100 lb. Club - How to find the "right" weight loss plan

01-15-2007, 03:47 PM
Are any of you in the same boat as I have been? There are so many voices out there saying "their" way is the best way until it begins to make the head swim! I recently told someone about getting some books on weight loss. One said only vegetarian will work, another says only low-fat, yet another says only counting calories, one says only low-carbs....and on and on and on. Does anyone else find themselves overwhelmed with all this? I feel like I am having to wade through tons of stuff to find that one golden nugget "just for me." I still haven't found a plan that I feel is a true fit for me, but I don't really like the shotgun approach either. I would prefer more structure, if it is to be found in just one plan.

Just curious what everyone else did to find "their" weight loss plan that helped them stick to it. If you have, what plan did you find to work for you?

01-15-2007, 04:01 PM
Good question..
I would like to hear everyone's answers as well!!!!!
Mine is counting calories.. I guess the shotgun approach..LOL cause I have no one set plan..

01-15-2007, 04:03 PM
At the risk of sounding like I'm saying my way is the best (lol!) - what worked for me is creating my own plan based on where I'd gone wrong in the past on the numerous plans I'd followed and what foods I liked eating. Just worked some simple rules to stick by - so calorie allowance, fat allowance, once a week treat, what exercise I'd do - but otherwise any food was potentially includable as long as I had the cals/ fat allowance for it. I suppose the key to successful weight loss and keeping it off is knowing yourself - or getting to know yourself as you go along, knowing why you overate in the first place and how to develop effective strategies to avoid overeating regularly again. There is no plan out there that can help with that I don't think! But I am sure you know enough about dieting and food to DIY! Good luck with it.

01-15-2007, 04:08 PM
I would agree. I think it takes a bit of trial and error and involves really creating your own plan.

One thing to remember is that calories count no matter what you do. Some plans just have different ways to eliminate calories.

01-15-2007, 04:13 PM
I will be the third to chime in and say the only plan that works 100% for you is the one you make for yourself. It may be based on a popular plan, but how is anyone who has written a book or done research but never met YOU supposed to really know what will work best for YOU?

Personally, if I had to give up an entire food group, I would have given up long ago. If I had to convert everything I ate into "points," I would go insane. Some things work for some people, but there is no plan that is right for everyone. I have picked bits and pieces of different plans to follow for myself (I count calories, but not according to how many anyone else says I should eat--I have "trial-and-errored" my way to a good amount for my body), and I can adjust my guidelines as I become more healthy and fit. I am not a cookie-cutter person, so a cookie-cutter plan just would not do ;)

01-15-2007, 04:14 PM
I agree - calories count no matter what!

I think that most people who have been at this a while start off with one idea (cutting out carb calories, for example, or cutting out soda and junk, or just counting calories in general), and then slowly start moving their eating habits to a "healthier" state. For me, I started just with a 1500 cal limit. Then I made a protein goal...then once I had that down, a fiber goal...then a calcium goal...then a "limit bad fats" goal. Slowly, my eating habits morphed from just counting calories to being, overall, an eating plan that I consider to be extremely healthy.

So my advice is to start slowly and build your own plan. Start with lowering your calorie intake. Once you're comfortable eating fewer calories per day, maybe you can pick another goal (fiber and protein are good choices - they help keep you full longer, or maybe a water goal to make sure you get plenty of fluids). Adapt slowly along the way, and don't try to tackle too many things at once. This is what is working for me!

01-15-2007, 04:21 PM
WOW! You ladies are awsome! Thanks so much for this valuable input! I guess I am the type of person that expects to walk up to a book, it says "thus" and so therefore I do it (within reason, of course). LOL! I so very much appreciate the input and look forward to following these tips. What better way to get great advice than from those who are being successful.

Thanks again! I also look forward to any other's input!!

01-15-2007, 04:24 PM
I knew that there were no foods that I could totally eliminate from my life, except of course the ones I despise. I plan on doing this forever and ever and totally eliminating my favorite foods would be a recipe for disaster, not success. But I also knew I had to avoid my so called "trigger" foods, because I can't control myself when I'm around them, I just overeat it. Although since getting into this I have learned to eat in moderation (who would have thunk it?) So I knew I had to avoid bread, pasta, pizza, and the such, yeah the carb-y stuff. I was going to reduce my caloric intake greatly so whatever I was going to eat had to have high nutritional value and be satisfying. So I decided to go with a low-fat proteins, low carbs and tons and tons of veggies approach. I do have the occasional treat every now and then in small portions. I basically count calories. I eat every 2 -3 hours, so I never get hungry. I have changed things up a bit, tweak it every now and then as I get tired of something and so I can try new things. If something's not working for me, time to move it out and get something else going. The first 2 - 3 weeks were very, very hard. Hang tough and get through it ANYWAY THAT YOU CAN. After that time, it gets much, much easier. The cravings wil practically stop, you'll look and FEEL better, the scale will go down, your clothing will fit better. All these things will propell you to go on further.

You need to find something that works well for you, based on your needs, likes and dislikes. Play around, experiment and you most definitely will figure it out. Good luck to you. Any more ?'s, feel free to ask. This IS a great place for advice and encouragement.

01-15-2007, 04:50 PM
For me too, finding the plan that works for me has also been trial and error, but based on a lot of sound principles. I also started by calorie counting and tweaked things along the way, much like mandalinn did.

But keep this is mind: the right plan doesn't just help you LOSE weight, but you need to be able to MAINTAIN that loss.

I see lots of people post here that they are going to try X plan again, because it helped them lose a lot of weight before... but they gained it all back. I have to ask if that is really the right plan for them if they don't keep the weight off long term.

So, if you find that you have been on a plan but that it isn't working for you, my advice would be to try to figure out what's not working and try to fix it so it does work for you. heh. Easier said than done!

01-15-2007, 04:55 PM
Something else that is easier said than done ???? Eat less and move more.
In all honesty that's the baseline for all effective weightloss plans. Anything else is trimming, preference or designed to remove your money from your wallet.

01-15-2007, 04:56 PM
Try this:


It may help sort through some of your questions. It was helpful to me!

01-15-2007, 04:58 PM
I waffled around the first month, trying to decide whether to do low fat, low carb, weight watchers, etc. Finally, I decided that I HAD to start something right then, and quit messing around. I had read the Suzanne Somers books a few years prior, so I started out somersizing. I needed something to get me going, to tell me what to eat (more or less), and I didn't have the time or the inclination to research that all for myself right then. Somersizing consisted of foods that I already liked, and I could eat as much as I wanted, I just had to combine them correctly. There were foods that I had to avoid, like sugar, foods with HFCS, white flour, which are things that are trigger foods for me that I needed to stay away from.

After 6 months and 50 lbs lost, I wanted to change things around some, so that I could add some foods back to my diet, and not follow some of the "rules" that I thought I couldn't live with the rest of my life. So I started counting my calories and made those other changes.

I still follow that plan to a large degree, only on level two, which is usually used for maintenance.

I think most "plans" out there will work. I also think that you will probably have to customize any of them to make them work long term for you. I think it is very important to eat whole unproccesed foods, with enough protein to keep you from being hungry and lots of fresh fruits and veggies.

Good luck!

01-15-2007, 05:55 PM
I have only had one plan be successful for me (large loss - 60 lbs), and it was very restrictive. I did gain it all back.. sigh. So I'm modifying what worked last time and making it a bit more practical.

Calories do count, but I lose slower if those calores come from wheat, sugar, dairy etc. I know I must have some insulin resistance because of my past experience eating low-cal junk food! So it's knowing your own body and what you can stick to. A plan that can be maintained is hopefully our goal!

01-15-2007, 05:56 PM
It's so cool to read all these posts and see everyone's different approaches. It's also cool to see that it all boils down to the same thing -- watching how much you eat and controlling it, and moving your body. We're all different, and what works for me might make some people insane because it's kind of a laid back approach. It's funny, though -- someone said they'd never be able to do points, but I've always found points easier to count than calories, probably because I often just estimate it instead of being exact. Many people count calories down to the single digit, and I just can't be that strict. As long as I'm within a certain range, I'm losing weight, so I'll stick with my relaxed approach as long as I can. Also, I'm all about eating whatever you want as long as you're within a certain range, at least until you get used to restricting your portions. You can't take everything away in one day and expect to succeed. If I told myself I'd never have bread again, well...I'd probably just laugh and butter some toast and never start that diet at all.

All I can say is -- try different things until you find something that works and that you can continue to do the REST OF YOUR LIFE. That's the important part. And factor exercise in as soon as possible.

01-15-2007, 06:14 PM
I have also kind of customized my plan this time using bits and pieces of things I have learn over the years. I do understand what you are saying about wanting something to tell you "eat this item, this much." You may have to go to the bookstore or library and read a few approaches to find out what would fit in your life. If you think that would give you a boost start out with that type of approach and as you get more comfortable customize it to your needs. It does help to see what works for other people because sometimes we get in a bit of a rut and other people have great ideas for healthy food and combinations that shake things up a bit!:dizzy:


01-15-2007, 07:04 PM
But keep this is mind: the right plan doesn't just help you LOSE weight, but you need to be able to MAINTAIN that loss. I see lots of people post here that they are going to try X plan again, because it helped them lose a lot of weight before... but they gained it all back. I have to ask if that is really the right plan for them if they don't keep the weight off long term.

Ditto that! :D I've tried just about all those "out of the box" plans in the past as well. Didn't work for me. I'm also a "do it for the rest of my life" gal. That being said, those things that i'm willing to do have changed over my life as well as over the course of this eating plan. Had I contemplated in the past what i'm doing right now I would have rebelled. It was just one small step at a time and checking my body and mind to see if it was going to be sustainable.

My first step was tackling my soda intake and lack of water. At that point I wasn't even worried about lowering calories, but of course, getting rid of soda and substituting water did that by default. Same with lowering meat intake and increasing fish intake, no worries about calories, but it did happen by default, so you don't have to constantly be watching each and every number.

Whatever you do, just adjust and fine tune as you go. :hug:

01-15-2007, 08:43 PM
I need structure and I need to know that the plan has worked for others. I was looking for a diet that my hubby and I could both use, that had normal food that you can buy at the local grocery store, that didnt cost a ton of money and that we could follow for the rest of our lives. We chose Southbeach. I bought my hubby two of the cookbooks for Christmas and we have been trying recipes everyday. This has really helped us to learn how to eat healthy food that is prepared in a tasty way...and the diet is working. My best advice to you is to choose a diet that you can live with for the rest of your life...then modify it as you go along. And exercise, exercise, exercise....no diet will work for long without it.

01-15-2007, 08:57 PM
I think I found my plan through doing and trying sooooo many plans. When ever I have a new diet book...my hubby gives me look like "You got to do them to make them work, ya know". Ha! Ha! How true.

01-15-2007, 09:05 PM
I agree with everything above!!!

For me, a HUGE part of it is mental. If the plan is too restrictive, I end up rebelling at some point. Or getting bored. Nor do I want to give up lots of things with the idea that I can NEVER have them again. I honestly believe moderation is key.

I did do the Atkins plan for a couple years, and then a modified lower carb plan. I've kept off 30 lbs for that amount of time. I've also basically morphed to avoiding white flour and sugar which is pretty natural for me now, but it seems to be like everyone above has said -- you have to find something that works for you.

This time around, between 1800 and 2000 calories a day (going for the slow, steady loss without feeling hungry all the time), some type of daily exercise, and lots of water.

Good luck! :)

01-15-2007, 09:31 PM
Like Rhonda, I need structure, and I also need accountability. I chose Weight Watchers Core program (don't have to count points or journal, although I do journal anyway), and it's worked well for me because it's something I can do for the rest of my life. I like having to weigh in and stay within two pounds of my goal weight--it keeps me honest.

As everyone says, find something that works for you that you can do for the rest of your life.

01-15-2007, 10:23 PM
WOW!! The responses have totally blown me away! You all are wonderful! I feel like I have made so many new friends...people who actually CARE about how I'm feeling. (Shedding a tear here! LOL!) This has been GREAT advice, and I want each of you to know....I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart!

Here is what I have gotten out of the replies:
1. It seems to be a no-brainer....just DO something until you find something that works.
2. Nothing is in cement, tweaking is allowed.
3. Everyone is different, so different strokes for different folks.
4. We all have a common goal, healthy lifestyles, even though we may travel different roads to acheive the same thing.
5. I have new friends who care about where I am in life at this point in time and who are willing to help me through. Anything is possible at this point.

Thanks again, everyone. You have all truly been excellent sources of emotional strength to me today. You will never know how much that really means.

I look forward to posting my progress as I follow the advice above. Anyone else wanting to update, add to, change, etc., this thread? Your input is welcomed, as always!

01-15-2007, 11:13 PM
Yay! You Go Girl!

:carrot: :wave: :cp: :flow1: :hug: :cb:

01-15-2007, 11:18 PM
I look forward to posting my progress as I follow the advice above.

And I most certainly look forward to reading about your progress!!!! Good luck. You're in great hands here at 3FC and I'm REALLY glad you're here. :smug:

01-16-2007, 04:23 AM
Thanks, Nancy and Robin!!!

Italian Lady
01-16-2007, 03:35 PM
Hello to all

I wanted to ask everyone whats a good weight lose program to get?
How is the nutrisystem. Ive tried some of the old programs but ended up
gaining my weight back.Iam looking for something new,something that REALLY works. Ive asked some of my girl friends and still waiting to here back from them.My one girlfriend sue had mentioned something about some new plan that her grilfriend had just started.Iam still waiting on her to call me back.
Any suggestions would be great.


01-16-2007, 03:39 PM
I would suggest going back and re-reading this post. There are good suggestions in it.

01-16-2007, 03:51 PM
ItalilanLady, you said you're looking for something that REALLY WORKS. They basically all WORK if you STICK to them. So the KEY is finding something that YOU can STICK to. And are WILLING to stick to. FOREVER and EVER. Good Luck!!!