 75 lbs and worked to maintain that weight loss.

So since then, I really haven't had any OS moments but really just a desire to continue my weight loss. I lost 30 lbs before my wedding and I'm hoping to lose a total of 50 lbs this year.

04-06-2007, 06:33 PM
I´ve always known that I was fat, but it really hadn´t been an issue for me.

This January I was working on a 500 acre survey in Kansas and it was me as the supervisor and my crew of very fit 22 year olds. I went to the truck to get some stuff while they were talking to a new guy. I heard the new guy ask if I was a good supervisor, and one of the crew members, who is a good friend of mine said

"Archy? She´s awesome. Even though she´s really fat she can keep up and work the whole day. Doesn´t even complain."

Yes, that backhanded complement started this whole thing.

04-06-2007, 06:54 PM
Hi everyone! I'm a newbie and am hoping to enjoy my weight loss journey this go round instead of dreading it. :) This is, after all, a life change.

I actually had one of these moments last month. I got on the scale and it said Oh ****...lol It read 267, only 4 pounds from my heaviest ever, when I was 8 months pregnant with my now 9 year old daughter. I hit 271 just days before my daughter was born 6 weeks early. I lost 30 pounds of fluid over the next month. But gained most of it back, and have been at 263 for about 2years.
This time though, there's no baby, no high blood pressure and no fluid. That was a huge wake-up call for me and I started to immediately reduce my calorie intake. Now to work in exercise....lol...one thing at a time!


04-06-2007, 09:08 PM
My Oh Sh**! moment was when I discovered I wear a size 20W!

04-06-2007, 10:54 PM
My life should have been all "oh sh*&" moments.. but I was in denial.

I thought about starting to diet in January of this year.. but wasn't ready. On January 15th I had enough. I got on the scale and it read 246lbs. That disgusted me. No clothes fit me - and I couldn't afford new clothes just because I was fat. I was in a size 24 - a very very tight 24. (remember I'm another one of the short ones here - only 5 feet tall!)

If that wasn't bad enough I realized that 246 lbs was not going to be my highest weight if I didn't do something. I would only gain more weight if I continued down the same path. I had to put the breaks on.

I decided to do monthly goals - on the 15th of every month.

04-07-2007, 11:32 PM
So many to choose from:

1. hitting size 24;
2. going horseback riding with friends and being asked, in front of the group, if I weighed over 300 lbs because, if so, I couldn't ride (I weighed a mere 259 lbs at that point, so imagine my indignation);
3. Biggest Loser/Celebrity Fit Club - I was usually bigger than several of the contestants;
4. seeing a recent photo of myself on vacation and realizing how big a difference there was between how I felt on the inside and how I looked to other people;
5. first day of LAWL when the counsellor was pointing out pictures of some of their successful clients (by way of encouragement I suppose) and she picked out photos of only the biggest people to show me.

04-08-2007, 03:21 AM
i damn near had one of those moments yesterday at my nearby six flags

I LOVE rollercoasters. I gotta be in the front seat. However the larger seats are in the 4th and 5th row. I had to switch with some dude to a bigger seat in the center of the row or I could not ride the ride :eek: The attendant buckled me in and I was THIS CLOSE to not being able to ride it at all :(

Another one was yesterday seeing a video my DH's best friend's daughter took of me...

OMG! Holy isht!

The Drop Zone, King's Island in Cincinnati Ohio

Waiting in line with my sister's boyfriend for like an hour, getting on the ride and watching the attendant pushing his entire weight against the cage to try to get it closed. Finally, he stopped and shook his head and said, "Sorry. You can't ride." Wow. Totally humiliating. My sister's boyfriend rode it without me looking at me pitifully.

It wasn't that I suddenly realized I was fat - I suddenly realized that it was holding me back.

04-08-2007, 03:26 AM
My whole life has been an OS moment for me, and I've gone through a LOT of problems with both yo-yo dieting and eating disorders...but my most recent OS moment was March 2007. Like others, I have alsways thought that while i'm fat, I'm still in pretty good shape. So a friend of mine and I went on a 3-mile hike and I thought I was going to die. My legs hurt, I went REALLY slow and I could feel fat flappage...it was mortifiying.

Then the thought struck me that I am now heavier then I was when I graduated from HS (at 230lbs) and I remembered telling myself I'd never be that big again.

Now I'm trying again, only healthily this time, with lots of water, a healthy diet and TONs of exercise.

04-08-2007, 06:56 AM
This whole weekend. I'm on the emotional rollercoaster again. I pushed myself to start sanding the dresser we're going to use a bathroom vanity & gave myself an asthma attack that has last almost 24 hours. The house is a mess.

It is all because I am not taking care of myself. It's not going to get better without me getting it together.

04-08-2007, 05:34 PM
I've had a few moments that didn't really stick over the years. The most recent started last year when my fertility doctor told me, after we'd tried more and more Clomid and injectibles, that he didn't think there was anything else he could do for me unless I lost weight, and that if I lost around 70 pounds, he was sure I would get pregnant one way or another (I was too fat for IVF at the time).

That sent me into a spiral of self-hatred and depression (because it is MY fault my body is broken) for a year, and THEN I had the moment - if I had worked hard since the doctor said that, I would already be trying again, but I let a year go by in a daze and did nothing. Now I'm doing better and I'm 20+ pounds down from my highest. I've joined a gym, my partner is on board with me and we're doing it!

04-08-2007, 05:53 PM
ive not always been fat, but over the last 8 years i have ballooned to my heaviest.
:( weighing 16 stone on the drs scales and only being 5` 1 "
:( even my size 22 (uk) clothes were either becoming too tight or not fitting at all
:( being too fat and lazy even to go up my stairs,do my house work etc unless i had to
:( not being able to distinguish my belly from my boobs. my belly was so big it seemed to merge with my boobs. someone remarked today, that i do indeed have a pair of boobs. mortified

04-12-2007, 03:13 PM
I didn't really have a moment either. My life was generally in a crisis. My cat was dying of cancer. My dad was not long until he went into a nursing home. My brother's wife was preggers and I was just feeling all over icky. My life had also been divided up into major challenges. And I was finally finishing the job / career challenge and was not having any big thing to tackle. And on a microlevel I went to my bosses dad's funeral... and I had never been to a funeral and internment before. And my bosses family and friends were all so upwardly mobile and it was just such a change of pace it was like someone had transported me to mars and I could finally see clearly. What I needed to do -- what needed to be resolved -- and why now. I totally thought I would fail again but I didn't.

04-12-2007, 06:20 PM
Lifeguard, oh my, I hope you are feeling better! Take good care of yourself! You can do this! :hug:

I've had these moments my entire life but I think what made this specific moment was that I decided to act on it in a different way than I acted on them before.

I began to develop daily foot pain and I couldn't find shoes that were large enough! I've since realized that I gain weight in my feet when I gain weight. I compromised myself - not in a huge way but in a meaningful enough one to say - no more, I am committing myself to losing weight permanently for the rest of my life.

I feel like I had a small moment today. I'm going to visit the gym tomorrow and hop on that scale. I'm a little nervous (it's been a few weeks) but better to know and act accordingly especially now that I can finally go.

04-13-2007, 11:50 AM
I've also had many of the oh S*** moments. When my Grandma was in hospital she had a picture taped to her wall which I had seen many times - one day I actually looked at it closely, it was a picture of me with my sister and cousin - I hadn't recognised myself as in my mind I never realised how enourmous I'd become.

Other moments were when how fat I was was brought home by the actions of other people - being mooed at by people in passing cars (who I think all knew each other) while walking down the street with friends I hadn't seen in ages (people making pig noises is another classic); coming home from uni to find my mum had set up my room so that my soft toys were all reading books - low fact recipie books, calorie counters etc.; my grandparents slapping my hand when I reached for a chocolate from the snacks that had been put out after our Christmas meal; sitting by myself in my flat eating because I couldn't bear eating in front of people anymore and having to feel their eyes on me or listen to their comments.