Welcome Back Virigina! I hope things are ok now.
As for the talk a few posts up, I came across a quote I like. It is from Eddie Vedder of Pearl Jam. During the opening show of the new tour, Eddie made a few anti-war statements. But my favorite thing he said was this:
During the show, Vedder said: "Just to clarify... we support the troops."
"We're just confused on how wanting to bring them back safely all of a sudden becomes non-support," he said. "We love them. They're not the ones who make the foreign policy .... Let's hope for the best and speak our opinions."