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01-08-2007, 09:01 AM
Today was my first official weigh-in. I was so excited as this is the first time in quite a while that I've actually followed my plan and exercised for the whole week. I'm on phase 1 of Southbeach. Everybody usually loses 8-12 pounds the first two weeks. I lost .6 of a pound. I am so discouraged. I just sat on the bed and cried. My husband tried to comfort me, but he can't possibly understand. He doesnt even follow the plan exactly like I am..and he didnt even exercise this week, and the scales dropped 8 pounds for him. I'm not going to give up following the program and my walking, but my heart just isnt in it today. I'm sick and tired of being fat, but I just cant seem to get my body to work right. My doctor keeps telling me my thyroid levels are fine, but it just seems like something is not right. I have goiters, I've gone from 190 to 264 since Dec 04 without changing my eating, and the weight just doesnt come off like I think it should.

I just really could use some words of encouragement today. I cant seem to quit crying and I have so much work to get done today.

01-08-2007, 09:13 AM
My hubby started dieting with me last year after I had been on it about 6 weeks..
He dropped weight so fast.. I was so jealous...
If you did a search on my post you would find where I posted about me being jealous about it...
I just looked ahead and took baby steps..

I do not know anything about Southbeach But what I would do is write down everything I ate.. See if I was getting to much of any one thing,,,,
and replace that food item with something different..
I maybe way off on this.. Southbeach is something I have never tried.. But DO NOT LET YOUR SELF GET DOWN..
If you are eating less and moving your body.. The weight will come off..

Its a life change... Its takes baby steps... You can do this.... It takes time to find out what works for you.....
Keep your head up!!!!!!

01-08-2007, 09:21 AM
Rhonda - I'm so sorry! I know how disappointing it is when you're expecting a big loss (when you do everything right) and the scale just doesn't cooperate. It's unbelievably frustrating. I hear you on the husband thing too, mine can drop 5 lbs just thinking about it, I swear. I don't know a lot about South Beach either - but I have heard good things about it. Keep it up, keep exercising, keep posting, you will see results!! :hug:

01-08-2007, 09:24 AM
In the beginning you might want to find an alternate way to measure your progress or pick a goal that you can find progress in. To keep me on track walking I decided to walk 100 miles in 120 days. I am on my second set of 100 miles and I am trying to do it 90 days.

Also you might want to join a challenge or set a goal of some many carbs or calories in a week or something. Something that you can track and be proud of your progress.

I also notice some people like to measure instead of using the scale since you can lose inches when the scale isn't moving.

I think it is hard sometimes to keep going when you see little progress, but even that .6 lb IS progress and shows you are moving in the right direction.

Something else I learned is everyone weight loss is different. Celebrate that you stuck to your "guns" and it will be ok.

Off the soapbox.


01-08-2007, 09:25 AM
KEEP YOUR CHIN UP!!!!! The only meal that's changed for my husband is the one he eats at home, that's the dinner that I cook for him and he's lost over 20 lbs. So don't compare yourself to hubby.

When I first started this I had a 1 lb weight loss for the week. I was sooo bummed out. But I stuck with it and the following week had a 9 lb. loss. Sometimes it takes the body a while to adjust to the new way of life. It's kinda in shock. Doesn't quite know what to do. Get 2, 3 weeks under your belt and you will definitely, definitely see results. And you will be on your way to a happier and healthier life. And it will be so worth it. You just gotta hang in there. You absolutely must!!!!! We're here for you, no matter what you need. We'll get you through this. :hug:

01-08-2007, 09:27 AM
Hi Rhonda!

Guys have more muscle mass. They can drop weight much easier than we can and really fast, too! Don't worry! There are a whole bunch of us here who are right there with you watching our husbands decide to lose weight and have the pounds and inches disappear from them but not US!

Try doing some weights. When I began lifting using three then five pound weights I began to see some nice results. Weight training will help you, too! I am back now with more reps to try to break through this plateau that has been plaguing me for EIGHT MONTHS!!!!

Increase your fiber, and drink more water. Both will help the body get rid of excess fat.

Above all, be PATIENT! DO NOT try to go one-for-one with your husband's weight loss! THAT can be a losing battle!

Keep coming back and reading the posts here. We are all right there with your on this!

Be confident!!!


01-08-2007, 09:51 AM
The problem with weight loss programs is that we focus on the scale as a measure of progress and it's not a great measure.

You want to lose fat, right? Yet that scale measures fat, bone, muscle and water. Is it possible you're retaining a lot of water? Have a lot of sodium? TOM?? The scale may not measure the progress you HAVE made.

Second, weight loss isn't always linear and doesn't work the same way for all people. Sometimes we lose gradually, other times it seems to "whoosh" away.

Bottom line, if you think this program is going to work for you, don't quit after one week, because it's still very possible it WILL work. One week is not a lot of time on which to evaluate a program.

Mrs Quadcrew
01-08-2007, 11:08 AM
Here is a big {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} because I know that is a huge deal for some of us. We just can't get what that little square box says to us out of our minds. You LOST weight though - over 1/2 of a poound and that is going in the right direction!!! Keep on with your program, and do not be a slave to that scale. Drink your water, exercise and keep it up - and it will all be worth it ~ because YOU ARE WORTH IT. Now, dry those tears, and hang in there.:hug:

01-08-2007, 12:10 PM
Hi Everyone. I knew I could count on you guys! Thank you so much for your encouragement. It was and is badly needed. Rockinrobin, I cant believe you had the same experience and look how much you've lost now. That gives me hope. I just got back from my 40 minute walk and I'm staying on my eating plan. I am proud of myself for that because, in the past, I would have already thrown in the towel.

I called my pharmacist and asked for names of physicians in the area that can work with me on determining if my thyroid is off and can also work with my bio-identical hormone therapy. I want a doctor who will work with me and will help me with my whole body, not just the female parts, and is willing to treat with alternatives to medication. Currently, I see a OB/GYN for my female hormone therapy, however, he doesnt do much with the thyroid...he told me I have adrenal fatigue, but I'm not really sure about this diagnosis. My family doctor keeps telling me my hormone levels are ok. However, I've been doing some research and, apparently, she doesnt do all of the tests...only the TSH. I've had goiters for over 6 years, I have sarcoidosis on my skin and lungs and I had multiple fibroids on my uterus.....its hard to imagine that something is not off in my body. The pharmacist gave me a name of a physician that uses integrative medicine....this is a combination of conventional medicine and holistic therapy...and the physician is on my insurance! I called and they had a cancellation for this Wednesday afternoon. :carrot:

Even if this physician tells me my thyroid is fine and there is no medical reason why the weight is coming off soooooo slowly, I'm still gonna stick with it. Today was my sixth workout and I can already tell a big difference in my stamina. My shins didnt hurt at all today and the muscles in my thighs and butt werent burning! Thanks again everyone. You are the reason why I sign onto 3FC each day.

01-08-2007, 12:26 PM
You should be extremely proud of yourself for kicking off your new healthy lifestyle! DH's ARE most annoying! Mine is 6'3" and eats about 1/2 what I eat ON A DIET (hence he is naturally thin)!

My mom lost a lot of weight on SB. A lot of us track our calorie intake on fitday.com. That may help you stay focused and enable you to tweak things if the scale isn't going down. I dont know what you can eat on your plan, but to me, bottom line is number of calories eaten.

Mrs Quadcrew
01-08-2007, 12:35 PM
I'm still gonna stick with it.

That's the ticket!!! :carrot:

01-08-2007, 01:04 PM
WTG on finding other ways to measure your progress!!!

Good luck!

01-08-2007, 01:04 PM
After reading your OP I immediately thought that you needed to get a second opinion, and make sure to get the full thyroid panel done and not just the TSH. Sounds like you're on the ball!

01-08-2007, 02:23 PM
I'm proud to see that you said you were going to stick to it :) Good for you for losing .6 of a pound, that's great! Also remember that you've been exercising - you're gaining muscle, which weighs more than fat. You're doing a great job!

01-08-2007, 03:37 PM
I did south beach for a while last summer. Phase one can be hard on your body. I found that the first week I was bloated and "stuck" I lost very little weight. However about 2 weeks later my body adjusted and things "moved" properly. I did lose a lot more weight. sometimes it just takes time.


01-08-2007, 04:34 PM
Okay, it's not a big loss, but it's a loss. What would have happened if you hadn't been eating well and exercising?

Good for you for sticking with it, and also taking your health into your own hands and seeking answers.

01-08-2007, 04:59 PM
I think we all know how discouraging that can be! My heart goes out to you. What I do when I've done everything right and the scale either goes up or doesn't move is think, "It may not have moved today, but if I don't falter, I'll win in the end."

On a side note, I know a lot of people like weighing weekly (and I'm not sure how frequently you are weighing, but I weigh daily because it can fluctuate so much during the week due to salt, the potty, bulky food, etc.). I'm afraid I'll miss seeing a low day somewhere during the week!

Hang in there. You may not be thrilled with the first battle, but you WILL win the war if you stick with it! Good idea to see the doc too.

01-08-2007, 06:26 PM
I don't know much about southbeach but if it doesn't SEEM to be working, why not switch to a healthy eating pattern instead? (I used the word SEEMED cause sometimes we just need to persevere) Like wholefoods and/or combined with calorie counting? This has worked great for me and when I think I should be losing faster or didn't lose that week etc instead of giving up I tell myself that this is not just about losing but about being healthy! Being healthy means eating foods that are good for you whether or not the scale is moving. Getting out there and exercising. You can never go wrong if you change your focus! Believe me if you do this you WILL lose in the long run! And you will be much healthier for it! ;)

01-08-2007, 08:06 PM
I'm glad you're sticking to it! Something else you need to remember is that weight doesn't show up as soon as you eat something - I've been told that it can take up to 2 weeks. So it's quite possible that the reason you're not seeing a huge loss this week is because of food that you ate the week BEFORE you start. If that's the case, then there is good news...you will see that huge loss next week!!

I'm glad that you're going to see another doctor. I'm actually surprised that your doctor didn't run the full thyroid workup since you have goiters and that right there indicates some type of thyroid imbalance or issue!


01-08-2007, 08:36 PM
Thanks, everyone! Your encouragement has really helped me through the day. I am also thankful for all of the good advice. I've taken a close look at this past week and I can see some key things. I have been walking everyday...and really feeling it in the muscles of my thighs and backside. :) It does make sense that I've gained some muscle. In addition to scheduling a doctors appointment, I also went on the Southbeach forum here on 3FC and on the Southbeach Diet Site to review phase 1 and take another look at the mealplans to see if I messed up somewhere or if I might be eating too much in general. Although I thought I followed the plan to the letter, it looks like I messed up on a couple of things...like weighing my meat portions and eating too much cheese...and buying sugar free but forgetting about the fat content. I will be buying a food scale and bringing out the measuring cups. This is one day at a time and, Thank God!, tomorrow is a better day.

I chose Southbeach because many women in menopause or with hypothryroid have had very good results on the Southbeach program. To those of you who are not familiar with Southbeach, I can tell you IMHO this is one of the healthiest diets I've ever seen. The plan focuses on eating protein with every meal, eating vegetables with every meal and focusing on eating mainly the vegetables and fruits that are low on the glycemic index...meaning, they have less sugar. The diet allows healthy fats in very limited quantities, lean meats only, and whole grains only. White or enriched breads, potatoes and white rice are not allowed as these starchy foods can cause our blood sugar to spike. The diet requires three meals a day with three snacks. The snacks also require a protein, (ex. 2 tbs natural peanut butter) with a vegetable or fruit. On phase 1 of Southbeach, the list of vegetables are limited and there is no fruit allowed. This phase is only for the first two weeks and helps the dieter break the addiction to sugar....and it works! I dont use sugar at all anymore. I was up to 6tsp in one cup of coffee...and I drank up to 6 cups a day! I now have one or two cups in the morning with lowfat, sugar free creamer and Splenda. This diet is healthy and the food is wholesome.

Thanks for listening. I look forward to giving some good news next week...either on the weight loss thread or even the NSV thread.