Ugh. People frickin' suck donkey balls. This is what I think, ladies:
1. You don't need a family. And friends are only really friends if they want what's best for you. It's okay to write people out of your life if they're doing you harm. You don't owe them ****. You don't owe anyone a damn thing. Poison people feed off of the harm they do others. It makes them feel good about themselves because they're weak and unwilling to better themselves. They don't want to work for it, so they try to bring you down. And yes. Even if they don't do it to others. You aren't imagining it. You
are being targeted because it's easiest to attack the most vulnerable person or the person who loves you so much that they won't fight back. If you're garbage, they look good in comparison. They want you to be garbage.
2. Stop chasing after the love and acceptance of someone that will
NEVER love and accept you. Deal with it. Like
Thighs Be Gone, my mother is a ****. I tried so hard my whole life to develop a relationship with her but all it ever got me was more rejection. I wrote her off a few years ago. I just couldn't set myself up for any more misery. So I just quit trying. I was hurt for a long time. I felt sorry for myself. I didn't think it was fair that I didn't have a mother. I felt like a little kid - crying because I couldn't understand why mommy didn't love me. But you know what? I got over it! I saw her a few weeks ago at my brother's house. I wasn't there for her and I didn't care that she was there. I was polite, but I didn't say much to her. It felt great. I no longer care what she thinks of me. I wish my brothers would get that. They're all 12-19 years older than me and STILL hoping she will tell them that they are good little boys.
It just isn't going to happen. They'll learn in their own time.
3. Doesn't it seem that fat people always have weight loss advice, poor people know what you should do with your money and people without kids know EXACTLY how to raise yours? Why **** are we listening to these people!? Only take advice from someone if you want what they have. Since I figured this out I'm paying attention to the habits of the skinny and happy people I know. I'm seeing real progress for the first time ever.
4. Everyone is different. We are all here in "Alternachicks" because we are somehow outside of the norm. If someone doesn't like your eating habits, exercise routine or other lifestyle choices - they don't have to. But they DO have to let you make your own decisions. Tell them to get bent if they don't like it.
5. Remember that
you are the only person you are going to spend every minute of the rest of your life with. To thine own self be true.
I wish you all peace, success and the strength to tell everyone else to go to ****.