100 lb. Club - My Hurdle: Overeating = Being a Hermit




Nancydream
01-14-2007, 02:41 PM
Hi Everybody -

I'm new -- so I thought I'd just jump in, especially since one of my biggest hurdles is being a hermit. Now, if you were to work with me, or be around me, you wouldn't think I was an introvert or a loner--quite the opposite. But, when I overeat and don't take care of me (which is often, lately), I isolate myself.

I want to mention here that this isn't a post about feeling sorry for myself. Quite the opposite! I'm acknowledging my challenges, and I need to come clean to move forward. Secrecy is the weapon of my addiction.

As of late, I've cut myself off more and more from the world. I stay home most of the weekend, shun invitations, go out during off-peak times at the grocery store, etc. I feel uncomfortable in my skin. Unfortunately, this, in turn, encourages me to eat. My home is my own little fortress where I am protected from the eyes of judging strangers and people who might notice I've put on weight. I can pretend for a while that it doesn't matter if I'm eating things that are making me less healthy and causing me to gain weight. In fact, one of the old tapes in my head that inevitably runs when I'm eating blindly is, "I don't care. It doesn't matter."

I'm working now to be done with this. My one wish for myself this year is to begin to believe that I can live as a thin person. And my motto is "Fit by 50." I'm 48 and want to begin the next decade of my life without all the baggage, physical and emotional.

I want to thank you all for being here. I am SO GLAD I found this website, and I am so inspired reading all your posts and looking at your pictures! I look forward to when I can post my own before & after pictures!

Here's to a year of incredible growth and achievement for us all.


wchs2007
01-14-2007, 02:53 PM
I am very introverted also.. I understand where you are coming from.
When you said "I feel uncomfortable in my skin" that is so how I use to feel.
Losing weight does help but I still have to make an real effort to get out and just try to live... I will always be that over weight girl deep down inside.
I make a point to try new things and get more involved in things around me.
If you looked at my life from the outside you would have no idea I was so introverted .. Its a daily process from me. Baby steps ..
Looking forward in getting to know you..
Tracey

Trazey34
01-14-2007, 02:57 PM
HI Nancy!

I look forward to getting to know you too -- I think we've all, or are, exactly in your shoes. I don't think you have to be at your goal to change your mind about hibernating, even a few small changes and some movement on that scale might be enough to kick us all out the door and rejoin the human race again!

I really liked what you said "secrecy is the weapon of my addiction" and I agree!!!

PS I KNOW this doesn't really matter, but YOU ARE SO DARNED CUTE!!!!


Crescendo
01-14-2007, 03:52 PM
I feel the same way. (I hope that people won't mind that I posted here). This past semester in school were so diffcult for me. I NEVER ate at the dinning hall. I ONLY ate in my school and everytime my old friends would invite me somewhere I would make excuses. I also made excuses why I couldn't go home (I only live an hour away) because I didn't want them to see me. Like Nancy said when there is a one-on-one convo I feel completely relaxed however, when it is new people and new situations it is the complete opposite. I am SOO happy that there is someone that knows how I feel as well and knows that this is something I need to deal with in order to begin my weight loss efforts. Thanks

- my 2 cents

Stepping Out
01-14-2007, 04:32 PM
I'm a lurker here..I don't post much, but I'm here every day. I'm also a hermit..right now, by circumstance (physically challenged), but in the past, by choice. It was always easier to just hide from the world than to take a chance on being hurt :( . My biggest problem with being homebound is having the 'food calling to me' :devil: . I love your quote 'secrecy is the weapon of my addiction'. I AM an ADDICT! Food is my 'drug of choice'..and I know how you feel. :hug: This is an awesome site, and I know that together we can do this! :D

Sheila53
01-14-2007, 04:39 PM
What a great photo! And you live in the best part of the U.S., IMHO. :D

Nancy, I began my weight loss journey when I turned 49 and realized that I didn't want to spend my 50s fat, unhealthy, inactive, and withdrawn. Like you, I ate in secret (and even in secret from my family), and never wanted to go out and do anything. It was particularly hard on my adolescent kids (I've since apologized to them).

Losing weight was the best thing that I've done for myself and my family. Once the pounds started coming off, I noticed such a difference in my energy level, my social activity, and my willingness to go out and do things. I'm pretty shy so I still find it tough in social situations, but SO much better than it ever was. My 50s are turning out to be pretty darn great!

I wish for you the same amount of joy I feel at being fit and 50.

Nancydream
01-14-2007, 05:25 PM
Thanks for the comments, everyone!

Tracey - I so can relate. I think a lot about that overweight girl and whether or not she'll hang on even after the weight is gone.

Trazey - You are so right. I KNOW I don't have to be thinner to get out and do things--I just need to push past the fear. Oh, and it's amazing what taking a picture with the camera above your head can do for your face -- instant face lift! (Thanks for your kind words...) :o

Crescendo - Thank YOU for posting. It's always nice to know I'm not alone in how I feel. It's so easy to feel like I am.

homebound - I tend to lurk, as well. I'm so happy to have heard from you. I also see this as my addiction. Food is definitely the glue in my life. I hope to change that over time.

Sheila - You've inspired me!!! I want what you've achieved. Hopefully, being here is the push I needed to stay straight.

srmb60
01-14-2007, 05:30 PM
I've struggled with thinking about this thread since I first saw it. You probably wouldn't believe how many times I've read it and thought I want to post.
My problem is that I don't want anyone to think I'm being flippant. I'm not, I perfectly serious.
Let me first begin by saying that I have a social anxiety disorder (which is managed) but I think that might make a difference as to how you view my opinion.
Let me also say that I love my DH, my children, my job ... but ...

If I lived alone, I'd have the world by the tail!
Every day that I'm home alone ... everything goes according to me. I eat whatever I want. I exercise whenever and whereever I want ...
If I lived alone ...
I'd only buy my food. I could buy the expensive, off-season fruits because I'd only need one. I could buy one whole wheat bagel! I'd eat it whenever I wanted. I'd eat it off fine china in the bathtub if I wanted!
There would be no cookies in the cupboard nor white sugar in the pot. It'd be no fat soy milk in the fridge. There'd be heaps of chicken breast and awesome fish in the freezer.
I'd but soy bits in the chili.
I'd fill four one liter bottles with distilled water and put them in the fridge and drink one at any time during the day, knowing that the other three would still be there.
I'd be the only one responsible for the last green tea bag.
I could walk morning, noon or night!
I could jump up and do lunges in the middle of a movie.
I could subscribe to FitTV and watch it all day long.
My magazines would be on the coffee table.
I'd walk around in running tights, a cropped tank and running shoes all day.

Before this gets to sounding like the tirade of a middle-aged wife .... I'd better stop. I'd better say again that I love my family dearly and would never in a million years trade them for anything but .... that's the side where I see the grass greener.
I sincerely hope that perhaps I have helped a bit.
We want you to stay with us here at 3FC. We want to help. Really we do. Grow where you're planted Nancy and we'll help.

KateRN
01-14-2007, 05:55 PM
i know the feeling so well !!!!

*hugs!!*

im sooo much more comfortable on my couch, in my sweats watching tv and along with that comes a quick swing by the grocery store to pick up chips, candy, soda.... - sometimes so much that i want to fib to the cashier so it doesnt look like i am the only one eating it.

and i sit at home, fat and happy and eat and watch tv. push the ignore button when the phone rings and leave it at that.

i wish i had an answer for you or help for you, but i dont. i'd be inside for days if it wasnt for my dog jumping on me everytime he wanted to go out to play!

its so much of a mind over matter thing, i think. i force myself to walk, i force myself to not eat bad things...

sigh! you're not alone and the fight against it all is going to be so worth it when we get our results!!

rockinrobin
01-14-2007, 06:36 PM
I too know the feeling well. It's so much easier to just sit home then have to deal with the outside world. I always felt so diffrent then everybody, my clothing wasn't as good, my body wasn't as good, my movements wasn't as good, my energy level and so on and so on. So then you sit home and EAT MORE. It is a vicious, vicious cycle.

I also hid my social anxities very well. I'm still not sure how, but I think my friends, acquaintances and everybody that came in contact with me would be shocked to hear just how uncomfortable and how difficult a time I had being with people.

I am 43 and one of my big motivations was the big five oh lurking ahead of me. And I was terrified. I just didn't see many people my size at age 50. And I so want to be there for my kids and my as of yet unborn grandchildren. I was just sick and tired of settling for second best. Every day more torturous then the one before. So it was time to make a change, and though I've got a looong way to go, I already have much, much improvement in each and every aspect of my life, including socially. It's amazing what a little, all right a lot of weight can do to someone's mind. It's almost as damaging as what happens to the physical self.

Nancy I am sooo glad that you've found 3FC - you will love it here. And your motto is wonderful and just know that you ABSOLUTELY CAN BE FIT BY 50. It is so very doable. The best is yet to come for you. I'm really looking forward to getting to know you. Good luck!!!!

CLCSC145
01-14-2007, 06:44 PM
Oh, Nancy, I could have written your post. I won't go in to all my details, but we are so similar!! A lot of my issues I attribute to low self-esteem due to my weight and as I've been losing, it's getting easier, albeit slowly. I also have to convince myself to accept invitations -- something inside me thinks that they are just being nice by inviting me and won't miss me. The logical side of myself knows that's dumb and that I usually have a great time when I do go, but it's like I'm starting from scratch for each one I receive.

I've lost so many years to this kind of wrong thinking and I don't want to live like this anymore. Congrats to us for deciding to make a big change! Life is too precious to waste and that includes interacting with the world.

jtammy
01-14-2007, 07:02 PM
Nancy, Welcome! I'm glad you found us. It's surprising to me that so many of us feel that same way. Somedays I feel like I would be content to stay in my house forever (or at least until the food and the books ran out), away from the real world. The heavier I was, the more I felt that way. It still is such a burden sometimes to have to be "sociable", and unlike some of you, I don't think people in my 3-D world would be surprised to hear that I feel that way. :o

Too bad we can't have a 3FC party and force ourselves to get out together more. :)

Mrs Quadcrew
01-14-2007, 07:40 PM
I think a lot of us feel that way too. Thank goodness for 3fc!! I had one of those "if I had been home, this wouldn't have happened" issues just an hour or so ago on my daily walk......a car drove by and a young boy stuck his head out the window and yelled "FAT A$$" at me. Yeah, your a nice kid, thanks - I needed that. You know, it just made me walk that much brisker. One of these days I won't be that person he hollered out the window at.

beautifulone
01-14-2007, 07:55 PM
a car drove by and a young boy stuck his head out the window and yelled "FAT A$$" at me. Yeah, your a nice kid, thanks - I needed that. You know, it just made me walk that much brisker. One of these days I won't be that person he hollered out the window at.
:hug: I'm sorry you had to go through that. I remember in elementary school walking in a huge lineup of kids, and someone behind me saying "thunderbutt". I've mostly repressed that experience or I felt emotionally numb to my weight by then, but it hurts when I think about it now. Sometimes people can be mean. Thank goodness for 3fc :^:

Crescendo - I feel the same! Sometimes I have trouble with one-on-one conversations still.. :o .. but it's gotten better. New people, new situations, and GROUPS - oh goodness... that's still so difficult for me. Welcome to 3FC - I hope you find what you are looking for here, this place is amazing ;)

beautifulone
01-14-2007, 08:02 PM
Nancy, :welcome3:! These forums are so wonderful, it's great to have you. There are so many people who have achieved their unique weight loss goals at many different ages, it's so inspiring. It's great to know that people have lost weight and kept it off at different weights, ages, and life situations. And then seeing the pictures just blows me away - for me, they are the total motivator. Recently I had my own pictures taken so that I have "Before" pictures as I continue losing weight along the weight, I am so excited for my next round of pictures and then the round after that and after that, until I finally take my "After" photos! Definitely motivating :yes: :D

rockinrobin
01-14-2007, 08:03 PM
Oh Mrs. Quadcrew I am so sorry you had to have that happen to you. I just don't understand how or why ANYbody can say things like that to another human being. How cruel.

When I first started this back in September, I was taking an early morning walk and someone started honking, it was someone that I knew, I wanted to curl up and die. There I was the morbidly obese woman in her walking gear, chugging along, barely at that. He rolls down the window and starts pumping his arm "Go Robin, Go Robin, Go Robin" I cringe everytime I think of it. I was just saying last week to my family that I'd love to run into Joe now. And that very day I ran into the next best thing, his wife. And she stops me and says "OMG, you're gorgeous, OMG you're gorgeous!!!". I would have prefered to see him and eventually I will. I really, really hope she told her husband that she banged into me.

Anyway, good for you for using his rudeness to your benefit and making your walk that much more productive!!!! And before you know it the only things people will be hollering at you is "Hey good looking". ;)

Mrs Quadcrew
01-14-2007, 08:33 PM
Thank you for the kind words. You know, just 3 weeks ago, I would've come back home and just cried. NOT NOW.

And I know that woman went home and sulked about how great YOU look!!!:D

Luminous
01-16-2007, 12:24 AM
Hear hear! I totally hermitize(d). People consider me an extrovert and easy to talk to. I think they think that because I'm usually listening more than talking! :lol: And every bite of the past...well I guess 172 odd pounds that got me to where I began was...in secret. Every bite! I can't think of a single time I've overeaten out in front of another person that was any more than perhaps "normal celebrating," except for that one time in high school where an...altered state, ahem...inspired me and a friend to buy and eat a whole box of pop tarts.

As for the home being protection from strangers: WORD. In spite of the loss of culture and opportunity, I am thrilled to have moved back "home" to the boonies precisely because I'm absolutely surrounded by people I love and who love me, and the "strangers" around even the big town nearest us are so nice as to be practically Canadian. It's a nice buffer to have while I'm working on my changing size.

I really feel about the yelled remarks from cars—I even got them while I was training for my marathon! I was like, hey, you scrawny dimwit illegal, I walk 10 miles a day, FAST, can you? Well, I wish I had had even the CHANCE to say that, but the people who do that KNOW they are doing something wrong, because they'll never say it on the street, only when speeding by in a car so they can make a getaway before I kick their ***.

Where was I? Oh yeah, mean people suck. More seriously, though, a tactic I know of but always forget about is this: people who behave like that have MUCH bigger problems than you will ever have. Imagine how awful it would be to live inside that head and what made them that way. I think someone would have to be having a pretty rotten life in order to think that it made any kind of sense to be randomly mean to another person. Doesn't excuse it, but it makes me feel better realizing they probably get **** on big time in some or most of the rest of their daily life. Stars used for the tender-eyed.

Nancydream
01-16-2007, 09:32 AM
Thanks, everyone, for sharing your similar feelings. That helps me so much to not feel like some kind of freak. And to be welcomed so warmly. :)

Mrs. Quadcrew - sorry to hear about the mean people. :hug: You know, I just figure those people have damaged spirits and feel a need to raise themselves. I pity them and honor you for getting out and doing what is good for you.

No wonder so many "fluffy" people hermitize (love the word, Luminous, it's a regular part of MY vocabulary, too!)

Mrs Quadcrew
01-16-2007, 10:17 AM
I don't know what I would do without this site. I could never tell anyone I know about that incident, (too embarrassing:( ) but I knew you all would understand. Thank you all for the kind words, and I agree ~ that kid must have an awful life to have to be so mean and ugly like that to someone he doesn't even know.

Nancy - I just love seeing that pic of your wonderful smile everyday! We will all UN-hermitize together here, one step at a time!

Nancydream
01-16-2007, 10:31 AM
Here's to un-hermitizing!!! :coffee2:

meowee
01-16-2007, 10:58 AM
OMG . . . I think I wrote every one of the comments in here, myself . . . I didn't realize there were so many introverted-extroverts / extroverted-introverts in the world . . . WOW

NESunshine
01-16-2007, 11:20 AM
Hi everyone....I thought I'd chime in even though I seem to have pretty good self esteem and I'm pretty confident most of the time (though like anyone I suppose I have my moments when out of my comfort zones). I stay in a lot these days but really thats mostly because all anyone I know now does is eat a ton of food and get drunk all weekend and I'm just tired of nachos and beer I guess...so I choose to stay in. I choose to shop and go to the gym on the off times quite frankly cause I think crowds aren't user friendly and take away from me being able to enjoy myself. Am I embarrassed by how I look? Yes. Have I always been? No? I tell you I owned the world at 210lbs but only started to really notice how out of control I was and started feeling uncomfortable when I neared 240lbs...which is when I turned things around. I never before, no matter what weight I was, ever let it get in the way of me living my life...but a few months ago it did start to which was one of the big eye openers, feeling embarrassed and like I was being looked at all the time was a terrible feeling...even for me.... a person who generally couldn't give two flyin cats what anyone thinks of me.

I'm not sure where it comes from but I have more self confidence than I know what to do with most days... so if any of you beautiful ladies ever want to borrow some of what I like to call my 'good mojo' just let me know. I'm not really sure of where it comes from but I always look at what I've accomplished when I start getting down not whats wrong with my life (like my weight) and it makes me feel better and puts me back on track...like look at what I've done in my life...if I can do that I can do this!....like ... I'm smart...I'm 26 and I have 2 degrees and a job in my field that I actually like....I've traveled, I've had the chance to see the world, I may be single but I've been in love, I'm a cancer survivor etc.

Oh and if some little punk ever shouted 'fat a$$' out the window at me he would soon learn that that isn't polite cause he'd be getting a rock through his rear windshield..ok probably not cause that'd probably cause more damage than good and I have no aim at all...but I might be so inclined to get his plate number and track him down and give him a lecture about how you should treat other people. Missquad....you go! Keep on walkin sista....let no dumb kid get you down! Some guy yelled 'hey look...fat girls' while we were out one night after a conference in NYC....and you bet your bottom we chased his scrawny cowering butt down the street.... I guess really I have a strong stubborn outspoken attitude and am a firm believer that people shouldn't treat each other like this...its rude, uncalled for, unnecessary, inhumane.

My best advice ladies, face your fears head on, don't let anybody get you down, and if you fall....get on up, dust yourself off and keep on going. Nobody should be made to feel ashamed and revert to being a hermit so I cheer you all on while you un-hermit!

Mrs Quadcrew
01-16-2007, 11:27 AM
NE - I am printing out your last post and keeping it with me! Now THAT is some good Mojo!!:D I laughed out loud about throwing a rock at their car!! Thanks for making my day ~ and for sharing the mojo with us!:hug:

NESunshine
01-16-2007, 11:30 AM
ha ha, I may be fat but I got a soft spot for social justice, politics and a very loud mouth that I'm not afraid to use....just point me in the right direction and I'll give them something to really yell out the window about! And whatever that kids problem.... I don't think I really care what his life problems are....I know plenty of people who have been down on their luck and in really rough situations who don't act like jerks.....just in my opinion their really isn't any good excuses for plain old blatant cruelty towards others.

GirlyGirlSebas
01-16-2007, 11:59 AM
ha ha, I may be fat but I got a soft spot for social justice, politics and a very loud mouth that I'm not afraid to lose....just point me in the right direction and I'll give them something to really yell out the window about!

Sunshine, I'll be right there beside you. I'd like to kick that punk's butt and teach him a lesson.:kickbutt: Nobody messes with our Mrs. Quadcrew!

I've read this thread with a lot of interest. I am also becoming somewhat of a hermit because of my weight. I began working from home for my company approximately 5 or 6 years ago (can't remember exactly.) The company moved to a new office which would make my commute approximately 1-1 1/2 hours, depending on rush hour. I chos to volunteer for the new telecommuting program as this allowed me to be at home for emergencies and we saved money on gas...and, I didnt have to sit in the car for 2-3 hours a day! The flexibility is great...I don't have to take time off or call in sick when the kids are out sick from school, when one of us has an appointment, when there are special programs at school, etc.

My home has become my prison and not my fortress. Unfortunately, telecommuting has helped me to create some not so great habits. I work in my nightclothes, I never wear makeup, I don't style my hair, I don't put in my contacts, I've gained a ton of weight etc etc etc. Basically, I have just let myself go and have gained a ton of weight. I cant fit into any of my clothes and I feel uncomfortable and insecure about myself.

My problem is that I am an extrovert. I love people and I love interacting with people. However, working from home has made me become a hermit. I dont socialize anymore, I have no friends, I stopped going to church because I don't have anything to wear and cant find anything that I think looks good on me. Going anywhere has now become a challenge. Its too much effort to do the makeup, hair, dress up, etc. I feel awkward in any social encounter because I'm really rusty on just making conversation!

My dream is to lose enough weight to feel comfortable interviewing and looking for a new job...one that is outside the home and has interaction with people. This may sound totally crazy...but, I've thought about becoming a personal trainer one day. You guys and my hubby are the only ones that I'm brave enough to say that to....I know you won't bust a gut laughing!

Nancy, I also want to change the direction of my life. I've drifted along for too long and I'm now ready to take action and re-direct my life. I look forward to getting to know you better and helping each other to regain control and get back into life.

Sheila53
01-16-2007, 12:06 PM
Rhonda, have you read the stories of Meg and Mel over on the Ladies Who Lift forum? They both lost a lot of weight and became personal trainers so that's certainly doable. My personal trainer, while never heavy, is a 65 year old woman who is in incredible shape. She became a racquetball champion in middle age. It's never too late!

Nancydream
01-16-2007, 08:40 PM
Rhonda! We're hermit buddies!

You can absolutely be a trainer! I saw two programs somewhere on t.v. where women who started out with about 100 lbs to lose became trainers at the gyms they were going to. No laughing from me!

And as far as working from home goes, I know about that, as well. I was self-employed for 6 years and it becomes very isolating. I also put on a great deal of weight during that time and then began to dread having to meet with clients.

I'm an extrovert, too, by nature. Perhaps we could both choose a small goal relating to our discomfort of being out among people to take a small step in the right direction. Maybe you could go to church one Sunday, and I could go to the mall (totally freaks me out :eek: ). Let me know if you have any interest in that.

I'll look forward to supporting you in your de-hermitizing! I'm glad there's such a great group here! :p

GirlyGirlSebas
01-17-2007, 09:17 AM
Hi Nancy,

Yes, I definitely think setting some small goals would be a great idea. I actually ventured out to the Y last night...I haven't been there in months. I didnt talk to anyone....had the headphones going and the music cranked up...but, I feel good that I finally went. I have been trying to build up my nerve to try the fitness classes. I picked up a brochure last night for Adult Dance classes. There is Ballet, Hip-Hop, Tap and Jazz and each class is a couple of hours. I'd really like to try the Hip-Hop and Jazz. There are classes in February, so I think I will make a mini-goal in Febuary to attend one of these classes. Think you might want to set a February goal?

Luminous
01-17-2007, 09:28 AM
I know plenty of people who have been down on their luck and in really rough situations who don't act like jerks.....just in my opinion their really isn't any good excuses for plain old blatant cruelty towards others.
Oh, maybe I came off wrong. I was saying I think about their probably awful life SO I CAN GLOAT TO MYSELF ABOUT IT!!! :devil: :devil: :devil: :devil: :devil:

Awesome mojo, girl, actually once I got into a fistfight 2 on 8 against a girl gang because of fat comments. Um, we lost, but it was worth it. It's important to stand up for ourselves.

Nancydream
01-17-2007, 09:47 AM
Wow, Rhonda, that's a great goal! I'm thinking about what I can set as a goal and I'm noticing I'm running into a wall of resistance. I will have my goal by the end of the day and report back! :)

Luminous - remind me never to make you mad! :rollpin:

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rockinrobin
01-17-2007, 10:22 AM
I'm gonna chime in here (shocker). I too work from my home. I started when my youngest (who is 15 TODAY) was about 3. I had a small business and it was great. School plays and functions I was able to go. Sick days, I was here. Vacation days I was here. Before school, after school during school. I got to be home all the time. But then again I got to be home ALL the time. The business was going well for a while, but practically came to a stand still. Oh yeah and my kids are practically all grown up now. They don't NEED me here when they get home, or even if they're G-d forbid sick. It is time to get out. ...... But now I do a lot of stuff for my DH's small business. All the invoices, schedueling, ordering, tax stuff, receipts, etc. And it keeps me busy, but no where near busy enough and quite frankly we could use some more moola, as the kids are getting older I find we need lots more $ then when they were younger. I need to get my tail back in the outside world. But I've lived in my little cocoon for waaay too long. And I know it was a huge, huge contributer to my gaining so much weight. My home was my safe haven. But I was lonely, frustrated, bored and so on. But at the same time I could eat whatever and whenever I wanted. A real vicious cycle. And without a doubt my weight has stopped me from getting out there. It's terrifying to me, simply terrifying. I am most certainly feeling better about myself since having lost 1/2 of the weight, but I've got a looong way to go.

As for getting thy tush into a gym. Not happening any time soon. I actually ventured to a nearby gym about a month and a half ago. Went in, and hated it, hated it, hated it. My troubles began immediately as I ran into a NIT WIT at the reception area. Whatever. Thank G-d I''ve been managing to exercise at home, but I can't help but think I'm missing out on something.

Girlygirl, I'm sooo glad you made it to the Y, those dance classes sound perfect, just perfect. Oh how I wish I could go with you! And I don't think it's crazy at all. What a wonderful thing, you most certainly can be a personal trainer.

And yup, me too an extrovert by nature, though I am down to a bare minimum # of friends. I've avoided everyone and everything for way too long. So yup, I as well want to change the direction of my life. I've wasted more then enough time hiding in my house, hiding in my fat. It's time to stop hiding and start LIVING. Because I haven't really, truly been living, I've been existing and barely at that.

Okay, enough rambling - I've got to get to work ;) . Really, I do.

GirlyGirlSebas
01-17-2007, 11:31 AM
Rhonda, have you read the stories of Meg and Mel over on the Ladies Who Lift forum?

Wow! Arent they incredible! What an inspiration.

GirlyGirlSebas
01-17-2007, 12:19 PM
Hi Robin,

You and I were posting at the same time and I just saw your post. Maybe you can make a mini-goal for February, too. I wish you could go to dance class with me, too. I'm a bit nervous...I hope its not full of 20 something, skinny, bathing suit model bodies!

Nancydream
01-17-2007, 09:01 PM
Hi Robin!

Yes, join us in choosing a small goal to de-hertimize!

Rhonda - here's mine: I've been wanting to go to one of the Seattle Wine Society's monthly meetings to learn more about wine. I even have a friend who said she'd like to go, but I've kept putting it off. The next one is in February. I'll go! :yes:

GirlyGirlSebas
01-17-2007, 09:08 PM
Nancy, thats an awesome goal! I really think you'll have fun. We should touch base again on the 1st to give each other some specific plans.

Nancydream
01-17-2007, 09:17 PM
That sounds great. Thanks for keeping me acccountable. :)

rockinrobin
01-17-2007, 10:46 PM
Nancy that does sound like fun. Go for it!!!

Girlygirl, you have just as much a right to be in those classes as any of those 20 something skinny little things do. You would be a great addition to ANY dance class.

good luck ladies and please, please - ENJOY!!!