Fibro Thread #15

[Candicej]

Well ....we hit 2 pages again so here is a new thread!:)

[Candicej]

Hello Fibropals:)

To my surprize I lost another pound.....total 35!!!!!!!!!!!! But didn't sleep well again and just did nothing today.

Ally do you have IBS with your Fibro too???????

Anne....talk to ya next week.

Meme....You doing any better????????

Looks like it will be alittle warmer here but rain is in the forcast for several days :nono: I don't like that!

[MemeToo]

Candice...love those flowers!!! As a matter of fact, I liked them so much I thought I'd borrow some!!! :lol:

Made it through another day...and what a day it was! I'm hoping against hope I can sleep in tomorrow! I'm going to turn the phones off and try, anyway!

Ally...you absolutely crack me up! I don't know what we did for fun before you joined us!!! :D (Oh...now I remember, they laughed at me!) Thanks for the laughs...I needed that tonight!

I don't think the Mystery Shopping will be too hard but who knows? Everything seems to be hard for me now days! In critiquing the restaruants you have to fill out a computer form on the server, the hostess, the chashier, the food and the restroom. Seems a no-brainer to me! I mentally do that anyway! Doesn't everybody?

I'm going to bed...sooooo sleepy...nite y'all!

MEME

[Ally0306]

All right you guys. Where you all getting those flowers?

All we got here in NY is snow and I am sick of it.

Woke up today in gloom and doom. Flood gates closed. This happened last weekend too. Think I don't drink as much water when at home. We'll see about that...glug, glug, glug.

I don't know about IBS. Do you know that "we" fit into just about every category of crappy disease, syndrome and disorder.

I may have to stay off the internet at work as I seem to pick a new disorder weekly.

AT least I am staying off the scale, but have stayed away from sugar. I do feel that is a real problem for me.
I am going to go have junk food (McDonalds) today, but no sugar. That's as good as it gets.

[Candicej]

Meme..........glad you liked the flowers! You should have lots of pics available since you do web pages! Give us some new ones to use!!!! I don't know how you keep going! You keep too busy for me! I'm still trying to research the neurontin...before I even go to the doc.

Ally if you click on profiles and then click on edit options you can go down to the bottom of the page and pick an avatar ( the pictuer that goes under your name) or download one from the net ( store it on your computer) and use it instead of the ones they have provided.

The flowers at the bottom....you just click on the browse box at the end of your post and you can attach a downloaded file. Can be your own pics or ones from the net. They need to be in .jip or .gif form.
Meme can explain it better I think if you don't understand it!

Ally did you say no sweets?????????

[Ally0306]

Thanks for the kiss Candice....just had peanuts for a snack. Really want a Ho-Ho. Or a Ding-Dong.
I will have to practice with the graphics. I am lucky I can even type.
I thought I had a message that Tootie responded but I don't see her.
Do you guys get responses on your E-mail or is this just as AOL feature?
Time to go walk the doggy...

[Happy Canuk]

Hope you all had a nice weekend. The weather here was tremendous. Just about all the snow has disappeared and it is just so nice out. Sorry Ally, but I'm glad it's you that has the snow, and not me:D

Well, made it through the weekend. Babysitting gets easier and easier as Ashley grows up a little. She will be 3 on the 03April. She just plays so well all by herself, and she knows more about the computer than I do. She boots the thing up, puts in her own program and plays on it - and she is only 2!!

Had a surprise as well, as my son came home for a couple of days. Wasn't supposed to be back home until the first part of April. So that was great. He also came up to Edmonton to my daughters, so had a visit with him.

I hope my little graphic will work. I tried what you told Ally to do, so we shall see.

Ally, Tooties post is on page two of the #14 fibro, just after Candice said she was starting #15.

Tootie - I hope your leg is feeling better. I have NEVER heard of that time zone. I am on MST and British Columbia, the province next to me, that heads to the Pacific Ocean, is on PST.

Ally. A yeast infection could be at the root of your problem. If you crave sweets it could just be so. You know that yeast requires sugar to rise, right. It is the same in your body. It needs the sugar to multiply. You need to go to the Dr. and ask for a blood test, but don't be surprised if they think you are nuts. Half of them don't believe in yeast infections (where have we heard that before - about FM right). Many of the symptoms of FM are also the symptoms of a yeast infection (I am talking about a yeast infection that has broken free from the bowel, and gotten into the blood stream). Talk about FOG!!!! Perhaps you would be better of going to a Naturepath and have a blood culture done, instead of the usual blood testing that the drs. recommend. I see you have posted this on Clouds as well, so I won't reply there. If you have any other questions, please ask. I read in one of the books on FM that yeast infections go along with FM. Also, that Canadidas is going to be the 'new disease' of the century. Dr. will eventually come round, I guess.

Well, just got home and I am tired, so signing off, going to have a cup of coffee and get ready for bed. Talk to you all tomorrow.

Anne

[MemeToo]

Ally...have you checked your PRIVATE messages? Could be she sent you a PM...Go to PM on your last message, click it and then at the top of the box there click Private Messages and you can see if you have any PM's!

Anne...hope you are rested by now! I have so much going on here I'll never be rested again!

Candice...what kind of pictures do you want?
Here's one of me!

[Happy Canuk]

ok, now, how hard can this be. I am going to try sending you all a hug and see what happens.

[Happy Canuk]

Well now, we WILL be in trouble won't we. Our pages will fill up so fast with all the neat graphics around. This is a LOT easier than clouds.

Anne

[Ally0306]

I am logged on to this site at home and not at work and quite honestly I have more time at work to sit and figure out graphics and stuff.
I always seem to have a kid who wants to get on the computer at home...just like now.
Oh guys...I just put a sweat shirt on that was at the bottom of the pile (also stained) and I knew I hadn't worn it since last year. The elastic bottom is tight...and my chest is bigger.
Arrrrrgh.
I am pear shaped. I was always used to tight pants but not on top. This is new. I am also experiencing periods closer together and heavier. My mother went from a 36B to 38C during menopause. I think I might be heading there.
Who knows about the yeast connection. I am scheduled for a Doc appt and blood tests, but you are right...he might think I am loonier than usual.
I know I spend a wee bit too much time researching all my ailments.
I need a hobby.
Haven't checked again for Tootie's response. Got someone breathing over my shoulder...so just hope all are well and will check in tomorrow.
Happy...are you Happy on Clouds too? At first I found that site really really sweet, but lately I have found it a downer.

[Candicej]

Meme....apig doing a jig.....I don't think that is you!LOL :?:

Anne....Thanks fo rthe hug..loved that one! What is clouds??????

Ally..TOOTIE IS ON THE OLD THREAD THE SECOND PAGE! I said I was starting a new one but she posted anyway!:lol:

That GMT time is the 0 latitued or longetude time I think..you can change your time by going into edit options and clicking on your own time zone!

I'm in a rush my son's Birthady is coming and I'm trying to get stuff done!

[Happy Canuk]

Ok, now I see what phyllis was talking about. GMT is Greenwich Mean Time. They are 7 hours ahead of us - it is in England, and it is considered the true time.

Clouds is an FM message forum, and yes, Ally, it has been having a turbulent time of late. Sort of depressing. Try to stay on the non-fm forum, as it is a lot happier over there. I post under Annewin, because Happy Canuk was taken. I have responded to several of your posts.

Candice - maybe Meme does the jig. That was a very cute picture in any case.

I really enjoy the graphics and this is such an easy way to do it, as you can get graphics from anywhere and save them to your own computer.

Hope all are as pain free as you can be.

Anne

[Ally0306]

Well...you guys are so creative. You are really cleaning up the place here.
This weekend I will have to practive.
Happy/Annewin...that is funny. I didn't even know it was you. Why do you think it got gloomy over there? I have never even looked in the nonFMS forum. Started by asking questions about meds. I read that site at work but again. only "talk" on it when at home.
I changed to a very nonstressful job that I could do in my sleep. I should feel bad for playing on the internet at work, but I spend 3-4 years with foster kids and that job sent me to stresscity and I deserve a break.
After I saw that show on Stress on Sat nite and all the physical effects of continual stress...I should sue my employers.
I supervised social workers and we were down some workers and we were all covering tons of cases and when I asked for help we were told to just work a little harder. I used to wake up and think about all the kids on my caseload at night. SOmetimes I would just cry. ANd then after a day of dealing with tough kids..I would come home to my teen twins and just want to shake them.
So..that is better now that I am in a different job...but the after effects of stress are still here.
This 5-HTP is the best thing I have had so far. I wish I could exercise during the day....I get to now and am pooped. I am lifting weights, but only 10lbs and for 10 minutes.
How are the diets girls??? I am keeping up the fiber and staying off the scale. That's a nice break.

[Happy Canuk]

How are you all doing today? Where is Phyllis and Meme? Candice was here a day or so ago - what kind of cake of you making for heaven sakes!:D

Ally, it looks like it is just you and me. Social Work is hard work. All the Social Workers I know get burned out- heavy caseloads and never enough people - and such sad cases. I don't know what happened on Clouds. The General Forum is still sad. I don't know if it just attracts the depressed persons or not. The nonFM forum is where you have fun. Nobody fights on that one and everyone seems to be up. You should try come to that one. I guess people have issues that are easier to deal with if the people don't know you. There sure are lots screaming for help in any case. Sometimes I just stay away from the General. I, myself, am not depressed, but to much of that and I could be. I really feel badly for some of those people.

I guess I prefer to put my energy into fun things. At least it is uplifting!

My diet has been going pretty good - an down about 16 pounds - however, this week has been a bust. I went and babysat my granddaughter on the weekend. That in itself, is not so bad, but my family lives in the same city(Edmonton) so had visiting to do and cards to play until the wee small hours and up early. I really am my own worst enemy!(lol) On Monday, Tuesday and today I am still tired and am craving (and worse, eating) all kinds of carbs (you know, the good stuff). Just can't help myself. I wish I could get back to feeling not tired. Sure learned my lesson this time, I think.

Well, where do you suppose everyone is. I guess Spring has sprung in some places and so people are busy. Maybe the mystery shopper has become mysterious!

Hope you all have had a good day.

[Ally0306]

Hi there Anne/Happy. I did check out the nonFM forum today on Clouds....you are right. I think that is more of what I need. You can only complain about feeling bad so much and then it becomes like an epidemic.

To tell you the truth, I sometimes feel like an imposter because with the exception of screwing up my knee muscles this winter, I have NEVER been as down as some of those people. When I was on Paxil over a year ago, I was kind of a zombie, but I still was not in the kind of pain some of those people are. AND I still have hope for a complete recovery.

After about 3 years of the daily stress of our foster care unit, I started feeling like I had arthritis. Never thought of the pain as muscle pain...it just felt awful. I also would have my legs go numb. At the end of the day I would feel like I was going to faint. I went thru all sorts of tests. Now that I hear about the effects of stress, I know how this all started. Instead of taking a good look at all those physical red flags, I just kept on pushing. I used to have terrible migraines every weekend. I was a mess for a while, but things are a lot better now.

I feel like the last 5 years are a terrible blur tho. Undoubtedly even without all that stuff, I probably would be beginning to pack on a few pounds. I'm 45 years old after all....and I have a desk job. But I weighed 130 when I was 40. I feel like 5 years later I woke up 30 lbs heavier and don't remember how that happened. And I can't just lose it.

My son is waiting for my help. I'll talk to you later.

[MemeToo]

:wave: I'm here...haven't gone anywhere...don't panic!!! Just been incredibly busy. (what's new?!?) :rolleyes: Seems I never have a minute for anything anymore. I've been hurting worse lately, too. I think it is the 5HTP...or rather the lack of. I bought a bottle at the health food store and I thought it was the same thing I had but when I looked closer (after I started hurting worse again) I found it was only 50 mgs and I'd been taking 100 3xs a day...so I'd inadvertently cut the dose in half for 3 weeks! I've upped them to 6 a day and I'm going to order some of the original ones from iherb. I really think those helped me some!

Hubby's work is down to nothing. There are only 2 of them even working now. I'm stressed to the max...and craving carbs, carbs, carbs.

We used to be foster parents in Michigan a long time ago. We only kept babies...I was afraid I would get attached to an older child and not want to give it back! Any kind of social work is stressful. We actually got to name 2 of them...they were special...one I went to pick up at the childrens home in a blizzard...he was only 5 lbs. just released from the hospital and the home couldn't keep babies...they couldn't find anyone to come out in the storm and get him. I'll never forget that ride...my kids were only 2 and 6 at the time and they had no diapers or formula for him. I had to stop on the way home and run in the store and buy some. I remember he was screaming because he was so hungry when I got home...still had to warm him a bottle. Paula, my daughter who was 2 at the time, kept running from the bedroom back to the kitchen saying, "it's cying mommy, it's cying." I tried to tell her it was ok that he was just hungry. On her last trip to the kitchen she leaned up against the cabinets and said, "Take it back 'n get one don't cy." Sometimes I think any job that deals with kids is stressful!!! I thought teaching school was and I now even think teaching piano is! Even keeping my grandkids is stressful! Did we use the word "stress" when we were younger? I don't remember! It about covers everything now days!

I'm so ready for spring and summer! I want to be outdoors sooooo bad! I envy my dog...she likes being outside when it's cold, cool, warm, dry, raining, snowing, whatever...makes no difference to her! I need it to be above 70 and dry!

[MemeToo]

Don't get pinched Saturday...be sure to wear green!!!

[Candicej]

I have to hit reply just to even beable to read your posts...anyone else having these problems..my son says it is the graphics slowing down the computer!

Well my son was here and worked on the
computer..mostly deleting his files he had stored on here
from school! (it is his old computer)..very old and slow and
these graphic are really slowing it down! Anyone else
having that problem??????????? :mad:

I was so busy all day...cooking and learning stuff on here
and doing his laundry..he just got back from St George
Island, FL for spring Break! He ususally does his own
laundry but he brought it with him sand and all! It was a
nice day but I am worn out now! Hope I can get some
sleep!:yawn: It was his 21rst Birthday! I stayed in points and had
a piece of DQ cake too! ( that is his favorite!)

:wave: to all...........hope I can get your graphics to show up so I can see waht you have been up too!LOL 5HTP HUmmmmm:?:

[JudyDawn]

Hi, I'm Judy and new to this site. I have Fibro and many "goodies" that go along with it. I am 44, Married for 20 years to my friend and hubby, 2 teenagers and a very LARGE dog. I need to lose around 75 to 100 lbs. It is making my health worse with all this extra weight. I know I need to lose and the stress just makes me eat more. I get very angry at myself, which makes it even more stressful and me fatter! Looking forward to your replies and friendship-Judy

[Happy Canuk]

Hello Judy. My name is Anne. I have been married for 27 years and have 2 kids and a wonderful, delightful, little granddaughter, of almost 3. I live in Alberta, Canada. I will be 55 this month, and that even I find hard to believe. Where in the world does the time go?:D
What diet are you on? I am on one called The Formula, and have finally started to lose weight. It is a 40-30-30 diet, meaning 40% carbs, 30% protein and 30% fat. It is really easy to be on and I have lost 16 pounds since I started it in January. That is really good for me, as on some of the others I tried I lost 2 or 3 pounds in a month and that was it!!! I want to lose about 20-25 pounds still. Some of us are on Sugar Busters, Weight Watchers and so forth. Just wanted to say say welcome, and hope you stick around.

Candice - Would it be better for you if we forgot the graphics? We got along without them before, so we can do so again. Hope you are catching up on your rest. Isn't is funny how just doing something so normal can set you back for a few days? My son will be 26 on 17 April. He has finally grown into a very nice man, but of course, he will always be my little boy, no matter how old he gets. That's a MOM for you (lol)

Ally - Isn't the high fiber diet killing your stomach? I tried that one once as well. Had the runs for days (lol)
Anyway, I am back on track today, and after pigging out the last couple of days, I was feeling quite queasy. I am starting out just fine today.

Meme - SLOW DOWN!!!! You will be so sore you won't know which end is up. Boy, lady, you are packed full of energy. Wish I had some of that this week.

Phyllis - Hope you come to this thread. Phyllis has been posting on the other thread 14, so she must feel lonely.
We miss you over here, so come find us.

Well ladies, the good news is SPRING HAS SPRUNG!!!! Today it is 48 above and getting warmer each day. One day last week we had 65 above. The bad news is, that the weather is so up and down that it causes everything to hurt.

Later.

[MemeToo]

Anne, no I'm not packed full of energy either!!!
My blood is low and I just found out today that I have an urinary tract infection...they said that was why I have been so tired lately! I said follow me around for a day and then you see why I'm REALLY tired!!!
Can't slow down...no place to stop. It's like I'm wound tight and can't stop until I wind down and then I'll just lay down and stop ticking! Don't know what the family will do when that happens!

Had lunch with my daughter today then went to the Dr. to get my shot and on to an outlet store and the pharmacy for infection pills. Came home and had planned to take a nap but hubby followed me in the driveway and wanted to talk...so...nap time ran out! The funny thing is I didn't even know I had the infection. I have to have my urine tested every month for protein deposits from the gold shots and they found it today when they did that. They couldn't believe I wasn't hurting...must be pretty bad, too. I have to take 2 HUGE pills a day for the next 10 days. They said I should get to feeling better and less tired by next week. Sure hope they are right!!!

Judy, welcome to our corner. I'm always glad to see someone with fresh insight to this blasted disorder/disease/whatever! I'll be 54 in May, married for 35 years, two children ~ boy 34 and girl 30 and four grandchildren ~ 2 boys, 6 & 4 & 2 girls, 3 & 2. And I also have a big dog...she isn't huge yet...only 9 mos. old but already weighs over 50 lbs. I have a golden retriever, what kind is yours? I still need to lose about 30 lbs and am doing Weighdown Workshop at home (most of the time...been stressed out lately & overeating). I've had fibromyalgia for about 20 years. How long have you been diagnosed? I keep my granddaughter 10-12 hrs. a day 5 days a week (the 2 yr. old) and teach piano in the evenings. Do you work?

Well...Candice won't like this...I've written another novel.

[tootie]

After all the looking and running from area to area w/ the 3 FTC's I managed to find you guys. but I have to go and have dinner because I haven't been eating well lately.
Meme, don't talk like that, if that's what makes you tick, keep going!
You all have nice pictures, but Happy's son is right it slows down the thread. Sometimes I can't even get in to read.
Ally is still as funny as ever, but the dancing pig was not appropiate.It's not right, you do more starving than the rest of us. Especially with the water soup you made.
Welcome to the new lady,{forgot her name} Have to say sometimes I still get weepy and complain to myself, but today was a little better. The new rehumi did not find any pressure points last time.So, now I will ask her what she thinks is causing all the pain. Sometimes I want to ask for an antibiotic to see if by some quirck it IS a low grade infection.
How can I get to make a new life here, when I'm not feeling at least well enough to get out?
No graphics from me. Do not know how to do it, plus I;m on a net appliance.Too lazy to look for a computer.
Gotta go.

[Happy Canuk]

Yeah Phyllis, glad you found us.

Candice, I keep getting all your e-mail I sent you, back. Is your mail program down?

Anne

[Candicej]

Well......maybe a little if I can chat with you nutty gals!:lol:

Anne......my email is up and running...slow but it is running faster than me!:smug:

Suzanne of 3fc's says it is a Netscape bug that the company is trying to work out that is causing my problems..other Netscape users are having the same problems with the graphics! She said to use IE but my poor little 'puter does not Have internet Explorer!!!!!!!!!! I don't know if not using the graphics would work or not? We could give it a try! Anyone else here use Netscape???????????

Judy..I am 50 have 2 sons, a dog and 4 cats..live in the country in IL. Married 25 years in November!!!!!!! Welcome to our little world of Pain and laughter!!!!!!!!!!! I'm doing the WW@home program. 35 lbs gone since June!

Meme..those antibiotics will increase your appetite! Can't believe you are not in any pain! UTI"s hurt so bad..like having a baby for me! OUCH!!!!!!!!!

Toots..you finally found us ands I thought MEME's pig was cute( it wasn't Allly's) and it was my son that said the graphics might be slowing things down and I think he was right!

Oh well....better go need more rest..did get 20 min. on the treadmill today!:dz:

[tootie]

Thanks Candice I seemed to have gotten a lot mixed up already. Just when I thought I knew everybody's stats!
I did do some traveling when I got lost on the other thread, and I have to say, that Fibro cloud group seemed too scary for me!
Soooo welcome Judy, this is the place for some fratizing and support for more than just the Fibro.
I am retired from NY State Gov.work and recently, moved from New York's Capital district to Teaxs and am going thru a BIG adjustment. Big really big.

I divorced my beloved about 11 years ago.
I have two grown children born on the same day a year apart and two and 1/2 grandchildren.I'm hoping there will be wedding bells for my daughter soon so that I can relax about her being single. She so wants to have a family.

The ladies here have been listening to some of my complaints, and vey graciously accepted me in their fold,which they will do with you as well.

In going to new doctors, I find I'm more cynical and tired of going to them with my questions.The new Rehumi questioned the NY Dr's diagnosis of Oseto-arthritis that seems to move from foot to fingers,to elbows and knees etc.The tests came back normal, so there goes her theory of Uric acid.{gout}
.
it's tomorrow already so I have to try and sleep. Candice is the offical nite owl, so I'll leave space for her to make those pretty pictures. No more piggies, even if the're cute. I liked the bears alot!!!

[Candicej]

At least it is not a dancing pig!LOL Top of the Mornin' to ya!

[MemeToo]

Phyllis it's about time you got your bones in here! We've missed your wit and your forgetfulness! :D The place just hasn't been the same!

I hope the antibiotics don't increase my appetite...it is increased enough as it is!!! I had this same exact thing happen last year. They told me I had an infection and I didn't have a clue! I think it may be that they catch it before it gets to the "pain" point. Wish they could've done the fibro that way...I told my Dr. back 100 years ago that I was hurting so bad I couldn't drive with my right hand and he just looked at me...didn't do SQUAT! Then one day he put his hand on my shoulder and said it felt like hot bricks and he thought I was "acute" enough to send to a specialist! THAT WAS FIVE WHOLE YEARS AFTER I FIRST COMPLAINED!!! I was just as cute 5 years earlier! (still am!) :smug: The specialist diagnosed me with fibro right away. I'd never even heard of it!

About Netscape...I can pull up the page and read it with Netscape but it won't let me post a message. And the format is off...have to scroll horizontally in order to see all the messages so I use IE in here!

So Phyllis...you don't like my pig...you like bears...ok...this one's for you, then!

[Happy Canuk]

Phyllis and Meme, you are to funny. Had a good laugh today.

Meme - can't Candice download IE from the net? I think microsoft has it on their site. Never really heard that antibiotics increased your appetite. Live and learn. I am into my tired mode and when I get like that, boy do I crave carbs. Have been having some, but that wants to lead to more and I have worked a way to hard to give in. I have not gained anything - I try to follow the program as close as I can, but I feel like I am walking around sleepwalking. Then of course, everything starts hurting a lot more. Hope you start feeling better soon.

Candice - Tootie was a bit confused:D . Can you download IE? I have been sending you e-mail, but it has all come back. Maybe your cache was full.

Ally - Where are you? Missed you yesterday. Hope you are able to stick to your diet. Fiber should help keep you full, no?

Phyllis - happy to have you back. I missed you, and apparently, so did MEME, sending you that cute little bear.

Judy - in case you are reading, come join us. We really do have a good time on this forum.

[tootie]

Hey meme that was a naughty bear !!1But cute. I didn't like the pig because a guy on sgarbusters had just gotten thru with calling people on diets, zone, SB atkins etc. as oink, oinks.and the really only way to lose weight was to eat normal.HA! and what is normal for him or me for that matter.
Anyway, I got a little fiesty and laced into him a bit, and then he appologized to all of us. One lady tried to chase him off the site, but as it turned out he was a fellow that had lost 90 lbs counting calories and he has not put it back on.{so far}
But in looking at it more than realistically, he would be a perfect study, he's not overweight and counts calories and I asked him to continue counting calories, but instead to change just a few things, like lower glycemic veggies and fruit, and whole wheat/ grain bread and pasta just for two weeks. I will bet all my grandchildren's snacks and chocochips, that he would lose weight just like my son did!!!!!
This then would be absolute proof that at least there is something to the refined and processed food claim!!!.

Gotta go gals,I need to buy some plant materials to make a potted garden.I'm fighting complaining today because the elavil makes me doze every twenty minutes after breakfast.It's afternoon and the first time I could force myself up to shower. The hot water feels so good.
but just until I get dry. Had the handicap rail put in the spa wednesday, now to get the whole thing clean and back washed and I might just be able to use the dam thing.
Wish you were all here to jump in with me.

[Ally0306]

Hi all, and welcome Judy. I used to be 44 too, but then I went and had a birthday. I think that might make you the youngest of the group.

I still wonder if I really have Fibro...but after three years, I guess I have to admit I got somethin.

And in the process I gained weight bit by bit., i used to think anything over 150lbs was horrible. Now I Wish I could lose about 20 and STAY at 150 or thereabouts.

FIber girls. Yup. I am still focused on fiber. ANd if I pay attention to it and I stay away from processed food I think I am doing really well. I will not get on the scale this time. I have to learn to not care about what the scale SAYS, but how I feel.

And it also helps in staying in a little denial...cause I know I am not losing weight. But, I hope to increase exercise as soon as it stops SNOWING here in NY.

Tootie...you can't miss March in NY. Just when you think there is spring in the air, it snows.

I may try to figure out these graphics tomorrow..then again, I like being a computer dummy. But, when I get on this site I have to fight to keep the post on the screen. You can see something is going on...

Hope you stay with us Judy.

[Happy Canuk]

http://www.mamarocks.com/diet.htms

Anne

[Candicej]

Anne......I don't know about downloading IE...I'll have to ask my son...he said awhile back that with this server you could only use Netscape:?: Any help from you pros would be appreciated!

I have moved my # of posts per page to 10 and that seems to be wroking right now but I can't scroll down to see everyones post to refresh my memory! What memory I don't have one!LOL :lol: You can set the # of pages you want to appear by clicking on profile and the edit options and scroll down to the box and click on the arrow by default. Of course Meme doesn't like turning pages so maybe that is not the answer but is the only thing that works for me right now! I have to scroll sideways too!

Meme..loved the bear shaking it's booty! Cute:)

Ally..you will figure the graphics out!

Toots...You take elavil in the morning?????? I take it at night cause it is supposed to help you sleep!

Here is a Tiger with a little anxiety!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:smug:

[Ally0306]

OK....Am going out to lunch instead of figuring out the graphics. And I doubt I will be calorie conscious. Crappy day in NY. About 5 inches of snow last nite. I could feel it before I got out of bed and had to go take pain meds. I have been doing so well without lately.....Darn this weather.

I realized that I had a hard time sticking to the first post I tried to read because it IS taking longer to download due to pictures. It is OK now that I know what is going on... I also JUST figured out that you actually have to turn the page here. Duh. I thought my post from yesterday never made it and almost got ticked off. (What a surprise, I have been ticked off about EVERYTHING today)

I have my safe Buffalo Bills sweat pants on and will not change to tight butt jeans for lunch out. I am just not in the mood to suck in tummy today.

There are big clearance sales in the mall and I will try to find some cheap fat pants. My fat jeans are not fat enough. Do you all have these new coupon deals at your shopping spots? Have to take a coupon to get an extra 15% off clearance prices. I have a purse full of "junk"...coupons for groceries, coupons for dry cleaning, coupons for mall shopping.
Don't they know I am in a fog...and if under pressure, I will buy anything especially if they convince me I am getting a big deal?

My sister-in-law wants me to go to Mexico with her next Fall. In Hawaii (where she lives) they had mumus for me to wear. What can I get away with in Mexico? Maybe a wicker tent? Tee heee. Don't get mad at me for the disparaging talk Tootie...I'm only kdding. I will show my flab to a country of strangers! (Unless any of you are going there?????)

[tootie]

I tried to post two times already!
Nothing too profound, but where are they?this is a trial run. I'll send and try to see where it lands.

[tootie]

well Gdamm!! I lost another rambling post of mine and don't know where to look for it!!It's now 3:23 am mar 18th and I have been hear for at least a half hour pounding out profound middle of the night revelations and it's gone!!
My loss your gain, saved again!
I quit.

[Ally0306]

OK Tootie...I got all excited cause my e-mail said that you had responded to a post here...and you keep losing it.

As a former New Yorker, I thought you would at least commisterate about this pre-spring snow crap.

More snow all day yesterday. Today the sun is so bright it hurts...so roads are dry and sidewalks that had been shoveled, but everything else is still covered and me and my doggy can't find a good spot to walk. I finally just parked my car in town and walked some streets where nice people had shoveled. But, I have stopped walking my dog on a leash since Nov. when I ended up on crutches. I couldn't take the pulling. Today she was wild....yanking me down slippery sidewalks.

And I am scared of falling!!!

Where is everyone. I should study graphics, but am going to go read.

[MemeToo]

Hmmm...this is just too long for me! BD party is over and the mess is all gone and I'm too pooped to participate!

[MemeToo]

Ally...I've decided to take pity on you and help you out with the graphics! :lol:

OK...listen up and I can save you some time and trouble.

First of all click on profile in one of your message blocks. This opens up a new window so you can flip back to this one if you forget what you are supposed to do. When your personal profile comes up click profile again. That will pull up your user control panel. Then click edit options. You can choose your options, change the time that shows up on the message board to match your time zone, write a signature: example ~ name and a saying or weight stats, etc.

The last thing on the page says Avatar. Click there to choose a picture to put under your name. If you want a picture to go in your message you have to either have one saved on your computer or know the URL where one is located and that's a whole 'nother ballgame...if you figure all this out and want to learn to put one in your message let me know and I'll walk you through it!!!

Good luck!

[Happy Canuk]

This is an article taken from Prevention Magazine April 2001. I think perhaps it is worth reading.

A new study links an unhappy childhood to the most common causes of death in the US. Are you doomed by long-ago traumas? No says a prominent psychiarist, who shows you how to rewrite your life story so that it has a happy ending.

Diana knew she was a walking time bomb. On any checklist of risk factors for heart disease and other killers, she ranked alarmingly high. Thirty pounds overweight, she had high blood pressure and soaring cholesterol. Her only exercise was walking to her car. She was also prone to depression, had chronic stress-related gastritis, and was a two-pack-a-day smoker. She knew she had to change her health habits.

"But I just couldn't do it," she says. "Everytime I made some progress, I'd lose control and end up back where I started in no time."

What turned things around was an insightful physician who linked Diana's physical condition to her traumatic childhood. When Diana was 4 years old, her father died before her eyes. Two years later, her mother married a violent alcoholic. Diana was forced to watch him beat her mother and brother on a regular basis. She also witnessed her mother's suicide attempt.

"I couldn't really work on improving my health until I came to terms with all the pain and anger I'd suppressed as a child," Diana explains. "It was eating away at me."

HOW YOUR PAST CAN HURT YOU

What do early traumas have to do with health, decades later? ADVERSE CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES UNDERLIE THE MOST COMMON CAUSES OF DEATH IN THE US, says Vincent J. Felitti, MD, and internist at the Southern California Permanente Medical Group in San Diego.

In a survey of more than 20,000 adults, Dr. Felitti and his colleagues from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that those who suffered physical, psychological, or emotional abuse as children, or were raised in households marked by violence, substance abuse, mental illness, or criminal behavior, were far more likely to develop serious illnesses as adults - everything from diabetes and bronchitis to cancer and heart disease.

"Adverse childhood experiences are likely to produce, anger, anxiety and depression," says Dr. Felitti. "To the degree that behavior such as overeating, smoking, and substance abuse are found to be effective coping devices, they would tend to be used chronically." Not exactly a recipe for wellness.

But that's only one way that traumatic experiences can destroy your health. "The chronic stress of unresolved emotional pain wreaks havoc on your immune and circulatory systems, cardiac function, hormone levels, and other physical functions," says pyschiatrist Harold H. Bloomfield, MD, author of Making Peace with Your Past (Harper Collins, 2000). And it's not just childhood adversity that does the damage, he notes. The upheavals of adolescence and the losses and letdowns of adulthood also eat away at the body's resistance.

"We must make peace with our past," asserts Dr. Bloomfield,"because our life may literally depend on it."

10 WAYS TO HEAL THE PAST

The good news is that our body and brain are remakably resilient; we are fully capable of healing old wounds and reversing the damage of past adversity. Here are 10 ways to rewrite your life story:

REFRAME THE PAST. "To the extent that you can find value in past adversity, you can neutralize its harmful effects and foster healing," says Dr. Bloomfield. You don't have the power to change the past, but you CAN control how you experience it now. Instread of responding in the same habitual way when distrubing incidents come to mind, pause, and take a deep breath. The REINTERPRET them. Ask yourself "How id that experience make me stronger? What important life lessons did it teach me?"

BREAK THE SHACKLES OF SHAME. Unlike remorse or guilt, shame isn't about feeling bad for what you've done, but rather for what you ARE. "Shame is the cancer of the spirit," says Dr. Bloomfield. "It makes you feel worthless and unlovable, undeserving of happiness."

A common result of an abusive childhood, shame leads us to make "psychic promises" to ourselves in an attempt to alleviate the agony. For example: "I'll be just like my parents, then they'll treat me better." or "If I shut down all my feelings, I won't have to feel this pain" or "I'll always be nice so no one will hurt me again."

To stop these hidden contracts from destroying you, Dr. Bloomfield offers this advisce. "Identify the promises you made, and give yourself permission to break them. And always remember that shame is a lie. You ARE worthy of love and respect.

RELEASE THE PAIN. Research shows that those who write about past traumas heal faster from illnesses, visit their doctor less often and have stronger immune systems. "Set aside some time and write letters eo everyone who ever hurt you," suggests Dr. Bloomfield. No one needs to see these letters but you, so no holding back, censoring yourself, or worrying about spelling and grammar. Just let out all the rage that's been festering inside, contaminating your system.

STOP THE SLOW ACID DRIP OF REGRET. The constant repetition of "if only..." and " I should have ..." can destroy your health as well as your peace of mind. "An important aspect of healing is to stop punishing yourself for past mistakes," says Dr. Bloomfield. Instead, forgive yourself, learn the right lessons and resolve to act differently in the future. Look back at the regrettable actions; recall who you were at the time. What did you know? What were your actual choices? By reviewing the complete scenario, you might discover that you did okay under the circumstances.

MOVE FROM GRIEF TO GAIN. The emotional wounds of a devastating loss are as real as a contusion or a broken bone, says Dr. Bloomfield. Mending them requires moving through the three phases of grief: First, shock and denial; followed by anger, fear and sadness; and finally, understanding and acceptance. You can get stuck in stage one, denying your pain or numbing your feelings. Or you can move through that stage, only to bog down in chronic depression, anger or fear. In either case, the healing is incomplete. No matter how long ago the loss occurred, it's crucial to allow yourself to feel the emotions you may have suppressed. If you've lost a loved one, try writing that person a farewell letter, giving yourself permission to express everything that comes up - not just the sadness and love, but the rage, terror and other emotions you may feel wrong for having.

PRACTICE ACCEPTANCE. Nothing perpetuates the impact of old hurts more than rehashing them in your mind. It's like watching the same movie over and over again the the hope that the ending will change. "Bemoaning your fate does not help you heal the past," says Dr. Bloomfield. "Peace comes from accepting what was for what it was and move on."

CUTLIVATE GRATITUDE. Even better than acceptance is gratitude. No matter what happened in the past, remind yourself that you have gifts to be thankful for. You may even find that you're grateful for your troubles because of what you learned from them.

BREAK THE HABIT OF BLAME. Blaming your problems on people and events from your past means that you're not responsible for anything that happens to you, it protects you from self-doubt, and it brings you the cozy sympathy of others. But on the other hand, it leads to chronic resentment, which is damaging to your mental and physical health.

"Blame is not something you heal" says Dr. Bloomfield. "It's something you choose to stop doing." Ending the bitterness of blame, he stresses, does not necessarily mean letting those who hurt you off the hook. You don't have to forgive them or reconcile with them. It simply means catching youself in the act of blamins so you can break that self-destructive habit and take charge of your own well-bing.

FIND INNER PEACE No matter how traumatic your past has been, you can always find a peacful place inside you, says Dr. Bloomfield. If you can tap that source, you can stop stress from building up, allowing you mind to clear for new solutions. There are countless ways to creat calm: Yoga, meditation, a walk in nature, a hot aromatic bath, a good massage, some soothing music, prayer, deep breathing, pleasant memories, and so on. In addition, suggests Dr. Bloomfield, when distrubing thoughts about the past rise up and snap at you, distract yourself: Focus on the phyical sensation of breathing in and out, mentally recite a word, such as "peace", or place your hand on a nearby object and focus on the textures that you feel.

CREATE A SATISFYING FUTURE. As the old saying goes, living well is the best revenge. A great way to make peace with your past is to become the person you always wanted to be. The grip of old patterns and perceptions may be so strong that you feel like a helpless victim. In fact, you are the author of your own life story, and you can start a new chapter anytime you choose.

Dr. Bloomfield recommends taking some time to visualize your life as you want it to be, then spell it out in writing. A day or two later, read your vision with a practical eye. What do you have to do to make that dream come trye? Which goals can you achieve this year? What steps can you take now?

You can create a life that is so fulfilling, so rich with meaning and purpose, says Dr. Bloomfield, "that the pain of the past loses its sting."



Whew, that was a lot typing. Sorry for any typos, but I am not going to ask this thing to spellcheck, because quite often you lose the whole thing, and I sure would hate to have to start again.

Anne

[Candicej]

Anne...that post was long!!!!!!!!!!!:eek: Not sure if I believe all of that stuff!:lol:

Meme...can you help me with IE??????? Can I download it from the internet?(Like Anne said?):?:

Watch the language Toots:nono: I hate losing posts and spending so much time on here when things aren't working right!

Ally....we had snow Friday and then Sunday it melted! Hope you had a good time out! You are so funny!

Having trouble with my left elbow and arm! It just plain hurts! Kinda feels like tennis elbow I used to get in my right one when gardening! Haven't been to the doc yet...don't want to go either! Major anxiety here right now, it was gone for a few days!

Sometimes I can't even get windows to come up on my computer..just a blank page..well some words..but I have to keep shuting if off and on to get it to work! YIKES!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm bummed:( need to get some sunlight I guess!

[tootie]

but look at the last two posts i made!! See what I have added Meme?
But I give up for the day.
Happy you are such a pure heart!!
Ally, I did commiserate with all your snow! My roof in Cooperstown had to be shovelled.
Candice you are easily offended,I have a much worse repitore/{spell?}
tootie sorry

[Happy Canuk]

Starting a new thread#16

Tootie and Meme, don't forget to come find us.