300+ and Ready To Try Again .. # 522 [Archive] - 3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community

VermontChick

04-29-2004, 07:02 PM

Yeah, i agree it's being slow. I though it was my computer at first. I don't know if they go through multiple servers (didn's some of us have access all last weekend, while others couldn't get on until tuesday???)

On a semi-diet note, i feel bloated and icky. I feel so full and i haven't eatan all my calories for the day..it's a strange feeling. Have any of you had this feeling after using diet pills? I assume that the pills make you bloated since they contain wretched ammounts of caffeine...gotta tell you though..i'm taking Dexatrim Natural with Bitter Orange and Green Tea (it's an appetite suppresent..NOT one of those products that increase your metabolism - other than the natural effects of green tea of course...)

Anyways, I'm off to watch Love Actually..I LOVE THAT MOVIE.

I think a book thread is a great idea..though here I am thinking you guys mean a FICTION thread..and not one on diet books :LOL:

LuckyLadyBug

04-29-2004, 08:27 PM

ME TOO - it is so slow I could scream.

BUT I have worse news:

They are predicting SNOW here Saturday!!!!!

LuckyLadyBug

04-29-2004, 08:37 PM

I just watched Dr. Phil from Monday with his weight loss challange people. Oh, I want to be them!!!! They made me cry with them with joy!!!

THAT will be us!!!! Just you wait and see!!!!

bobsgal

04-29-2004, 08:52 PM

Well today has been another good day for me. I got my walking done this morning and got a good workout doing yard work. We are laying bricks in the backyard to create a patio. Boy is that hard work. The bricks weigh about 25 lbs apeice and the sand weighs 50 lbs per bag. We got 3 bags of sand and 11 bricks today. Also 4 bags of mulch. Have to head back to Home Depot tomorrow for me. We figured we need at least 48 more bricks and 10 more bags of sand. I'm going to have some nice muscles by the time we are done. By the way, we is me and my mother-in-law, so I'm doing all the lifting and carrying. Food and water are still on track. I've started posting on the food tracker thread today. The site seems slower to me as well. Hopefully that gets fixed. Well gotta go for now.
Steph

ageoldie

04-29-2004, 09:32 PM

I agree the site is much slower since the new server! Well I made it through the afternoon with out eating everything in sight. Why don't I feel good about that???

Kat I'm with you about not being a Dr Phil fan, but I did buy the book, haven't read much of it yet, but if you do a book thread, I'll make myself read it.

katrinabgood

04-29-2004, 09:50 PM

All RIGHT, BarbG...we'll participate, but sit in the corner and make snide remarks about him! :lol:
Oh, I'm KIDDING, all you Dr Phil lovers out there! :lucky:

Steph, good for you! We're planning the same type of "workout" over here too! I have a feeling I will be doing the bulk of the work too! Come on over and give me some tips, please!

I haven't noticed the site taking any longer than before.

Okay, I have to go to Barnes & Noble to pick up my DR PHIL book. :p

see you later...

thinthinker

04-29-2004, 10:25 PM

I'm here 2Cute...I just finished one mid-term exam tonight and have 2 more to do!

I could do the Atlantic City thing but would need as much advance notice as possible because I would need to put some extra money aside and if we did the overnight thing then I would need to plan for John to take a day off from work to keep the boy! I could get a half day off on Friday (I have some comp time coming) and stay over friday night. That would work best for me. I have been saving money for our disney trip and don't want to dip into that...so I would start saving extra for a weekend!

Geesh...did I just babble away there or what???

I guess i need to get some sleep so I can start working fresh tomorrow on another exam! This one is just one essay! Its for my communications class.

TTFN Michelle
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Terri in MO

04-29-2004, 10:43 PM

Hey, leave Dr. Phil alone! He da man!

Da Ego Man!

I think Dr Phil has many very good things to say and I think he's right on in how to solve the weight problems. Deal with the emotions and make lifestyle changes. No other "diet" plans really encourage people to get to the root of the problem - and for most of us, it was emotional at some point.

HOWEVER, he is obnoxious on his show. His ego has gotten out of hand. And I cringe whenever I see Robin on the show. Is she a brainless twit or what? And she gives advice to people??????????

Dis the man but you've got to admit he does have good points.

I don't have the book either. Can I join in anyway since I watched all the shows? I can be your personal trainer! :rofl:

What is WRONG with those people on Survivor? They need to boot Rob's butt all the way back to Boston. And his little girl, Toto, er Amber, too. Tom is a moron for believing that Rob would take him to the final two. They better gang up now before its too late and get rid of either Rob or Amber. I would have been one of the first to be voted off because I'd probably call them all a bunch of dumbas**s.

Poor John Stevens. Such a baby face. He just didn't have it to be a pop idol.

I worked late tonight and therefore missed my evening exercise. Too tired to walk the dog.

But I've kept food good. I talked myself down from hitting the vending machine when I was having an irritated moment at one of my staff. I asked her to set up a meeting and run the meeting, and she forgot to show up because she was out to lunch. Some days being a manager is more than my patience can handle.

The winds were so strong yesterday, our neighbor lost his bradford pear tree in front of his house. It was a big tree and it was absolutely gorgeous this spring when the blooms were on. And now it is totally gone. Just like the trunk exploded about three feet up and the whole thing laid down in his yard. He's lucky it didn't land on his house. We lost our two big trees in front two years ago in an ice storm. Really changes the look of the cul-de-sac.

Steph - I did one of those landscape projects with 150 big windsor stones. That cured me of doing landscape projects.

Lucky - Oh YUCK, snow! DH and I will be PO'd if the sun isn't out this weekend because we want to fish. We'd really be PO'd if it snowed.

Meliss- Never took diet pills so no help here.

Kat - Great news about the dads!!!

Oh yes, still Thursday, so I'm thankful for.....
The life that God has given me. Even though it seems that it has been a tough life in that nothing has come easy. But I'm also thankful that he cares enough to test me and make me stronger. I'm thankful that my family, and DH's, is not totally insane. They could be worse. I'm thankful that I have a good paying job even though some days I really hate it. I'm thankful for my DH that loves me for who I am but yet doesn't try to keep me the way I am. And I'm thankful for all my friends here.

I'm off to watch TV in the bed. Have a great night!

thinthinker

04-29-2004, 10:54 PM

Hi all! :wave: It's nice to see some of the old faces peeking in again along with the new. Glad to see that Spring is bringing you all out of hiding.

I went and sat with my girlfriend's mom today. Loooonnnnnggggg day. She's so confused sometimes. It's really heartbreaking.

I have stayed up until 3:00 AM for the past two nights so I still haven't really recouperated from the long drive of this weekend. I do believe I'll hit the hay at 11:00 tonight and see if I can get some REAL sleep.

My best friend and I are going to the Women's Expo tomorrow. She had called me before I left for OK last week and asked if I had seen the advertisements. I hadn't so I'm glad she called. We will spend the better part of the day there. For those of you who have never heard of them or haven't gone they are really cool. It's a bunch of booths that are all "women" related; health screenings, stuff for sale, cooking stuff, several stages of presentations (fashion shows,etc.) and then one of the major supermarkets is usually a sponsor so their vendors set up a free sampling area where there's usually soy milk, and pop, and apples, pears, sausage and chicken samples, etc. It really makes for a fun day of shopping, looking and just enjoying being a woman. :D

I'm going to run. Survivor was a hoot. I think "someone" (inserted in case some of you haven't seen the show yet) offered themselves up, what do you think?

Love :love: you bunches.

thinthinker

04-29-2004, 11:01 PM

Hi there

I am trying once again, I used to belong to this site oh about 2 years ago. I see that you all have threads going, and I see it is about time to start another continuance so I decided to just post my own until that one gets started

A bit about myself....

My name is Shay, I am 23, married with two lovely daughters ( 5yrs and 7 months) I live in WA and have been battling weight for as long as I can remember. My all time highest was while pregnant with my youngest, I topped out at 383. I haven't done any sort of dieting since September 03 when I gave birth. I went to the dr yesterday expecting to be pointed into the surgery direction, but to my surprise, I am 10 lbs LIGHTER than when I got preg!! So my current is 339, with very little effort put into that loss. I am newly motivated in a way that I have never been. I am starting to see the end result, starting to be excited when I see "little" clothes that I want to wear, starting to be able to see myself as thin!! I think this is a really good sign.

I am currently on my period, so I am not going to "start" anything yet, Sunday is the big day. Just wanted to pop in and say Hi

LuckyLadyBug

04-29-2004, 11:20 PM

Grrrrr two of my aunts just called me. Two of our cousins from Sweden are coming Sunday to visit us and they wondered if I could do a lunch for everyone so we could all celebrate my Dad's birthday - which isn't really until May 8th.

Good grief - entertain foreign relatives on a two day notice, one of which I will spend at work!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am getting hyper! :dizzy:

Okay, a good nights sleep and maybe this will look easier! :no: :yes: :no: :?:

katrinabgood

04-30-2004, 12:14 AM

I love this sentiment:I'm thankful that my family, and DH's, is not totally insane. :lol: Totally being the key word, right? I know. :yes:

Lucky, Great new quote under your signature:
You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf!
how true, how true.

Another quote from Terri: Dis the man but you've got to admit he does have good points All right...I will give you that. I got the book, read maybe the first three pages and got interrupted. Good stuff so far. He's still obnoxious, but at least I don't have to listen to him.

Okay, Seinfeld is on...must go snuggle with my honey and watch for the umpteenth time whatever episode is on! Love it!

2cute2Bfat

04-30-2004, 04:08 AM

Okay ladies... I started the new Book Study thread. I asked Thin to put a sticky on it but don't know if it is necessary. :?: I changed the first study to be the book jacket and acknowledgement. We will start Chapter one on Sunday. Everyone feel free to start new week threads as well as post as often as you want too.

My sister seemed in better spirits today. :) She said she is really sore though.
She goes in for her first follow-up Monday. I was going to take her but my car is scheduled for the shop that day.

Terri... I think you would make us a great personal trainer. :lol:
You can still learn a lot from everyone sharing... but just remember those are our opinions and DrPhils advice is probably better. LOL

kat... and all other NON Dr Phil fans.... you can take the book cover off or turn it inside out and you won't have to look at his face daily. LOL I think he is an ego maniac too... but I know he has some good techinques we can all learn from.

Lucky... take a deep breath !!! You will do just fine. It does not have to be perfect. They want to see you... not your perfectionism. LOL

Thin... sounds like a fun day ahead for you. I am proud of you for getting to bed earlier tonight.

HI MICHELLE !!! I am so glad you are still here. :D I hope you aren't taking any summer courses so we get to see more of you.

Barb.g... guess you put your foot in your mouth... You have to read Dr Phils book now... we have it in writing. :lol: I am sure we will all learn a lot.

Steph... good to see you posting again. Sounds like you are one busy woman.

Missmeliss... get those fingers typing and share your thoughts on our book study thread.

Okay.. I hope I hit everyone who posted on this thread. :crossed:
With this book study thread my individual replies will have to suffer. Only so many hours in a day. I just feel my top priority should be me studing this book over gossip about my life. LOL

I have one more Thankful Thursday to post even though it is officially Fun Friday.
My sister is only 5 years older than me... and I am thankful I get another chance to change my future. I could be in her shoes in 5 years if I don't get my act together. I am very thankful I get to TRY AGAIN.... but this time with a new committment. :smug:

Terri in MO

04-30-2004, 08:40 AM

Good Friday morning!

Did anyone watch ER last night? One of the characters said something that really hit home.

She was confessing a secret that she keeps hidden from others:

"I can't follow through - on anything. If I don't finish it, I don't have to be hurt or disappointed in how it turns out."

It made me wonder if all the struggles to stay committed and focused and actually lose the weight, is that deep down, I'm afraid of what happens when I get there.

Something to ponder.

2Cute - Great start on the thread. And yes, focusing on taking care of your, and our, health is more important than gossip. Not necessarily more fun! I'll buy the book at Wal-mart today.

I guess I should get up and go to work. We're supposed to have thunderstorms today so laying in bed is more appealing.

Have a great day!

ageoldie

04-30-2004, 09:36 AM

Terri Yes I saw that on ER,[B] and like you it really hit home!!! I'd like to think that is not my problem, but....if the shoe fits (of course if you go to DSW too many shoes will fit :lol: )

I was down another pound this morning. I just hope I can continue this determination.

Well, since it's FUN FRIDAY, I'd better find something fun to do!

katrinabgood

04-30-2004, 10:49 AM

Good Morning!

Coffee's on, I'm off to do some reading...I will start with Dr Phil, but I did buy two other books too. I'm a sucker for a book store....

katrinabgood

04-30-2004, 02:01 PM

I just got back from lunch with hubby. He was out running errands for the boy's camping trip this weekend and asked me to meet him for lunch, my choice. It's such a nice day, I chose this little fish place down by the bay. We got some take out and sat by the water, watching the seagulls go berserk, as they waited for a handout. At least my french fries didn't go to waste, but I wasn't sharing my crab cakes, no siree! :no:

Michelle, how about a day in AC? Which is what I had originally intended. I don't want you dipping into your Disney fund! I am NOT a big gambler, at all! I'd be happy as a clam, just strolling the boardwalk, chatting with you girls...as a matter of fact, it doesn't have to be AC at all, just some place we can meet for the day, since we're within driving distance from each other. Maybe down the road we can plan for an overnighter in AC.

Lucky...so what have you planned so far? Did you order the lutefisk?

Thin, the women's Expo sound fabulous! Now THAT'S a FUN FRIDAY! Have a great time!

2cute, wonderful insight on the book thread, already! I'm going to enjoy this, really! I've already started highlighting stuff in the book!

Okay, I really have to get moving around here. I don't want to fritter away the day inside when there's so many things to be done outside!

see you later...

BarbPA

04-30-2004, 02:36 PM

Michelle & Kat -
A day in AC, or anywhere for that matter, would be great with me. If we do AC Jeff would probably tag along and hit the blackjack tables. Then after we do the girl thing I'd probably catch up with him. :D Any weekend in May work for you?

Maybe we can plan an overnighter for the fall time.

I've gotta go grab some lunch. I'll be back later.
:) Barb

LuckyLadyBug

04-30-2004, 03:46 PM

2Cute said:
"I am going to stop myself everytime I catch myself calling myself hopeless, stupid etc"

AH HA - pay your Spring Fling jar everytime you mess up!!!!! I think that would be a good one for me to do too.

Terri: Your ER quote "I can't follow through - on anything". Interesting, for me I follow through on everything and everyone BUT myself. :yikes:

We are going to eat at the nursing home. They are having pork chops and steak so everyone agreed to eat there. I have cake and my aunts are bringing cookies and bars. I bought the decorations today so I am pretty much set until Sunday morning. Then it's set up time.

For part of the decorations I decided to have M&M's in crystal bowls on the tables. Good grief WHEN did M&M's get so complicated??? I just wanted plain old M&M's and there were many other kinds. What is this world coming too??????? :?:

I will be mowing until 8:30 and then clean the house just in case that snow hits tomorrow I want everything done.

I am excited about reading Dr. Phil. I believe sharing it with all of you will make all the difference.

SusieH

04-30-2004, 11:06 PM

Hello all,

I tried to post on Thursday, but after typing everything and hitting submit, I got some funky message and lost the post.

I have been trying to read, but unfortunately I am still behind.

Food has been really bad, but I am rededicating myself once again. Tomorrow, my hubby will be taking my picture and I will weigh myself. I am going to display the pic on the fridge in hopes of stopping my binging.

I am also going to finally read my Dr. Phil book. I have had it for months now and haven't gotten past the first few pages.

I have also begun to "clean my closets". I have found that I am really becoming a major pack rat. I am going to try and simplify some of my life, but getting rid of "some" of the junk in my house. Maybe it will help keep my mind off of eating, and once I have a garage sale, make me some money.

Well, I have some more emails to rifle through before bed.

Susie

2cute2Bfat

05-01-2004, 02:06 AM

Good evening gals. I am writing this off line because I have a couple of things I want to share and once I get online and start reading I forget what I wanted to share. LOL

First... I have been haunted with a topic we discussed at the Spring Fling.
EGG YOLKS :lol: Yep.. egg yolks. :yes:
Several of us said how they eat egg white omelets and others use only one whole egg and two egg whites. Others said how they cannot "waste" that egg yolk. It is ingrained into us oldies not to waste.
Well, ... that has bugged me ever since. :yes: So I am here to try and persuade some of you to use your egg yolks in other ways than you eating them.

First... a dozen eggs cost between $1 - $1.50 so lets average that out to $1.20
That averages out to 10cents each. If you eat the egg white... then the yolks value is only a nickel.... 5 cents.
Now who here in this thread is NOT worth 5 cents ?? If you cook one whole egg and 2 whites you are only throwing away a dime in exchange for LESS CALORIES, LESS Cholesterol, LESS points for those in WW. A DIME !!! YOU are worth a dime !!

Okay... now for anyone who said they are not worth a dime.... what are some other uses for those 2 egg yolks.??? Hmmm :chin: Let's brain storm here. :idea: How about using it for your pets. It will help their coats shine. OR .. how about your plants. Mix it with some water and use it as plant food. Add some left over milk too ... plants love milk. If they were hard boiled egg yolks you can add them to your husbands egg salad. LOL My dog loves the yolks of hard boiled eggs. :D

And for a last resort ... if you still can't waste those 5 pennies ... keep a track of how many you wasted in a week and I will mail you that 25 cents. :lol: You are worth a quarter to me. :love:

Okay... now for topic two.
Not liking Dr. Phil. :lol:
I am one of those that hate looking at his photo on the book cover. :lol:
There are several options to take here.
One.. remove the cover. Duh !!!! LOL
Two... reverse the cover...turn it inside out.
Three.... make a new cover out of pretty wrapping paper or paper bags like we did back in school.
I think he has some wonderful ideas but looking at him irates me. :lol:

Okay... no time for replies. I had a third topic and I wrote a lot about it but finally decided to delete it after much contemplation. I am now out of time for replies.

LuckyLadyBug

05-01-2004, 09:46 AM

Also, now research says eggs aren't as bad as they once thought!!!

I hurt my right arm yesterday while mowing. I think I really strained my forearm muscle. It shakes and doesn't let me use my hand. I have to baby it today.

Terri in MO

05-01-2004, 10:57 AM

Good morning ladies!

Its gloomier than gloom here today. It was supposed to be a nice weekend but I don't see no frickin' sun. A cold front came through and its been rainy and very cool. Unless the gloom moves out, no fishing today. Which bums DH and I once again.

I got up early and went to WW for WI. No matter how much I think about spending that $13 once or twice a month and how I could do this on my own and save the money. I am not going to. Something inside me just won't let me quit going because I'm afraid that I won't follow through and continue losing. I let DH do his WI at home but am making him dig $13 out of his wallet and put it in the vacation jar. I have joined and quit WW so many times in the last 10 years, I just can't quit one more time. So, I won't talk about it again and if I do, tell me to shut up.

I had a good WI. I lost 3.4 pounds. Part of that is what I had gained at TOM so I moved .6 into new territory. I'm .6 on my way to the next 25 pounds! :lol: I was very happy to see the number considering all that I ate last weekend.

The message of the meeting today was about what we believe about ourselves. Do we believe the truth about ourselves or do we believe what we think others think about us? Think of Cinderella with the stepsisters who always told her she wasn't good enough and that is what she believed because that's what she heard. Do any of us have a preconception of what others are thinking and therefore we live up to it? Is there anyone in our lives that gives us messages that lead us to think we are worth less than we are? She also talked about getting to goal. Getting there takes having more good days than bad. Not every day is perfect. Not every weekend is perfect. Its getting the bad days stopped and having good days that makes us successful. Its saying that we're never going to quit.

HERE THAT LADIES! DON'T EVER QUIT even if you've fallen off the wagon. Don't let that despair of feeling out of control make you actually out of control.

2Cute - You've got some great insight and motivation going. Keep it up because it helps others. We've got to love one another for who we are unconditionally but we've also got to help one another NOT remain as we are. For our health and wellbeing, we have to be tough for each other. You're doing great. I bought the book yesterday and yes that is an ego pose if there ever was one. I like your ideas of book covers. And great ideas about the egg yolks.

Susie - Good for you for taking the steps of being accountable and getting started again. I've moved twice in the last five years and learned about throwing stuff out. I work on removing pack rat stuff all the time. Next time I move, packing will be a breeze! Keeping busy like that will be a good way to get your mind on other things.

Lucky - Geez, that doesn't sound good about your arm. Take it easy and don't let it go on too long without seeing a doctor.

Barb.G - Good job for having a good week. How are you enjoying the meals?

Kat - I quit going to the bookstores because I buy too many. I also can't shop at Amazon very often but who ever heard of buying just ONE book? I was planning on trying the bike this weekend but right now the weather isn't very appealing.

Thin - How was the expo? I might keep my eye open for one in this area. I just finished reading my second Stephanie Plum book. I love it! Wouldn't that make a great movie? They are so funny.

Hello to everyone else. I have to go help DH do something in the garage.

Have a good day!

dowsx4

05-01-2004, 11:25 AM

Hello ladies. First let me introduce myself. My name is Julie and I have been overweight all my life. I saw this thread and thought I would pop in and say hello and offer some encouragement. I hope I do not affend anyone by being so forward. In january of 2003 I weighed 340 lbs. Since that time I have lost, through a diet my mom and I made up ourselves, 170 lbs. I know how overwhelming it can be to look at all the weight you have to lose and think "can I really do this?". YES you can! Dont get discouraged if you have a stall, I get one every 3 weeks and will actually fluctate back up a few pounds. Its ok if you slip up once in a while it wont make you gain all you have lost back as long as you get right back on track! I have a website with some before and after pictures if anyone would like to look at it and I even have another site that has pictures of what the excess skin looks like after a large loss. The skin still needs a year to shrink up but the way i feel now is soooo worth the excess skin! That can be camouflages with clothes. I can run and play with my kids, I dont feel like my son is going to picked on because of my size, I can buckle any seatbelt i sit in now! Here is my website incase anyone wants to take a look.

http://www.geocities.com/dowsx4/index.html this is the one with the before and during pics. Move the mouse over the family pic to see our new family pic.

http://www.geocities.com/dowsx4/skin.html this is the one with the skin

BarbPA

05-01-2004, 11:59 AM

Hi Everyone -
I am only here for a minute because it is way too nice of a day to be inside.
:sunny:
Dh and I got up early this morning and drove around to garage sales. Only saw one thing I was interested in - an old dresser I would have loved to refinish - but it was sold. Oh well, we took our little dog with us and had fun. Then I potted a bunch of flowers. Now I am headed back to the store for some more. Rain is suppose to come in later and tomorrow so I want to take advantage of the sun.

I hope you are all having a marvelous day!!!

Julie - It was nice of you to peek in. Congratulations on your extrodinary loss!! I remember seeing your posts on other another thread last year when you first started losing. You look wonderful!!!
:strong: :cp: :strong: :cp:

More later!
:)Barb

katrinabgood

05-01-2004, 01:02 PM

Happy Saturday!

I don't want to stay too long here...it's nice out now, but you can tell there's something brewing in the background...gotta get out and plant stuff! I'm with you, Barb!

I had such a fun "Fun Friday" yesterday! The boys went camping this weekend, so here I'm thinking, "Well, I'll be all alone, I'll get a lot of stuff done around here." My daughter had other plans for me! She came home from school and told me that she wanted to take me out last night because she wasn't going to be home on Mother's Day. awwww... One of the high school's in our area was doing Les Miserables this weekend, so we decided to check it out. (Anyone that's been here awhile knows how much we LOVE this show...having seen it about 6 times on Broadway!) Putting on this show is a HUGE undertaking, but seeing as this school is a performing arts school, we figured it had to be goodl
Were we WRONG!!!

When I say it was bad, I mean it was excruciatingly bad! I'm really not one to put down someone's efforts, especially a high school production, I realize these are not professionals...but COME ON! We almost left at intermission, but I decided that since we had already invested that much time, (Show started at 7:30, intermission was after 9!) we were gonna see this thing through! It was like watching a train wreck! But the music was good. Played at the wrong tempo, but good! We went out for dinner (at 11:30) and had lots of laughs, then we came home and put on the tape we have of a PBS performance of Les Miz and sang along, LOUDLY...the neighbors must think we're insane. That's okay--we are!

Julie! Welcome! Your story is truly inspiring! You look great, saggy skin(don't worry, it will shrink) and all! You must feel wonderful! Please stick around and keep us inspired...you are living proof that what we all want is truly obtainable!!! Congratulations!

2cute...Another way of looking at the yolk 'dilemma:' Eat the yolk, throw away the cookies/candy/junk food/fill in the blank...better yet, don't buy junk in the first place. Lucky's right...eggs are no longer considered to be the 'bad guys' anymore. Moderation is the key here.

About Dr Phil...I left the book on the kitchen table. My daughter came in, looked at his mug and said, disgustedly, "Why are you reading HIM?" I told her the message was good, don't look at him. I think the problem with him is over-exposure...which, of course feeds his massive ego. I will take the cover off the book. I read the first chapter, highlighted some stuff,so I'm waiting for next week's discussion. I'm looking forward to this!

Terri, congratulations on your loss! You are doing so well! How is hubby doing?

Susie...I'm always trying to de-clutter too! Have you checked out flylady.com? Love her!

Okay, time's up for me! Time to head outdoors. Have a great day all! Let's make the most of it!

VermontChick

05-01-2004, 03:14 PM

I feel so rotten, I'm just so disgusted with myself. The temperature has been pretty hot lately, and I've been postponing having to dig out the old summer clothes or even go shopping because I hate the way anything looks on me. I just want to disguise my fat to the world but I can't.

So today my mom asked if I would go out and spend the day with her and my grandmother, and I was happy to. I hopped in the shower got ready and all was fine until i decided to burrow into the back of my closet and look for some spring clothing. I was so disgusted, nothing fit. I've been wearing plain tshirts and black pants with an elastic waist for months because nothing fits me. I've been eating 1200-1500 calories a day for months and i still can't even read my weight on the scale.

For all I know I haven't lost weight and have gained it, despite my efforts. Is it possible for people to be unable to lose weight?? I know that sounds silly. I don't have insurance and I couldn't afford to go to the nutritionist if i wanted to.

So I told my mom and grandmother to go without me, I was so depressed. I looked at myself in the mirror and couldn;t think of a time when i hated myself more. That's a problem, I don't even love myself. I just looked at myself with this contempt and disgust as I marveled at my enormous size. I just stood there looking at myself telling myself: "this is YOU melissa, look at yourself!" And then i grabbed one of my shirts and spread it out on the floor so i could see how big the shirts need to be in order to fit over my enormous bust and stomach.

So of course they left and I locked myself in my room to cry because I couldn't stand being fat anymore.

Ugh, anyways enough depression words. I just don't have anyone else I can really talk about this stuff with.

Thanks for always listening to me. :^:

katrinabgood

05-01-2004, 03:44 PM

Melissa...Okay, You've gotten that off your chest...now what?
It is what it is. Do something to make it different. Take the sadness and depression and turn it into determination. You know how you feel today, take steps to insure that you will NOT feel that way tomorrow.

Do something, anything, positive...Don't dwell on negatives.

Take a good long, honest look at what you are doing. Are you exercising? Are you really eating what's good for you? Vegetables? You don't need a scale to tell you that you are losing weight. If you are eating healthy balanced meals, and exercising more, you will lose weight. Period.

Hating yourself will not get you anywhere. Why would you want to help someone that you hate? Think of what you would say to a stranger who is seeking advice about weight loss...better yet, what would you say to one of us to encourage us? I know that you would not use hateful words or put downs. You have to learn to treat yourself kindly and with respect. And if you feel that you can't do that yet, then fake it til you make it!!!!

Now shake off the gloom and doom and give yourself a hug! And get busy...go walk off those bad feelings...

...then come back here and tell us what you did to feel better.

We are all in this together. We all have those feelings at one time or another. Overcoming the self hatred CAN be done...one small step at a time.

The longest journey begins with but a single step...

Go take that step, Meliss. We're right behind you!

:grouphug:

Terri in MO

05-01-2004, 05:00 PM

Meliss

You've got to love yourself enough to tell that person inside your head to get lost. You are living up to what the person in your head thinks of you. Are you worth changing your life for? Absolutely. But you have to believe it and live it.

The first step is to get totally real about your efforts. Maybe the problem is that you're trying to live on on too few calories and that leads to problem eating on the weekend. According to the WW program, someone at the 300 range should be eating around 30 points a day (60 calories per point) and then have 35 flex points a week. Have you checked out any of the online diet calculators? Some will tell you how many calories to have based on how much you weigh, how much you want to lose and the goal date. Also, you have to get real about what you're eating. Have you come in here and said that food wasn't good over the weekend? For none of us, we won't get anywhere if we're not real about what we are eating and how little moving around we're doing.

I agree with Kat. Get up, quit crying and turn that emotion into determination and action.

Most of all, look in that mirror and tell that girl you're sorry for hating her.