Little bit of background: I'm pretty sure I have mentioned that I'm in the midst of a separation/pending divorce. I have gone on a couple of dates during that time frame. Always with "new" people, AKA people I haven't known long. They have been ok, no disasters, but also no great big "yes! this is it!" moments.
I also know I have mentioned that I am doing my local biggest loser challenge. I had been interested in joining it, but didn't know anyone with a team. An old friend of mine from high school did the challenge a few years ago, and has since led a team each year. I contacted him and joined his team. He and I have been in contact more often since the first of the year due to the team thing. We have talked about more than just the challenge. The last couple of days especially, our conversations have had a few moments where I had thought "wow...when did we get flirty?" but I kind of didn't think much about it. But, yesterday he asked me if I'd like to go out with him. The Ack!!! moment is coming from the fact that for the first time ever, I think, I'm going out with someone who knows my exact weight! I've always been told by most people that I carry it fairly well, and don't usually don't look like I weigh what I actually do. But he knows, without a doubt. And I report to him my weight twice a month. Even my husband, who I was married to for 15 years, never knew exactly what my weight was. I think my best friend is right, he obviously doesn't mind. He is very encouraging to me and wants me to succeed, but he also knows and understands the struggle. And yet, at the same time, I really believe that if I were to not lose another pound, he would still be just the same way. It's just a little un-nerving to realize that for the first time ever, I will be out with someone who knows exactly where I stand.
In a way isn't it a good thing he knows? You guys can support each other, and on some level he gets what you are going through during your weight loss journey! (Also YAY on getting back out there, you rock chica!!!) My boyfriend is tiny (really is almost sad) so while he is trying to tone up, he can't really understand what I am going through (but ya I get where you are coming from, it is so nerve-wracking to tell someone what you really weigh). But if he isn't bothered (and he doesn't seem to be) then you should just go for it!!!
I'm going to go, and see what happens. It's weird. I'm not nervous about going out with him like I was the other dates I have been on. Maybe just because I have known him over half my life? And yes, it will be awesome to have someone who has been there, done that and is encouraging to me as I continue to do this. And heck, he gets bragging rights for his team if I do awesome. lol. With the ex, he prefers BBW, so I always felt like I was afraid to lose in fear he wouldn't find me attractive anymore. We'll see how it goes tonight. I think we are both going in with the attitude of keeping it light hearted and fun. No pressure. Wish me luck!
It was good. To be honest, I am still not 100% sure if it was a date, date, or just two friends hanging out. lol! We went to dinner, and a movie, and then to a casino (I won about $75. Yay me!) But at the end of the night, it was just a hug, so that made me think ok, this is just two friends hanging out. But then, before I barely even walked in the door at my house (I had met him rather than him pick me up.) I had a message from him that he had fun and would really like for us to go out again. Then, he knew I had gotten up early Saturday to take my son on a trip. I had a message from him while I was driving. a "good morning sunshine, I hope you have a great day and that you weren't out too late and got enough sleep" So, I'm really confused. I don't want to ask "hey, what is this?" So I'm just gonna let it ride and see what happens. We will be together again Saturday for the local biggest loser challenge/hike. I think he is carpooling with me. So, we will see. I'm taking it as it comes. If it's nothing more than us hanging out as friends, that's fine with me. He is fun to hang out with. If it goes a little more than just friends, I think I'd be ok with that too.
I'm glad you had a good time! He sounds like a really nice guy! (and if he thought of you early in the morning he's into you ) Either way the situation and him both sound awesome!
Thank you! I'm a little excited, but trying to not get my hopes up too much. And I'm really trying to not analyze or read too much into anything at this point. We will see what happens.
Just an update. I have been wondering if this thing with him is just us hanging out as friends, possibly dating, or what. There had been some stuff said that could indicate it was either. lol! Well, after Saturday, I guess it got cleared up. We had a challenge hike. He stayed with me and my friend for a while, but I knew he was itching to go faster than we were, so I sent him on. When we were towards the end, he texted me to ask if I wanted him to wait on me. I knew his cousin was with him, so I told him go ahead, no need to wait. Later that evening he texted me to ask how I was feeling (after the 7.5 mile hike) and we were texting. He mentioned that his cousin had been asking about me, and he said "thanks for being so cute" and then said something about the two of them both wanting to date me. I was teasing and asked him who he thought I should pick, and in the course of that talk, we have plans again this coming Friday. So, it's going good. Still taking it slow, but at least now I know it's not just a "hey we're friends, let's hang out" deal. :-)
Me and my man are reporting to each other regularly our weight loss and i find it totally liberating! He really encourages me and tells me he is proud of me and supports me in every way. He has lost 9lbs in 2 weeks and i honestly could not be prouder. I am so happy that he is making the effort to be healthier for our life together. I think it really makes a difference.
Anyway i digress, GO FOR IT! it could be the best thing you ever do
Ack!!!
) Either way the situation and him both sound awesome!
