[delilah]

I've never really considered myself Bi as I think everyone is inherently, some are just more open to it than others. I have dated and slept with males and females.

[Jynical]

*waving*

Hi
I'm a lesbian in a mixed-orientation marriage. I ID'd as bi, virtually all my life. Being involved with both men and women...

Well...to make a long story short...things have changed.
And boy is it interesting now.
Anyway...just saw the thread and thought I'd introduce myself.

[CJsPrincess816]

Hi ya'll!

I'm just a good ole' fashioned lesbian... I was married (to a man) when I was in my early 20's but after that ended, I knew I was a lesbian and have been happily out since that time. I've done all those horrible, desperate, depressing relationships since then . One of those lasted 7 years . I then took 2 years off to recover and have since met Ms. Right. Michele and I met through Match.com. She lived in Austin, I'm in Houston and about 2 months ago she moved here for moi. Life is wonderful.

I'm considering weight loss surgery and will most likely have the lap band procedure done in Mexico. I am finally safe enough to let go of the extra weight, just need an extra tool (the band) to help me along.

Glad ya'll are all here!

[scout wife]

I consider myself straight, but I kiss girls. Kinda like the chick who says she's a lesbian from the waist up.. I love chick kisses and boobs. I say that I know where my preference lies, it's the standing up stuff that's up for discussion.
I've had 2 ffm3somes (once as the spouse *1st marriage* and once as the "guest star") and I have to say that I prefer keeping it fun, and playful to it being a sex thing. My hubby gets the occasional tripple kiss, and he knows that's all it's going to be. He thinks of himself as the luckiest guy on earth!
I love this part of being a woman...we can play and be whoever we are without judging each other!
Hugs to all!
Erin

[BerkshireGrl]

Originally Posted by scout wife

...Kinda like the chick who says she's a lesbian from the waist up.. I love chick kisses and boobs...

I'll take the whole enchilada!

Sorry, couldn't resist!

[mauvaisroux]

Bumping this thread to the top for those that requested!

[mandalinn82]

I'm a lesbian who has been with my partner for 5 and a half years - and as my bonus motivation for getting fit...we're planning a wedding in May 2007.

On that note - anyone have wedding planning tips? Its sort of a quagmire out there for the GLBT community...

[tori99999]

Thought i'd say hello on this thread too... i am a bi-girlie-girl, living in bliss with my girlfriend... uhh... boifriend... uh, whatever... She's a He in my mind and hers (his) <-- gosh is THAT confusing!! Anyways... We've been together almost 4 years and I've known her for 8... She was once my x-girlfriends girlfriend and my x-girlfriend was my best friend. <--- another confusing statement, I know.
Well... who knew that true love had been just waiting for me to notice! She's seen me at my thickest, my thinnest, my ugliest, my most sad... and she still loves me. She even saw me go through some really tough bi-polar times! LOL
Anyways-- I've always thought of a handfasting ceremony.

[Optical Goddess]

Hey all,

It's surprising that this topic hasn't come up before, or at least that I know of...I'm straight, but would be open to experimentation ( is the word bi-curious?) I don't think it's a fluke that some of the most entertaining people on this site are g/l/b/t...with my gay / bi friends, I find that they are so much more open minded. I would venture to say it's because they may know what it's like to be judged more than I would, since my life style is more conventional.

What a wierd compliment, huh? I give mad props to anyone who is out. I can't imagine how hard that has to be...I had enough problems telling my mom that I was going to be living in sin w/ my husband...

The poly lifestyle is one that I don't understand, but more so that I don't think it's for me. Too many jealousy issues and other things, but if someone can find someone or someone(s) else, a soft place to fall, a constant champion in thier corner, I say good for them.

[timmyshawn]

Thought I'd jump in. I'm bi but married to a wonderful man and have 3 great kids. We check out women together and laugh about it and we watch porn together and stuff, but he doesn't want me to be with anybody else (even if it is another female). I've brought up the idea of 3some to him and he says ok one time, maybe another, and no way another so I guess you could say he's wishy washy on the issue. It gets frustrating because he knows this is a part of who I am, but it seems like it's a part he doesn't really want me to show. I have been with women in the past and been in love with a woman in the past it just didn't work out. He has told me in the past that he's worried that if I get with a woman and fall for her that he'll lose me because a woman can give me something he can't. THere's no way for him to compete with a woman. A man he could compete with but not a woman. Sooo anyway that's my story.

[mandalinn82]

Just needed to vent. Looking for wedding sites - there is one I like, but its in a fairly conservative area. Just had to write a "I'd really like to get married here but there are two brides" email, because i don't want to get there for a tour and figure out they aren't cool with it. But UGH, I'm freaking out. I feel so exposed and open to rejection. And I LOVE the location, its SOOO gorgeous, and I really want to get married there.

Its giving me fits.

[lovegoddess1977]

Hi all!!

I haven't been on this site in a VERY long time. I am a lesbian who's not in a relationship right now but I have a potential one in sight!!!

I claimed Bi for years but now I know that I wasn't being true to myself.

I gained back ALL the weight I lost and am starting from scratch! Granted it was only 30 pounds but that's alot to me.

I weigh 315 lbs right now. I'm 6 feet tall...well pretty close to it!!

I am looking to weigh about 150lbs. So .....165lbs to lose. Here I go.........

[SoCalBirdLady]

Originally Posted by mandalinn82

Just needed to vent. Looking for wedding sites - there is one I like, but its in a fairly conservative area. Just had to write a "I'd really like to get married here but there are two brides" email, because i don't want to get there for a tour and figure out they aren't cool with it. But UGH, I'm freaking out. I feel so exposed and open to rejection. And I LOVE the location, its SOOO gorgeous, and I really want to get married there.

Its giving me fits.

I hope you can take the risk and ask. You might be surprised. I did the same thing back in 1994 and had a great wedding -- at a time when same gender weddings were not as common as they are now. It was funny, at first I felt as though the hotel was put off by the fact that we were two women. However, once we paid the deposit and they knew we were serious, they were FABULOUS. They just wanted to be sure we weren't "just looking" at the location.

Good luck and keep us posted.

[thirty3zenlane]

Lesbian. Queer. Homosexual. Gay. Call it what you want, but that's me! I came out at 18 and before that I didn't consider myself to be anything. Being from a small town, I didn't even know I had the option to like women. I had never even kissed anyone up until that point because I had no interest in guys, so I didn't bother with them EVER. Well, I've dated women the last 5-6 years, moved to Columbus, OH a few years ago (a pretty accepting place for our community), and I'm as out as I can possibly be! My family is accepting, except for my (ex)grandparents who have disowned me for the past 5 years (haven't talked to them for that long). I met my wonderful gf two years ago through a friend and I'm planning on keeping her around. It was hard at first, but now I have the whole "take me or leave me" perspective. It has really worked out well for me. Anyway, just thought I'd share.

~Tara

[punkrockgrryl]

i'm in / at the tail-end (?) of a poly relationship (mff) that is going through a major transition. i started seeing a couple that had been together for 3 or 4 years-- we all 'dated' for about 2yrs and i started becoming less and less interested in maintaining a sexual relationship with the girl (guess i'm not as 'bi' as i thought !) which was fine for a while and then started getting awkward-- that was about 6mos ago and we're all still trying to get things figured out. they're in the process of getting separate apartments and so their relationship is undergoing a lot of change too-- i'm not really sure how the relationship(s) will be impacted. it can get pretty confusing trying to keep the dynamic straight sometimes! part of me really embraces the unconventionality of the relationship but another part of me sometimes wishes i could just have a 'normal' relationship with my boyfriend (whatever normal is).

-- anyone have any advice/strategies for interacting with families??? i sometimes feel like i have a 'secret' boyfriend since i'm sort of uneasy talking to my parents and certain friends about it-- the folks were introduced to him before we all started seeing each other and is thusly known as 'ms. x's boyfriend'-- likewise with his (and her-- though that's less of an issue considering how things are changing) family.

it's really nice to see so many people responding to this thread-- makes me feel less alone in the crazy world that is a poly relationship.