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03-01-2007, 10:52 AM
Hey Everyone

Let me explain how this thread will work.

We are all here for the same reason.... to get healthy...some of us are closer to our goals then others but we are all still a work in progress.. This thread is designed to keep each other accountable and on track through the cunning use of humor, honesty, humor, Witty banter, humor and all around fellowship among the fatties :) The rules are simple:
*check in every so often to update on progress or obstacles to share with the group
*be open to suggestion... we're a team...someone might have gone through the same thing and has ideas to get you just be open
* NO EXCUSES!! I hereby give anyone the right to put someone in their place (and vice versa I might add) for those who are just a stream of excuses... get real people! Who are you kidding here? Not us... itís yourself... be honest with us and be honest with yourself...
*Try to approach this tread as a get real approach to life... so we donít have to limit it to weight loss talk about your life... Im sure we can all relate to one another in more than the weight loss element..
*HAVE FUN.... we are celebrating ourselves getting healthier... so HAVE FUN DAMMIT!!! Im here to get an ab workout... through laughing...... so who's with me???

The key here is..... this thread isnt for everyone..understand that we are not here to hurt anyone or stir anything up in anyone other than ourselves.... we are a group that will help keep each other on track with a NO SUGAR COATING allowed approach so if you cant handle honesty.... then shape up... or ship out!!


03-01-2007, 11:38 AM
I found you!! I hope others will soon come =)

03-01-2007, 12:01 PM
Sounds good. Tough love always works for me! :-)

03-01-2007, 01:35 PM
Okay, here's your first chance for a brutal attack!!:D

I got up this morning and weighed myself, which hasn't been a big issue lately -- my weigh in day is Monday so I've just been weighing myself for a check in -- well today it didn't say what I would have liked, so I've already downed some doritos, nachos with cheese and gummy bears -- make me stop!!

03-01-2007, 03:13 PM
Okay, here's your first chance for a brutal attack!!:D

I got up this morning and weighed myself, which hasn't been a big issue lately -- my weigh in day is Monday so I've just been weighing myself for a check in -- well today it didn't say what I would have liked, so I've already downed some doritos, nachos with cheese and gummy bears -- make me stop!!

..well heres your options....I can roll up this handy dandy newspaper here and swat your nose and say...NO NO...BAD GIRL.....with an ever so intimidating look on my face.... but that would possibly result in you peeing in my shoes.... and who wants that...

so heres your second option......

hey........shelby897.............stop it......

did it work?

ok so... obviously I cant make you do anything you dont WANT to do..... so my simple yet affective solution is this.... BE PREPARED.... have low fat popcorn popped or ready to go for your salty attacks...if its a hand to mouth sweet tooth action you're craving... replace the gummy bears for can still name them and if you're anything like me and my gummy bears build colonies as if they resemble smurfs and have them act out scenes.....then eat every damn on of them.....BE READY....theres just no excuse when YOU do YOUR work and prepare for your eating attacks... I get them a lot and try to convince myself that hey i've been working hard... I DESERVE THIS.... ever used that one??...... alright well sure its allowable to enjoy a sweet treat without going overboard.. or a salty cheesetastic meal.....but keep in mind... is it worth it?... and sure you've worked hard but now you just made your work a little harder because guess what....TO THE TREADMILL!!! work off that crap you just Im FINALLY after years of yo yo diets realizing there is great satisfaction in self dicipline....and i feel AMAZING when i tell myself no.... then I treat myself to fruit... or a diet pop instead of just.....crap...

but just so you know.... if this keeps up................that newspaper is ready......and Im quick on my feet....... so knock it off and keep kickin ***!!!!!

03-01-2007, 03:39 PM
So you've been nibbling a few doritoes and gummy bears and the like - KEEP EATING.

KEEP EATING till you can't stand the idea of another chip or bear and the idea of eating them makes you nauseous.

KEEP EATING those naughty items until you feel like you're going to explode and then keep eating some more. You'll end up in the bathroom with one bodily function or another trying to get rid of all the garbage you ate.

And you won't want Doritoes or gummy bears for a very, very long time. You won't want to eat anything bad for awhile.

Believe it or not, this has saved me once or twice from continuing a multiple-day chain of "just one little thing."

03-01-2007, 03:51 PM
Samantha -- Perfect!! I have gotten to the point I'm physically ill from eating the crap -- what a moron!! I've learned my lesson.

And, as this thread indicates -- I have no excuse for my actions -- they were stupid. I've done so well and I knew when I grabbed the first "treat" it was a bad idea but I continued with it and now I don't feel so hot, but at least not to the "hug the toilet" point I used to go to!! There, I've received my punishment from my own body!!

Stilllovecartoons -- Perfect -- you pass on your first try!! I know what I did was stupid and I wasn't even hungry, just trying to do what?? Who knows. If the scale doesn't say what I want it to, it sure as h*** won't after I eat 5 lbs of food! So, put the newspaper away, you scared me straight!!

Thanks for the help -- I think tough love is better than a pity party!!!

03-01-2007, 04:11 PM
This is exactly why it is not a good idea to weigh more than once a week - we become a slave to the numbers and they are the last measure of success we should be using. Weight naturally flucuates from day to day and even hour to hour. Eating junk food didn't make you lose, and perhaps set you back so it was not a good solution. Be prepared with low calorie foods if you need to eat - but we shouldn't be eating unless we are truly hungry.

03-01-2007, 05:12 PM
Susan -- you are SO right -- I'm usually such a rational person, what happens when food is involved!!!:dizzy:

Scales away until Monday weigh in and hopefully I can pull this out of the dumpster and fix what I broke!!!

03-01-2007, 06:30 PM
Wit, tough love, and no excuses? I'm in!

Sounds like some of you women might really love another no-excuses website out there. It has nothing to do with dieting, it's basically just a huge rant site dedicated to people being INTELLIGENT and how rare that is. Heartless *****es, International. I'm a member for quite awhile now, and while I don't always live up to the title - I can blame it on the depression if I need to but isn't this all about not making excuses? - I'm doing my damndest.

That said, here I am, and I'm looking forward to hanging out with you lot. I got my happy butt to the gym this morning - for the first time in TWO YEARS I might add - to do the first day's workout of the first week of C25K. I've always wanted to "be a runner" and envied the runners I saw when I went to the beach and stuff. I kept saying "I'll do it when I've lost __ lbs. I'll do it when I've bought __ super nifty expensive bra or shoes. I'll do it when...I'll do it when..." and I got tired of it. I have anxiety which makes exercising in public really hard, but...I finally did it. Sucked it up, got outta bed at 6:30 this morning, and WENT. And I felt great afterwards. Maybe there IS some truth to the whole endorphin rush thing with running. Okay, so I had to swaddle myself in three bras (I'm a 38F) to keep from knocking myself unconscious with the bouncing. So what? I did it anyway. Gonna start doing strength training at home with my hand weights and a couple of DVDs I have, cause my ability to just "suck it up" with anxiety in public has its limits, and I'm not doing weights at the gym with all the jock boys (college gym, ugh). But I'm actually looking FORWARD to being able to go on Saturday morning. Woohoo!

Okay, I'm done rhapsodizing now. ;)

03-02-2007, 09:31 AM
Good morning ladies!! So the nightmare I call yesterday is over!! Ready for a great day and no scales -- master plan is to measure myself today for the first time, wish I had done it before I lost any weight, but I still have to figure out what I'm going to use that fits ALL the way around me!! Hope husband has a big roll of string or something -- maybe a tow rope??

Have a great day.

03-02-2007, 11:36 AM
Good morning ladies.. It looks like this thread is quickly attracting lots of friends :O) How is everyone doing today??
Am I the only gal dreading the coming weekend? I always screw up big time!! Weekends for me are my biggest challenge & usually I fail that challenge!!

03-02-2007, 12:10 PM
G'morning, all. Cherry, I feel ya. My biggest issue on the weekends is in convincing myself NOT to go to Starbucks for breakfast at least once - it's a habit I developed during high school and it's reinforced every time I go home to Mom's for a weekend; that's just what the family *does* for breakfast. That, or donuts, and donuts are my worst "weakness food". So almost out of habit, come Saturday morning, I'm getting ready to go downtown and hit Starbucks and then maybe the grocery store for some donuts, and have to talk myself out of it. Sometimes with...mixed results. ;) What throws you off on the weekends?

03-02-2007, 12:28 PM
It's not a particular item - it's just the munchies in general when my boyfriend and I are watching movies on the weekend. I can withstand the honeyed peanuts and smokehouse almonds that he needs on a daily basis but then I start remembering the hummus with pinenuts... or the white cheddar popcorn...or the salsa and tostitos.:stress:


03-02-2007, 01:20 PM
Morning Ladies

Ohhhhhhhh it...

My weekends arent my worst... its during the week when I try to eat as little as possible all day and then as soon as i walk into the door when i get home I have to eat a dinner before I eat dinner because ive kept my body empty for too long... oohhhhh good times!!! Yeah I havent been doing that as much these days... I've learned to allow myself some healthy snacks IF...and I repeat IF I ACUTUALLY need to to keep me from getting hungry and paniced...

but my weaknesses..... peanut M&M's.....went to the movies with BF the other day... he got some... I didnt really want them.. but I love the smell of them... so i made him kiss me a bunch.........WHAT??? DONT JUDGE ME!!! lol its better then breaking down and eating them right???

other weakness.... Triskets..... I 100% do NOT BUY THESE..... woven by the devil himself I swear..... I cant get away with just 4 or 5.. even the reduced fat or low sodium ones... nothing... none...I will eat the whole damn box.... so I just do NOT buy them..

I need to get into that routine with other things I feel I "should " have for a treat...

but I digress...

So this week.... not real thrilled... I definitely felt I was giving 100% and then those MONTHLY cravings that ladies get... kicked in.. and I gave in a couple times... now mind you I didnt just blow it.. and I made strides.... Im not normally a real big chocolate eater.. even during that time... but It came at me like lightning BAM!!!! choooocccoollaattteee....... so I made a devils food bundt cake with fat free choco. pudding in it so..... of course i had a piece... and it was good... then i wrapped the rest up and took half to my grandparents house... they watched my daughter while I had a meeting... and am giving the rest to BF this afternoon for his house.... so Im not happy that I gave in to the craving but I had a piece... not the whole cake.. then I corrected what I had dont and whamo... no real guilt..... but Im open to you guys thoughts :) I will say I was not thrilled at all with the scale....

Today is my weigh in day..... and since its that glorious monthly time... it always throws it off anyway... but according to this I am up 3... so I know what I need to do... and what I DONT need to do...and im all over it...not Monday... NOW!!!

I had been attempting Mtn biking with my sister for the last couple weeks.... mind you i havent been on a bike since i was 18.... and i actually REALLY enjoy it... it was a pain the first couple rides.... my poor....big...***...NO NOT POOR... ITS HUGE AND IT SHOULDNT BE THERE..... so TAKE THAT ***!!

but I didnt ride at all this week because of weather.... NOT GOOD... should have at least done something.. but I did nothing...
I am the type of person who needs to do SOME form of physical maintence on a daily basis or I wont do it at all

so up 3 this week... next week........... we'll see me be down 45.......... or at least down the 3 im up EITHER WAY WILL MAKE ME HAPPY!!!

have a faboo weekend ladies

Keep on truckin!!

03-02-2007, 01:27 PM
Everything sets me off on the weekends!!! My family likes to go out alot..Eat out at the theatre, luv those super nacho's! Eat some ice cream at the wonderful new Hagaan Daz treatery, why'd they have to come to my mall?!?!
I'm a big stress and boredom eater, and really big eater when Aunt Flow visits!! My mom says that's just a lame excuse I use to pig out, maybe she's right :O) I'm pretty much a anytime any reason eater...

03-04-2007, 07:24 PM
Where is everyone hiding at?? How's your weekend been..thank goodness it's almost over!! I need Monday to get here so I can get my kids' and husband out of my hair =O)

03-05-2007, 05:26 PM
so incredibly enough.....I rode 12 miles today when I went biking with my sister......12 miles!!!!!!

im sore and a little jello-legged... but I am so proud of myself... I more than doubled my miles in one week.....first week out I was good with about 5 miles....i wanted to "ease into it" so I worked but wasnt PUSHING myself... so today.... I was balls to the wall LETS DO THIS.... and It feels AMAZING... and I kept saying "ok after this run we'll head back" and she'd say we really could just go one more miled...and before I could talk myself out of it.... we were two more miles in!!! I love it.... granted im going to be hurtin for sure tomorrow.... i did it!!! no pain no gain....

hope you all had a great weekend and I have a feeling its going to be a great week... weather is supposed to be in the 60's all week I think which for KC right now... is well needed!!

03-05-2007, 06:05 PM
Good for you stillovecartoons!!!!!!! Sounds like you have an awesome sister..I wish I had an exercise partner :O)

I exercised today..I'm doing fine with my food water needs to be increased though..which is always difficult for me..Nobody's perfect =O)

I'm feeling alot of pressure to get my weight under control!! I have got 2 weddings to attend this summer..I'm a bridesmade in both..which means some ugly sleeveless dress..& I don't like to wear dresses because I'm short & my hips are makes me look like I'm wearing a potato sack :( And I NEVER EVER go sleeveless!! I mean NEVER.. I feel the pressure!!

03-05-2007, 06:10 PM
Hey Nikaia =0) I feel your pain!! I chose my screenname "cherrylatte" based on my all time favorite Starbucks latte flavor.. I'm a latte fanatic!

03-07-2007, 01:46 AM
Yeah, I do so love it...

Well, I've done abysmally since Friday. Saturday was lovely - I went sailing with my dad on the Bay. Beautifully warm - I mean, we're talking warm enough for a long-sleeved shirt and jeans, barefoot (as long as you were hiding behind the dodger, that is!) - if not much wind. We decided to stay out and watch the sunset, and the moonrise. Food-wise, I did pretty well. I met Dad and his paramour for brekkie before the sail, and while the portions at the place we were at were huge, I was very moderate. I had an apple waffle and had about half of it, plus an espresso. Drank lots of water through the course of the day, only had half my sandwich for lunch because I didn't really *want* the rest of it, dinner was simple roast chicken, Hawaiian sweet rolls, and instant mashed potatoes.

But then I went to my mom's. I love my mom and my brother dearly. But they! And it isn't even just the quantity, but they eat a lot of less-than-healthy foods. Sundays we go out for breakfast, went to IHOP this time, I had their skillet meal - roasted potatoes, onions, mushrooms, cheese, with a toasted roll and a couple strips of bacon - along with my caramel apple cider from Starbucks. I don't remember the food from the rest of the day, I think I ended up having canned ravioli for lunch because there wasn't much else, then my brother made homemade orange chicken - we had just spent the afternoon picking all the oranges on our orange tree - which we had with edamame. But the dessert was what killed me. Nick - my brother - made a whole package of those break-apart-and-bake chocolate chip cookies. I had five of them. Yes, they're small, but FIVE. So not cool. But they were THERE, they were GOOD, and "everyone else was having them". Why do we get so caught up in food=love? I felt like I couldn't eat less without somehow scorning my family's giving of it. Ugh.

Yesterday wasn't bad. I was back to my usual low-ish calorie routine, didn't drink near enough water though, and didn't find time to work out. Today...ugh. Breakfast was fine, but I didn't even really HAVE lunch, just made myself a cottage-cheese-with-pretzels snack and then started pigging out on these chocolate-chip meringue cookies that I LOVE. I have learned by now not to just eat out of the tin, why don't I actually put that lesson to use? And I was *going* to go to the gym this morning, workout 2 of C25K, but my housemate was going, and I just KNEW she'd want to make it a "social" time while we were both doing our cardio. I hate that. When I work out, I work out alone, and I do not want to have to take my focus away from what I'm doing and how my body is reacting. So I let that override my need/desire to work out, and instead had a crap day. Dinner was all right, I guess.

Le sigh. So there's the catalogue of my sins over the past few days.

I'm just hoping I can get back on track tomorrow. Supposed to do my DDR workout tomorrow morning. Here's hoping.

03-07-2007, 03:14 PM
what a rockin' thread. I have SO been looking for people like you!!

03-07-2007, 03:26 PM
very much the same velveteen!
I think a shared hatred of weekends is becoming a pattern here :D lol i myself love them and hate them its just there's too much free time ...i love being busy and having no time for food, or more no time to eat inbetween bad foods. im going to have to get some self restraint because on a scale of 1-100 i have 10 when put next to to how much i want to lose weight it should be more like 90.

03-07-2007, 03:35 PM
tough love! I love it. Need a *** kicking every once and awhile.:)

03-07-2007, 06:17 PM
Hello everybody!! I feel good seeing some others here that despise the weekends as much as I do :O)
Nikaia..I don't think you did so bad..Trust me I did way worse than you..Maybe you can feel good about yourself knowing that no matter how bad you do, there's a very good chance I'll do even worse!
I didn't exercise today..I had a hair appointment & a tanning appointment.I should put my priority's in order!!Oops, my bad..
Maybe we should put our genius minds together and think of a challenge we could all do over the weekends?? Any ideas?? Winner could knock the losers around as the prize =)

03-08-2007, 10:54 AM
lol ohh Cherry.... I feel you already know me all too well....

a challenge is just what we need ladies!!!! and although the thought of pile driving the loser has its appeal.... I want us all to be kickin ***!!

ok... was that too Richard Simmons for everyone?!?! lol

anyway I was swamped yesterday and didnt have time to write but I am glad to see all these new people!!

so to recap a bit for myself..... Im not doin too shabby.... of course I'd like to be able to say "I KICKED ***" and not just settle with a "not too shabby" my big one is boredom eating... and IM A NIGHT EATER LIKE CRAZY....and that hasnt been bad at all this week... and I biked 12 miles monday and 6 1/2 tues... didnt get to it yesterday and am on my way out my activity level is way better..... but yes.... a challenge..... heres some ideas we can toss around

a water challenge..... because after all we are supposed to be drinking 1/2 our body weight in ounces of water everyday.... yikes....

a superfoods challenge... which ive done in the past and its a wonderful way to introduce new foods that are really good for you

an exercise challenge....

**** i dont know.... I just know that Im ready for this crap to be melting off me and I am loving having you ladies here to help support eachother!!! I refuse to give up on myself (which FYI Im not anywhere near but just ... you know... dramatic effect :) )

so lets brainstorm Chicas and come up with something clever to get our butts in gear

have a great day guys....

WI is tomorrow for me...... Im crossing my fingers... I have popped on the scale a couple times this week....and I AM NOT going to do that again.... one weigh in a week.. thats it... but yeah... im hoping for the best

03-08-2007, 01:23 PM
Ok. so what is "super foods"?? it sounds like something we all need to try.. how many of us regularly exercise on weekends?? I occasionally do..but often, I don't maybe an exercise challenge is just what we need..what do you think ladies?? I know I need to increase my water intake..but I cannot imagine drinking 98 ounces a day!! the thought terrifies me to the bone..I would drown :O( I'll do my best to drink "some" additional water..
So I have a lunch date with some friends this afternoon..we're going to Applebees..I must find the courage to eat a salad & drink some water!! wish me luck =O)

03-12-2007, 11:21 AM
superfoods..... how to explain..... well I did a little research and heres a link that will explain it better...

but its basically lots of rich in nutrients foods.... the darker the food the better for you..... but the challenge is to say im going to incorrporate 10 superfoods a day into my already healthy diet.... kinda deal if that makes sense... so then you have to get creative with recipes... I joined 3 diets years ago and there was a thread that had a superfoods challenge on there that I really learned a lot from. its not for everyone though... be warned :) Im going to do it.... but I LOVE veggies... so for me this isnt an issue... I know now everyone is down with the greens :)

well Im sorry i didnt check in Friday... wasnt really around a computer for more than 5 seconds... I am happy to report that I am down 2 more lbs... no celebrating going on though... Im GLAD for the loss... but still half assed it a bit this weekend.... so eyes on the prize from here on out... Im off to Colorado next week so my mini goal is to be down 8 more lbs by the 21st when I leave... I can do this...

hope everyone had a great week and let me know what you guys think about the superfoods thing... :carrot: creepy super food......god this thing is disturbing

03-12-2007, 11:59 AM
:D ok heres a new motivation for myself to share with you ... My bf.... has a motor cycle... not like a crotch rocket but a really nice cruiser type bike... so now that the weather is going to be AMAZING he's alllllll into riding... now ladies.. I was not with this man during last years bike riding weather... I feel like if I get on we're going to be driving around in a permanent wheelie position :D and mind you he's not a little guy so we wouldnt look ridiculous... but he's a paramedic... as are 99.9% of his friends... and they are all really cool and I enjoy hanging out with them.......and their skinny gorgeous girlfriends.... now I have never been one to be jealous or.... think im less than anyone else... but come on ... who wouldnt want to look hot on the back of a im not doing it to be more like them... im not doing it to catch other guys eyes...Im doing it for myself.. and honestly im doing it for my bf also.. I know hes proud of me and is in no way shape or form embarrased of me at all... but i want him to get those winks from his friends... ya know?

so thats a motivation for me..... lame i know..... but..... what can i say....

03-12-2007, 12:27 PM
Very interesting posts on the superfoods. Printed it out for more intense review in future. Makes sense (if I can get my boyfriend to eat veggies besides potatoes and peppers).

03-12-2007, 12:40 PM
Fabulous--a "suck-it-up-and-deal-with-it" kind of thread...I am SO in!

I have read through the posts in this thread, but I don't know anything about any of you, so I'd like to start out by saying I'm 24 and have been fat my whole life and am TIRED of making excuses for STILL being fat.

Today, I planned my menu for the whole day first thing this morning--about 2000 calories--and I started my day with 30 minutes of WATP at 4:30am. I'm on my second liter of water (so that will make about 64oz when it's gone). So off to a great start today, right?

Well, time for the brutally honest truth part--I already overate :devil: It wasn't anything really horrible, but very clorically dense. I had an apple sliced up with some natural peanut butter. I had planned 2 tablespoons of peanut butter. I probably ended up having closer to 6. I finished what was left in the jar. So, at least it's gone now. At least, also, it happened early enough in the day that maybe I can try to make up for it by cutting back a bit later on.

Oh, and I DO weigh myself just about every day. I don't worry about the numbers much on a daily basis, though--they don't get to me. Instead, I take those weights and track them in my Fitday so I can still see the trend over time rather than worrying if I'm up or down from just one day to the next.

Anyway, great to find this group. There are a million people who will hug me and try to cheer me up and whatnot, but I think what I really need is a KICK, not a hug ;)

03-12-2007, 02:33 PM
Unfortunately I do weigh more than my hubby..he's never been a big guy..but thankfully he's put on a bit of weight these last 2 years..I beleive his highest weight ever is currently a whopping 164!! considering he used to weigh around 150..this is an improvement if you ask my current goal might seem silly..but at least it's achievable(I hope)..I vow to weigh less than my husband for an upcoming wedding on July 8th!! I'm gonna start feeding him some huge dinners..fatten him up a little~just kidding..I won't cheat like that!

03-13-2007, 10:06 AM
I guess I'll say a little about myself...... im 27 I have always been "a bigger girl" but always extremely athletic growing up.... married the worlds laziest man and not to point a finger but.....i fell into the same routine he i ate what i much as i wanted all the time.... put on about 75 we've been divorced for 4 years now..... so im heavier than i've ever been..... so OBVIOUSLY I cant blame anyone but myself.... so Im tired of my chins getting the final say :) Im tired of my muffintop when I wear my jeans.... you guys know what im talking about.. that stomach fat that doesnt fit in your jeans so it pokes out the top.... the here i am....I owe it to my daughter (7) my awesome bf and mostly myself to take the best care of myself I can right now....

so I weighed in at an "HOLY CRAP SERIOUSLY?!?!?" 279 when I started this thread 2 weeks ago and im down 4 lbs..... so..... here we go :)

had a good day yesterday... I walked at about medium intensity for about 35 minutes.... ate well within my calories.. and got a TON done that I've been needing to. so I am off for another bike ride... aiming for 12 miles again but my ankle feels a little weird this morning.... so hopefully i'll be able to pull it off.

well I'll check in when I get home but wanted to start the day out right and check in with my ladies before I start the day.

hope everyone kicks *** today

oh and whats up with the challenge.... we have any other ideas anyone wants to throw out there?

Have a great day ladies!


03-13-2007, 10:49 AM
haha, I soooo hear you on the muffintops! I call mine "the hangover."

I thought I had yesterday all figured out--I planned my calories under control (even after the peanut butter incident--I adjusted lunch to compensate), but then a dieting disaster struck: news that required celebrating.

My boyfriend proposed to me yesterday :D So yeah, we went out to dinner, and yes, I had dessert. Hopefully, it's the only day in my life that will happen, so calories be damned :p

We're going out again tonight, which we had been planning since it is the 3-year anniversary of the day we met in person (we initially met online). I will be ordering a salad, though (the place we're going makes AMAZING salads with romaine, avocado, roasted corn, diced tomato, chicken, dried cranberries, and they never use so much dressing that there's puddles at the bottom, you know?).

Anyway, I don't have any ideas for challenges--I'm not personally a "challenge" kind of person. I am competitive, but for this whole "lifestyle change" thing, I'm either going to do it or I'm not, and challenges don't really motivate me much to do anything differently. But I'll be happy to cheer everyone else along :)

03-16-2007, 11:21 AM
I wonder, where did the other gals in this thread wander off to?? I haven't don as well as I should this week..I only exercised twice..I ate out a few times..and I ddin't choose "healthy" options at the restaraunts..I'm disappointed in myself..I know that if I don't lose a few pounds at least by the dreaded wedding this July..I'm going to feel like a huge slob in the UGLY bridesmaid gown..I hope whoever's is left in this thread is doing much better than myself =O)

03-16-2007, 12:02 PM
Cherry, I'm not doing much better. I can't say I've gained any weight this week, but I haven't lost any, either. And tonight, we're driving to my sister's in Va Beach for the weekend, so I know it'll be more restaurants and not so healthy food down there.

But, this is "shape up or ship out," right? So time to stop beating ourselves up and thinking about what we've done wrong, and focus on what we can DO!

We might do some engagement ring shopping for me this weekend, and I'm getting a manicure/pedicure tomorrow afternoon, so I best do something that shows that I can do as good for my body as I can for other parts, right? ;)

03-16-2007, 02:56 PM
Ladies... This seems to be a most marvelous thread! Count me in! (but, I don't have internet at home so I can't check it on weekends)

I have had an okay week... great w/ exercise (I jogged for the first time in years) crappy w/ food (I've been starving for the last 2 days and eatting constantly). We'll see how I do at weigh in on sunday.

Keep kicking ***! I know I'll be when I go jogging again!

03-18-2007, 01:27 PM
Count me in too! The nice and supportive approached hasn't worked, so I'm going for the tough love approach. The quick on me - 30, married, no kids yet, love sweets, hate exercising!

Here's the confession - I've lost control of myself! This week was just awful. Well, I did start back at the gym in the mornings. But eating has been just awful! Anything I saw I would put in my mouth. I have eaten myself into self-loathing which is a first for me (guess that's good?). On Friday I actually ate an entire bag of Smartfood cheddar popcorn. the worst part about it is my planned food is all great but at work instead of eating my apple in the afternoon I'm hunting down chocolate or other sweets. I'm definitely a person who messes up in the morning and then lets myself keep doing it all day long. My husband is fantastic! He'll support me in anything I do, eat anything I put on the table but he has this bizarrely strong willpower and doesn't understand how someone just doesn't say no to a craving. That gets pretty annoying.

My friend's wedding is July 21 and I'd really like to lose 20 pounds by then (it's about 16 weeks, so pretty reasonable). So, today starts a new week, that really has got to be better than last week! Feel free to kick my butt into gear - god knows I need it!!

03-27-2007, 11:48 AM
I'm sorry I've beeen absent!! So much going on at my house at the moment!
I haven't been good, I won't sugar coat it!! I've only been to exercise probably 5 times in the past 2 weeks..I haven't been tracking calories at all.. It's so weird but it seems like the more I try to lose weight, the more I fail!! I know that sounds stupid.. I never claimed to be bright!

In April of last year (11 months ago) I weighed 171, I had done a liquid diet for 5 weeks and exercised like a mad woman because I was determined to wim the 30 day challenge at my gym.. So I won, but then immediately thereafter I sought out all the foods I'd deprived myself of and then some! Needless to say my loss last no more than 6 days :(
Nobody to blame but myself.. Now with an upcoming wedding (July) I'm tempted to do the liquid diet again, I know it's silly, it doesn't work longterm, but it's like liquid diets are the only way I ever lose pounds.. So I'm trying to talk myself out of it, I know there's a healthier way.. I wish the little devil on my shoulder would shut up and go away!!!

03-28-2007, 12:28 AM
Hey guys....

Sorry about not checking in.... I've been in Colorado with my daughter for spring break... which was faboo by the way!

so good news is....8 lbs.... gone.... took longer than I wanted it to... and I know I can do better!!! but its gone.. I am a bit under the weather and really need to get some sleep but I will check in tomorrow and give you the latest with me.....
oh and Cherry... I understand.. like im sure ALL OF US do.... the quick fix thing seems like SUCH an outstanding idea..... but at the same time if you are predicting a binge... why set yourself up? why not start now and just do it the healthy way and not have to move from crash to lifestyle... i mean you said yourself it was all back in about a week... dont doom yourself like that... you've dropped 51 lbs lady!! thats awesome... my advice is keep on the slow and steady....dont set yourself up for failure or give yourself more work than you really need to to drop the rest of your weight...buck up!!!!
whenever I decided in the past to go the crash diet route... i always binged like...the WEEK before... obviously more work for myself... and then I would reward myself for the loss... and in the end I usually ended up heavier than before the crash...

i wouldnt do it... i would buckle down and stick to getting off your butt and moving and making good choices when you eat... hopefully if you feel good about losing it the right way... you'll not only look amazing but FEEL amazing also...because you were worth passing on the temptation for the easy way out!

03-28-2007, 10:56 AM
Thanx for the support stillovecartoons :) And a huge CONGRATULATIONS on you 8 pound loss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm doing my portion control, I'm trying anyways.. Hopefully today I'll get my booty in gear and exercise finally..I really feel a difference in my energy levels since not getting any exercise for the past week :(
I'll check back with everyone later today.. I hope your day goes good ;)

03-29-2007, 10:19 PM
I want in!

My boyfriend proposed to me yesterday


Now, back to me: My user name is totally misleading as I haven't lived in NYC for like seven years or so - which is kind of scary because that means I've been farting around this site on and off for SEVEN YEARS and I've probably gained ten pounds (well, actually I've gone up QUITE high, and down about ten pounds less than I am now, and there was this pregnancy thing last year...I have lost all my weight from that but considering what I weighed to start with, that's not so impressive but, moving on...) but I don't want to focus on that just now. I'm 34, living in the deep South, married for almost nine years (shocking!) and mom to one great daughter (more shocking!!!) and a pretty excellent dog. I currently have no hobbies and no life except for baby baby baby and wondering when the baby is going to sleep. This? Is not so good.

I actually think I may join WW and Curves to meet people, which seems the height of sad. I'd also like to get involved with geocashing because really, what would be more fitting than dragging my totally NOT outdoorsy self into the woods to hunt for stuff? It's all about getting out of the comfort zone, people.

Right now, I have a beach (yikes) vacation that is fast approaching. I'm actually very excited EXCEPT none of my (very cute, many with tags still attached) summer clothes fit and I flat refuse to buy any more size 24 (yeah, I said it, what?) clothes. In fact, as soon as they are too big I am giving them away, never to be thought of again! So my Big Goal is to get back into my size 18, 20, and even 22 summer clothes (ahhh, how I remember the first time I went up to a size 12, how I cried in the fitting room. Foolish, foolish girl! If you had known you were not fat, you would not be fat now! So hug your daughters and tell them they are perfect! That's an order!).

Oh, that's my other Very Big Goal - I never want to complain about fat or my butt or talk about diets in front of my kid. I have wasted far too much of my own brain power worried about, depressed about, and obsessed with my weight. I am not passing that down. So I'm working hard at keeping the junk out of our house (not easy with my husband who has the dietary habits of a seven year old) and keeping my negative thoughts to myself. Today some old lady looked at my (perfectly normal, exceptionally beautiful if I do say so myself - and I will) daughter and said, "She's a plump one, isn't she" and my very own mother nearly had to hold me back. Things I did not say include: a. and you're a wrinkly one! b. and you're a *****y one c. you'll be dead soon, old woman. Whew.

And this is where I end, my kid is awake! Back later!

03-31-2007, 01:00 AM
Did I frighten you all away?


03-31-2007, 11:55 AM
Hi :) No, you didn't scare me away! I can't speak for the others though...Just joking ;)
I haven't been trying very hard with my food portions, and I haven't been to exercise at all this week, my excuse is simple; the kids' are home for spring break, it makes it difficult to get out of the house.. Bad excuse, but that's all I've got! I'll do better today. I don't like weekends though, my family always tempts me with donuts and eating at the buffet :( Wish me strength!

03-31-2007, 08:27 PM
Weekends are hard! There are always so many things to do and everyone expects you to eat (getting together with family, lunch with friends, brunch, blah blah blah). I wish I could get back that phobia of eating in front of people that I had in middle school!

I actually started my food journal today. I planned ahead last night and then had to make some alterations today because of a family thing that I sort of forgot about but luckily I spent so much time chasing my kid, I didn't really get to eat.

My big goals for this week are to stay between 1200 and 1500 calories, keep a food journal, and WATP M-F. I LOVE the WATP dvds (if you tune out the chatter) - I just have to be very determined about carving out the time.

Good luck to you! Hope the rest of your weekend goes well!

03-31-2007, 08:37 PM
ooh, Nicole, I like the WATP ones, too! I don't mind her chatter so much--she's not annoyingly perky to me like some other instructors (I can't STAND working out to Denise Austin :dizzy: ). Then again, I usually do the workouts at about 5am, so I'm not really awake enough to pay much attention to anything she's saying :p

In completely non-weight-loss-related news, I got my ring! Here's a not-so-great picture, but hopefully you'll get the idea. It's white gold and has a round diamond in a 4-prong setting in the center with a square-cut (but tilted, so more like diamond-shaped) blue sapphire on each side, and 5 additional tiny round diamonds set in the band on each side beyond the sapphire. I LOVE it!

04-01-2007, 01:25 PM

And for the record, I too hate Denise Austin. Perky little freak.

04-01-2007, 01:27 PM
What a beautiful ring! Congratulations :)

04-18-2007, 11:17 AM
Hey, what's going on with you girls?