Welcome to 3fc Erin!
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I'm basically aiming for a healthy BMI weight rather than an "ideal goal weight". I think that putting it in terms of health and feeling good works for me rather than trying to follow the standard set by the media and society.
A great movie to watch is Beauty Shop starring Queen Latifah (a gorgeous woman in my opinion) - not only is it funny but it makes you think "**** yeah! Beauty is not some wafer thin bleached blonde with fake boobs - I love my booty!"