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Old 05-28-2014, 05:22 PM   #9
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Ohio
Posts: 1,047

S/C/G: 225/ticker/125

Height: 5'1"


I love it when people who are thinner than me tell me I'm skinny and don't need to lose more weight. what you're saying is that it's not okay to be like you?

Or other people that say that and I say well if you look at a BMI chart, I'm still 30lbs overweight. Their response is always - BMI charts are wrong. MMmm...sure...but I have a mirror and I'm 30lbs overweight.

And then the other thing that gets me is that if I agree with them that I no longer need to lose weight, the obvious response is to eat crap that will make me unhealthy. ???

Or I get - How much more are you going to lose? As they look me up and down very conspicuously. Gee...I don't feel judged now. Should I take my clothes off so you can see better? Please, oh great one, tell me what I should do??

Most of the time I'm smart enough not to get into the calorie conversation but when I forget and let my guard down - WHAT?! 1200 calories, you're starving. That's why you're not losing. Nope. I'm not losing because 1200 calories is my goal but yesterday I ate like a pig and went way over. But thank you.

Or if I make the mistake and mention that I am both (mostly) vegan and trying to lose weight. "But do you get enough protein?" "don't you crave meat?" "Here's this recipe with cheese in it" "You don't want to be skinny fat when you're done." "No wonder you binged last week." "Don't you miss meat?" "chicken only has 120 calories" Ugh! eye roll!!

And another favorite - when I'm dumb enough to make a reference to bathing suit season. "I haven't been able to wear a bikini for years. We're too old for that." Ummm....I'm 35 and have been morbidly obese all throughout my 20s until the last 3 years. I'd like a turn. But mention that and I'll get nods of sympathy and looks assuming I'm on some sort of existential/youth crisis. Meanwhile, it's quite normal for people in their 30s to wear bikinis who have never been overweight but somehow they get to do it without judgement.

I've seen these meme lists before on all sorts of topics and I think the bottom line is that people have a tendency to say the DUMBEST and most uneducated things. I'm finally learning it's their idiocy and not to be so concerned or slighted by their judgement. Whether I'm pregnant, not pregnant, getting married, not getting married, skinny, dieting, not dieting, fat, wearing white on the wrong day or whatever - someone is going to have something stupid to say. I just try to avoid it now, not because it derails me but because it annoys me. But, it's good for a laugh - sometimes.

HW: 225, lost 75lbs in 2011 LW: 150
Losing again starting from 210 5/9/2017

No words of widsom. After years of reflection and dieting, I still don't have this thing figured out.
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