General chatter - I just had to say something to this woman




cbmare
12-22-2006, 05:36 PM
No, this isn't going to be one of my militant mouth posts.

I went out for lunch today. I like having lunch alone because I can read a few chapters in my book.

A woman and 3 kids (maybe 10 yrs on down to about 3) sat at the table next to me. My first thought was that it was going to be loud. I was so pleasantly surprised that all three of those kids sat there and weren't loud or intrusive to the other diners. The lady brought in something for each of them to do. While the 2 youngest ones were playing with some sort of small castle, the oldest one was reading trivia questions. These questions were at all levels. Even the youngest one would get a question and usually answered it.

When I finished eating and got up to leave, I had to stop and tell her that those children are wonderful and she should be very proud.

She just got the biggest smile on her face and thanked me. She said she always tried to bring something to keep them entertained until the food arrived. (Oh, this was a restaurant, not a fast food place).


EZMONEY
12-22-2006, 05:40 PM
OR BETTER YET ~ CONVINCE THEM THAT :hohoho: :santa: :hohoho: :clause: IS COMING IN 2 DAYS!!

4myloves
12-22-2006, 05:49 PM
It has always been my opinion that rather than "smoking" and "non-smoking," restaurants should have "children" and "no children" sections.


ennay
12-22-2006, 05:50 PM
I had that happen once. I was on a business trip to Seattle and went out to dinner at Red Lobster (splurging on the company dime!) A huge group came in (3 or 4 couples) and much to my dismay, the adults were all seated in a big table at the edge of the room and the 6 or so kids were seated BY THEMSELVES right next to me. Youngest was about 3, oldest was about 8. They were AWESOME. The oldest helped everyone ordered and cut the little one's food up. When they were done eating they very quietly got up and went and sat in the little nook behind their parents table and pulled out books and coloring things.

I said something that day too. :)

alinnell
12-22-2006, 08:06 PM
I realize that this has happened to me many times. We always assume the kids will be bad. It is obvious that it is the parents who are now doing something right in raising the kids to be well behaved. You did a great job to say something to the mom!!!!

All I can say is that it is obvious that you weren't in Utah. I refuse to eat out there unless it is a private club where children are not allowed. I've never allowed my children to behave badly in restaurants, but I've witnessed poor parental skills in many "family" restaurants there. (And I grew up there.)

Sassy_Chick
12-22-2006, 11:22 PM
It has always been my opinion that rather than "smoking" and "non-smoking," restaurants should have "children" and "no children" sections.

I've said the same thing many times. This way all the "families" could all sit together and not have to worry about distracting others and vice versa, if some adults are having a really "adult" conversation, the children won't over hear it. ;)

These are just my opinions.

almostheaven
12-23-2006, 11:46 PM
Hey! I AM a mom, and I gotta say, it'd be a cold day in you know where before I'd sit in the family section. Some parents simply don't know how to control their kids. I'm raising my second one, and I used to sit with my daughter next to "those" kinds of kids (and their parents who were studiously ignoring their behavior), and would think "If you EVER act like that..."

ennay
12-23-2006, 11:58 PM
Amen heaven... so there needs to be a rowdy and not rowdy section, cause there are some adults whose behavior isnt much better. And the cell phone yakkers can go in with the rowdies.

Sassy_Chick
12-24-2006, 02:45 AM
Hey! I AM a mom, and I gotta say, it'd be a cold day in you know where before I'd sit in the family section. Some parents simply don't know how to control their kids. I'm raising my second one, and I used to sit with my daughter next to "those" kinds of kids (and their parents who were studiously ignoring their behavior), and would think "If you EVER act like that..."

Yes I do understand that not ALL children act like that way and that not ALL parents let their kids get away with it either. My mom would NEVER ever let me act that way when I was a kid and IF I did, then she would take me outside. Parents do have a BIG part in how their children act. Our friends have 5 children and they are very well behaved as their parents don't let them get away with the things that SOME parents let their kids get away with that we have all seen in public.

Amen heaven... so there needs to be a rowdy and not rowdy section, cause there are some adults whose behavior isnt much better. And the cell phone yakkers can go in with the rowdies.

That is true. Adults can be just as annoying, if not more than the rowdy children at times!


Well that is all I have to say and again, these are just my opinions, not meant to offend anybody. :o

liz321
12-24-2006, 04:36 AM
Adults are most often the most annoying.

Liz

eightbitgirl
12-24-2006, 08:41 AM
Hey! I AM a mom, and I gotta say, it'd be a cold day in you know where before I'd sit in the family section. Some parents simply don't know how to control their kids. I'm raising my second one, and I used to sit with my daughter next to "those" kinds of kids (and their parents who were studiously ignoring their behavior), and would think "If you EVER act like that..."

I was a server for five years, and believe me - I would shake my head when I saw some of these kids and say "if I EVER acted like that in a public place, I'd either not be here today or I'd have absolutely no behind whatsoever"

JaneLane
12-29-2006, 01:24 PM
I personally love children, (am quite envious of my Aunt Christy who has several and each is the funniest little thing) but cannot stand parents who let their children run amock and don't seem to care at all, as long as they can ignore them.

LLV
12-29-2006, 03:45 PM
It has always been my opinion that rather than "smoking" and "non-smoking," restaurants should have "children" and "no children" sections.

:lol:

I agree!

LLV
12-29-2006, 03:50 PM
I've said the same thing many times. This way all the "families" could all sit together and not have to worry about distracting others and vice versa, if some adults are having a really "adult" conversation, the children won't over hear it. ;)

These are just my opinions.

Well, people shouldn't be having "adult" conversations around children anyway. Save it for when the kids are out of the room.

What's annoying to ME is sitting in a nice restaurant trying to have a nice quiet dinner and then hearing a kid screaming and crying he wants ice cream or getting up from the table and wandering around the room or babies screaming their heads off and the parents just sit there and let it happen. No, you can't stop a baby from crying. But you could get up and leave the room with the baby until it has calmed down.

First of all, I never took my son (when he was that little) to a nice, quiet restaurant, especially an evening meal where people are trying to relax at the end of the day and probably get away from their OWN kids for a night. If I couldn't find a babysitter, I just didn't go at all. Secondly, if we were in a family-oriented type of place and he would start crying, I'd get up and go either outside or in the bathroom with him so as not to disturb the other restaurant patrons. Nobody wants to listen to that and they shouldn't have to.

4myloves
12-29-2006, 05:26 PM
What's annoying to ME is sitting in a nice restaurant trying to have a nice quiet dinner and then hearing a kid screaming and crying he wants ice cream or getting up from the table and wandering around the room or babies screaming their heads off and the parents just sit there and let it happen. No, you can't stop a baby from crying. But you could get up and leave the room with the baby until it has calmed down.

Not in a restaurant, but a related story:

The last time mom and I went to Branson we went to see Legends in Concert. Great show. Would've been even better if the folks behind us hadn't had a 2-year-old who alternated between crying and kicking the back of my chair. Mom wouldn't let me say anything to them (but boy I sure did want too!!) so I finally got up and moved to the seat on her other side, which happened to be empty. To clinch it, when the show was over and everyone was leaving, the folks with the unruly child were giving ME dirty looks!!!!!

alinnell
12-29-2006, 06:01 PM
Cheryl, I have had that happen to me at a concert also. Granted it was a free concert at the high school, but my daughter was playing and this family didn't care what their kid was doing. At the intermission, I got up, went to the girl who was kicking the seats (all the seats are connected so the whole row could feel this) and asked her to please stop kicking the seats as it was not comfortable. She did--I've got to give her credit! But her parents, they looked at me like I was crazy to not put up with her behavior. Gah!

Tiffie
12-29-2006, 07:33 PM
On a related note... The other day, my fiance and I were at a local Ross (clothing & miscellaneous junk store), standing in line to make a purchase. We got to the front of the line just in time to see some stupid little kid knocking over a cup ON PURPOSE while his lowlife mother stood idly by and said absolutely nothing. And she had four of them running amok in the store!

I don't have kids and I won't pretend to know how to discipline them, but disciplined they should be! I would never have gotten away with even TOUCHING a breakable object in a store, let alone throwing it to the ground! I could have slapped that woman's smug little face, then turned around and given her child a spanking for what he's just done!

alinnell
12-29-2006, 07:40 PM
It just irks the heck out of me when you're at the grocery store and the person in front of you suddenly decides they don't really want the pint of ice cream in their basket so they put it up on the magazine rack........or when you're at the clothing store and the person in front of you tries on 8 outfits in the dressing room and doesn't hang up a single piece AND leaves it all on the floor (no wonder prices are going higher!)........I mean COME ON PEOPLE, how lazy can you be?????

Tiffie--where in the IE are you? I'm in Palm Desert.

Libby1972
12-29-2006, 07:41 PM
Compliments are great when I get them. But when someone compliments one of my boys...it's so much better.

Tiffie
12-29-2006, 07:52 PM
Alinel: Riverside. :) It's nice in some parts, but Ross is located near this area called "Casa Blanca," which is basically a very low-income area with a lot of gang/racial violence. :(

ennay
12-29-2006, 10:02 PM
My favorite incident was watching a father train his child to be a nightmare.

We were in a target and the lines were pretty long and slow. The ~3 year old was sitting quietly and patiently in the cart gazing in rapt awe at the toy he was getting.

The dad - apparently bored - suddenly snatched the toy from the child and hid it saying " I changed my mind, you cant have it". The tone of his voice was clearly teasing...if you were another adult. But the 3 year old was just stunned. He still was pretty good. He just sat there and quiet tears welled up, but he didnt fuss or yell or scream or beg. Where upon the dad started harrassing him for crying "you think a crybaby deserves that toy?". So he cried harder. When he was REALLY worked up the dad gave him the toy back. "Just kidding"

And then...HE DID IT AGAIN....this time the kid cried harder right away so the dad waited until he was crying and whining.

And then....HE DIT IT A 3rd Time ...and this time the kid damn near had a conniption so the dad waited until he was in full blown melt down.

What a freaking moron. Condition your child to throw a tempertantrum to get what he wants.

LLV
12-31-2006, 02:25 AM
And then....HE DIT IT A 3rd Time ...and this time the kid damn near had a conniption so the dad waited until he was in full blown melt down.

Awwwwwww, poor little thing :(

teahoney
12-31-2006, 11:18 AM
Someone should have hit him in the head with a pack of underwear. What an idiot!!

almostheaven
12-31-2006, 06:14 PM
Someone should have hit him in the head with a pack of underwear. What an idiot!!
LOL! I was thinking more along the lines of a pack of beer bottles.