*Sigh* I'm gonna sound like a whiny little brat but I need to get this out.
Where I work my boss is a such a nice guy. He's always bring cookies and candies to work, he and his wife (co-owners of the place I work at) bring in extra lunches from home to give us. And I always turn him down. His intentions are really good but I can't afford the extra calories in my diet :(
This other girl my age works for me and she eats everything they give her. Cookies, candies, sometimes my boss would give us coupons to Subway and she'd get that to eat, too. And it's so depressing because she's so incredibly skinny. She's about 5 feet tall and weighs less than a 100 lbs! She's not anorexic and has a pretty healthy appetite. But it sucks so much to know that some people can eat a ton without it showing on their body whereas other people like me start to gain weight merely looking at a cookie.
I don't have a thyroid problem, I checked that out earlier. And I know, I probably sound so whiny, complaining about stuff like that but I just can't help it. Are we destined to always eat little and exercise more? Honestly, I don't mind the eating little part. I've never had much of an appetite. But the little that I do eat, I have to make sure it's always something really healthy. I'm so afraid of indulging in my favorite stuff, even occasionally.
*Sigh* End of rant.
03-17-2007, 04:48 PM
Sounds like you're doing really well saying no at the office -- I'm proud of you!!!
But I hear you. It can be hard sometimes.
It helps when I can frame it positively. "I'm not saying NO to the brownie, I'm saying YES to a fit and healthy me."
03-17-2007, 05:04 PM
Yeah, it can be hard at times. I'm also just 5 feet tall and feel that any extra nibble will show up on me. But Wyllenn's got the right idea. Try to think of it as not what you're missing out on, but what you will be gaining. A healthier and happier and more active life, with more joy and less worries. And if you are eating little, well it really should be healthy, nutritous stuff. You and your body deserve the very best. Not some processed garbage.
Once you start to lose some pounds, you will really begin to see just how worth it it is. It's hard, but so very worthwhile. I wouldn't go back to my old life for anything. And it does get easier, much easier as you go on.
03-17-2007, 05:28 PM
Robin's right....it does get easier and quits feeling like you're eating so little. I've only been working on this since mid-January but already it used to be really hard to stay under my calorie limit...now I have a hard time getting up to my lower range! That feels good...because I know as I shrink, so will my calorie limits. I no longer worry about that. My appetite seems to be going down also. You will feel better....hang in there!
03-17-2007, 06:19 PM
Thank you ladies, I really needed to read that. Looking at how hard you've all worked and how well it's payed off makes me want to shut my inner whiny self up and work hard. I agree, once I start seeing results on myself, I'll feel so much better about what I'm doing as well.
Thank you for the wonderful replies :)
03-17-2007, 06:29 PM
There's no better place than this Forum to whine, stomp your foot and crab.
It's a much safer and supportive place than Real Life.
03-17-2007, 06:55 PM
This is horrible, but once a long, long time ago - I "was" your coworker, 5' 9", 145 pounds. I did eat all the stuff brought in to work, but that was all I ate all day and on weekends I probably ate one good meal all weekend. And, here I am today -- 100 pounds overweight -- I hate to say it, but it may all catch up to her and she'll be seeking diet advice from you!! I, for so long, felt deprived because why can "everyone else" eat the "good stuff" and be thin, but not me. You are doing a wonderful thing for yourself, your future and your self esteem to pass on the junk -- it will pay off in the end.
03-17-2007, 07:25 PM
I worked for a Dr... for a long time, wetrade the candy and awesome cakes...for a juicer.....it was fun and healthy, and till i was the one making it and Washing it out 2 X a day :)
03-17-2007, 08:05 PM
Hope it's ok to post even though I'm not on this forum, but I saw Dawn2Dusk's post so I wanted to respond that - I think if you compare yourself to others, there are so many others out there to compare to. Granted, if there is someone you are working with closely they are the obvious comparison. But if you look around more, there are people who eat amazingly little, just as much as there are people who eat amazingly lots. It is so easy to compare ourselves with those who eat so much and so many high-fat high-cal foods, but we can just as easily compare ourselves to those who don't. For example I know one very large-frame guy who is struggling with his weight who does NOT eat much at all. And I know very petite gals who eat very little. So, we're not equal in everything. It helps me to think of the ones who are more like me and less like your co-worker. And hey, at least your boss is a nice guy!!
03-17-2007, 11:52 PM
Envy is easy, because life often is unfairs, but it sometimes helps to remember that we rarely get the whole picture of other people's lives. I had an aunt who had an envy problem regarding financial things. She thought everyone had it better than she did (even those who had a lot less money, but were better at saving).
I had a roommate in college who was neither fat, not thin, and was neither the most, nor least active among four of us living together. But she was CONSTANTLY eating. She also chewed her food longer before swallowing than anyone else I ever knew, so I don't even know if she ate more calories than the rest of, though I would think she had to, because as I said, she was almost always eating something. We used to tease her about "chewing cud," because that's sort of what it was like. She was always slowly, and calmly chewing something (pizza, burritios, chips.... not salads by the way).
It was hard for me to see her eating like that, because I did feel like "hey, why can't I have a metabolism like that?" But that's not the genetic hand I was dealt (but she always griped to me, that I never seemed to have to study the way she did, as for most classes I really only had to read the chapters a couple times). I can't say that "it all balances out in the end," because I don't believe that. Some people seem to live completely "blessed" lives and others "can't seem to catch a break," but I think most of us are somewhere in the great big middle.
03-18-2007, 12:58 AM
Well, I did cave today... *Sigh* But not at work. The grocery store. For some reason I had the biggest urge to have hot dogs. And I had six of them before I realized what I was doing. So then I threw the rest in the trash, sat down and thought about what I did. I think I went too easy on myself. I realized my diet was way too low in calories (like 500) which is why I went crazy by the end of the day. I should eat between 1000 and 1200. But I'm surprised at myself for taking it so easily. I should feel guilty but I'm not. I read Shelby's quote at the of her siggie and I agree with it so much. I had a bad little accident. But it doesn't mean I have to make it look like it's the end and I'll never lose the weight. :)
Now that I look at the hot dogs calorie count in my FitDay, I'm so disgusted. Nothing but pure fat. One would think there would be more protein in a meat product but no. I think that was the last hot dog I'm gonna have for a while. I went as high as about 1450 which isn't too bad, I guess, but still over my limit.
I dunno why. But I just realized that I go a bit crazy the day before my weigh-in. It's tomorrow. I checked today and I had lost 4 lbs. Lol. Let's see what the scale says tomorrow.
PS - I love this forum.
03-18-2007, 01:57 AM
I do the same thing, if I'm way under too late in the day, I become a zombi -- just eating without realizing it and then it's over. Hot dogs -- my goodness -- couldn't you have "wasted calories" on something good -- like twinkes, etc. :D Day done -- tomorrow is a new, better day. Good luck at your weigh in!!
03-18-2007, 02:00 AM
The first time I read that quote I laughed pretty hard for a good five minutes. Lol.
03-18-2007, 05:54 AM
hi. just out of curiousity... you said you checked your thyroid levels and you dont have a thyroid problem... what exactly did they look at in your blood tests? i just have been diagnosed with a thyroid problem "officially", but i know i have had it for years. i even have had it looked at before, at which point my tests came back "normal"... the problem is that the tsh test is not the most accurate way to guage the health of your thyroid. what's more is that many people with thyroid problems still fall into "normal" lab ranges, so doctors tell you you're fine and tell you to just work harder at losing weight. check out "stopthethyroidmadness.com"... great ad-free/patient-advocate website... their forums are great and you might be able to find your story there. my point is, dont just accept the first thing your doc tells you as end-all/be-all... they do have the training, but often those booksmarts just zero in on a number...when we are so much more than a number. pllus, the doctor doesnt live inside your body, YOU do... so you should really listen to it.
sorry this is kinda long... but i have just found out about this complete breakdown of the medical profession when it comes to thyroid health and i guess i just want to spread the word. i have actually FELT my metabolism slow to a crawl, almost as palpable as that, and i have said the very words you have... that if i even just so much as LOOK at a piece of bad food, i gain a crapload of weight from it. NOT fair, as i lived with 3 guys who practically inhaled the junk and were scrawny as heck. dont get me wrong, i completely agree with what everyone has said in response to your initial post, BUT i am simply saying, dont be so quick to discount thyroid issues. make sure you REALLY know before you say yours is fine.
03-18-2007, 07:18 AM
Dawn to dusk, did I read that right? Are you only eating 1000-1200 a day and as low as 500? Because quite honestly that is not a good idea, not a good idea at all. Your body needs more fuel then that. This is something you want to do forever and ever. Eating that little can only backfire, as you well know, having eaten those hot dogs.
IMO, you need to find a plan that you can stick to forever. This really should not be looked at as some "diet" that once you finish you can go back to your old ways. Diets end (this is bad), lifestyles continue, they go on and on (this is good). You need to be eating at least 5 or 6 times a day. Three decent meals and 2 or 3 snacks. Eating every 2 -3 hours, so that you never get hungry. You also need to eat healthy foods as they will keep you from having urges for unhealthy foods and provide you with proper nutrition. Maybe you want to give us a sample of a days menu and we can help you change it up to make it more healthy and satisfying and sustainable.
You should absolutely not feel guilty. Read my signature, though it's nowhere near as funny as Shelby's. Every day is a new opportunity to improve ourselves.
03-18-2007, 08:22 AM
Alexis79, I'm not sure what the numbers on my thyroid report were, I'm gonna look for them and check out the website you mentioned. But I've been a compulsive eater my whole life so I think most of my weight gain has to do with that. But I'll check out the site anyway :)
Robin, I have this mental block that prevents me from accepting that eating 5-6 mini meals a day would help me lose weight, despite all the evidence around me. But you're right, seeing as how it made me binge out of control by the end of the day, I'm gonna give it a shot. I'll post whatever I ate today at the end of the day.
03-18-2007, 08:37 AM
Dawntodusk, good for you for acknowledging that you are responsible for your weight. I used to go to doctors and they would ask me if I ever had my thyroid checked and this and that and I was always "Umm, nope, I just overeat - A LOT". So, yes I too am responsible for every pound that got onto my body. Period. I think it's important to acknowledge it because if you don't, well then how can you possibly change it?
You are taking a step in the right direction. You are noticing that past behaviors are not working for you. I know it sounds crazy that to eat more often you will actually LOSE weight. But, this is a realistic, SMART approach, and when done CORRECTLY, it works. And it's one that you can live with - forever. We'll be more then happy to help you out. Because I promise you, it IS possible to lose the weight. Really, it is.
03-19-2007, 02:53 AM
[QUOTE=Dawn2Dusk;1615717]Alexis79, I'm not sure what the numbers on my thyroid report were, I'm gonna look for them and check out the website you mentioned. But I've been a compulsive eater my whole life so I think most of my weight gain has to do with that. But I'll check out the site anyway :)
cool... i mean it is just something to consider, so i'm glad you are looking into it. personally, i have gone through eating disorders... from anorexia to bulimia , back and forth (and think they are all different forms of a very similar addiction... as a matter of fact, bulimia and compulsive eating share so very much in common that they are nearly identical, except for one major difference... but that just took one time for me to cross that line into purging before i fell deep into bulimia.) i have found it interesting to discover in my recent thyroid and adrenal fatigue journey (that's a long story, btw:dizzy: ) that hormone imbalance goes hand-in-hand with addiction. and food obsession (whatever its form) is basically an addiction. and in fact, my twin sister went right from one addiction (the disordered eating) to full-on alcoholism. it's just amazing how dependent every system within the human body is on every single other system...when one gets out of balance, so do all the others. and, our mind and our bodies are one... they are not separate... so our cognative systems are just as dependent on our hormone levels as , say, our i dont know... help me out here... digestive systems?? i dont know... but you know what i mean. :?:
anyhoo, good luck on your weight loss journey. you should really listen to rockin robin on this one.... a few years ago i did this very thing (before my thyroid got really bad) and it worked. i could feel my metabolism being revved, despite my developing thyroid issue.basically, if you look at your metabolism like a fire... you want to constantly be giving fuel to the fire to get that fire going... spread out the fuel. what you DONT want is to let the fire slowly die down by waiting too long to give it fuel, THEN throw a ginormous log on it.... then we're stuck with a log that wont burn and that wont fit into our pants.:( dont mean to preach. you probably heard all that already. but, i do know that now, with this stupid thyroid thing... there's nothing i can do for my weight but get my thryoid treated. wish me luck, as i have yet to start on the hormones. in the meantime, i'm just gonna be nosing around this site. its inspirational. good luck~ you can do it.;)
03-19-2007, 11:45 AM
I wanted to offer another thought on your co-worker who seemingly has no effects of eating all that food. Just because she has yet to show outside manifestations of eating poorly does not mean she isn't doing damage to her body. She may end up with high cholesterol or b/p. I agree with Robin. YOu need to stop looking at this just as a weight loss diet and start planning how you can fuel your body to be healthy and fit. As for the hotdogs, they are done and over. It happens. You just turn around and continue your plan. Sounds like you already figured out that you need to up your calorie level. Great job!