Dear Elvislover324 - 3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community

rodeogirl · 04-28-2013, 11:53 PM

Elvis --

I've been watching you on the thresh hold to Onederland these past few weeks and just wanted to say I CANNOT wait for you to get over that hump.

But a part of me is a little glad you hit this wall (SORRY!!!) because it's such an inspiration to me to just hang in there and I bet for others as well.

And when you are at goal weight, and still posting here 'cause you can't leave us!!, you will have this amazing story that God will use to encourage a zillion other women.

So on behalf of all of us behind you on this trail I just wanted to say THANKS for your kind words, and hard work, and even hitting this wall because VERY soon we will all be SO excited with you as you cross over into that blessed place called Onederland!

JustB1027 · 04-28-2013, 11:56 PM

I second that!!!

Remington90 · 04-29-2013, 12:42 AM

I triple that! One of the most inspiring members here. Always positive.

Wonderfully said, Rodeogirl!

thinkfit · 04-29-2013, 01:10 AM

Love this... fourth'd? Definitely not a word but I stand by it haha

amandie · 04-29-2013, 01:13 AM

I totally love this post and I'm with y'all!! I thank Elvislover so much for her kind words and support. We are behind you!!

Mozzy · 04-29-2013, 02:05 AM

Ditto!!!!!

elvislover324 · 04-29-2013, 05:59 AM

OMG!!! You ladies are so sweet!!

Here I am reading when I should be sleeping and I find a post to me!!!

Rodeogirl, you make me want to cry. Thank you for writing those kind words. I've been a witch on 3FC and in "real" life these past few weeks (as you may have noticed) and am so sorry about that. This weightloss mission is a turbulent ride but I'm holding on for dear life!

I love the honesty, support and motivation I get from this forum (even when it's not what I want to hear). I can't do this without all of you, every single one of you. (I'd insert a group hug here if I knew how to do it from my phone!)

I'll be here posting by this afternoon, whether good news or not. I like being accountable here whether its a loss or gain (hate those!). But it is what it is and I can't change that. And it wouldn't be fair to not acknowledge the gain when all of you do. So I'll be here, celebrating or pouting. And I'm so thankful to know you are here waiting.

This post was the best thing I could have read this morning before my doctors appointment. Thank you Rodeogirl and everyone else, your kind and encouraging words touched my heart. You have no idea.

April Snow · 04-29-2013, 09:02 AM

I hope you get there today, Elvis! But the fact remains that regardless of the scale, YOU are doing everything right, and that's why you should be so proud of yourself. The scale is just another way to measure that, not the other way around.

rodeogirl · 04-29-2013, 09:39 AM

Just remember you don't have to be perfect with your plan though staying on plan perfectly certainly doesn't hurt!

I think it's too easy to be too hard on ourselves and that's what leads us to regain (been there, done that!).

Honesty for better or worse and picking up and moving on WILL get you there. No journey goes perfectly smoothly, EVER. Neither does the weightloss journey.

Anyhow - you got this. It'll come when it comes and I really hope it's today!!!!!

thnknthin1 · 04-29-2013, 10:34 AM

Absolutely!!

betsy2013 · 04-29-2013, 10:40 AM

Amen!

PreciousMissy · 04-29-2013, 10:42 AM

+1!!!!

the shiv · 04-29-2013, 01:17 PM

I couldn't agree more!!

Elvis, you can and will do this! I too was hit by the onederland curse, and identify with how frustrated you must feel. And you are working way harder than I ever have! But I can credit you with keeping my head in the game many times when I've felt like giving up, you always have something insightful to say that makes me realise I'm not alone... And I'm not the first person to say so, nor will I be the last

You know your plan is working, that much is obvious, but as for the frustration... Do try to congratulate yourself for how far you've come already, maybe forget about the onederland thing for the night if you can, and do something nice for yourself to take your mind off the frustration. I swear, any stress reduction you can do will help to balance your hormones, optimising them for weight loss again, rather than for stress management. Stress has stalled me temporarily so many times, so I really do think there's something in this theory, though what it is, I'm not entirely sure.

Think about all the NSVs you've racked up since you started this journey. Think about all the lbs you've already lost. Think about all the people you've helped here. So many things are good

And as another take on it, maybe this is like a ceremonial holiday for you to enjoy the last days of being over 200lbs - kind of like taking a rest stop on a long journey to look back at the difficult terrain you've weathered so far, what you've overcome, and a chance to take a breather and look at the beautiful view stretching out in front of you that represents the territory you're about to head into. This is the last time you will ever cross this threshold! Take a moment to check out the scenery, you'll be on your way again before you know it

April Snow · 04-29-2013, 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by the shiv

And as another take on it, maybe this is like a ceremonial holiday for you to enjoy the last days of being over 200lbs - kind of like taking a rest stop on a long journey to look back at the difficult terrain you've weathered so far, what you've overcome, and a chance to take a breather and look at the beautiful view stretching out in front of you that represents the territory you're about to head into. This is the last time you will ever cross this threshold! Take a moment to check out the scenery, you'll be on your way again before you know it

Ok, I LOVE this. This is the best re-framing of this ever.

I did make it to Onederland last time, but I had an unexpected whoosh so I got there before I was expecting (and I think that is part of why it didn't stick, I wasn't ready) but this time, I'm expecting the normal Onederland Curse and now I know how I am going to handle it mentally. Elvis, I hope this concept is helping you now, as much as I know this is going to help me.

elvislover324 · 04-29-2013, 06:55 PM

I read this thread like 25x today to keep bringing me back to a good place in my heart and mind. I cried so much today just being stressed out, my weight loss (or lack of...), my fears about not getting pregnant in time, just a whole bunch of built up stress. This thread made it all seem a little better.

I wish I knew you all in person, you are such a special group of women. I can't believe how much I treasure each of you and how much each of you personally has touched my heart.

Thank you for being here for me and taking the time to write those messages.