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707Goddess
01-26-2007, 01:06 PM
Ok so i get up this morning to weigh in i have really been looking forward to today telling my self that if i did gain no big deal i have worked out hard all week Well i steped on the scale i had lost 2 1/2 lbs i was so excited a ran out and told my husband im right on track do you know what he said ? he said yeah but didnt you say that last time you were serious about loosing weight ? OMG i could have slapped him i said what, he repeted him self ,and i gave him the look of death and said EXCUSE ME WHAT DID YOU SAY he said i mean good job honey keep up the good work
oh my husband i never have looked to him for support he never has, and never will, i mean i love this man to death i just know he'll never understand weight loss and thats why im glad i found 3FC :hug:
thanks for letting me vent
Michelle


BlueToBlue
01-26-2007, 01:20 PM
Congratulations on the 2 1/2 pound loss! That's great! It sounds like you are definitely on the right track.

I'm sorry your husband isn't as supportive as he could/should be. :hug: Men sometimes just don't get it. I sometimes coach my SO on what to say. "Nope, wrong response! When I ask this, you say..." It sounds like you handled it really well--at least he figured it out the third time so there's hope that he can learn. ;)

marbleflys
01-26-2007, 01:25 PM
yes, the SOs & DHs are far removed from the reality of what we say sometimes, they need coaching.

I think it is just a genetic flaw, but they can be re-trained if you have the patience....(i use the reward system of clean laundry).

congratulations, 2.5 lbs. is GREAT!!!


rockinrobin
01-26-2007, 01:31 PM
Well you're right, you can always come here and there will always be people who will know exactly how you're feeling and be able to support you.

What can I say? Men are dopey and insensitive sometimes. Oblvious in fact. Different hormones, different genes, different organs - just .... different.

Congrats on the 2 1/2 lbs.!!!! :carrot: :carrot: :carrot:

707Goddess
01-26-2007, 01:32 PM
:hug: Thanks ladies thats why i come here daily

707Goddess
01-26-2007, 02:40 PM
I was just thinking why dont men ever understand us funniest thing i can read my husband like a book but turn the table and he's a deer caught in head lights LOL

Cheryl14
01-26-2007, 03:04 PM
Hi Michelle!

My husband and I have known one another since we were ten years old and he STILL doesn't REALLY understand me completely. Like you, I can read my husband like a book- an EASY book! What I have found over the years is that women pick up subtle clues and also have a much better intuitive nature. Men truly need for you to TELL them what you expect!

For YEARS I waited for my husband to do nice things for me. He did nice things that he THOUGHT I would like, but never really "got" it. Once I literally laid out a list of things that I liked and things that really bothered me and PRINTED IT OUT FOR HIM, things have been 100% better. We celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary last June, and in July we will have been together as a couple since 7th grade (age 13). We're both 55.

Men can always learn. WE must be their teachers if we want them to treat us the way that we want to be treated. It took me a lotta years to "get" this! I hope this helps!

Also, I think that guys are used to razzing on one another. They are often like puppies who think it is GREAT fun to bite one another as "play"!!! When they are around us women, they forget that our ideas of conversation, of talking, of PLAY are VERY different than that of their buddies!

Take heart! Come here where we KNOW how you feel and can encourage you! I'll bet your husband is a thin guy who eats TWO pieces of chocolate cake, a whole pizza, and never gains weight! I'm married to a guy like that!:devil:

Cheryl

cbmare
01-26-2007, 03:14 PM
I think it is just a genetic flaw, but they can be re-trained if you have the patience....(i use the reward system of clean laundry).

:rofl: :lol3: Clean Laundry! Unfortunately for me, he does most of the laundry.

Ladies, I think I've partially figured it out. It has something to do with the penis. I have figured out what it has to do with it, but it does. Think about it. We don't act that way. We don't have one. They act that way. They have one. So, logical deductions tell me that it has something to do with the penis.

Congrats on your hard work.

Stinger
01-26-2007, 03:55 PM
They think with two heads not one so they cancel each other out.:lol3:

callystia
01-26-2007, 03:57 PM
They think with two heads not one so they cancel each other out.:lol3:


*spits water everywhere* :rofl:



Congratulations on the loss, Michelle!!

707Goddess
01-26-2007, 04:48 PM
:lol3: :lol3: :rofl: :rofl: you ladies are too funny and thank you for all the advice thats why i come here everyday :hug:

islesgirl
01-26-2007, 05:06 PM
:D

You girls are an absolute riot. I just love you all. I think this might be my first message on here, so obviously I'm new. I couldn't resist commenting on how funny your "body parts" comments are. I think, seriously that men might bash us around a bit just because that IS exactly what they do with each other! Never thought of it before. Anyway, you gave me a huge laugh. Thanks. I wish I had a good quick wit like some of you have. But I can be on the "laughing" end. Right? Now, seriously, do any of you know anything about "The New Beverly Hills Diet" by Judy Mazel? It is called by some the "Pineapple" diet, as it entails quite a lot of pineapple, but lots of other fruits too as well as many other yummy things. It is also "food combining". I did it once for 2 weeks and felt so great on it and lost 12 lbs., but didn't keep it up - wish I had. If any of you knows anyone who can support me in this, I'd love to hear from you. Thanks so much. Have a great day.

Sue (in Canada)

707Goddess
01-26-2007, 05:37 PM
Sue you can post that question on the does it work thread im sure you'll get comments there

willmakeit
01-26-2007, 05:39 PM
I dont think this insentitivity is restricted to just DH's and SO's... Anyone who has not been in our shoes will never understand or relate to how we feel. My DH, Friends, family who have never been overwieght in thier life think its easy to lose weight and that people are overweight because they eat too much and are too lazy to exercise....

DH gets a flat abdomen with just 10 crunches for 3 days!!! I see no change in my body even after exercising daily for months together...

ennay
01-26-2007, 05:43 PM
men are dorks

they just are

even the good ones are just dorks

Nikaia
01-26-2007, 05:43 PM
What I have found over the years is that women pick up subtle clues and also have a much better intuitive nature. Men truly need for you to TELL them what you expect!

That's EXACTLY it! My SO, luckily, is slightly more intuitive and sensitive to my moods than most guys - he says it comes from pining after me for five years (yes, he actually did. I finally came around.). But it still...so often, I tell him I'm feeling upset about something, weight-loss or otherwise, and he assumes that I'm asking him to fix it for me. So he runs off at the mouth with "Here's what you do..." and I have to tell him to shut up. So I'm trying to retrain him; reminding him that, no, honey, I don't want you to fix it. I'm perfectly capable of doing it myself. All I want you to do is listen and be understanding and commiserate. He's learning. But you really do have to bang them over the head with a clue-by-four to get them to know what you want them to do. Hints DO NOT work.

707Goddess
01-26-2007, 06:01 PM
I tell him I'm feeling upset about something, weight-loss or otherwise, and he assumes that I'm asking him to fix it for me. So he runs off at the mouth with "Here's what you do..." and I have to tell him to shut up. .

OH yeah this is exactly what my husband does
MEN we cant live with them cant live with out them OH WAIT yeah we can someone invented toys LOL;)

707Goddess
01-26-2007, 06:46 PM
# sorry did this on accident

Soon2BFitChick
01-26-2007, 07:06 PM
They really don't get it. Sad but true. I was just saying what a good thing it is to be able to come here where people GET IT.

Sorry about his insensitivity. I don't think they get that we take those comments so personally. I guess you could always get out the ol' frying pan and teach him a lesson. LOL. :frypan: Ok, just kidding. Guys just don't get it.

:congrat: Yay for the loss!!! Way to go! I would love 2.5 lbs. to go away. LOL.

Glad we have each other here though!!!!! :cp: :grouphug:

Keep at it, ladies! OH and Michelle, I like your ticker. :D (We have the same one.)

IwannaLoseIt
01-26-2007, 07:14 PM
*sigh*
Men.
Can't live with them,can't live without them! Sorta.

kierr
01-26-2007, 09:07 PM
Grats on the loss! :)

My husband is very supportive, so I'm lucky. I would have punched your husband in the arm if he said that. LOL