Support & Discussion Week of 5/2/04

[Irish Tart]

Hi All, No time to post very much this morning,but wanted to say "Hi"! I'm looking forward to an OP week. My lunch and snack are packed for the day,so I feel enpowered. I hope all are well! I will post later on this evening and hope to hear lots of news from you. Good Day, Chickies! Irish

[tikanique]

okay, I picked up the book on Saturday but did not get a chance to open it over the weekend. I start reading tonight. Unfortunately, I have been in a bit of a reading slump here lately so I hope I don't pass out within 5 minutes of cracking the cover. I usually scarf down books like a whino sucks down Ripple, but lately, I haven't been able to get going on anything. We will see......

[Irish Tart]

Tikanique, you get applauses for buying the book, you'll read it in good time. You notice that I haven't posted anything since the first two chapters. I don't know why any kind of change is so scary but taking baby steps seems to work.
My SIL and DIL converted their spare bedroom into an exercise room. They have a riding bike and "The Total Gym" ( yip-pee) so now I have no excuses for not exercising. It may take me a few days to figure out how to use the tg but it looks doable. I'm sure it will be a while before I need to change the resistance bans anyway.
My husband and I took a trip with the SIL and DIL this week-end. They left Shawn (DGS) with DIL's parents. We really had a great time together and got to know each other better. I bought Dr Phil's son's book on tape at a discount book store. Even though it is for teens, it is the same seven keys and since it was so cheap I couldn't pass it up. Besides, the son is a kinder, gentlier Dr Phil. :lol:
Have a good day all! I am off to kiddieville.

[MelodyAM75]

Hi. I have been reading Dr. Phil's book and I have been eating right for a week now and so far I am down 8 pounds. I really think I can change my life this time and lose the weight. Typically, I eat Kashi Go Lean Cereal with skim milk and banana for breakfast, meal replacement bar or tuna sandwhich for lunch, salad and Lean Cuisine frozen meal for supper. According to www.fitday.com I have been eating about 1100 calories per day. Also, I am walking 3-4 times per week for a mile at a time.

How is everyone else doing?

Melody
249/240/199/135
Starting Weight/Current Weight/1st Goal/Long-Term Goal

[tikanique]

So, I started reading last night, also read some this morning. I found myself wantint to skip around a bit, but made myself myself NOT do that. This will be interesting. I found some of my behaviors in the opening chapter already - especially the sabatoge eating. I took my waist hip ratio and was pleased that it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. However, I also had to admit it would have been better if I had not started working against myself a few weeks ago. Oh well, can't kick my butt on that anymore, just need to move up and onward.

Tiki

[keepgivinup]

wow! i just bought his weight program. i bought the vitamin supplement packs and some of his snake bars. if anything i just hope i can get alittle more energy out of it. i hate being so tired!

[tikanique]

KGU - Good luck on the vitamin packs. Are you exercising yet?

[keepgivinup]

my g-mom bought me a treadmill for xmas but for some reason i really dont like it. i started to walk around my neighborhood but then i stopped. i really cant stick with anything. that is why i am hoping i can get some more energy cause i am so tired when i get home from work i dont end up doing much of anything.

[tikanique]

okay, this will sound totally crazy but exercising will give you energy. it doesn't take a lot of time for it to give you energy either, only about a week or so. it raises your metabolic rate and also gives you endorphins which also boost your mood. I read something on another thread here about when this person wants to skip a workout, she reminds herself that she has never regretted a workout and that's what keeps her going. I am in an energy slump right now too, so let's challenge each other to do some type of physical activity for 20 minutes today. walk your neighborhood, dance, cut your grass, something, and I will do the same. check back in tomorrow, okay?

[keepgivinup]

20 min?! i can do that ( i always think i'm not doing anything unless i workout for hours!) ok then i will walk today after work around the neighborhood!

thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jen]

Hi there. I'm just going to jump in here. I bought the food guide and have been doing the Rapid Start Plan and so far have lost 5 lbs. I haven't been completely strict about it so I probably would have lost more. :) but hey I am doing the best I can and that is all we can ask of anyone. I'm going to get his other book from the library and read it, I might buy it if I think it is something I will use as a reference or if I find it on sale sometime. Hardcover books are too expensive for me. I wonder if it will eventually come out in a softcover like the food guide? I think it's a really great plan and it has really helped me in so many ways.

[tikanique]

KGU - Where are you? Did you get your walk in?

Tiki

[Irish Tart]

Good Morning, I rode the recumbent stationary bike for twenty minutes yesterday and tried the total gym for about twenty seconds. Boy, is my upper body out of shape. I guess the saying "Use it or lose it" is true because I used to have a lot of upper body strength.
I used to walk my dog every day last year until winter time. Yesterday my dh and I walked him father than we usually do. We stop for a few minutes to look at some construction in the neighborhood and our dog lay down at the curb ,panting really hard. I looked him over to make sure that he was okay and then we took a short-cut home so that he wouldn't have to walk so far. I made a promise to myself right then that I would make the time to take him for his walks each day because he needs to get back into shape too.
I am doing a lot better on portion control and feel better since I pack healty lunchs with a few snacks so that I don't come home in the evening starving and wanting to eat everything in sight.
I hope all are well! Have a great day. Irish

[barbygirl43]

Sounds like everyone is doing well. I started back my lunch walks yesterday. (I've been dividing my lunch hour into eating for 15 minutes, letting the food settle for 15 and walking for 30) I'm averaging between 2 and 2 1/2 miles each time. I'm still trying to lift weights at home at least 2x a week and get in some more exercise at night at home.
My portion control is going much better. I still will munch on a carrot stick, cucumber slice, or broccoli if I catch myself getting hungry inbetween meals.

[tikanique]

2.5 miles at lunch time? That's cool. I will be glad when the weather here in MI stays CONSISTENTLY warm. I want to get some lunch walking in myself.

Tiki.

[Holli's Human]

I am new to this thread and wanted to say hello. I bought the Dr. Phil book just after it came out, but haven't done that much with it...I've read parts of it...skipped around some and then started from the beginning. FOr some reason...it just hasn't grabbed me yet. I too am an emotional eater and have a food dependency, often used as a coping mechanism. I was hoping to get healed from that aspect of the overeating cycle by reading his book. I love his show and his no nonsense advice has helped so many. I just knew it was the answer for me. Now I don't know. I'm gonna give it another try starting today go back thru those healing feelings and right thinking steps as well as the others. I sure need to get free from this addiction and get back to my life. I've gained so much weight in the past few years, I stay at home and hide...rather than chance meeting some of the people I used to know, who I feel would judge me.. I miss out on alot and I'm tired of living this way...

Thanks for letting me share!

Debbie

[tikanique]

Hiya Deb,

I am working my way through the book as well, just hit Key 2 - healing feelings. However, this weekend was so pretty, I didn't want to waste it healing feelings - I am delegating that to tomorrow when it is supposed to rain. Hang in there and welcome to the Phil part of the site.

Tiki.

[barbygirl43]

Hi debbie and welcome. It took me reading through that chapter twice and much soul searching for me to realize that I did have emotions to heal (I never considered myself an emotional eater, more of a binger). welcome aboard and good luck. I know for me reading over the discussions have really helped.

[tikanique]

tattoo? I'm looking at your goals / rewards and that is one of mine as well. What do you want to get tattooed and where do you want it?

Tiki

[Holli's Human]

Thanks ladies for the welcome notes. I read a little tonight...all pages I had read before and he talks about that you won't get anywhere until you believe you can actually do it and that you can change and you have to do away with self defeating thoughts like "I have no willpower, I am too weak, It is too hard, etc"

ok, how do you do that. I have failed so many times, I'm beat so low, how do you begin to retrain your thoughts and believe those things?

Thanks! deb

[tikanique]

First of all, start with believing the quote that you have in your own signature line. Personally, I talk to myself. It has helped me in other areas so we will see what it does in this arena in my life.

[diphthong]

Hi Everyone!

Sorry I've been MIA, but lots happening and I had to cut down on my computer time to get things done around the homstead. I've also been away to our boat. Intentional exercise has been -0- but I did cardio this morning and will hit my weights tomorrow. Food has become a habit now and the new way of life via practice and persistence so I've maintained my loss in spite of not working out.

Welcome to all the newbies and I hope to catch up on all the posts this week. But I can't let this one go by without saying something -

Debbie said, "ok, how do you do that. I have failed so many times, I'm beat so low, how do you begin to retrain your thoughts and believe those things?"

Well, I call it "Hollywood." I pretend to be what I want to be until I become it. I learned this principle about 30 years ago and it's nothing new, in fact, it's as old as the hills. I've used it in my career but never thought about applying it to my unhealthy habits of overeating and lack of exercise until last year. I read and researched what the successful people had done, and I did much experimenting. I committed to 6 months of healthy eating and intentional exercise just to see what would happen and if it would work. I watched thin people eat at buffets to see what they did differently than me. I watched the thin women at my gym to see what they did, and how often, and then I emulated them. In my research I found 3FC and some more successful women who I chose as my secret mentors. I read and devoured everything they wrote. I waited anxiously every day for their posts. And then I began to emulate them. When they saw I was serious, they took me under their wings and coached me, praised me, and gave me what I needed to keep going.

And then Dr. Phil's book hit the shelves and I dived right into the headwork. I found that what I *thought* were the obvious life shattering reasons I overate were in reality not so. It went deeper, and it's something I'm aware of now so that I can work on controlling it. And like my good buddy, Ms. Tiki, I talk to myself, and I post my thoughts on these forums mostly for myself as the lightbulb moments click on. But I still do my Hollywood thing, wanting to become the poised and self-confident woman I hope to be before I leave this earth. You see, *I* don't believe yet that I am really this wonderful person people think I am - I just play a part. I don't believe because the damage was done early and went unrepaired for too many years. You can't maintain the healthy eating, intentional exercise resulting in losing the weight until you do the headwork. You can do it for a while, but your head will always be hurting until you get to the root of the problem. Like Dr. Phil says, "It's not what you're eating; it's what's eating you." I hope you discover through his exercises in the book, - yourself.

Best,

dip

[barbygirl43]

Tiki--I used to want a little smiley flower on my ankle, now I'm not sure. I think I do want it one on my ankle but maybe incorporate the kids' names in it.

Debbie--That's been one of my hurdles as well. When I got my butt up off the couch and started exercising (I was walking in the yard one afternoon) and it hit me that that was why I hadn't actually started to eat healthy or exercise was because I was afraid to fail. I'm not afraid to fail now because I KNOW I'm not going to. This isn't a diet or a way to lose weight for me. It is a change in lifestyle and me getting myself healthier. (Like one of the WLC Challengers said--the weight loss is a by product of changing your life).
As for the willpower, I'm not sure what chapter you are in but take each moment one at a time and don't get overwhelmed. If you do "mess up" in your mind don't give up just continue on from that point. Since this is an entire lifestyle change and not just a diet if I have more than I should so what. It was one meal/snack whatever. The key is to not let that one meal/snack turn into another and another and back to the same old eating patterns.

So far I've had a barbecue at the house, attended one at a friends house complete with birthday cake, and a couple of other events. I know they are coming up and I plan what I'm going to eat beforehand and stick to it. That way there's no guilt if I eat 2 hamburgers instead of one. good luck. :)

As for me, I'm dealing with a sick child. He started with diarhea on Sunday and still has bits of it now. We've had to put him on pedialyte only for 12 hours and now he's on 1/2 mixed formula with cereal and pedialyte and then he'll go on 24 hours of alternating his meals of pedialyte and the formula with cereal. He has GERD (reflux) and already has to take prevacid and tagament. His ped upped his tagament dosage. On top of that he has a killer diaper rash. Luckily it's starting to go down by putting on maalox (who would've thought to use it as diaper creme?) and bag balm over that.

But I'm doing well overall. still getting in my lunch walks (only did 15 minutes today so I'll do 15 more when I get home on top of my weight training tonight) and am doing better with my portions feeling me up.

[Holli's Human]

Thanks everyone for the support and sharing of your experience and understanding. I've had a rotten day and have eaten too much junk. I will try to really get going a little more in the book this weekend and delve into some of the head stuff perhaps.

I'll keep checking back in! Thanks again :-)

debbie

[ladyroses]

I also have the Total Gym and a stationary bike. They are a great combination for exercises.
BTW I don't ever use the bands. You probably won't either. Did they get a video with it? Just follow that and pause when you need to change the settings on the TG. You'll love them.