100 lb. Club - what made you stick to your diet this time?




pinupdreams
03-26-2007, 04:07 PM
i know we've all said at one time or another that we are going to lose the weight, that this is the day ect but always manage to forget after a few weeks and continue the vicious cycle with no results. my question for all of you is, what made it different this time? why did you really stick to it this time without looking back?


Obsidianbbw
03-26-2007, 04:36 PM
Most of the stressful things in my life had calmed down (financial issues, house buying, relationship stress) and I found a plan that I know I could do long term.

rockinrobin
03-26-2007, 04:48 PM
I ask myself this sometimes. I think I just finally got sick and tired of being morbidly obese. I was sick of all the worries. I was always worried. I was sick of being so inactive. I was sick of being left on the sidelines. Sick of worrying who was going to help my daughters when they became mothers, because surely I wouldn't be alive to help them. Who would tell them what to do when their children got a fever for the first time. Who's house would they go to for holidays. I wondered who would help them learn to cook. I got sick of being embarassed at my horrible wardrobe and the way that I looked. Just awful. I just couldn't take it anymore. And realized that I DIDN'T HAVE TO TAKE IT ANYMORE. If I didn't want to be fat, well then all I had to do was find a plan and STICK TO IT. Surely missing out on some food had to be easier then the life I was leading. I had just had enough of the pain and suffering. It was enough. It just got to be too unbearable.


rockinrobin
03-26-2007, 05:37 PM
I just wanted to add one more thing, I have a tendency to do that. I finally found a plan that I can stick to, but I really think it's more that I was ready to MAKE a plan and STICK to it. Kind of a which came first thing, the chicken or the egg. I finally realized that just cutting back didn't work for me. I needed a complete overhaul, to get myself in control. I needed to not only cutback, but eliminate certain foods. Of course when I say eliminate, I mean for the most part, of course I believe in everything in moderation. But when I first started out, I knew the everything in moderation part had to be way down the road. I had to switch to healthy foods. I had to give myself every chance to succeed. I really had to give it a no kidding around here anymore attitude, time to get real and give it an all or nothing approach. I had to give it 150% effort. Really, really focus on my health and the weightloss. I hadn't done that in the past. But again, I don't think I was WILLING to do that in the past. That's all. For now anyway.

SexyRevealed
03-26-2007, 05:45 PM
I keep asking myself why this time is different, and honestly I don't know. But it is different, I can tell that already. I just know that I deserve better.

sept15lija
03-26-2007, 05:49 PM
This time is different because it's personal. That sounds funny, but my weight has never bothered me in the past. I was always able to do what I wanted to do, it didn't stop me from finding the man of my dreams, having friends, traveling, doing whatever I wanted pretty much. However, now, my doctor is telling me it's the reason I can't get pregnant. I finally have a good enough reason to do this. And now that I've lost over 50 lbs, I feel so amazing, I'm wearing much cuter clothes, I even find I'm being treated differently. So now I have many more reasons besides just getting pregnant for continuing this journey.

booklover
03-26-2007, 05:53 PM
You know, it's hard to say why this time is different. I guess for me, it's been a long time coming. I've been dieting for over 25 years. I've been on so many diets, I've lost track. Over the past few years, I've been feeling more and more out of touch with my body. I became dismayed as my weight crept up higher and higher. Then, in 2004, I hit 307 lbs. Though I stayed at that weight for more than 2 years, I told myself I could get below 300 easily. After all, it was only 7 lbs. (I didn't even entertain the thought of weight loss beyond that.) But nothing seemed to work, and in truth, I didn't make much of an effort exercise-wise. Plus, I started a new job in 2005, and my work schedule exploded. I had no free time. Fast food became a way of life. Thought I ate salads from time to time, I had no set plan. I did not exercise at all.

Then, on New Year's Day 2007, I stepped on the scale and it read 315. I couldn't believe I had gained 8 pounds while I was trying to lose 7! I promised myself that I would make a change right then and there. I would keep trying to lose the weight no matter what. I would not give up and allow myself to wallow in obesity. I would take control of my body and my weightloss.

I now have a target of reaching my goal weight by my next high school reunion in April 2008. My plan is working for the time being, and I'm even exercising more frequently. It's hard, but this time it will be different. I just know it. :)

SexyRevealed
03-26-2007, 06:22 PM
You know, it's hard to say why this time is different. I guess for me, it's been a long time coming. I've been dieting for over 25 years. I've been on so many diets, I've lost track. Over the past few years, I've been feeling more and more out of touch with my body. I became dismayed as my weight crept up higher and higher. Then, in 2004, I hit 307 lbs. Though I stayed at that weight for more than 2 years, I told myself I could get below 300 easily. After all, it was only 7 lbs. (I didn't even entertain the thought of weight loss beyond that.) But nothing seemed to work, and in truth, I didn't make much of an effort exercise-wise. Plus, I started a new job in 2005, and my work schedule exploded. I had no free time. Fast food became a way of life. Thought I ate salads from time to time, I had no set plan. I did not exercise at all.

Then, on New Year's Day 2007, I stepped on the scale and it read 315. I couldn't believe I had gained 8 pounds while I was trying to lose 7! I promised myself that I would make a change right then and there. I would keep trying to lose the weight no matter what. I would not give up and allow myself to wallow in obesity. I would take control of my body and my weightloss.

I now have a target of reaching my goal weight by my next high school reunion in April 2008. My plan is working for the time being, and I'm even exercising more frequently. It's hard, but this time it will be different. I just know it. :)

That was my exact weight on that exact date too. It took me about 3 weeks to fully commit, but I will never forget that moment. I was horrified too. I stood there thinking, "How did this happen?"

But congrats on your success so far! See you at the finish line!!! :hug:

booklover
03-26-2007, 07:14 PM
That's too funny. I love how there are so many women on this site in the exact same position as me.

Good luck to you too, SexyRevealed! Congrats on your weight loss so far. You're well on your way.

rockinrobin
03-26-2007, 07:19 PM
And you girls are the same exact height. Kinda cool.

Yes, this place is amazing. To be able to "talk" to so many people who are experiencing exactly what we are is just an incredible thing. I never had anybody who could relate to me on this topic. I was the heaviest (by far) of every human being I have ever known.

LisaMarie71
03-26-2007, 09:03 PM
That really is the beauty of this site -- finding people who know EXACTLY how we feel.

What made it different this time for me? It's hard to say, because I think there are a lot of factors -- here are a few:

*I knew I could do it, because I'd done it before. It was just a matter of committing for GOOD.
*My next birthday was going to be 35, and I know I still want to have a baby but my health has been stopping me (among other reasons). I didn't want that as a barrier anymore.
*My mother was diagnosed with diabetes, and I knew I was on the same path.
*I was seriously sick of it. Everything else in my life is wonderful -- great husband, a fulfilling job, a wonderful family. It's silly to let this one thing rule over me when I KNOW how to fix it.
*I realized I'm strong enough to do it.
*3FC has kept me accountable, interested, and enthusiastic about my journey, and I've had all kinds of support here. That has made a HUGE difference this time!

Penney
03-26-2007, 09:12 PM
Honestly - I got the daylights scared out of me....

I went to the doctor and failed EVERY TEST.

I had been on blood pressure meds for a while - - - but they were starting to not work...

I was diagnosed with diabetes, high cholesterol, worse blood pressure, my liver and kidneys were having problems.... and even more issues.

I was basically told to make a decision. So, yep, I made that decision - to take care of me... to go back to the me I used to be, except smarter, wiser and more determined.

Thank goodness I found a wonderful support system here... and I have not looked back once....

Sheila53
03-26-2007, 09:13 PM
I knew I didn't want to spend my 50s as fat and unhealthy as I was in my 40s (once you hit that half-century mark, health becomes a big issue!). I was moving to a new place so I decided to make a fresh start. Life got better and better as the pounds came off, and I discovered I like to exercise. Frankly, these last pounds are the hardest, but will probably be the most rewarding.

LakeGirl
03-26-2007, 10:44 PM
Ya know, part of me says that I "have no idea what makes this time different" and another part of me says, "What doesn't make this time different?!"

Purging the word "diet" from my vocabulary was a HUGE thing for me and a major turning point. I think because I have spent the majority of my forty years on a diet that I just could not bear another one. EVER. There is just nothing about that word that says anything positive to me anymore.

Thinking of changing my lifestyle and making more healthy choices has made all the difference in the world to my attitude, my determination and my mental approach to weight loss.

I also got a little freaked out when over the last few months my blood pressure has been slightly high. Not enough to cause the doctor concern yet, but my BP had always been spot on. I knew that the increase in it was a direct result of how I ate and used my body.

This forum has also made a huge difference! To have someplace to go where people understand your struggles, cheer with you on victories, motivate you when you falter and even give you a cyber kick in the pants when necessary is priceless to me.

kaepepper
03-26-2007, 10:50 PM
Well, my reason "this time" is a little superficial - my sister is getting married in November and I don't want to see family, etc, feeling and looking this heavy. As far as why it seems to be working this time - I don't know! I wish I knew, because it might help when I go through times when it's more difficult. It just seems like things have been "clicking" for the most part these last 5 weeks.

shrinkingchica
03-26-2007, 11:12 PM
I had just dealt with a major depressive episode that landed me with 50lbs heavier and I felt that I could never be happy if I stayed heavy. I thought that happiness could only come with slimness.
Well, I am currently trying to deal with the fallout that such a mindset can result in. Because happiness has nothing to do with weight at heart.
But, that being said, life is easier being lighter. Clothes can fit, planes can fit me in "comfortably", I can cross my legs and I feel generally less ungainly. And in that life is easier I do feel a bit happier I suppose but I have learnt along the way that weight is not the source of happiness or unhappiness.

jtammy
03-26-2007, 11:15 PM
Initially, it was pure FEAR. I had had to face reality and see what I weighed after avoiding the scale for more than 10 years. I made a decision that day that I had to lose some weight. I remember telling myself that I would try something for a few months, and if it didn't work, I would keep trying something else until something did work. At that moment, I would have been happy just getting below 300 lbs. After I started though, I could see how it wasn't as difficult as I had assumed it would be. I was eating food that I loved, I wasn't hungry, I was feeling so much better. Seeing the loss on the scale was also a great motivation at that point.

RememberHowToSmile
03-27-2007, 12:45 AM
These may seem a little corny but here are my reasons:

1. My health (having a doctor actual tell me that I’m going to be diabetic if I don’t change my life)
2. Making a commitment for myself not to please someone else
3. This website … it’s provided me support, humor, structure, and accountability

missaprylj
03-27-2007, 03:38 AM
1) For the first time, I'm at a place in my life where I can be selfish and put my health before everything else and not feel guilty or deprived over it.

2) Heart disease in the family.

3) I deserve it. Finally realizing that I'm worth all this work = priceless.

4) Having an actual comprehensive plan and specific goals.

good luck!

Mrs Quadcrew
03-27-2007, 11:49 AM
what made you stick to your diet this time?

I made up my mind that it isn't a DIET. I made up my mind that I needed to make changes for the rest of my life, not just to "diet" till I got where I wanted to be. I have "dieted" my way up to 270 pounds ~ I knew what I had to do was NOT diet.....but to change my life....and make sure it was something I could do forever.

djs06
03-27-2007, 01:12 PM
Okay. I'm young.. 22. I had a terrible time in college and felt compelled to blame my weight. After I graduated, I moved home and took a :censored:, unchallenging, ridiculous job that I hated (and continued to hate, I"m still here after all). I gained even more weight.

For months I essentially moped around. I don't have friends in this area, really, I was bored and lonely and depressed. And I felt OLD. Literally, when I thought about turning 23 and 24 and 25 and still being trapped in this hideous body, it made my skin crawl. My life already felt like it was over.

I shouldn't feel this way, and I finally realized this. Almost all of this is due to my weight, as I've figured out over the years. And I don't want that anymore. I want to be healthy and proud of myself. That's what makes me stick to it. I want to be in control of my life.

Wannabeskinnymama
03-27-2007, 02:25 PM
I'm just sick and tired of being..........sick and tired ! Simple...

and I know that losing this weight will help me to feel better physically.

I'm working on feeling better about myself too........my self esteem is at about zero.....and I need to just take care of me for awhile....
for years and years I've been wife and mommy......and my children are grown up now......ds is 25 and dd is 16...and I'm a grandma too! :)

I want to be able to feel better about myself and be able to be active with my grandchildren!!!

Lori

Lunalore
03-27-2007, 02:25 PM
What's different this time is that I really, really want it. It's hard to describe, but I'm really motivated, whereas other times I was doing things halfway, not really invested in the process.

I think the biggest thing that's making this different is when I went to the doctors' office and weighed in at 297 pounds. I'd always vowed to never reached 300 pounds, and here I was 3 pounds away from getting there. It was a huge wake-up call.

Also, my cholestoral is too high, and I'm only 27 years old. There's no reason for me to have high cholesteral at this age except for my weight. That was another wake-up call.

sugarlove
03-27-2007, 03:22 PM
For myself (and as others have said), it was finally coming to the realization that I had to figure out what I could do for LIFE, not just for now. In the back of my head, I was always resentful of "diets" and "programs", because the intelligent part of me knew that almost every plan under the sun boils down to simple calorie restriction. Yet, for a long time, I tried plan after plan....and tried to choke down the resentment I felt for myself that I couldn't just do it myself, even though I knew I was buying into the hype.

It took a while to reach this place. The focus shifted from day to day to a longer term picture, and I sat down one day and wrote down what I thought I could live with. It's been revised a couple of times....but in a good way, as I've now gone from a diet that included healthier things to a diet that is mostly whole foods. I feel freedom now, as I'm not living according to someone else's rules - I make my own rules for my health and the way that I eat. It's released me from thoughts of being "good" or "bad", and allows me to build my day one choice at a time. It's quite hard to explain, actually....but it's working for me, better than anything ever before.

For myself, I feel like a weight has been lifted (ha - no pun intended!) now that I'm not looking for the next diet. I feel like I eat and live like a "normal person", and I don't spend so much time thinking about food and what I can and can't have. Because it's so freeing, it's been easy to stay on track.

lessofsarahtolove
03-27-2007, 06:18 PM
Well, this is my second time being serious enough to stick it out. The first time around was in 2004, when something just sort of clicked and I said to myself, "Enough," and worked my *** off to lose about 80 pounds in 8 months. I was maniacal about eating clean and I haunted this absolute godsend of a board, and I succeeded. I guess what made me stick to it that first time around was the realization that losing weight and getting healthy was within my power and was simply a matter of making one healthy decision after another until I saw results. I made a plan, and I worked the plan. Then when I started to see results, it was so energizing and motivating, and I rode that energy until I got derailed by a cancer diagnosis.

Cut to the present, when, after beating the cancer the first time and then relapsing and consequently getting a stem cell transplant (bone marrow transplant,) I find that my reasons for sticking to it now are both the same and different. In addition to all of the same reasons I had for sticking it out the first time out, I have some new ones that come with the enlightenment which results from facing a life-threatening illness. It's pretty much like this: I didn't go through 2 years of **** in fighting for my life to have my life limited by things which are under my control. :nono: That's BS. I didn't fight for a life which holds any shame, or regret, or any avoidable limitations.

None of us knows what lies around the corner -- I sure as **** didn't know back then, when I was an active member of this board and happily losing, that I was just headed into 2 years of hellish treatment for Hodgkins Lymphoma. I thank God that I was in better health going into treatment, and I thank God for the availability of the treatment itself. I pray that it works, but regardless, I am not going to live another day of my life regretting my reflection in the mirror or the choices I made yesterday. ****, no! I didn't have control over that diagnosis, and I know that I have done everything possible to beat my aggressive cancer. I know also that it will NOT be possible to say that I gave up control over my weight. :s: All of the little choices that are under my control, all of those little choices that we all make each day of our lives in pursuit of weight loss, THOSE choices and THOSE moments are part and parcel of my fight for my life.

If I have only a little more time on this earth, I want it to be spent proud of myself and in pursuit of increased ability, heightened self-esteem, and improved (controllable) health.

So that's where I am this time around. :^: To all of you, I can only say that you don't know your capabilities until they are well and truly tested, and I GUARANTEE you that you will ALWAYS underestimate them at the onset of a challenge, whether it's weight loss or a cancer fight or anything else. So embrace your inner BADASS and know that you DO have it within you to stick it out this time. Tell yourself you have no other choice but to do it.....once the element of choice is removed, everything gets pretty clarified. ;)

Big :hug:s to all of you -- I'm very proud of each and every one of you. :grouphug:

IlerJo
04-07-2007, 03:16 AM
My reason is my Dr. visit.I have high blood pressure,borderline diabetes,RA,lupus.And carrying this much extra weight around makes it so tiring for me.I have grandbabies I would love to see grow up.My daddy died at 57 because of heartfailure.I have been on lots of diets starting about 13 and is was nothing to just drop a few pounds.Now that I'm 50,its a lot harder to lose.Also this isnt a diet for me it is a total lifestyle change.The way I eat and exercise now is to be able to have a healthy next 50 years.And this web site has been an answered prayer.It really helps me stay foucsed on my goal.

cantforgetthis
04-07-2007, 04:46 AM
Just the knowledge for the first time in my life that this is not a diet...I'll be doing this for the rest of my life. It started really slow and grew from what was going on in my mind, just a healthier way of eating. The weight loss was just a by-product this time. So much easier this way! :D

RoyalAthena
04-07-2007, 04:56 AM
I am doing this for alot of the same reasons as many of you. I want a happier and healthier life. I want to be the best me I can be!! That doesn't mean skinny just thinner. I also want my youth back! I am very shy. I know if I were to lose this weight I would be more confident. I get more and more confident, the smaller I become. I would get out and do more things such as socializing or not being ashamed to go out to really public places (like the mall- yikes) I haven't gone out on a date for years. SOME of it is disinterest but the rest is shyness and shame. Men have flirted with me and I give them all red lights! I don't make eye contact when they flirt and etc. So, I am ready to go out and be a woman. I haven't had my hair profressionally done in a while. My eyebrows are thick and wild. I didn't want to bring attention to myself; especially male. Anyway, I have 34 more pounds before I get a mini makeover! I want to care about me and to have a life! :)

Short Term Goal:
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Edited to add: Lessofsarahtolove: I have just completed radiation therapy. About 2 1/2 weeks ago. Been there and done that! God Bless you!! :hug:

I won't have taste buds for possibly another 6-8 months so I thought maybe I could get some major weight loss out of the way. :p I know when I get them back I still have to eat the same. I like healthy foods like salad and fruit but without tastebuds I can skip things like salad dressing, butter, salt and things of the like for the time being. Yeah for me! Haha

Angela85
04-07-2007, 05:01 AM
UH Oh Karen, go on wit yo skinny self!!!!!!! 60lbs girl......?????

I'm Serious about this because my weight has alot to do with my attitude and i know it, im not happy with myself, so i know take it on others sometimes, I had a great man in my life, yea we argued and stuff but we loved to do that, cuz makin up was fun, but man I was extremely insecure, and said some of the me most ugliest things that u could never tell someone especially someone you love. And I basically pushed him away......i was given plenty of warnings but i was sooo stubborn. How can I expect anyone to love or respect me if i cant even do those thing for myself???? I love people, people are important to me, I would help a stranger in need if I could. I also realized that I have to take care of me first before i try to care for another......Im sticking with this, because even if i dont get to a size 10 I know ill be alot happier with they way my mind and body feels with the exercising and healthy eating.....


I, US, YOU, AND WE, ARE SOOOOOOOOO WORTH IT, NO ONE DESERVES TO BE THIS WAY, BUT WE DID PUT OURSELVES IN THIS SITUATION SO I, AND YOU ARE THE ONLY ONES THAT CAN FIX IT!

SexyRevealed
04-07-2007, 11:56 AM
I, US, YOU, AND WE, ARE SOOOOOOOOO WORTH IT, NO ONE DESERVES TO BE THIS WAY, BUT WE DID PUT OURSELVES IN THIS SITUATION SO I, AND YOU ARE THE ONLY ONES THAT CAN FIX IT!

So true girl! We are the only ones who made ourselves this way, but even better, we have the power to change. This is one of the few things in my life that I have absolute power over, and I'm going to use that to my advantage. :D

BooBear2071
04-12-2007, 03:24 PM
I think my whole life while I was putting on the weight I had other major projects that I was working on. When I put it on I was in college and that was for me so hard and so stressful -- weight was a back burner issue. When I graduated I had to get a job and get an apartment so the weight went to the burner. Then I actually lost 30 lbs - but I moved across the US to attend 3 long years of law school and I gained 30 lbs. Then I graduated but now the goal was the *good job* that would set me up for life and when I got that, finally, finally, finally I had the time and I had the motivation to take on the BIG challenge. Plus after succeeding at all those other things, I had the confidence that if I concentrated on my weight loss like I did all those things I could do it. And for the most part I continue to see my weight loss like it is a job. Where as other times before it was like a hobby.

RitzyFritz
04-12-2007, 03:29 PM
Because I am TIRED of failing at this, TIRED of being TIRED, TIRED of my health being hijacked, TIRED of not being able to do things with my kids, TIRED of not being the person that I know I can be, and TIRED of being discounted as an inferior person all because of my external appearance. I'm ready for the REAL me to stand up and enjoy the world while I give to others at the same time. I have said: 2007 is MY YEAR! No turning back for me! :sunny:

Karma27
04-14-2007, 02:25 AM
I, US, YOU, AND WE, ARE SOOOOOOOOO WORTH IT, NO ONE DESERVES TO BE THIS WAY, BUT WE DID PUT OURSELVES IN THIS SITUATION SO I, AND YOU ARE THE ONLY ONES THAT CAN FIX IT!

So true girl! We are the only ones who made ourselves this way, but even better, we have the power to change. This is one of the few things in my life that I have absolute power over, and I'm going to use that to my advantage. :D

You ladies are on point with this one. I so needed to read this tonight. :hug:

I am sticking to my diet this time for similar reasons. I am working on relationship issues caused by me not being secure and happy with myself. I don't want to push him away. And as sexy revelaed pointed out this is the one thing I have absolute cintrol over. It feels too good to have control over my body and to have my dispostion and view of myself change for the better. I will never go back to the way I was...ever.