Interesting note on the "I have to do it if I want it done right" school of thought. I was like that with DH and wound up doing almost everything and resenting it. I gave him tasks and then redid them when his work wasn't "up to standard".
Then I realized he was doing this on purpose so that he could get out of doing laundry, dishes, bed-making, etc. etc. I decided he would do these tasks his way and I would
. Life is too short and there are other things I'd rather be doing than policing his housework.
That said we are now tentatively planning our first vacation together since 1999. He suggested Cuba and I agreed. I told him he would plan this one since I did the one in 1999. He agreed. I then promptly turned around and started talking to people who'd been there, looking online and at guidebooks in the bookstore, and the like. I have caught myself in time.
No matter how
it makes me I will not take over.