This was really helpful to me: http://www.amazon.com/Taming-Your-Ou...mm_kin_title_0
Not sure why there's no Kindle version anymore. I have it on Kindle myself.
Here's the site for the book: http://www.outerchild.net
Sorry for brevity. I'm on a mobile device. Anyway, I can now identify that difficult side of me that tries to sabotage everything and dissolve the situation. Things are much better now. Now I'm just lazy :-)