Have you ever changed or are working on changing a major part of your personality?
One thing I have been working on changing is my type of thinking. I'm always concerned with knowing the truth/facts/having proof. That isn't the problem, the problem is I can't resist informing others when they are factually incorrect. People don't like this.
But when I hear an incorrect fact, its like I can't relax until I correct it. I have been working on this for many years, and I've gotten good at walking away, changing the subject or not responding.
Fake exaggerted example of how it used to be:
Person 1: I think the mayor is stupid because all women are too stupid to be in charge.
Me: The mayor is a man.
Person 1: No, she a woman, because I said so, and because she has long hair.
Me: Yes his hair is long, but he's a man. You are wrong.
Person 1: No, I'm not.
Me: He has a penis. I know because he sexted a pic of it to a woman and it was all over the news a few weeks ago.
Person 1: I didn't ask you if I was wrong....and by the way, I'm not wrong.
Me: ::banging head against wall::
I just want to keep my big mouth shut. But its like trying to change the course of a huge river that's been flowing in the same bed for 1000s of years...Its a big part of the way I am.
To just smile and nod is painfully difficult. At this point I've graduated to changing the subject. Its weird but it kind of works.
Example of how it is now:
Person 1: The mayor is stupid because she's a woman and woman are too stupid to be incharge.
Me: "...I saw the episode of Seinfeld last night where that lady can't spare a square"
::awkward silence::
But sometimes I relapse (I did today) and correct someone. And they are not happy...
Anyone successfully change a part of the way the act/behave? Do you relapse?