General chatter - Any help with a pregnancy question?




tweetyandme
12-19-2006, 06:05 PM
I have a problem. My period was already 8 days late due to stress when I had intercourse, now my period is 13 days late. Going to the doctor right now is NOT in any way an option. I need to know in my situation, how long do I have to wait before I should test for pregnancy and expect accurate results? If i am pregnant, and can't test right away, will there be any immidiate prenancy symptoms to expect such as morning sickness or bodyaches or does that happen later on in pregnancy?
I would really like some help with my problem please. I'm desperate! Thanks!


mandalinn82
12-19-2006, 06:10 PM
If your period is late, you can do a pregnancy test and get accurate results, although there might be some question because your cycle has been irregular. Still, if its late, most tests will detect it. First Response, actually, is 99% accurate a couple days before a missed period, so you should be ok to test now.

lilybelle
12-19-2006, 06:10 PM
Many over the counter pregnancy tests are reliable soon after a missed period. I'd go ahead and test just for mental peace. If you don't start, wait several days and retest. Many of the kits come with 2 tests, which might be cheaper to go that way. As for pregnancy symptoms, before I even missed my period, I knew I was pregnant. My breasts had already became very tender. I didn't have morning sickness until I was at least 6 weeks pregnant but I'm sure everyone is different. Good luck.


4myloves
12-19-2006, 06:20 PM
Child, child, child....

melekalikimaka
12-19-2006, 06:52 PM
Like lilybelle said, you may experience breast tenderness. For me, another telltale sign was having to wake up in the middle of the night to pee, even if I had just gone before I went to bed. You say going to the doctor is not an option right now, is that due to financial constraints? Are there any Planned Parenthood or free clinics near you that may offer free PG testing? Stress in itself may cause you to be late so using an OTC test kit may ease your mind.

If you are not pregnant at this time, you may want to consider responsible birth control or even abstinence at your young age. You may not like hearing that, but bringing a baby into the world is a big responsibility for anyone, even an old married person like me.

SlimLindy
12-19-2006, 07:18 PM
I'm sorry you're under such stress. I know you'll get this figured out. I just want to add: PLEASE take precaution, because if going to the doctor is NOT an option, then taking a risk of getting pregnant should NOT be an option either. I'm sorry, I doubt anyone preaching at you helps. I was pregnant when I was very young. My daughter is now 12, we are blessed, and her dad is my husband, but there were quite a few intensely stressful years between then and now!

brandewijn
12-19-2006, 07:48 PM
Being as you are so late. You should take a home pregnancy test. They are pretty accurate after a missed period. I found out I was pregnant with a home test 3 days before I was even expecting my period.

I didn't have any symptoms. I wasn't craving anything, no morning sickness (at that point anyways), no breast tenderness...nothing! I took a test only because DH suspected I was. I took the test to humor him. Sure enough, I was. So much for "a woman knows when she's pregnant."

tweetyandme
12-19-2006, 08:47 PM
Thank you for your posts ladies. I honestly do not want a family at my age right now, i'm am only 3 months shy of being an adult, which is the reason why i can't go to the doctor without the rick of being killed by my father, or worst, disowned like he did to my older sister, but if i am, then i must face the music, and handle my responsabilities like a woman. I am truely scared. I am going to go take my first at-home test now.

Jen415
12-20-2006, 08:58 AM
Is there a Planned Parenthood close to you? or a Crisis Pregnancy Center? either of those places can help with testing and counseling afterwards....

nelie
12-20-2006, 09:41 AM
Your profile says you are in Richmond, here is the address for Planned parenthood:

Central Site
3415 Floyd Ave
Richmond, VA 23221
1-800-230-PLAN
M, Tu, W, Th, F, S (all)
Operated by: The Virginia League for Planned Parenthood

Check for information on their site:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

My personal opinion is that unless you have been dating a guy for a while and you are in a truly committed relationship, then he should be using a condom. Although that doesn't mean that you shouldn't be on the pill as well. Pregnancy as well as STDs aren't something to mess with. I don't know all the details but I do know that planned parenthood offers the pill at a discount.

Jasmine31
12-20-2006, 10:35 AM
Sometimes you can even get them and a pregnancy test free.

happydaisy
12-20-2006, 11:53 AM
Just wondering how the test turned out? I hope you're doing ok....:hug:

jcatron243
12-20-2006, 12:32 PM
Are you okay?? First response is pretty accurate, but I would go to planned parenthood, if your test is negative, maybe you should get on birth control.

tweetyandme
12-20-2006, 07:21 PM
I took 2 rests, one was positive and one was negative. I do live in Richmond, but in 5 days i'm moving to Camden Whyoming, Delaware. It's in the country, and i have no car, there might not be any help around me. I was on birth control, but i guess that ONE day i missed taking it got me. I used first responce tests, so i don't know what to believe. I'm scared right now, but i'll get through it, i just don't want to get through it alone which i am.

techwife
12-20-2006, 07:42 PM
I've heard of false negatives, but not false positives...usually if the pregnancy hormone is there, it is a non mistakable trigger in the test...whereas if the hormone is weak (as it is early on), it may not trigger the test.

I'd get myself to planned parenthood if I were you, Tweety. If you are preggers, you'll need their help in medical care, support, as well as a way to avoid the impending death threat from your father. If you aren't, which I truly hope you're not, then they can help you in further avoiding this situation.

Good luck to you...also, be sure and check of there is an expiration date on the PG test...I'd go to the drug store and buy a brand new one if you aren't going to PP.

Keep us posted!!

ennay
12-20-2006, 08:30 PM
A positive is a positive. False positives are extremely rare, false negatives are common. You are most likely pregnant.

Please go see someone that you can talk to.

GreatBigMonsterMomma
12-20-2006, 09:58 PM
You need to go to a crisis pregnancy center for a blood test (I won't recommend Planned Parenthood because I've heard too much negative about them from people who were offered abortions when all they wanted was a pregnancy test). That's the only way to know. You may also be able to go to the county medical clinic & get a blood test. False positives are very rare, but I have had one myself so I know they're possible.

nelie
12-21-2006, 09:42 AM
Well if you are moving in 5 days, I'd hurry and get to a clinic to get tested and ask for advice. I've never heard of planned parenthood trying to force an abortion on anyone but I'd say no matter what you do, it is your choice. You may be scared but if you are prepared to do adult actions then you need to deal with the consequences.

jcatron243
12-21-2006, 01:04 PM
PM me if you need some support. But you really need to get to planned parenthood. For your own sake.

happydaisy
12-23-2006, 08:52 AM
Just wanted to see if you're doing ok, and if you have any word on if you're pregnant or not?

EZMONEY
12-23-2006, 10:13 AM
There Has To Be Something Better Than Planned Parenthood In Your Area ~ Prayers For You That You Find Them If Needed!

tweetyandme
12-24-2006, 12:58 PM
Well i went ahead and took another test, and it was negative, but still no period. I don't know what's going on. :(

tweetyandme
12-24-2006, 11:07 PM
Well that's a load off my mind. I am not pregnant! I finially got my period today! I've NEVER been more happy to get it in my entire life! Thank you all for posting and helping me through my hard time! Happy holidays!!!!!!!

rockinrobin
12-25-2006, 05:23 AM
I've been following this thread, but not posting as whatever "help" I may have had was already posted and I didn't think you needed to hear the same advice from yet another person. Okay, having said that:

YESSSSSS!!!!!!! I am soooo happy for you.

And now the 43 year old mother of three teenaged daughters has got to tell you, something I'm sure has crossed your mind in the past couple of weeks,
DON'T EVER, EVER ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE IN THAT HORRIBLE POSITION AGAIN! When you are ready to start a family is THE ONLY time you should be lax with birth control. And I'm sure you're aware that even birth control is NOT 100%. And don't be fooled by thinking that you got away with it one time so chances are you can get away with it again. Quite, the opposite. Please, I urge you to either use reliable birth control or better yet, refrain from sexual intercourse until YOU actually WANT and can handle a baby. Good luck to you. :hug:

EZMONEY
12-25-2006, 10:32 AM
totally agree R~R!

jtammy
12-25-2006, 12:05 PM
Rockinrobin, well said. I've also been following the thread, and am glad to hear that it's worked out the way it has. Tweety, whew!!!~~~ I'm relieved for you. I sincerely hope that the next time you may be pregnant will be a joyous occasion. You deserve that! :hug:

tweetyandme
12-30-2006, 05:00 AM
Thank you all for helping me through my uncertain time. It was very comforting to know that some people care enough to give advice to help. :) I will be sure never to encounter this type of problem again.